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™ EDITOR’S NOTE // Welcome, Winter! Visit us online at www.ctvoice.com Cold weather and short days are Follow us on Twitter characteristic for Connecticut winters. As we @ctvoicemag move indoors and celebrate the holidays, it’s a time for reflection, togetherness, warmth, Like us on Facebook and the distinct pleasures of the season. facebook.com/CT-Voice In my second issue as editor, we’re continuing to gather diverse voices that reflect and support LGBTQ+ people in our Connecticut VOICE™ state. If this issue has a theme, it’s about is published by Seasons Media expanding communities, opportunities for connection and caring and sensitivity for all. Publisher /Owner James Tully We’re particularly pleased to share with Editor you the representatives of different faith Christopher Byrne traditions—all of whom are reaching out to LGBTQ+ people looking for a When icicles hang by the wall place to practice their faiths. For many, this has been a difficult issue, and Creative Director we’re encouraged by the expansiveness, welcome and open invitations these Stacy Murray And Dick the shepherd blows his nail leaders are providing. For those seeking a home in which to celebrate faith, And Tom bears logs into the hall Sales & Marketing Executive many more doors are open. Doreen Chudoba And milk comes frozen home in pail, Brian Lipton scored an interview with designer Christian Siriano, and he’s, Sales Executive When blood is nipp'd and ways be foul, well, “fierce,” a term he popularized in the Project Runway series that Paul Whitman jumpstarted his career. He’s also a man passionate about his art. Frank Then nightly sings the staring owl, Rizzo talked to the largely nonbinary and gender expansive team at Elm City Cover Photo by Shane LaVancher Tu-whit; Games, another—and very different—community that welcomes anyone who wants to sit down and play. and Jane Latus profiles a program at Middlesex Shane LaVancher Studio Tu-who, a merry note, Health dedicated to teens finding their authentic selves. New York, New York While greasy Joan doth keel the pot. www.shanelavancher.com In other coverage, we address a difficult but important subject for our community—financial planning. Over the next issues and online, we'll When all aloud the wind doth blow address the unique issues facing LGBTQ+ communities in this area. Michelle Cutrali kicks us off with an article on long-term care. Finally, Tedd Levine And coughing drowns the parson's saw writes about some of the legal issues related to living together and some of And birds sit brooding in the snow the pitfalls people don’t always considering. ™ And Marian's nose looks red and raw, I’ve been pleased and encouraged by the number of people who have When roasted crabs hiss in the bowl, reached out to me in the past few months. I am excited and inspired by the conversations that have been started, and I look forward to continuing. Then nightly sings the staring owl, Please reach out to me at the Editor’s Corner at ctvoice.com. To advertise in Tu-whit; Connecticut VOICE contact From all of us at CT Voice, warmest wishes for a healthy and happy winter Tu-who, a merry note, and holiday season. Doreen Chudoba While greasy Joan doth keel the pot. Chris doreen@seasonsmagazines.com Paul Whitman From Shakespeare's paul@ctvoice.com Love's Labour's Lost Christopher Byrne, Editor chris@ctvoice.com 4 CT VOICE | WINTER 2021-2022 CT VOICE | WINTER 2021-2022 5
IN THIS ISSUE // CELEBRATE LOVE 24 COVER STORY World-class designer (and Westport resident) spills the tea about his career and what matters to him. 8 36 53 CONTRIBUTORS HEALTH AND COMMUNITY Meet the writers behind the A new survey profiles stories in this issue. WELLNESS Connecticut's LGBTQ+ How Middlesex Health community. programs support teens and 9-23 families as the teens search for WHAT’S THE BUZZ their authentic selves. 72 Author Steven Petrow on PETS growing old. Artist Dan Crowley 40 The role of dogs in community on growing up gay. Actor Rory policing, and the positive impact O'Malley on his new Netflix CULTURE they're having on many lives. Elm City Games is a haven for series. Backstage on Broadway. gamers of all identies...right in Senator Chris Murphy on advocating for transgender New Haven. 80 youth, legal and financial issues THE LAST WORD for the LGBTQ+ community, and 46 The Rev. Darrell L. Goodwin on more. "Queering the Faith." FASHION Layering lets you be on-trend CUSTOM DESIGNS AVAILABLE 30 and toasty this season. IF YOU CAN DREAM IT, WE CAN CREATE IT COMMUNITY Leaders in faith traditions invite and welcome LGBTQ+ people into their congregations. 66 GLASTONBURY MOHEGAN SUN WEST HARTFORD WESTPORT WELLESLEY DELICIOUS Charceuterie LBGreen.com @LuxBondGreen 800.524.7336 makes a dramatic contribution to holiday entertaining. 6 CT VOICE | WINTER 2021-2022
