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Vol. LVI, No. 3 October 17, 2013 13 Heshvan 5774
The Steckers: Looking Back at Ten Years at Temple Israel
By Marc Katz, Editor nation with the dinner dance, will offer an He noted how pleased he was with how
Deanna and Rabbi Howard Stecker opportunity for members of the congrega- things had worked out over the ten ensu-
see a very bright future for Temple Israel tion and the greater community to express ing years.”I remember how ironic it was
of Great Neck. personal messages to the Steckers in their that for two years we literally searched all
“The Great Neck community contin- ads. “You can tell of ways the Steckers have over the world for a new rabbi who could
ues to crave a fully egalitarian approach to touched the lives of you and your fam- meet our standards and expectations, and
Judaism that reflects the best that Judaism ily,” said Dinner Dance Co-Chair Andrew how we wound up hiring someone from
and modernity have to offer,” said Rabbi Bloom. “Perhaps they played a significant down the road. From his first sermon
Stecker. “At Temple Israel we embrace role in a family lifecycle event. This journal delivered to the congregation during the
both with equal passion.” will give everyone a way to express their search period, and he and Deanna’s inter-
As the congregation marks ten years personal appreciation.” actions with the Board and membership,
under the Steckers’ we knew we had the
spiritual leadership, the right man for the job,
couple looked back at and time has validated
their tenure with a sense our choice.”
of accomplishment and Deanna and Rabbi
ahead to an exciting fu- Stecker moved to
ture. “Yes, we do have Great Neck with their
a very bright future at three young sons,
Temple Israel. We will Joshua, Daniel, and
not look like the Temple Zachary, in December
Israel of a generation 2003. Rabbi Stecker
ago, and we shouldn’t,” had served the Jewish
Rabbi Stecker added. Community Center of
“We must work hard West Hempstead, and
to strengthen our syn- for four years prior was
agogue as the place the assistant rabbi at
where Jews of all ages, the Shelter Rock Jewish
from a variety of back- Center, Roslyn. Deanna
ground, find both is the coordinator of
old and new ways to learning support at
live meaningfully as the Solomon Schechter
American Jews.” School of Manhattan.
The Steckers will Passionate about issues
be honored at the con- of special education in
gregation’s 49th Annual Dinner Dance, to Invitations and journal ad forms will be the Jewish community, she has been in-
be held Saturday evening, December 7, in mailed to the congregation shortly. Journal volved in a number of aspects of Temple
the Grand Ballroom. “This will be an op- ad prices start at only $100. Advertisers Israel life, particularly in the development
portunity for the entire Temple Israel com- placing a full page ad will receive two com- of the synagogue’s new website.
munity to be able to come together to thank plimentary tickets to the dinner. “This is a unique community be-
the Steckers for their efforts,” said President Steven Markowitz was president of cause of its diversity and its degree of
Alan Klinger. “They have taken us to a new Temple Israel from 2001-2003, the period sophistication about Judaism and other
place as a congregation, and we all have of Rabbi Mordecai Waxman’s retirement matters,” Rabbi Stecker said. “It is chal-
reason to show our appreciation. I hope and passing, and the search and ultimate lenging in many ways.”
the entire congregation will participate.” selection and hiring of Rabbi Stecker as the But is it what the Steckers expected
A journal, being published in coordi- permanent senior rabbi of the congregation. ——Continued on page 5
A VOICE GUEST COLUMN A VOICE GUEST COLUMN
How to Find Peace Mitzvah Rewards
By Rabbi Abraham B. Eckstein By Toby Katz
EDITOR’S NOTE: Rabbi Abraham B. Eckstein, the former Rabbi of the Little Neck Jewish EDITOR’S NOTE: Congregant Toby Katz
Center, led one of the congregation’s High Holy Day services. This Guest Column contains relays a moving experience in this Voice
excerpts from his sermon. Guest Column. President Alan Klinger’s
column will resume following his return
How grateful and thankful we should be On these High Holy Days we pray not only for
from the United Synagogue convention.
that we Jews have these High Holy Days, Rosh a year of chaim, life, but a year of shalom, peace.
