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Volume 48   Number 2 March 2019

      A Publication of the Institute of Guidance Counsellors

Donegal ready for Conference 19
Inside:
- Coping with Anxiety
- Online Guidance
- Alfred Adler
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Cover photo: Organising Committee and others at the launch of the Donegal Conference 2019. See page 22-23 for more details and photos.

In this issue:
Too Much Information.............................................................................. 5             Don’t demonise social media, it can be a blessing for teens with
The Setting Up of 17 Herbert Street........................................................ 6                    problems................................................................................................ 19

A consistent seven to nine-hour sleep each night is the most effective                                           Donegal Conference Launch.................................................................. 22
thing we can do to reset our brain and body health’ ............................. 7                              New research examines the realities of being a senior inter-county
Becoming an online career guidance practitioner................................... 9                             player..................................................................................................... 25

Research shows some increase in number of students taking higher                                                 Religion is about emotion regulation, and it’s very good at it............... 26
level subjects......................................................................................... 11       North West IGC Careers Fest................................................................. 27
Research examines association between early mobile phone ownership                                               Inspiring Conference on Careers for Women........................................ 28
and children’s academic outcomes........................................................ 11                      Why exercise alone won’t save us........................................................ 31
Helping a student who is struggling with anxiety................................. 12                             Alfred Adler: Father of Individual Psychology and a Major Influence on
Let’s talk about careers and foreign languages .................................... 15                           Modern Systems of Counselling and Psychotherapy............................ 37
On the Educational Impact Statement................................................... 15                        Conference 2018 Dublin North.............................................................. 42
Services of Careers and Education News............................................. 17

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Too Much Information
Fred Tuite

T
          h inking back to when computers were first appearing there was a              is crowding out other kinds of
          general optimism. We would soon be educating people for leisure.              information in memory. In particular,
          So much of the work would be done by computers and automation                 where people do not already have
that we would be left with lots of time for leisure activities. Alas, it has not        strong ideological convictions
worked out that way. The huge explosion of information and connectivity has             otherwise, social information can
led to a form of “information overload” We see it in our work as students try           lead to herding and undermine
to negotiate their way through the huge quantities of information available             collective wisdom in favour of
to them on their choices. Once we were the suppliers of this information but            someone else’s online review, musical recommendation, or social media
now we need to be guides to help them negotiate their way through the vast              celebrity endorsement of a product. This is particularly worrying when turning
array of choice and sources that lie before them. However, human nature has             to social media to resolve problems or questions. When problems are easy, this
not changed and some old biases persist as we go through the information.               reliance on a mass of social information can be good as it increases the speed
Indeed the way so much of this information is presented tends to increase               at which groups and individuals find the best solution. But for hard problems,
these biases or filters.                                                                high levels of social connectivity prevent groups from finding the very best
                                                                                        solutions because they rush groups to exploit suboptimal solutions too quickly.
The huge proliferation of information and communication is creating
“attentional bottlenecks” which are acting to limit our choices to those based
                                                                                        Imitating others can be very useful in uncertain environments where mistakes
on fear, peer pressure, and global groupthink.
                                                                                        are costly, but neuroimaging evidence indicates that when we choose to do
This problem is being made much worse by the fact that that information and             that we turn off the processing associated with our own critical evaluation -
the way it is communicated is itself evolving in ways that accentuate these             our better judgment.
dangers.
                                                                                        Predictive Bias: The Peril of Patterns - People love looking for patterns but
New research by Professor Thomas Hills, of the University of Warwick’s                  these can be deeply deceiving and information proliferation greatly accelerates
Department of Psychology, published in the journal Perspectives on                      the risk that we fasten on to spurious correlations, patterns and predictions.
Psychological Science in a paper entitled The Dark Side of Information                  Scientists have long agonised about how to decrease the risk of generating false
Proliferation, looks at the information bottleneck we all face, and the “severe         positive (type I errors) in their experiments but the number of false positives is
pitfalls” of the psychological processes behind the shortcuts and sifting               likely to inevitably rise with increasing information. Moreover, because journals
methods we intuitively employ to try to deal with that increasing torrent of            tend to favour positive findings, more false positives are likely to be published.
ever evolving information.                                                              This is not just a problem for lab scientists. As information proliferates this
                                                                                        also creates “spurious super performers”. This is particularly true in financial
Professor Hills identifies four particularly worrying biases in “cognitive
                                                                                        and economic decision making. People who experience monetary gains from
selection”. Those being biases for negative, belief-consistent, social, and
                                                                                        a set of alternatives will then tend to choose riskier alternatives (seeking
predictive information:
                                                                                        rare but illusory gains). As the set size of possible alternatives increases
Negative Bias: Fear and Dread Risk – Professor Hills notes in his paper that:           the likelihood of spurious super performers (as well as super failures) also
“Heightened sensitivity to negative information is part of our evolutionary             grows with the number of choices purely as a function of statistical noise.
heritage. This sensitivity leads us to weight disadvantages over advantages             But it’s not just the psychological tendencies we employ to process this
in information seeking and decision making.” This negativity bias induces us            growing glut of information that should give us cause for concern. The
to identify and recommunicate information about risk at the expense of more             information itself is undergoing evolutionary pressures. As the competition
balanced information. As well as being disproportionately drawn towards                 to get our attention grows, information that better exploits one of the four
the negative we are also more likely to share such information. This leads              psychological pathways above has a natural advantage, leading it to be better
to “social risk amplification”. One example being when the first Ebola case             detected, recalled, and reproduced in the social propagation of information.
was diagnosed in the United States which led Twitter posts mentioning Ebola             Unfortunately, misinformation (i.e., Fake News) has a significant advantage in
to jump from 100 posts per minute to 6000 per minute and rapidly produced               those competitive environments. Firstly because it is free from the constraints
inaccurate claims that Ebola could be transmitted through food, water, and              of being truthful, allowing it to adapt more quickly and easily to cognition’s
air. Professor Hills also notes that this social risk amplification is especially       biases for more distinctive and emotionally appealing information. Secondly
prominent for dread risks - unpredictable, catastrophic risks to life and limb          it is a general rule of evolution that faster generation times accelerate
such as plane crashes, nuclear disasters, epidemics, and terrorism.                     adaptation. The more rapidly people can access, select, and reproduce
                                                                                        preferred information, the more readily will that information reflect the
  Belief-consistent bias: Global Groupthink - To cope with information                  cognitive biases of its users. These are both factors associated with the
proliferation people tend to personalize and favour information consistent              empirical finding that lies proliferate faster than the truth. As Jonathan Swift
with their current beliefs and avoiding belief-inconsistent information. This           wrote in 1710, “Falsehood flies, and the Truth comes limping after it”.
psychological process is accelerated by algorithms in online information
systems such as recommender systems and search engines guided by our                    Professor Hills concludes:
browser history. On social media, these combined personal and machine
                                                                                        “There are well-understood psychological limits on our capacity to process
tendencies for in-group selection lead to filter bubbles and echo chambers,
                                                                                        information. The unfortunate reality is that these limits are forcing us down
which further reduce individual exposure to information diversity even as they
                                                                                        an evolutionary relationship with information that is losing sight of our best
increase diversity across social media as a whole. The tendency to select like-
                                                                                        interests. People didn’t evolve in an information environment anything like the
minded individuals in decision making is often associated with “groupthink”,
                                                                                        one we currently experience. And the evidence suggests that things are rapidly
with groups defensively insulating themselves from external views. Information
                                                                                        moving beyond our control.”
proliferation now extends the capacity for groupthink globally, organizing and
polarizing groups from political ideologues to international terrorists.                So keep these cognitive filters in mind as you and your students negotiate
                                                                                        your way through the Spaghetti Junction of what was once the Information
 Social Bias: Following the herd - Researchers have noted that people’s
                                                                                        Superhighway! We’ll do our best for you at Guideline!
appetite for “social information” on their smartphones and other devices