CONTRIBUTORS // WHAT’S THE BU ZZ ? Getting Ready for the Senior Fling … So To Speak D on’t let the title siblings to get their dad to fool you. Steven use a walker, or even a cane. DAWN ENNIS Petrow’s new book, He cites statistics on how Dawn Ennis talked with faith STAN GODLEWSKI Stupid Things I effective these are, and at the leaders around the state Stan Godlewski is a Won’t Do When I Get Old, is same time, he writes about for our piece on faith and photojournalist who has more than just a laundry list how the device can become LGBTQ+ people. (Page 30) worked for magazines and of things older people do that a fashion accessory—if you BRIAN SCOTT She is an award-winning newspapers for 30 years annoy younger people and can convince someone to use LIPTON journalist, a professor at covering news, sports, their families. It’s a thoughtful it. All of it, though, is written Brian Scott Lipton talked with University of Hartford and features and celebrities. collection of essays that just with good humor, love and FRANK RIZZO Christian Siriano for our cover writes for several news His favorites thing to photograph is his next thing happens to have a waggish— and attention-getting—title. caring, even within the frustration he and his family story (Page 24) and he gave outlets. Ennis was America’s Frank Rizzo caught up with to photograph. often experience. his fashion sense a seasonal first transgender journalist playwright Douglas Lyons turn with our piece on layering in a TV network newsroom Petrow says that the book (Page 10) and rolled the dice Some of Petrow’s wisdom (Page 46). He has been a when she came out nine is “all about the stupid with Elm City Games (Page is hard-won. He is a cancer nationally renowned journalist years ago. Follow her @ things that my parents did 40). He has written about survivor, has gone through for over 30 years. Among lifeafterdawn on Twitter, wrong as they were getting the arts in Connecticut and a divorce from his husband, his many accomplishments, Facebook and Instagram. into their seventies. And I nationally for more than 40 has been living with HIV he has been Editor in Chief Ennis and her family was a smart 50-something years; for the The New York for many years, and as a of TheaterMania.com and reside in West Hartford, who was taking notes. I’m Times, American Theatre result had to reset his path Magazine and dozens of Resident Publications, Connecticut. a journalist and I became Managing Editor of men’s interested in how I might do and identity on several other outlets. He is also a occasions. He’s particularly theater critic for Variety. fashion magazines DNR things better when my turn and MR, and his byline has came, and that list got bigger concerned that LGBTQ+ Follow Frank’s work at Steven Petrow is smart about getting old. Photo by Bethany Cabino individuals stay active and ShowRiz.com and on Twitter appeared in such publications and bigger. It turned into a as Forbes, The Wall Street New York Times essay, and it involved in life. “You know, @ShowRiz. Journal and Where. He is a CARLA TEN EYCK turned into a book. any age and not buying into theme throughout the book we become invisible in our culture whether it’s at 40 or proud member of the LGBTQ Carla Ten Eyck is a Queer “And when I’m not being a presumed cultural attitudes, is the advice to accept what 50, and that’s a detriment to community. Hartford CT native who smartass, I would say that or what others might think. comes your way without everybody.” The refusal to be focuses on storytelling, To that end, he recommends using setbacks or challenges invisible is what inspired the it’s really a manifesto about inclusivity and joy. She has having friends of all ages and as a reason to withdraw orange pants. “That was a been photographing weddings, aging and the things that we can all do in our daily lives to being open to new ideas and from the world. One chapter lesson my mom taught me,” events and families for 20 the inevitable changes that in particular, “I Won’t he says. “She was always very years. She is a two time sort of retrain our brains away >> from some of the anti-aging time brings. He also advises Let a Walker Ruin published author and a living in the present and not My Style (but I’ll podcaster and loves sharing stereotypes that are part of our culture.” worrying about things that Still Use It)” RENEE DININO stories. are out of his control—great describes the Renee DiNino is our resident At the heart of Petrow’s advice for everyone. difficulty of pet maven and wrote the piece manifesto is the central Steven JANE LATUS dogs in community policing. admonishment for people Like many middle-aged and Jane Latus covers health and (Page 72) She is the director not to “go gently into that people, he had to come his politics. She followed up on of community affairs for good night,” as Dylan to terms with the realities two breaking political stories iHeartMedia in Connecticut, Thomas wrote. For example, of dealing with his aging in CT (Pages 19 & 22) and the midday host on The River he won’t stop rocking stylish parents and their deaths. explored Middlesex Health's DANIEL EUGENE 105.9 and host of an hour- clothing, including orange Several chapters deal commitment to the LGBTQ+ long syndicated talk show on