Hashanah and Yom Kippur. Their advent compels Let us examine this simple word sha-
Note: For this article, we’re defining the
us to stop our frenzied running to pause and reflect lom and strive for chaim shel shalom, a life of
word mitzvah in its broadest sense; including
upon our lives. What did we accomplish this past peace. The first meaning of shalom is peace.
both “commandment” and “good deed.”
year? Did we frivolously waste time? Do we look We pray that God will bless us with peace.
Question: What is the reward for per-
into our hearts and see the dark secrets and sins But what manner of peace do we mean?
forming a mitzvah? Answer: The opportu-
There is the universal peace the prophet fore-
Do any of us have debts
nity to perform another mitzvah.
told. “Nations shall not lift up sword against
On a recent Tuesday evening, we had
one another, neither shall they learn war any-
we haven’t paid?
eight people in attendance at the daily min-
more.” We need God’s help to fashion such a
yan. With the exception of Rabbi Adelson,
world. He must open the hearts and eyes of the
each of us was either saying Kaddish or
of the past year? Can we resolve to draw closer to world’s leaders so that they live in harmony.
observing a yahrzeit. Without a minyan, we
God and to one another in this coming year? But there is another shalom which God
If not for these holy days, many of us
would never stop and examine the condi-
cannot control, whether there is shalom
in our hearts and our homes and in our If you can make any
tion of our lives. We are just too busy.
The word, shalom, plays a critical role in our
relationships. Peace only we can create.
Only we can control what we say and what of the evening minyanim,
liturgy. Every Kaddish ends with oseh shalom,
every Amidah ends with oseh ha shalom, every
we don’t say, what we do and what we
don’t do, whether we will erect walls or please do so.
meal ends with hashem yi varech et amo b’shalom. ——Continued on page 6
It’s a mitzvah!
FROM THE RABBI
couldn’t recite the Mourner’s Kaddish.
The only other event in the building
Singing and Dancing Our Vision was the folk dancing class, so we sent a
representative to ask for two volunteers to
complete our minyan.
By Rabbi Howard Stecker We explained to the dance class that
seven people are saying Kaddish and com-
EDITOR’S NOTE: Rabbi Stecker’s column did not appear in its entirety in all editions of pleting the minyan would be a great mitz-
the last issue of The Voice due to a printing error. The full text is in this issue. vah, enabling the seven of us to fulfill our
obligation to our loved ones.
I imagine that each of us could identify teens hosted residents from two local group Two women volunteered to come. On
a number of highlights from the expansive homes for adults with developmental challeng- the way, one of the women confided that she’s
range of holidays that we shared together es. Our teens paired up with these adults for a Orthodox and has attended Orthodox shuls all
over the past month. I would like to men- variety of activities and then we all danced to- of her life. As such, she was never counted when
tion a few from Temple Israel’s recent cel- gether with a Torah scroll. At one point, Youth the shul needed a minyan. “It feels very, very
ebration of Simhat Torah, the day which House Director Danny Mishkin invited up ev- strange to be counted in a minyan” she said.
Rabbi Yitz Greenberg describes as the “coda eryone who wanted to come see the inside of After the service (with the requisite
of joy” at the end of the fall cycle of Jewish
holidays. More precisely, I want to reflect on We believe that ten Jews, the seven of us were able to say
kaddish), we thanked the two women vol-
the highlights that bring our vision to life.
On Simhat Torah night, following everyone… unteers and again expressed our gratitude
to them for completing our minyan.
much joyous dancing, a large group of men,
women and children gathered around one should have equal “You performed a true mitzvah,” we told
them. It was then that the woman who was
of our historic Iraqi Torahs as Simon Kashfi,
a teen from our congregation, chanted pas- access to the Torah. never counted spoke up. She turned to us,
beaming a big beautiful smile, and said: “for
sages from the final portion of the Torah. the Torah. We said the blessings together and the first time in my life, I feel so empowered.”
Everyone present had the opportunity to read a passage from the Torah. Following that, This is how change comes about; with
recite the blessings before and after he read everyone had dinner and our teens brought a series of very small steps. Who performed
each passage. At one point, I took a mental their guests over to the Sanctuary to join in the greater mitzvah? You decide!
snapshot of him, pointing to the words and the synagogue-wide celebration. I took a men- Post Script: This year, we’ve been hav-
singing the melody while surrounded by tal snapshot of our teens and our guests sur- ing trouble getting ten people for the eve-
so many of Temple Israel’s children. rounding the Torah as it was read. ning minyan. If you can make any of the eve-
Over at the Youth House, Temple Israel ——Continued on page 5 ning minyanim, please do so. It’s a mitzvah!