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  The Setting Up of 17 Herbert Street
                                                              Roisin Kelleher

With regard to the article submitted in            of April 12th recorded that M Quinn, P Flynn, R      members and myself were aware that an
the October 2018 issue of Guideline re the         Kelleher visited Herbert St. and were pleased        office secretary would need to be appointed.
establishment of the IGC office in Herbert St, I   with it.                                             In this regard, we drew up a job specification
wish to correct and clarify some details.                                                               and started the process of seeking a suitable
                                                   We were fortunate that the VEC CEO Liam
                                                                                                        person. Interviews took place over a period of
As a person who had considerable experience        Arundel, who was known to some of us on the
                                                                                                        time but it was not until May 1998 that Anne
in office administration, I was aware of the       executive, was in a position to offer a premises
                                                                                                        Pilkington was interviewed and recommended
usefulness of having an office to see after        at 17 Herbert St. that could meet our needs.
                                                                                                        to fill the vacancy. She was appointed and
the affairs of the Institute. I shared my views
                                                   In June 1997 final details regarding the             commenced working in office on 6th August,
on this issue with the then president Fr John
                                                   establishment of the office on a long lease          1998.
Dunne and executive members.
                                                   with a nominal rent were finalised and a
                                                                                                        In the autumn of 1998 arrangements were
At Executive meeting of 8th Feb. 1997, the         contract was signed by Liam Arundel and I at
                                                                                                        made for the official opening of the office
minutes record that Fr. John recommended           the VEC Office in Ballsbridge, in the presence
                                                                                                        which took place on 11th February 1999 with
the establishment of a secretariat. This was       of Marion Quinn, Pat Flynn and John O Dowd.
                                                                                                        Charlie McCreevy T.D. Minister for Finance
to be in a prefab building in the grounds of
                                                   The keys of the office at 17 Herbert St, were        performing the opening ceremony.
the Teacher Training College in Drumcondra. It
                                                   acquired by me on 15th July, 1997.
would be a 2 room operation on a 3 year lease.                                                          In conclusion, executive members who
Shortly afterwards it came to the attention of     As arranged, the necessary renovation                supported and worked with me in the setting
some of us on the executive that there was         of the office was undertaken by the VEC.             up of the office have contacted me and were
a possibility of obtaining office space at 17      Some executive members gave great help in            surprised and disappointed, as I was, that
Herbert St., under the control of City of Dublin   acquiring furniture and equipment. Much work         the article published in the previous edition
VEC.                                               was undertaken by myself to ensure that the          of Guideline did not give a correct account of
                                                   office would be ready for use in the autumn.         how the office at Herbert St was established.
In March 1997, I was elected president at an
annual conference in Kilkenny, replacing Fr.       The first executive meeting in Herbert St took       Editor’s Note: Guideline is happy to set the
John. Shortly afterwards I visited the sites in    place on 13th Sept. 1997.                            record straight. Perhaps this could be the first
Drumcondra and Herbert St. and was of the                                                               in a series of looking back at the history of the
opinion that the Herbert St. location would be     The working of the office in the early days of its   IGC. There are many interesting moments to
the most suitable one. The Executive meeting       existence was carried out on a voluntary basis       recall.
                                                   mainly by Dublin Branch members. Executive

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 A consistent seven to nine-hour sleep
 each night is the most effective thing we
 can do to reset our brain and body health’
 Matthew Walker

