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“When ritual is
                            absent, the young
                           ones are restless or
                           violent, there are no
                           real elders, and the
                              grown-ups are
                               bewildered.”
                             Malidoma Somé

ANDREW LINES - FEBRUARY 8, 2021
ANDREW LINES - FEBRUARY 8, 2021 - "When ritual is absent, the young ones are restless or violent, there are no real elders, and the grown-ups are ...
ANDREW LINES - FEBRUARY 8, 2021 - "When ritual is absent, the young ones are restless or violent, there are no real elders, and the grown-ups are ...
ANDREW LINES - FEBRUARY 8, 2021 - "When ritual is absent, the young ones are restless or violent, there are no real elders, and the grown-ups are ...
“If you are parenting properly,
you’re parenting yourself out of a job.”

                  Michael Chabon
           Pulitzer Prize-winning author
ANDREW LINES - FEBRUARY 8, 2021 - "When ritual is absent, the young ones are restless or violent, there are no real elders, and the grown-ups are ...
ANDREW LINES - FEBRUARY 8, 2021 - "When ritual is absent, the young ones are restless or violent, there are no real elders, and the grown-ups are ...
THE WEEKEND AUSTRALIAN - JULY 20-21 2019
‘OH BABY, WHY YOUR KIDS ARE NOT RIGHT, SAYS JOHN MARSDEN’ - STEPHEN ROMEI
ANDREW LINES - FEBRUARY 8, 2021 - "When ritual is absent, the young ones are restless or violent, there are no real elders, and the grown-ups are ...
Questions

What age are you aiming on your children leaving home?

What’s the most significant change (since you were a
teen) that you believe your son or daughter will be
experiencing as a 14 year old?
ANDREW LINES - FEBRUARY 8, 2021 - "When ritual is absent, the young ones are restless or violent, there are no real elders, and the grown-ups are ...
WHAT MY PARENTS DON’T KNOW ABOUT SOCIAL MEDIA IS…
The world our girls are growing up in
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PLAY - THEN AND NOW
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FAMILY LIFE - THEN AND NOW
SOCIAL CONNECTION - THEN AND NOW
TRAMPOLINING - THEN AND NOW
PLAYGROUNDS - THEN
THE WEEKEND AUSTRALIAN - APRIL 30-MAY 1 2016
‘KIDS ARE SPONGES FOR BAD PARENTING’ - NATASHA BITA
“We risk too little, we rescue too early,
          we rave too easily, we reward too frequently.”
                           Tim Elmore

FAILURE
PARENTING - THEN AND NOW
SUPER HEROES - THEN AND NOW
FEMALES ON VIDEO HITS - THEN AND NOW
SEXUALISATION AND PORN - THEN AND NOW
RITES OF PASSAGE
Question

 At what point did you feel that you transitioned
 from girl to woman or boy to man?
BIRTH

                                   CHILD TO ADULT

                                       MARRIAGE

                                  ADULT TO ELDER

                                           DEATH

RITES OF PASSAGE
TRANSITION POINTS TYPICALLY HONOURED AND CEREMONIALISED BY TRADITIONAL SOCIETIES
THE INVENTION OF ADOLESCENCE
CHILD                               ADULT

             Life is about me                      Life is about others

                Life is easy                        Life is difficult

                I am immortal                       I am going to die

“When we fail to accept these truths we become a
culture of perpetual childhood"

RICHARD ROHR / STEVE BIDDULPH
SHIFTS FROM CHILD PSYCHOLOGY TO ADULT PSYCHOLOGY
If…
Vandalism
      Hoon driving
     Gang activity
     Drink driving
    Sexual activity
   Suicide attempts
  Extreme risk-taking
   ‘Schoolies’ week

DEFAULT RITES
TWO ELEMENTS - RITE OF PASSAGE FRAMEWORK + CONVERSATIONS
7 STEPS OCCURRING THROUGHOUT THE YEAR
“A successful and happy adolescence entails
       hundreds of conversations about what
    matters, who you are and what you stand for.
        Yet many (young people) are basically
      abandoned by distracted parents and the
        impersonal melee of large secondary
                     schools.”