——2——
In MeMorIaM UpcoMIng events at teMple Israel
Temple Israel extends condolences Oct. 20 Shalom Club Meeting 6:30 P.M.
to the families of: 21 Sisterhood Fall Luncheon 11:30 A.M.
22 Beth HaGan Nursery School Book Fair 3:30 P.M.
RUTH RICHARDS 22 “Essentials Issues: Interfaith Marriage” 8:15 P.M.
mother of Judith Orenstein Discussion led by Rabbis Stecker and Adelson
23-24 Beth HaGan Nursery School Book Fair 9:30 A.M.
MOSHE KHODADADIAN 24 Men’s Club Meeting 7:30 P.M.
brother of Dr. Parviz Khodadadian 27 EmptiNesters Trip to the Hamptons
and uncle of Moji Pourmoradi 27 New Member Dinner 5:00 P.M.
29 “Essentials Issues: Interfaith Marriage” 8:15 P.M.
HAROLD LEVINE Discussion led by Rabbis Stecker and Adelson
esteemed member of Temple Israel Nov. 3 EmptiNesters “Conversations with Our Rabbis” 7:30 P.M.
on Intermarriage Program
May their memory be for a blessing. 4 Congregational Meeting 8:15 P.M.
5 Sisterhood Lunch and Read Noon
Daily Minyan TiMes 5 Waxman Youth House
Israel Trip Information Session
5:30 P.M.
Mon. & Thur. 6:45 A.M. 8:00 P.M.
Tues. & Wed. 7:00 A.M. 8:00 P.M. 5 “Essentials Issues: Interfaith Marriage” 8:15 P.M.
Fri., Oct. 18 7:00 A.M. 6:00 P.M. Discussion led by Rabbis Stecker and Adelson
Fri., Oct. 25 7:00 A.M. 6:30 P.M. 7 Men’s Club Meeting 7:30 P.M.
Sat., Oct. 19 8:45 A.M. 5:35 P.M. 9 Kristallnacht
Sat., Oct. 25 8:45 A.M. 5:25 P.M.
Sunday 8:15 A.M. 8:00 P.M.
CanDle lighTing TiMes You are invited to
Kindle the Sabbath Lights! SiSterhood’S AnnuAl FAll luncheon
Friday, October 18..….............…....5:53 P.M.
Friday, October 25.....….…........….5:43 P.M. Monday, october 21
Mazal Tov To . . . at 11:30 A.M.
• Carol and Steve Smolinsky on the en-
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Greenblatt, to Chris Converso. and fights to correct biased or inaccurate reporting.
• Carol and Dr. Sheldon Rabin on the birth
of their grandson, Jack Samuel Rabin.
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In QUotes
EDITOR’S NOTE: “In Quotes” calls attention to passages from This issue’s quote is from the Amidah prayer. What’s your
Jewish prayers and writings frequently overlooked or said by favorite quote? Send it to The Voice, c/o Temple Israel, 108 Old
rote, but profoundly written. Mill Road, Great Neck, NY 11023
} You support the falling,
heal the ailing, free the fettered.
You keep Your faith with those who sleep in dust.
Whose power can compare with Yours? ~
——3——
B’nai/B’noT MiTzvah in our TeMple israel FaMily
Arielle Daskal Noa Daskal Hannah Nahavandi
Arielle Daskal will be celebrating her Bat Noa Daskal will be called to the Torah Hannah Nahavandi will be celebrating
Mitzvah on October 26. She is the daughter as a Bat Mitzvah on October 26. She is the her Bat Mitzvah on November 2. She is the
of Lisa and Oded Daskal and has three daughter of Lisa and Oded Daskal and has daughter of Ellen and Dr. Babak Nahavandi
brothers, Matan, 25, Yonathan, 21, Daniel, three brothers, Matan, 25, Yonathan, 21, and has two sisters, Rebecca, 10, Jessica,
15, and a twin sister, Noa, 13. Arielle is Daniel, 15, and a twin sister, Arielle, 13. Noa 8, and a brother, Joshua, 2. Hannah is an
an eighth grade student at Great Neck is an eighth grade student at Great Neck eighth grade honor student at Great Neck
South Middle School. She enjoys playing South Middle School. She enjoys playing the North Middle School. She is an avid reader
the clarinet and is a member of her school flute and is a member of her school softball and enjoys playing the piano, writing
swim, softball and travel soccer teams. and travel soccer teams. Noa is currently stories, ice skating and playing tennis. She
Arielle is currently attending the Waxman attending the Waxman High School and is currently attending the Waxman High
High School. She has visited Israel many Youth House. She has visited Israel many School and plans to visit Israel with family
times with family and friends and had her times with family and friends and had her in the near future.