with end-of-life issues community (Page 32). She is KAMINSKI all Connecticut iHeartRadio pants, because they don’t fit external notions of what with the very good and a writer and personal trainer Daniel Eugene is a visual stations. She also appears living in Canton. She and artist, singer, and documentary weekly on WFSB Channel 3’s ALEX ACQUARULO people his age “should” practical advice that people should have as much wear. He also won’t color his her husband Ken have an photographer who is a native “Better Connecticut.” An avid Alex Acquarulo grew up in hair—one of the funniest control over the end of their escalating number of cats and resident of Bethany, animal lover and advocate, she North Haven and is the owner pieces in the book in which lives as possible. Among and two grown sons, one CT. Outside of freelance and her husband Sal have a of CT FoodGirly, LLC, a social he learned what worked these are making sure that transgender and one gay. work Eugene focuses his German Shepherd, Luke, they media marketing platform that for Diane Sawyer didn’t for you plan your own funeral photographic pursuits rescued in Hartford. instagram discovers and showcases him—or refuse a hearing aid, and memorials, accepting documenting drag performance @reneedinino. Connecticut’s best restaurants. should the time come when physical challenges with and grassroots stock car You can follow her via Instagram he needs it. Bottom line: grace, and being sure to racing culture throughout New (@ctfoodgirly), Facebook (CTFoodGirly) and her website, Petrow is a strong advocate say goodbye to people as England. Eugene also keeps www.ctfoodgirly.com. To learn for staying engaged in life at they are dying. A significant a daily drawing practice and performs regularly as drag more about Ashley Amendola queen Sorcia Warhol. and Coven Catery, visit covencatery.com. 8 CT VOICE | WINTER 2021-2022 CT VOICE | WINTER 2021-2022 9
fashionable well into the 70s and 80s. WHAT’S THE BU ZZ ? So, I’ve been a proponent of wearing skinny jeans and neon-colored clothes. It’s part of who I am, but it’s also a part of just being visible in the world. Hallelujah! Douglas Lyons’s Petrow also pledges not to be disappointed with his life. Writing about his very accomplished father, his heart breaks for a man who at the end, departed without a sense Comedy Made It To Broadway of fulfillment. Like many men of his generation, as the gay son, Petrow, had a cordial but somewhat distant relationship with his father, and there is a sense in the chapter about what was lost in that. Petrow refuses to go down the same path. As he observes, “We are only given a limited number of decades in our lives—it would be a terrible thing to come to their end with a sense of disappointment. I am in charge of how my life turns out, and I will make the most of it.” Always looking for the positive—and the possibilities—in any situation, Petrow says, “I won’t stop believing in magic.” I am a proponent of Ebony Marshall-Oliver, Michael Urie & Aigner Mizzelle in a scene Cleo King & the Cast of Chicken & Biscuits. Photo by Emilio Madrid magic, but I’m a bigger proponent from Chicken & Biscuits. Photo by Emilio Madrid of science. I remember as a kid, the wonderment I had and a belief in the possibilities of the world. I asked Lyons how he would “The love in the room was celebrate black women who palpable. It was a joyous night “And as I got older, that kind of got describe his comedy: “The I’ll never forget.” are so often in mainstream media reduced to pain and beat out of me as it happens to tone [of the play] would be suffering and taking care many of us. We become pragmatists Chicken & Biscuits, which of everyone else. My goal and, you know, everything seems The Book of Mormon meets is set in New Haven, draws to open up what blackness incremental. One of the good things Ebony Marshall-Oliver, Michael Urie, & Devere Rogers in a scene from Tyler Perry. Or, if you saw the from that community, Lyons’ look like and for us to be the that came out of me having cancer in Chicken & Biscuits. Photo by Bethany Cabino family, and their church. His center of the story. There is so film Soul Food, it’s more like W my twenties was a good friend, gave mother is the first female much joy and beauty that I’ve pastor of the Thomas Chapel me this Fairy God Bunny. This was hen we last talked “This family comedy, with its cheek that; like a homecooked meal Church of Christ in New Ha- grown up among the black really a nonbinary gender-neutral women in my life. I want bunny who had a tutu and a wand with playwright- and secrets and eulogies and amens, with a familiar family.” ven on White Street. to show the layers and the actor Douglas Lyons, wants to offer audiences living in bad and so on. It was given to me as a he was isolated at times an old-fashioned good one,” varieties and the laughter of Lyons wrote much of Chicken talisman when I was going through his New York City wrote theatre critic Jesse Green in The that world that the American treatment. And it was something apartment during the