Do you think you got enough sleep this past             buildup and reductions in blood oxygen saturation        increase in rates of the aforementioned physical
week? Can you remember the last time you woke           with converse increases in carbon dioxide, due in        diseases and mental disorders.
up without an alarm clock, feeling refreshed, not       part to a reduction in the amount of air that the
                                                                                                                 Scientists such as myself have even started
needing caffeine? If the answer to any of these         lungs can expire in a sleep-deficient state. And
                                                                                                                 lobbying doctors to start “prescribing” a good
questions is “no,” you are not alone. Two-thirds        then there is injury risk. Relative to sleeping nine
                                                                                                                 night’s sleep (though certainly not sleeping pills).
of adults throughout all developed nations fail to      hours a night, sleeping five to six hours a night will
                                                                                                                 As medical advice goes, it’s perhaps the most
obtain the recommended eight hours of nightly           increase your chances of injury across a season by
                                                                                                                 painless and enjoyable to follow. The irony here is
sleep leading to severe consequences.                   more than 200%.
                                                                                                                 that, in medical practice, inadequate sleep leads
Insufficient sleep is now one of the most significant   Routinely sleeping less than six hours a night also      to inadequate healthcare. Junior doctors working a
lifestyle factors influencing whether or not you        compromises your immune system, significantly            30-hour-plus shift will make 460% more diagnostic
will develop Alzheimer’s disease. During sleep,         increasing your risk of cancer. So much so, that         mistakes than when well rested. These same tired
a remarkable sewage system in the brain, called         recently the World Health Organization classified        physicians will commit 36% more serious medical
the glymphatic system, kicks into high gear. As         any form of night-time shiftwork as a probable           errors, compared with those working 16 hours or
you enter deep sleep, this sanitisation system          carcinogen.                                              less. Seasoned physicians can suffer the same
cleanses the brain of a sticky, toxic protein linked                                                             compromise of medical skills. A senior attending
                                                         Inadequate sleep – even moderate reductions of
to Alzheimer’s, known as beta amyloid. Without                                                                   surgeon who has slept only six hours or less the
                                                        two to three hours for just one week – disrupts
sufficient sleep, you fail to get that power cleanse.                                                            previous night is 170% more likely to inflict a
                                                        blood sugar levels so profoundly that you would be
With each passing night of insufficient sleep,                                                                   serious surgical error on a patient, relative to
                                                        classified as pre-diabetic. Short sleeping increases
that Alzheimer’s disease risk escalates, like                                                                    when they have slept adequately. It is worth noting
                                                        the likelihood of your coronary arteries becoming
compounding interest on a loan.                                                                                  evidence from scientific studies showing that after
                                                        blocked and brittle, setting you on a path towards
                                                                                                                 22 hours without sleep, human performance is
Parenthetically, and unscientifically, I have always    cardiovascular disease, stroke and congestive
                                                                                                                 impaired to the same level as that of someone who
found it curious that Margaret Thatcher and Ronald      heart failure.
                                                                                                                 is legally drunk.
Reagan – two leaders who were very vocal, if not
                                                        Strikingly, all it takes is one hour of lost sleep, as
proud, about sleeping only four to five hours a night                                                            Young doctors themselves can become part of
                                                        demonstrated by a global experiment performed
– both went on to develop the ruthless disease of                                                                the compromised health-care equation caused
                                                        on 1.6 billion people across more than 60 countries
Alzheimer’s. The current US president, Donald Trump                                                              by long hours. After a 30-hour continuous shift,
                                                        twice a year, otherwise known as daylight saving
– also a vociferous proclaimer of sleeping just a few                                                            trainee doctors are 73% more likely to accidentally
                                                        times. In the spring, when we lose one hour of
hours each night – may want to take note.                                                                        stab themselves with a hypodermic needle or cut
                                                        sleep, there is a 24% increase in heart attacks the
                                                                                                                 themselves with a scalpel, risking a blood-borne
Perhaps you have also noticed a desire to eat more      following day. In the autumn, we gain an hour of
                                                                                                                 infectious disease, compared with their careful
when you’re tired? This is no coincidence. Too          sleep opportunity, and there is a 21% reduction in
                                                                                                                 actions when adequately rested. And when a
little sleep swells concentrations of a hormone         heart attacks. Most of us think little of losing an
                                                                                                                 doctor finishes a long overnight shift and drives
that makes you feel hungry while suppressing a          hour of sleep, yet it is anything but trivial.
                                                                                                                 home, their chances of being involved in a car crash
companion hormone that otherwise signals food
                                                        Sleep disruption has further been associated             are increased by 168% because of insufficient
satisfaction. Despite being full, you will still want
                                                        with all major psychiatric conditions, including         sleep. Sleep should therefore be considered a life-
to eat more. It’s a recipe linked to weight gain in
                                                        depression, anxiety and suicidality. Indeed, in my       support system; a universal national healthcare
sleep-deficient adults and children alike.
                                                        research over the past 20 years, we have not been        plan still waiting to be fully embraced by medicine,
Worse, should you try to diet but don’t get enough      able to find a single major psychiatric condition in     and society at large.
sleep while doing so, it is futile, since up to 70%     which sleep is normal. Science is thus proving the
                                                                                                                 I believe it is therefore time for us, as individuals
of the weight you lose will come from lean body         prophetic wisdom of Charlotte Brontë, who stated
                                                                                                                 and as nations, to reclaim our right to a full night
mass, not fat. Turn these facts around and you          that “a ruffled mind makes a restless pillow”.
                                                                                                                 of sleep, without embarrassment or the terrible
realise that plentiful sleep is powerful tool for
                                                        Add the above physical and mental health                 stigma of laziness. Governments and health
controlling your appetite, your weight and keeping
                                                        consequences up, and a scientifically validated link     institutes must themselves become a voice that
your body trim.
                                                        becomes easier to accept: the shorter your sleep,        educates society about sleep.
Related is the association between plentiful            the shorter your life. Recent findings demonstrate
                                                                                                                 Put simply: sleep – a consistent seven- to nine-
slumber and athletic performance. Sleep is              that individuals who routinely sleep five hours a
                                                                                                                 hour opportunity each night – is the single most
perhaps the greatest legal performance-enhancing        night have a 65% increased risk of dying at any
                                                                                                                 effective thing we can do to reset our brain and
“drug” that few people are taking advantage of.         moment in time, relative to those getting seven
                                                                                                                 body health each day, and the reason I revere and
Obtain less than eight hours of sleep a night, and      to nine hours a night. The elastic band of sleep
                                                                                                                 adore sleep (scientifically and personally).
especially less than six hours a night, and the         deprivation can stretch only so far before it snaps.
following happens: time to physical exhaustion                                                                   • Why We Sleep: The New Science of Sleep
                                                        It is therefore no coincidence that countries where
drops by 10 to 30%, as does aerobic output;                                                                      and Dreams by Matthew Walker is out now in
                                                        sleep time has declined most dramatically over
limb extension force and vertical jump height are                                                                paperback, published by Penguin Books
                                                        the past century, such as the US, the UK, Japan
reduced; peak and sustained muscle strength
                                                        and South Korea, and several countries in western        Article from www.theGuardian.com
decrease. Add to this the cardiac, metabolic and
                                                        Europe, are also those suffering the greatest
respiratory effects: higher rates of lactic acid
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  BECOMING AN ONLINE CAREER
  GUIDANCE PRACTITIONER                                                                                                                           Barbara Verner