Bat Mitzvah this past summer at the Kotel. Bat Mitzvah this past summer at the Kotel.
FROM BETH HAGAN NURSERY SCHOOL
The
EmpTiNEsTErs Holidays and Shabbat at Beth HaGan
By Rachel Mathless
Go to
The 2013-2014 school year has gotten time was had by all. We ate snacks and lunch
The Hamptons off to a great start. Teachers have been hard
at work with professional development of-
in the sukkah and had our awesome celebra-
tion sing-along with the Rabbis in the sukkah.
• Wine Tasting fered by local childcare agencies to help
them remain on the cutting edge of all that is
We danced and shook the lulav and etrog and
recited the special holiday blessings.
new and good in early childhood education. Moving right along at a frenetic pace,
• Docent Led Most of our toddlers have “separated” well
and are enjoying the enriched curriculum
every child made either a flag or a Torah
to bring to synagogue to celebrate Simhat
museum Tour and myriad of activities of our daily routine.
The magnificent weather has given us a
Torah. Many Beth HaGan children joined
the services in sanctuary and enjoyed show-
great opportunity to enjoy the beautiful out- ing off their beautiful art work.
• Apple picking door playground and develop our large mo- Our first of ten special entertainment
tor skills and expand social relationships. guests of the year will be appearing on
sunday, We were sorry to miss preparing and cel-
ebrating Rosh Hashanah in school; we were
October 23. “WonderSpark Puppets” from
Manhattan will perform “The Hidden
determined to make it up for Sukkot. Every
October 27 child at Beth HaGan made a lulav and etrog
Challah,” an interactive mystery puppet
show for the children. Other entertainers
with which to celebrate the holiday as well as during the year include, Mr. Shabbos, Party
For details a model sukkah made from paper, cardboard, Pets, Small Wonder Puppet Theatre, Loonie
shoeboxes, cloth, twigs and recycled material. Louie, the Macarooni, Yitz the Great, and
Kudos to Amy Kalter and her committee Kugel and Mrs. Moskowitz.
call Jodi for, once again, doing an incredible job with the Shabbat is always a celebration at Beth
sukkah decorating party. The sukkah looked HaGan beginning with a communal oneg,
516-482-7800 lovely, the entertainment was great, the pizza baking challah and a Shabbat party in the
delicious, the weather beautiful, and a good ——Continued on page 5
——4——The Steckers Look
Back at Ten Years
At Temple Israel
——Continued from front page
before they moved to Great Neck?
“We expected the sophistication. The
community is definitely more diverse than
West Hempstead. And, we found the com-
munity very embracing of our family, too.”
Rabbi Stecker said.
“What is challenging is charting a
course for so many people from diverse
backgrounds across the generation span.
There are many groups looking for stimu-
lation, wanting to engage and be engaged.
It is definitely demanding,” he said. “But,
it is a very fulfilling part of my rabbinate
to make Judaism relevant to so many. I
want people to understand that Judaism Inquisitive Beth HaGan students’ eyes filled with wonder as they filled the Temple Israel sukkah.
can improve the way they live their lives
and also have a positive impact on the
world.
”What I try to do is offer a non-judg-
Holidays and Shabbat at Beth HaGan
——Continued from page 4 the holidays and provide interesting and
mental approach: not ‘where were you,’ but
classroom. Please feel free to visit Friday enriching programs for all children.