pandemic, and New York Times. Sounds delicious. & Biscuits backstage when he theatre has missed out on.” was appearing in the long run that I came to believe in, held onto, crossing his fingers for some future Now pass the biscuits. of Broadway’s Beautiful. (His took to all my appointments and kind life for his play Chicken & Biscuits, New York Magazine’s Helen Shaw previous Broadway show, The Chicken & Biscuits, which of created this wonder again. That’s whose run at a small Queens venue wrote: “Going to Chicken & Biscuits Book of Mormon, was a gig stars Tony Award-nominee where that thought about staying was cut short when theaters shut does feel like being fed by loving but he landed after he graduated Norm Lewis and Michael Urie, in this moment of possibility and down in mid-March 2020. (See VOICE overweening relatives…it’s a meal full from the Hartt School at the runs through Jan. 2. magic and seeing where that takes Winter 2020/2021 issue.) of comfort dishes, difficulties resolved, University of Hartford.) us comes from.” and love requited.” And for the show’s future? Flash forward to October when Lyons’ Lyons is one of eight Black As one reads Petrow’s book, it’s clear comedy—which centers on a vola- And this from Variety’s Ayanna Pre- playwrights being produced “The church doors are that rather than avoiding doing tile African-American family during scod: Chicken & Biscuits is a feast of on Broadway this season, a the funeral of its patriarch— pened open and who knows what a production, and there is enough record number. The show has stupid things, the trick is to stay in blessings are in store,” says at Broadway’s Circle in the Square sustenance and libation for the entire also attracted many celebs, the game, no matter how that may Lyons. “We’re already getting Theater. family...with a brilliant script that’s including Billy Porter, Lupita shift. These essays are a good start— licensing requests, so hope- fresh, relatable and laugh-out-loud Nyong’o, Lea DeLaria and and a useful roadmap. The reviews were mixed, but even fully a couple years from now funny. “ Nick Jonas, who also signed critics who had reservations about on as one of the producers. Chicken & Biscuits will be in You can hear my full interview with the New Haven-set family play that “Opening Night felt like a wedding, every community around the Steven Petrow on the Voice OutLoud features LGBTQ characters, acknowl- though I’m very much single,” says country.” Lyons says his play was writ- podcast. edged audiences’ enthusiasm, and Lyons, 34, who was born and raised in ten in part “to amplify and to —Frank Rizzo the welcome uplift of the show. the Fairhaven section of New Haven. —Christopher Byrne 10 CT VOICE | WINTER 2021-2022 CT VOICE | WINTER 2021-2022 11
WHAT’S THE BU ZZ ? DRAWING ON EXPERIENCE: Artist Dan Crowley’s New Book Celebrates Creativity ven as far as we’ve it turned out it was the host’s area, and so he turned to book where he is looking at come as a society, grandfather made it during drawing and creativity as a the beauty of another boy coming out as the 1918 lockdown. Wow. means of expression, and he but trying not to be noticed. LGBTQ+ is always says he found teachers who He says, “I got really good at a big deal. For kids “And so I, I thought, well, supported and mentored hiding.” of the Baby Boom if I’m remembering the him. Still his awakening as generation, it was often even [current] lockdown, I want to LGBTQ+ wasn’t easy. Today, Crowley is no longer tougher, as the culture wasn’t create something. This was hiding, and he’s sharing his ready to accept kids who my chance, and so I decided He says that seventh stories in a warm, witty and were “different.” And yet, so to write a book or make a and eighth grade were highly approachable way. many were. book about what it was like particularly difficult. “I think Readers may see themselves growing up gay and creative, for a lot of us who grew up reflected in some of his and to make something that gay, that was a pivotal time. vignettes, or they may recall would help kids and families We were aware that we were their own. As Crowley says, who are going through this gay. We were aware that we he wants everyone—of or have gone through it.” were outside of what was happening with our peers every age—simply to be The geography of Crowley’s themselves, however that Never Stop Creating. who were starting to date growing up was different as members of the opposite sex. may be expressed. well. “I was born in New York, And because we’re virtually and then we moved to Sao of the same age, we were Danny, Growing Up Gay Paulo, Brazil. And I spent a hiding completely. & Creative is available on few years of my young life Amazon. speaking Portuguese and “My peripheral vision really living in South America. got developed during those You can hear my entire Then we come back to early years. I didn’t want conversation with Dan on the Seabury is a community where residents and members are encouraged and given every Artist and author Dan Crowley. Connecticut, and I go into anyone