There was an evolution associated with both the inspiration and birth of my Online
Career Guidance & Coaching practice which I would like to share with you.
   BACKGROUND                                                                           clients, some of which you can view on barbaraverner.com , has also confirmed
                                                                                        this. The protocols for working online with my clients can be read in the ‘Terms
                                                                                        and Conditions’ in the ‘booking’ section of the website. All clients have to sign
I had the pleasure of working as a Guidance Counsellor in Ireland from 1997             and agree to these ‘T & C’s’ before the first session. Other matters relating
to 2014. This included working in second level education, in Marian College,            to ‘cyber security’ issues and choices of platforms are explained. VSEE, for
Dublin, and during that time a wonderful seven years working with the Trinity           example, is available to my clients. It is an audio visual communications
Access Programme, five years as a supervisor on behalf of the IGC and five              platform which is ‘HIPPA’ compliant. (HIPAA stands for the Health Insurance
years as a part-time member of staff as a group facilitator and supervisor on           Portability and Accountability Act. It is a US law designed to provide privacy
the DCU MSC Guidance Counselling programme. I commuted to the UK for                    standards to protect patients' medical records and other health information
five years prior to leaving Ireland permanently in 2014 and I am now living             provided to, doctors, hospitals and other health care providers). FACETIME
in Kent. (This is relevant!) I made the decision to leave Ireland with some             and WHATSAPP are end to end encrypted. My clients are therefore able to
regret as I knew, despite the pleasure of being with my “growing” family,               make an informed choice. It is interesting to note that the marriage counselling
who were by then all living in the UK, I was going to greatly miss the close            service in the UK, ‘Relate’, offers, ‘Live Chat’ and ‘Webcam’ counselling as
network of colleagues, fellow Guidance Counsellors and others, that I had               alternatives to face to face therapy. This offers busy working couples
grown to respect professionally and whose friendships had enhanced both                 accessibility and convenience because, obviously, there is no need to travel,
my professional and personal life. Having made the move I chose to work                 and no parking difficulties! My own supervisor lives in Ireland and all of our
in Further Education in the UK. I felt this was necessary for me to acquire             supervision sessions are conducted online.
experience and knowledge of both the education system and the UK labour
market. It was a steep learning curve but invaluable.
I also decided to develop a counselling practice. Having trained in ‘Choice
Theory Psychology’ I undertook study and an examination and I am now
a registered member of the BACP (British Association of Counselling and
Psychotherapy). I am also member of the BACP Coaching Division. However, I
continued to imagine and hope that it may not be necessary for me to completely
leave behind my wonderful network colleagues in Ireland. I wondered if,
perhaps, technology would provide a way in which I could continue working
with them in some new capacity. While I was in the “commuting phase”
between Ireland and the UK, SKYPE became a lifeline to me. It provided me
with a medium of communication with my family, which allowed me to talk to
them, see them, and short of being with them physically it gave me a sense of
“being with them”. I later learned, whilst I was undertaking ‘online therapy
training’, that this is due to what is called “the perceptual illusion of non-
mediation”. What this means is that the ‘medium of communication’ recedes
and we experience the other “as if” they are physically present, as though the
other is “in the room” with us.
As a result of these experiences I wondered if such technology could be used,
                                                                                           SETTING UP AN ‘ONLINE CAREER
for instance, in the practice of ‘online counselling’. If so, it would enable me           GUIDANCE’ PRACTICE
to continue to work with colleagues and clients in Ireland and the UK. So,
as previously mentioned, I undertook training to become an accredited online            There was, for me, a seminal moment which inspired me to dedicate my
counsellor, a ‘cyber therapist’. I trained with the ‘Institute for Online Therapy       time and resources into undertaking both the research and work necessary
UK’. (Their training is recognised by the BACP). I achieved my accreditation            to establish an ‘Online Career Guidance Counselling’ practice. I was invited
and established my online counselling practice: www.barbaraverner.com.                  to deliver a webinar to the MSC Guidance & Counselling students in DCU on
Other reasons for undertaking this essential training, was because I had key            the subject of “Online Counselling”. It covered the history, methods, practice
questions I needed answered. For example, issues relating to cyber security,            and protocols associated with online counselling. However, feedback from the
confidentiality, and importantly, how to go about creating the right type of            learners indicated that they were, rightfully in my opinion, a little disappointed
“online presence”. In other words creating the right conditions for the                 that the webinar focused on “Online Counselling” and not ‘Online Career
relationship with my clients so that they would experience each session with            Guidance Counselling’. As a result of this informal feedback I made the decision
me just ‘as if’ they were meeting with me ‘face to face’. Online counselling/           to dedicate however much time as would be necessary into researching the
therapy is not necessarily appropriate for everyone but for those who feel              viability of establishing an ‘Online Career Guidance’ service and, also, of
comfortable with the online medium and for those for whom such accessibility            course, its potential efficacy. (Did you know that: in 1959 (!) The Nebraska
is needed it has a valuable role to play. The Metanoia Institute in London              Psychiatric Institute was instrumental in delivering a working two way audio
conducted research into the efficacy of online or e-therapy. 400 participants           video tele-psychiatry service via closed circuit television? And did you know,
were asked: “Did e-therapy help them?” Over 90% responded that it did.                  also, that as early as the mid-1960s Joseph Weizengraum from Massachusets
https://www.metanoia.org/imhs/alliance.htm. I was therefore confident that              IT (MIT), created the first ‘e-therapy’ computer programme called ”Eliza”?
establishing an online therapy practice would be not only advantageous for              Eliza followed a script that parroted the role of a Rogerian psychotherapist
many but its efficacy had been reliably evidenced. The feedback from my                 interviewing a new client. The client, in this case, was interacting with the
                                                                                        ‘Eliza’ programme not an actual person! I was certainly very surprised to know
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that the idea of using such technology had been conceived as early as the 50’s
and 60’s ! )                                                                                   MUMSTUCK provides CAREER COACHING
Once again, I immediately had questions about how, for example, if I were
                                                                                            for Mums returning to their careers - not work!
working with clients online, it would be possible to conduct assessments
                                                                                                (Our philosophy is if you are a parent - you ARE working!)
appropriately and effectively? This would have to include both myself and
the client being able to read instructions together and being able to provide              We know your time is precious and limited so our services
interpretation and feedback of results ‘as though’ we were working together
                                                                                            are ALL ONLINE - so YOU choose the space & time that
face to face? Obviously, ‘screen sharing’ would be a necessity. SKYPE
provides the screen sharing facility and there are other platforms such as
                                                                                            works best for you. (Dad’s welcome too!) [UK & Ireland]
‘Google Hangout’ and ‘ZOOM Video Conferencing” However, in my experience,