‘it is nice to see you.’ For Judaism to thrive
mornings and join us to experience with
in the 21st century, it has to be open and
welcoming. It is also useful to break down
the children the real meaning of the joy and Congregation Thanks
peace of Shabbat. It’s sure to boost your spir-
barriers between different groups and to
encourage a more relaxed, less formal at-
its and keep you humming all day. Kiddush Sponsors
The PTA continues to be a vibrant Appreciation is expressed by the
mosphere.
and vital auxiliary of Beth HaGan. Their Temple Israel officers and Board of Trustees
“We have made strides in education
dedication and contribution to the welfare to members who have generously sponsored
and in our chesed efforts, and we have an ex-
of every student is invaluable. The Annual and enhanced the Sabbath kiddush.
cellent professional staff working with im-
Book Fair is scheduled for October 22-24, A contribution toward the kiddush on October
pressive, highly committed laity,” he said.
and is a major fundraiser for us. It enables 5 was made by Roya and Binesh (Joe) Shavolian
“But, there is definitely a lot more we have
the PTA to distribute goody bags for all in honor of the Bar Mitzvah of their son, Jordan.
to do. We have to reach out to engage more
Singing and Dancing Our Vision
people with spiritual and social opportuni-
ties that make Judaism more personal and
inviting. We have to continue to reimagine
what it means to be relevant to the larger ——Continued from page 2
Jewish community by welcoming people The next morning, we honored six members of our congregation who have contributed
in or going out to where the people are. talent and time to important efforts within and beyond our synagogue. I took mental
We have sponsored events such as concerts snapshots of each of them surrounded by friends, loved ones and the entire Temple Israel
in the park, Hanukkah parties open to the family. I have mental recordings of one longstanding Temple Israel member chanting the
community, participation in New York’s special Simhat Torah prayers using an ancient Ashkenazi melody and another using an
Israel Day Parade, discussions in people’s ancient Persian melody. I have mental recordings of men and women chanting from the
homes, and the annual September 11th ser- Torah using melodies from Lithuania and Iraq.
vice at the Saddle Rock Bridge. We have to Upon reflection, I believe that these highlights and others, captured in our collective
find new ways to demonstrate that we as a mental snapshots and recordings from our Simhat Torah celebrations, speak volumes about
congregation have something to say about our vision as a congregation. We believe that everyone, regardless of age, gender or cognitive
issues that affect the day-to-day reality of capacity, should have equal access to the Torah. We believe that the variety of our aesthetic
our membership and the larger commu- and melodic traditions need to be shared. We believe that being Jewish can be engaging and
nity. We have to continue to find creative even fun.
ways to elevate people’s lives through Mostly, we believe that the words of the Torah ought to impact how we live our lives
Jewish learning and living.” and treat other people. So we taught our teens the verse in Deuteronomy which commands
The Steckers, just back from dropping us to share our holiday with the broader community. And then they brought that verse
their youngest son off at college, said they to life by extending a degree of hospitality to our guests that would make Abraham and
are now empty nesters. “It is amazing how Sarah proud.
quickly the years have gone by,” Deanna Etz hayim hee. The Torah is a tree of life to those who grasp it. On Simhat Torah, in our
said. “Great Neck has definitely become our unique Temple Israel way, we reminded one another just how true this is. As more and
home, and Temple Israel has truly become more people are invited to grasp the Torah in keeping with our vision, I’m confident that
our congregation.” its branches will continue to support and enrich many lives in multiple ways.
——5——Voice Guest Column: How to Find Peace
——Continued from page 2 one. “My father died when I was 11 and my pregnancy ended in miscarriage. Since she
whether we tear them down, what thoughts heart was broken. I idolized my father and was an only child, if she had no heir the
we harbor in our hearts and what we cast for years I would go to sleep crying contin- throne would pass to some distant cousin.
away. That shalom is not in God’s “Book of uously. My whole high school experience She traveled to the most prominent
Peace.” We are the authors of that sefer ha saw me in great depression and sorrow. physicians of that day and they held out
shalom, that “Book of Peace.” When I graduated high school, I took little hope. Undoubtedly she was extremely
How can we author such a book? It is an oath that whatever I did in life, I would depressed, and she decided to take a brief
easier said than done. The secret lies in a never, ever commit an act that would bring vacation.
second meaning of the word shalom. Using sorrow to anyone else. No one should ever In 1908 she decided to go to Marienbad,
the same three letters but using different suffer the pain I had. You see, when I head- which had a spa and mineral springs. She
vowels, we come up with the word shalem. ed for the Hudson River, I gave no thoughts gave strict orders that she wanted to travel
That word means whole, complete, not bro- to the passengers. Rather, I thought of the incognito. No one was to know who she was;
ken, without cracks or holes or damage. 155 families that would be in pain for she registered in the hotel under a false name.