to know that I was Voice Out Loud Podcast. first grade in a Catholic looking over here.” Crowley opportunity to pursue their artistic passions. school. This was a completely mentions one —Christopher Byrne Artist and author Dan different world than anything drawing in the Crowley, who spent part of I’d ever experienced in my As a Life Plan Community for adults 50 and over, we have many thriving artists on and his growing up in Wilton, life. So, I couldn’t help but knew that he was “different” stand out. And the nuns used off campus. Some are lifelong practitioners, and some are just getting started, but they’re from an early age, and to think that I was trying all creating beautiful art that enhances our environment. he’s taken that experience and put it into a new book to speak in tongues when, when Portuguese would Danny, Growing Up Gay and come now, I kept getting Creative. Over the course of punished for trying to be a Come tour the Seabury campus art galleries and meet some of the creative artists fifty drawings with captions, class clown.” who make their home here. the reader follows Dan on his journey from birth to Crowley found his age 18, how he expressed his way to fit in as the difference, and how he grew class artist. His Make an appointment today to learn more, call into his own authenticity. drawing talent made him popular, 860-243-4033 or 860-243-6018 Crowley says the project and as he says, it was born out of the COVID was his “weirdness” lockdown. “I was working that made him on several different book different and at the projects of my own, and then same time gave him the lockdown happened some power, and prestige, last March. I decided that I with his peer group. 200 Seabury Drive | Bloomfield, CT 06002 wanted to use the lockdown time to create something That didn’t solve all the seaburylife.org | info@seaburylife.org important to me. I had been problems, however. When to a party years ago where I he was in middle school, his saw this old doll house, and family lived in a fairly remote 12 CT VOICE | WINTER 2021-2022 CT VOICE | WINTER 2021-2022 13
WHAT’S THE BU ZZ ? A CULTURE OF DIVERSITY, EQUITY, AND INCLUSION Moving In Together? Think About “At FactSet, we are proud to support the LGBTQ+ community Potential Legal Issues through the efforts and activation of our Global Pride Business Resource Group (BRG) and organizational practices. We’re proud to have been recognized with multiple I awards for our analytical and data-driven solutions; I am n a relationship, few in a divorce, couples who extent, but oral contracts, if particularly proud that we have achieved a score of 100% that was transferred to the things are as exciting are merely cohabiting are proven, can be as binding relationship, even though no for six years in a row by the Human Rights Campaign® as the prospect of living vulnerable to legal action, as written ones. Somewhat actual money was involved. Corporate Equality Index for our LGBTQ+ inclusive policies together. It’s a big which can be both financially similar to this is the claim The argument, then, is that and practices. We are unified by the spirit of Inclusion, step, and it’s one that and emotionally draining. that a business partnership the partner against whom shouldn’t be taken lightly. No and are committed to building a diverse workforce where In my practice, I’ve had to was formed, and the person the action is being brought one wants to be a buzz kill or handle a number of cases of suing is entitled to the assets was unjustly enriched by all talent can thrive, and one that is reflective of the undermine all the romantic couples separating in which of that partnership. the efforts of the one who communities we operate in.” parts of anticipating a shared one party chooses to sue brought the action. Did that home and a life together. the other for distribution You can be accused of fraud. really happen? If so, what was -Vinay Kapoor, Global Chief Diversity Officer At the same time, as you of assets and income. All In other words, a partner can it worth? As you can probably address the practical matters these cases have a couple of claim that the other partner see, there’s a lot of room (not www.factset.com/diversity of cohabitation, you’ll want to things in common. 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The partner who relationships ended. breakups—is the concept of brings the action would be Cameron “constructive trust.” In this entitled to half the asset, even I know you may be thinking, case the claim is that one if they never contributed a “well, what really could partner is legally holding the dime to it. happen if we’re not married? other’s assets. That partner Wouldn’t we just go our Now, the purpose of this Carpenter somehow obtained control 203.254.4010 QuickCenter.com separate ways? What’s of the assets and is now is not to scare you off the big deal?” Well, buckle denying them. The partner living together. Far from it. up because even though would then be unjustly Couples need to address The best is yet to come! Connecticut has never had enriched by not relinquishing all the practical matters of common law marriage—one the assets and instead their relationship in order to Attorney Ted Levine of the issues I hear with some regularity—a partner keeping them for themselves. Since a constructive trust is provide a strong foundation for growth and sharing; this FRIday, MAR. 11, 2022 | 7 p.m. can still make certain claims implied rather than stated, is just one more component Cameron Carpenter is This is particularly true if against the other’s assets and income, and just because it there are four elements that must be proven: a of that. In our next column, we’ll talk about the steps live the world’s most visible you choose not to marry. 