so far, SKYPE has proved to be first choice for most of my clients.                     As I mentioned before my intention was to replicate all of the features of
I also needed to be assured that if I were using audio visual mediums of                best practice the client experiences in the face to face encounter with a
communication I could offer the holistic model of ‘Career Guidance Counselling’         professional career coach but in this case it would be experienced by them
for which I was trained.                                                                online. So for example, when using career development platforms, ‘interest’,
                                                                                        ‘skills’, ‘personality’ or ‘aptitude’ assessments it is, obviously, possible to
I decided to research the current availability of ‘Online Career Guidance/              use screen sharing for the purposes of demonstrating how they are used and
Coaching”. At that time, in 2018, I could only find one provider and that was           for the sharing and discussion of results. I then purchased KUDOS AD for
in India. I am currently unable to find any dedicated online Career Guidance            the use of my clients in the UK. This is a Career Development platform for
Service in Ireland, and there is now just one, that I can find, in the UK. (Open        adults designed by Loughborough University and in the case of my Irish clients
to correction of course!) I also read a paper written by Jaana Kettunen                 I use ‘CareersPortal. While, in my experience, these platforms are excellent
entitled “The future challenge in career service” in which she states: “Social          information sources and encourage independent client research they do
media is a new area for career practitioners who vary considerably in their             not replace the need for the professional career guidance practitioner. The
experience in use of technology in career services. Some practitioners are              MUMSTUCK website also provides all of the other services that would be
not convinced of the relevance of technology in delivering career services and          expected from a professional Career Guidance/Coaching service such as CV
others do not have the skills or confidence to be able to do this effectively”          and interview preparation and more.
Kettunen goes on to say: “Emerging technologies provide new opportunities
to create new practices and paradigms to better reach individuals who need              The lecturer in Computer Systems Development in East Kent College, Tim
assistance with career exploration and decision-making. The challenge to                Jackson, invited me to offer his students the opportunity to develop the initial
guidance practitioners as a profession is to decide how to best use existing            technicalities for the MUMSTUCK website. I am very grateful both to him
and emerging technologies”. (Janna Kettunen is a leading researcher into                and his students for their input at this initial stage. However, I subsequently,
Career Guidance Practitioners conceptions of and their competency in the use            needed a designer and someone with ‘UE’ (user experience) skills. I employed
of social media in career services.)                                                    Jessica Henley-Price, a professional digital designer, to design and complete
                                                                                        the www.mumstuck.com website.
                                                                                        Many mums, returning to their careers, have an interest in setting up their
                                                                                        own business, or freelancing, because of the flexibility and autonomy it affords
    THE BIRTH OF ‘MUMSTUCK’                                                             them. So the second member of the MUMSTUCK team joined, Clare Bennett.
                                                                                        Clare has considerable experience in the retail sector and has worked with
When I was forming my ideas about establishing my online counselling
                                                                                        global labels such as Jaeger. She also has experience running her own
practice and my online Career Coaching practice, I felt having the direct
                                                                                        businesses and has experience as a trainer for various companies.
experience of working online with a coach myself was essential. My coach’s
name is John Murphy of John Murphy International. John had been a                       Also, many women can experience discrimination when, for example, they reveal
colleague of mine in Ireland. He now conducts his Business Coaching practice            that they are pregnant, let alone when they take maternity leave, and may need
from the South of France. This experience was instrumental in convincing me             legal advice. Fortunately, I met with Alison Humphry who is a lawyer. Alison
of the efficacy of working online with my own clients. As a result I established        is from Australia though now lives and practices in the UK. She specialises
my online counselling practice and through subsequent sessions with John                in supporting women who need to set up flexible working contracts with their
the inspiration for MUMSTUCK was born!                                                  employers. She also specialises in employment discrimination issues.
I had always been deeply struck by Kathleen Lynch’s ideas about, what she               I would like to invite you to visit: www.mumstuck.com and I hope you not
calls “Loves Labour”. “Women are 2.5 times as likely as men to take the                 online enjoy looking at the beauty of it visually but that you also enjoy reading
primary responsibility for the care of dependent children. Almost all of                about this project in which I believe passionately. I would also very much like
those who care for both adult dependents and children at the same time are              to receive feedback from any Guidance Counsellors who feel they may have
women….. Unpaid family carers (most of whom are women) suffer a direct                  ideas to contribute to this evolving project or indeed if they feel that they
material loss due to caring.”                                                           would be interested in extending their own practice to working with clients
                                                                                        online. I can be contacted at: mumstuck@gmail.com.
For some time I had been observing the difficulties and barriers my clients, my
daughters, their friends and other women, who are full-time mums, face when
they decide that it is time for them to return to their careers. It’s important         REFERENCES:
to note that 54,000 women lose their jobs in the UK annually because of                 BACP guidelines on GDPR for counsellors.https://bac-pac.co.uk/wp-content/
discriminatory practices related to maternity leave “Women returning to work            uploads/2018/04/GDPR-ebook.pdf.
after a child are more likely to face discrimination than they were ten years           Kettunen, J., Vuorinen, R., & Sampson, J.P (2013). “Career practitioners conceptions of social
ago, says Equality and Human Rights Commission report.” (The Guardian                   media in career services.” British Journal of Guidance & Counselling, 41, 302-317
2018) It is shocking to me that the same difficulties and barriers that I faced,        https://www.irishtimes.com/life-and-style/health-family/parenting/why-half-of-irish-
in the 1990’s, continue to be the reality for so many women. Indeed, reading            mothers-work-during-maternity-leave-1.3059740
that statistic, not only have the conditions for mums not improved but they             https://www.irishtimes.com/business/personal-finance/how-companies-let-down-women-
appear to be getting worse! The contribution of women’s “love’s labour” is              returning-after-maternity-leave-1.3520200
not recognised as an equality, human rights issue by society because it does            Why love, care and solidarity are equality and human rights issues See Lynch, K. et al. (2009)
not value “work” that is not “waged”. Given the population decline in many              Affective Equality: Love, Care and Injustice. London: Palgrave Macmillan
Western countries one wonders how society envisages future generations                  Barbara Verner is a Counsellor and Career Guidance Coach. She is a private practitioner working
will be propagated?                                                                     with her clients both face to face and online. Her counselling practice website is available at:
                                                                                        www.barbaraverner.com. Her Career Coaching practice is available at: www.mumstuck.com