STEVE BIDDULPH
SYDNEY MORNING HERALD, JUNE 2, 2007
FOUR THEMES THROUGHOUT THE YEAR - HOW TO BE AN ADULT
CONVERSATIONS IN CLASS
THE HERO’S JOURNEY
JOSEPH CAMPBELL
a same gender adult mentor

willing to spend time and be in regular contact (a couple of hours a
month)

may work on a project or new skill

someone the student and the family agree upon

someone who shares an interest with your child

someone who is clearly the child’s elder

write a letter of invitation including why you have chosen them
During The Rite Journey it is our intention to have a 3
pronged support network for the students –
• parents/carers
• TRJ teacher
• Mentor

“Young people who have a feeling of connectedness with
parents, family and school have lower levels of smoking,
drinking, other drug use, suicidal thinking, risky sexual
behaviour and exposure to violence.”

DR MICHAEL RESNICK
PROFESSOR OF PAEDIATRICS, UNIVERSITY OF MINNESOTA
To build resilience

The lesson is not what you achieved…rather what
you learned about yourself

Students will go through a challenge program

"Failure is a better teacher than success”
"Today we live in a culture that promotes comfort,
not challenges. Everything is about finding ways
to escape hardship, avoid pain, and dodge duty.
In the past, young people were expected to make
significant contributions to society.
Today, our culture expects very little from teens -
not much more than staying in school and doing a
few chores.
A sad consequence of such low expectations is
that life-changing lessons go unlearned."
CHUCK NORRIS
‘DO HARD THINGS’ - BRETT AND ALEX HARRIS
How parents can help
our responsibility of modelling good, strong manhood and
womanhood

attend ceremonies/celebrations that you’re invited to (there
may be some early mornings!)

have some conversations about TRJ content at home

help your teenager select a mentor and support that process

encourage and allow increased responsibility and all that
comes with that – failure, consequence etc. Actively taking a
step back – ‘intelligent neglect’!
EXPERT AUTHORS ENDORSING THE RITE JOURNEY
RITE JOURNEY RESEARCH
RESEARCH PARTNER WITH FLINDERS UNIVERSITY
THE RITE JOURNEY PARENTING PLAN
CREATING INTENTIONAL GIFTS TO BUILD RESPONSIBILITY
AGE            POSSIBLE GIFT                     RESPONSIBILITY
 9  Sleeping Bag / Tent / Pocket knife Self reliant / Make school lunches
 10        Watch / Alarm clock                   In charge of time
 11  Sewing machine & kit / Clothing Choose, fix and wash own clothes
                   Voucher
 12  Interstate Trip / Movie Vouchers      Being away from home by
                                                    themselves
 13  Camp Cooker, Family Cookbook        Cook evening meal fortnightly
 14 Bank account, $50/month, mobile Pay for toiletries, underwear, phone
               phone (loaned)
 15    Tool kit, personal devpt book     Responsibility for own things/
                                                   relationships

THE RITE JOURNEY PARENTING PLAN
CREATING INTENTIONAL GIFTS TO BUILD RESPONSIBILITY
Waking them up in the morning

                       Making their breakfast and packing their lunch

                                   Filling out their paperwork

                                 Delivering their forgotten items

                           Making their failure to plan your emergency

                                    Doing all of their laundry

                      Emailing and calling their teachers and coaches

                                  Meddling in their academics

RESPONSIBILITY PARENTING
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Any questions re TRJ
             Step 1 - Chat to your child
Step 2 - Get your child to follow it up with their TRJ
                   teacher-guide
             Step 3 - Email the school
theritejourney.com

andrew@theritejourney.com

0432603655

@theritejourney

@theritejourney

@theritejourney

Andrew Lines
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