To have shalom you need to be shalem, the rest of their lives. That gave me the She didn’t want receptions and state dinners.
complete and not broken. Is there one per- strength to keep the wings level.” Captain Imagine her surprise when her train
son present today in this congregation whose Sullenburger learned how to fill the cracks pulled into the station. About 600 people
heart is whole, without cracks or holes? Think in his heart. He had become shalem, whole. were cheering and waving handkerchiefs.
of the cracks: the loss of a loved one, a divorce The word shalem can be turned into a verb She called in her aide and wanted to know
after decades of marriage, children estranged in Hebrew by adding a lamed. We say l’shalem, why they had informed the government of
from parents, an elderly parent in a nursing which means to pay for something. Because her trip. The aide assured her that no one was
home who does not recognize a daughter, when I pay for something I have received, the informed of her plans. He set off to investigate
a home where a husband and wife live to- transaction is complete and we are at peace. and reported to the Queen that the cheering
gether but do not love together, a brother’s Do any of us have debts we haven’t crowd was not for her, but rather for a holy
daughter is married and you receive no in- paid? I do not mean financial debts. I refer man, the Rabbi of Munkatch, Hungary.
vitation, a baby is born with special needs—I to how we are indebted to many others, The queen made a quick decision.
could go on. We all have cracks in our hearts and we never repaid them. To this day I feel “Find this holy Rabbi and tell him I need to
and have emotional scars. We are not whole, guilty for not paying a debt of gratitude to speak with him on an urgent matter. I will
and therefore, we are not at peace. three teachers who influenced me, molded be in the park, on a bench outside the hotel
Healing these cracks can be a difficult me and changed me in a profound way. at 4 p.m. tomorrow. Please have him meet
task. We need God’s help in sending His heal- I never told them. I never told them how me there and he must come alone.”
ing. With time and support of caring loved much I owed them. They had all passed on Later the aide reported that all was ar-
ones our hearts can have the holes filled. and I never paid them with a compliment, ranged. The next afternoon she sat in the
But the other way to mend the cracks is or a note, or a letter. park, and saw the Rabbi approaching, but
by doing mitzvot, by reaching out to others and How many debts do we owe? To our he had a young lad with him. When he sat
focusing on the future we can smooth out the parents who raised us, who were at our she said she wanted no one present. The
cracks. Consider all the good efforts that were bedside when we were sick, who were sup- young man said, “Your majesty, I am his
brought about because some one had a broken portive and giving, to whom we could turn interpreter. He doesn’t speak Dutch.”
heart: Mothers Against Drunk Driving, The for guidance. Did we ever really pay our Queen Wilhemina poured out her heart.
Lusthaus Foundation, Amber Alert, Megan’s debt to them? Husbands and wives who The Rabbi assured her she would have a child
Law. These, and many others, were born be- take each other for granted, do they pay and the throne would be secure. He then got
cause someone had a death. That is where the their debt of gratitude? How often do we up and walked away. On April 30, 1909 she
idea originates for adopting good deeds or thank our husbands for their efforts to sup- gave birth to Juliana. She got pregnant a few
projects that improve the human condition. port the family? How often do we say how times later, but never had another child.