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Research shows some increase in number of students
taking higher level subjects

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          he Minister for Education and Skills Joe McHugh T.D. announced              A further finding from the research relates to the relatively lower take-up of
          in January that the Economic and Social Research Institute (ESRI)           higher level subjects in smaller schools and in disadvantaged schools that
          has published research on the early impacts of the revised grading          form part of the Department’s DEIS programme.
scheme for Leaving Certificate examinations which was introduced in June
                                                                                      Schools in the DEIS programme didn’t record the same increases in higher-
2017.
                                                                                      level take up, widening the gap between DEIS and non-DEIS schools in term
The reform of the Leaving Certificate grading scheme was designed to help             of the proportion of students taking higher-level courses, while small schools
to reduce the pressure on students at exam time and enable them to have               faced constraints around class sizes and their ability to offer subjects at
a broader and more rounded learning experience in their senior cycle. The             different levels to their students.
implementation of these reforms is being overseen by the Transitions Reform
                                                                                      Students in the study considered that the gap between the points awarded for
Group, which is chaired by the Department of Education and Skills and whose
                                                                                      higher and ordinary level papers was too wide and did not reflect the effort and
membership includes representatives from across the education sector.
                                                                                      workload involved at ordinary level.
The revised Leaving Certificate grading scheme now has 8 grade bands
                                                                                      Students opting to study higher level subjects were motivated by the rewards
whereas previously there were 14 grade bands. The smaller number of broader
                                                                                      of persevering with higher level courses, with Maths being notably singled
bands was designed to ease the pressure on students to achieve marginal
                                                                                      out for the bonus points awarded for those achieving over 40%. However, the
gains in examinations, and encourage more substantial engagement with each
                                                                                      research shows that this created a difficulty for some students opting to study
subject. The new scheme also awards points to candidates who receive a
                                                                                      higher level who may not have the capacity to undertake that level.
mark of 30-39 % on a higher-level paper in the Leaving Certificate, equivalent
to the new H7 grade, and is designed to encourage the take-up of higher-level         Commenting on the publication of the research, Minister for Education
subjects.                                                                             and Skills Joe McHugh T.D. said:
The research, commissioned by the National Council for Curriculum and                 “I welcome the publication of this research by the ESRI and the NCCA into the
Assessment on behalf of the Transitions Reform Group, shows that overall,             revised Leaving Certificate grading system. This research provides a valuable
more students are taking higher-level subjects, especially Irish, English and         insight into the early impacts of these changes and will help shape future
Mathematics, as a result of the new grading system.                                   policy on these important issues. We are still at an early stage of the reforms
                                                                                      and we will need to continue to assess their impacts on students.”
There has also been a reduction in the number of students who are randomly
awarded a course in higher education as a result of the changes, the research         Selina McCoy, Associate Research Professor at the ESRI commented:
showed. The findings also indicated that students adopted the new grading             “The research points to challenges for students in making subject level
scheme without much difficulty.                                                       decisions – with the incentives such that they feel pressure to stay with
                                                                                      higher level, even though they may feel ill-equipped. As a consequence, time
However, the research also shows that this increase in the uptake of higher
                                                                                      on other subjects is displaced and additional stress is created for students.”
level subjects has led to a weakening of the overall grade profile for higher
level examinations, which was an expected outcome of the reform. This is              John Hammond, CEO of the NCCA said:
most notable in the cases of Mathematics and Irish, where the increase                “The publication of research on the impact of the new Leaving Certificate
in the number of students taking these subjects at higher level has been              grading system at this early stage is useful and timely, pointing the way
accompanied by an increase in the number of students attaining lower grades.          towards further monitoring and research that will be needed as the changes
The number of students sitting higher level Mathematics rose from 28% in              involved bed down in the senior cycle experience. They’re also noted in the
2016 to 30% in 2017, while the numbers sitting higher level Irish rose from           context of the extensive review of senior cycle education currently being
42% in 2016 to 46% in 2017.                                                           undertaken by the NCCA.”

Research examines association between early mobile
phone ownership and children’s academic outcomes

C
         hildren who owned a mobile phone at age 9 performed less well                at age 9. The observed association between mobile phone ownership and test
         in tests at age 13, according to recent ESRI research funded by the          scores remains when we take account of many of the factors which typically
         Department of Communications, Climate Action and Environment                 influence test scores such as socioeconomic class.
and the Commission on Communications Regulation (ComReg).
                                                                                      As schools have recently been consulting with their staff, students and
The research uses data from 8,500 children in the Growing Up in Ireland study         parents on the place of personal devices in the school setting, these results
to examine the academic performance of children who owned a mobile phone              may help schools in making decisions on whether and when to restrict access
at an earlier age. It finds that children who owned a mobile phone at age 9           to personal devices, particularly during the primary school years.
scored four per cent less on average in standardised reading and maths tests
                                                                                      Commenting on the publication of the research, Selina McCoy, Associate
at age 13.
                                                                                      Research Professor at the ESRI commented, “This is the first time the ESRI
The research finds that 40 per cent of children owned a mobile phone by the           has looked at the impact of mobile phone ownership on children’s academic
age of 9. Children attending more socially disadvantaged schools are more             development. It is important to keep monitoring this going forward in order to
likely to have mobile phones. Children with parents who have higher incomes           provide evidence for the growing debate about the potential effects of screen
and higher levels of education are less likely to own their own mobile phones         time and mobile phone use of young people in Ireland.”

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Helping a student who
is struggling with
anxiety
Carina McEvoy
  Living in this modern, digital, on demand, 24/7 society                        Emotions can feel so overpowering for teenagers
  can be overwhelming for anyone, let alone a teenager.                also. At times they may even feel trapped by them. To a
  The stress of school work, homework, class tests and state           teen, it may seem unfeasible to think that any negative
  exams is never too far away. The pressures of social media           emotion can and will pass, when they are experiencing it!
  are constant, as popularity and self approval now comes in
                                                                                Is it any wonder that anxiety has well and truly
  the form of ‘likes’. The thousand selfies that are posted to
                                                                       taken hold of our teens today? When you consider all
  Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, Twitter etc not only have
                                                                       of the above, it doesn’t really come as a surprise to hear
  to appear deliriously happy but they also have to be filtered
                                                                       that there are countless teens through-out this country,
  to absolute perfection. Not a single blemish allowed.
                                                                       suffering from anxiety and waiting to see a psychologist.
  Conflicts, fall outs and even worse bullying, extends beyond
                                                                       The real problem however is the length of wait time they
  school hours and the teen’s front door to reach right into
                                                                       must endure. Because, while they are waiting, that anxiety
  their head and their heart with snide online comments,
                                                                       is growing and festering into more serious mental health
  posted privately or even publicly for that added sense of
                                                                       issues. And in a catch 22 situation, it is only the more
  humiliation.
                                                                       moderate to severe cases the Child and Mental Health
            Life is also extremely busy for our modern teen,           Service was actually set up to accommodate. So, what
  between school hours, homework and activities, they seem             happens our anxious teens? The anxiety tightens its grip
  to be constantly active. And if they do receive some down            and invites other more serious issues such as OCD, social
  time, they have a phone in their hands keeping their brains          phobia, depression, self-harm and so on to take hold also!
  constantly stimulated! The idea of being separated from
                                                                                 This big question is how can we stop this?
  their phones would be horrifying. This constant stimulation
                                                                       Anxiety has become such an epidemic. It is like a massive
  is leading to so many issues such as screen addiction, a lack
                                                                       monster that we have become afraid to tackle, in case we
  of face to face social and communication skills, a lack of
                                                                       make things worse. So, while anxiety itself is a problem,
  imagination and creativity and a low tolerance frustration
                                                                       the fear of anxiety is an even bigger one! Anxiety itself is
  to boredom. On top of all that, screen use makes it more
                                                                       a very natural and normal response to danger. It is that
  difficult for the brain shut down for much needed rest
                                                                       flight versus fight response we all feel when faced with a
  leading to difficulty falling asleep, which inevitably leads
                                                                       threatening situation. It is our protective mind stepping
  to day time tiredness and a lower ability to concentrate or
                                                                       in to keep us safe. As soon as a threat occurs, our brain
  focus on activities. This can lead to much frustration from
                                                                       kickstarts a range of physiological changes in the body in
  well meaning teachers within school.
                                                                       order to help it stay alive. Blood rushes from the stomach
            Couple all these struggles related to our new              to the brain, causing that butterfly in our tummy sensation.
  modern world with the psychological development of                   Adrenaline floods the system, the lungs work harder to
  teenagers and we really have a recipe for disaster. Teens            increase the intake of oxygen, the heart beats faster to
  are going through that difficult conflict of identity versus         pump blood around our body, the senses are heightened
  role confusion, or more commonly known as ‘Identity                  and the appetite is suppressed. All of the changes are
  Crisis’, a term coined by developmental psychologist Erik            geared towards preparing the body for action, be it stay
  Erikson. He believed that this was such an important stage           and fight that threat or run away from it.
  of psychological development in one’s life. The teen goes
                                                                                  However, in this new world, teenagers can perceive
  through a phase much like a toddler, trying to exert their
                                                                       anything as a threat. The possibility of going red in front
  own independence from their parents. They are trying
                                                                       of their classmates, the possibility of being given out to by
  to find out who they are and stand out as an individual,
                                                                       a teacher, the possibility of being shunned by their ‘pack’.
  yet fit in with a ‘pack’, because humans want to fit in
                                                                       It is no longer only the sight of a woolly mammoth casing
  somewhere. We all have that sense of belonging. Friends
                                                                       you as you hunt for your dinner back in the caveman days
  and relationships can be put on a pedestal while parents
                                                                       that sets off that fight or flight response. And for anyone
  are found somewhere at the bottom of it. This alone can
                                                                       experiencing these natural biological sensations, with
  often lead to clashes at home and a battle of the wills!
                                                                       no apparent cause, or ‘real’ danger, it can be extremely