The holes in the hearts of the grieving family proud we are of him for the financial aid In 1938—30 years later—she received a
members have been filled by bringing light he gives to a needy family member? Do we letter written in Yiddish which said, “Your
where there had been darkness. thank our wives for maintaining a beautiful majesty, I was that young boy who translated
If you yearn for shalom in your lives, home and being a wonderful influence for the Rabbi’s blessing in the park. I need your
we must have shalem by filling those cracks the children? Do we pay our debts? help. We need a visa to enter your country for
and holes. You notice the ushers scurrying about safety. They are not granting visas. Can you
Do you remember Captain Chesley to insure that those who have the honor help?” She immediately sent him a diplomat’s
Sullenberger who landed US Airways flight of opening the Ark are in place. Don’t you visa, which got him and his family into the
1549 in the Hudson River with 155 on board? think they would like to be sitting with country. As she signed the papers she sighed,
All were unscathed. He was a remarkable their families? Did you ever thank them for “Now I can pay my debt to the Rabbi.”
and skillful pilot to have performed so ad- their efforts? Don’t you owe them? My dear friends, we all have debts to
mirably in such a stressful moment. What about all those employees who set pay. The visits we should have made and
In an interview with members of the up the chairs, who put all these prayer books in didn’t, the thank you we should have sent
press, he was asked how he was able to do place, who are folding up the tallitot when we and didn’t, the offer to help we should have
the feat so professionally. “Weren’t you agi- leave the service? Did you ever acknowledge made but didn’t.
tated as you approached the river? To land our debt to them? Let me share with you a true If we pay, l’shalem, then we become
successfully the wings had to be absolutely story of how a debt was repaid after 30 years. shalem, whole and we can anticipate shalom.
level or else a lower wing would snap in Queen Wilhemina of the Netherlands Dear God, we have broken hearts. Help
the water and cause the plane to overturn was born in 1880. She ascended the throne us to heal. May we discover new paths of
and sink. How could you do it knowing in 1898, married in 1901. Nine months after service to fill up the holes and the cracks.
there were 155 lives at risk?” marrying she had a miscarriage. In 1902 she May we acknowledge all the debts we have
Captain Sully’s reply stunned every- gave birth to a stillborn son. In 1906 another and may we then be granted peace. Amen.
——6——From Generation
TEMPLE ISRAEL FUND Viktor Shagalov
In appreciation of: Valentina Shagalov
Receiving a High Holy Leiba Rybak
Day honor
Elise and Marvin to Generation Stanley Silverstein
Bertha Schwartz
Tepper Hyman Schwartz
Paul Schwartz
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D’var torah
By Rabbi Marim D. Charry sabbath servIces
Vayera Saturday, October 19 Friday, October 18
In this portion, Abraham is informed by angels that he and Evening Service 6:00 P.M.
Sarah will have a son and that the wicked cities of Sodom (where •
Lot lives) and Gomorrah are to be destroyed. Abraham argues with Saturday, October 19
God about justice and God agrees to spare the cities if there are at Morning Service 8:45 A.M.
least ten righteous men among them. Lot turns out to be the only Weekly Portion: Vayera; Genesis 18:1 – 22:24
righteous man and the cities are destroyed, but Lot and his families Haftarah: II Kings 4:1 – 37
are saved. Sarah gives birth to the long-awaited son, Isaac, and Sabbath Service Officers:
demands that Abraham expel Hagar’s and her son, Ishmael. God Eleanor Askari and Rebecca Friedman-Charry
further tests Abraham’s faith through the near sacrifice of Isaac. Bar Mitzvah
These incidents serve to illustrate Abraham’s expanding concept of BENJAMIN KOBLINER
God and also reveal his human failings. son of Miriam and Dr. Kenneth Kobliner
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Hayyey Sarah Saturday, October 26
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We conclude the cycle of Abraham and Sarah stories, Sarah
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dies at the age of 127, and Abraham purchases a burial site, the
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Cave of Machpelah in Hebron, from the local Hittite inhabitants, in
Friday, October 25
this portion. This cave becomes the burial place for the patriarchs,
N’Ranenah/Evening Service 6:30 P.M.
Abraham, Isaac and Jacob and their wives, Sarah, Rebekah and
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Leah. As Abraham faces the prospect of his own death, he arranges
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a marriage for Isaac by sending his chief servant back to the family
Saturday, October 26
homeland to negotiate for the hand of a family member. When the
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servant returns with Rebekah, Isaac installs her in Sarah’s tent and
Weekly Portion: Hayyey Sarah; Genesis 23:1 - 25:18
marries her, and in their love he finds comfort after his mother’s
Haftarah: I Kings 1:1 – 31
death. Thus, God’s plan of history unfolds through a series of
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commonplace and natural events.
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