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frightening. People may feel like they are actually going to
die in times of an extreme anxiety experience. They may
even become anxious at the very thought of becoming
anxious! And the general response to anxiety is flight, to
run away, avoid the situation at all costs.
           The aim believe it or not, is not to get rid of
anxiety. Why would we want to banish something that
was biologically designed to keep us safe? So in order to
help a teenager suffering with this new modern day age
anxiety, we must help them to manage it. Guide them to a
place where they can regulate anxiety themselves. So that
they are building the skills they need not only to regulate
anxiety but any unhealthy emotion that is disturbing
their life. Once they gain that valuable skill of emotion
regulation, they will have it forever also. So isn’t it a skill
worth teaching?                                                        end of the situation actually occurring. Asking what the worst
           The greatest teachers are of course the teen’s              case scenario is going to be. Anxiety thinks that the situation
parents/guardians. Because we are creatures of ‘monkey                 occurring, whatever the feared situation is, will be the end
see, monkey do!’ Therefore, seeing how a role model                    of the world. The absolute worst thing that could ever
approaches any adversity in life with control, acceptance              happen. Talking through it logically and factually can
and positive strategies to overcome it as best as possible             really help the teen come to that realisation that indeed
is vital. Seeing a smart attitude to life being modelled at            everything will be okay. But they have got that reassurance
home is important for teens to be able to copy that attitude           by the process of going through it and figuring that out for
and behaviour in their life. Therefore, it is important for            themselves. Which is so much more powerful than an adult
parents/guardians to have a handle on their own anxieties.             just telling them that it will be okay!
As Guidance Counsellors, I would suggest, encouraging                             Secondly, rushing in with a solution to help the
the parent/guardian to become part of the process of                   teenager calm their worries doesn’t help them in the long run
guiding the teen towards anxiety management. Anxiety                   to manage their own fears. They come to rely on other
management is a whole family approach.                                 people for answers instead of learning to find their own
        Guidance Counsellors and teachers are important                answers. Allowing them to develop that important life skill of
role models too of course. And the role of Guidance                    problem solving is a far better approach. Guiding them to
Counsellors and teachers at school in helping students                 possible solutions, helping them to look at the pros and
grow and develop into mature, capable young adults has                 cons of each solution they think of. Help them chose the
never been more important.                                             best one and encourage them to test it out. Not only will
                                                                       they learn to find their own solutions, but they will also
          With that in mind, let’s look at how Guidance                find the confidence in themselves to do so also. As adults,
Counsellors and teachers can help students loosen the                  we possibly see the solution quicker and tend to offer it
grip of that anxiety they feel. How can you, as a Guidance             up, however teaching the teen to problem solve the issue
Counsellor, guide a teenager to that place where they can              and come up with a range of solutions they could try, is
successfully manage their own fears, nervousness, anxiety              more beneficial to them in the long-run. Life is full of up’s
or indeed any emotion?                                                 and down’s and learning to manage the down’s that occur
           In order to answer that, I feel it is important to          using this important practical skills of problem solving is
look at the most common unhelpful reactions a concerned                going to stand to the teen in the future.
adult may have, in a bid to help someone suffering with                          Another error which often occurs in a well-
anxiety. First of all, telling a teenager who is anxious               meaning way is helping the student avoid that anxious situation.
‘not to worry’ does not really help. ‘Don’t worry about it’            If they don’t have to face that anxious situation, then they
actually means very little to an anxious mind. In fact the             won’t feel the anxiety and isn’t that what we want? Actually,
subconscious mind doesn’t even register a negative. So the             no, it’s not. We want the teen to be able to experience the
subconscious is actually hearing ‘worry about it?’ A lot of            anxiety and know that they can survive it! And that is only
what we worry about in terms of anxiety tends to be future             something they will come to truly realise for themselves
based and at times quite irrational. So while we can plea              when they actually face their anxiety head on! Of course,
to the conscious mind to think logically and rationally, the           facing anxiety is hugely difficult and must be done in a baby
emotional mind does not work that way. Not only is it not              step format. This form of exposure therapy helps the individual
helpful, but being constantly told ‘not to worry about it’             realise they can manage a small level of ‘distress’ yet get past
could result in that particular teen giving up on vocalising           it. They learn they can become comfortable with the feeling,
their anxieties and fears and instead internalising their              so much so in fact, that the feelings subside. Then they can
emotions. It is far better to say, ‘if such and such a thing           go on to take the next step. But by helping the teen avoid the
happens, we will deal with it.’ Then looking at ways you will          situation, the anxiety not only wins, it becomes more deeply
actually deal with it. A good way to do that is to talk through        engrained in the teens mind.
the issue and bring the teen right the way through to the

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