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That One of the more common one partner may claim that over to the Editor’s Corner said many couples, of all claims we see is that an oral they took care of property on ctvoice.com, and we’ll unique and intimate kinds, choose to live together contract was formed, which while the other earned the answer questions of general concert experience, without being married, and provided for sharing income bulk of the alleged joint interest. there are issues to be aware and assets into the future. assets. That work, which Cameron will once of. Whereas married couples This ends up as a “they said/ benefitted both partners, —Tedd S. Levine, Esq. again prove why he’s would have to settle issues they said” argument to some could be called an asset described as “The Maverick Organist” by DISCLAIMER: The information provided in this column does not, and is not intended to, constitute legal advice or be relied upon in any many; instead, The New York Times. all information in this article is for general informational purposes only. Please contact your lawyer for advice based on your individual situation. Photo by T. Charles Erickson 14 CT VOICE | WINTER 2021-2022 CT VOICE | WINTER 2021-2022 15
WHAT’S THE BU ZZ ? Proudly serving the FATHERHOOD, HAMILTON AND NETFLIX: primary care needs Talking with Rory O’Malley of LGBTQ seniors F or Tony- and Drama it. And it’s just, it’s been an Desk-nominated incredible experience, to be and long-term actor Rory O’Malley, the pandemic took him offstage playing a gay character, to be a gay man, playing a gay character and to have two surivors of HIV. but not out of performing. generations of gay characters Primary Care His latest project is voicing the character of Daniel in the new, animated Netflix be portrayed in the same show because an 18-year-old now who’s gay has a very Sexual Health series, Chicago Party Aunt. Daniel is gay and struggling with whether or not to go different life experience for somebody who’s middle- aged, and certainly a gay HIV Treatment to Stanford for college, and while his parents are encouraging him to go man of color. So, to have these two characters and to have RuPaul play it so LGBTQ Health the traditional route, his aunt, Diane, is encouraging him to find himself. Diane perfectly is a real treat. And I got to be on zoom calls and table reads with RuPaul, and PrEP & PEP herself was a hard partying young woman—and the party has never stopped for really trying to get any kind of spoiler about drag race out of them. So that was like Covid Vaccines her. As O’Malley says it’s an opportunity for both of them to grow and “learn some beyond, beyond a dream.” O’Malley has been doing more than just recording in as King George in the humor. “Sometimes were different lessons about life. his garage in Los Angeles. Los Angeles company of the butt of his jokes. But you And comedy ensues.” He’s been actively involved Hamilton, and he’s loving gotta’ hand it to him; the kid being back on stage. “We knows comedy.” Visit us online at: in Broadway Impact, an organization he founded with couldn’t talk about how fellow Broadway star Gavin much we missed that feeling Like so many others, O’Malley www.CircleCareCenter.org Creel. Originally formed for the last year-and-a- says he was fortunate to with Broadway Cares/Equity half. We had to suppress it be able to make it through Fights AIDS to promote because there was a time the pandemic. He says, “it’s marriage equality. O’Malley is when I thought it might nice that we’ve been find proud of what this group of be four or five years before other ways to create and artists accomplished, though we got back into a theater communicate.” At first, he the work is not done. During again.” He says that the says he wasn’t comfortable the worst of the pandemic, excitement of being on stage with all the technology he the organization worked in front of a live audience had to master, but he says, with Broadway Cares to sharing an experience is “I’ve been able to figure out raise money for the many something everyone in the new ways to be creative. And actors who were out of work. company is feeling—as are that’s the plus side of what There were, O’Malley notes, the audiences. we’ve all been going through many people who work in as artists: we’ve found new all aspects of theater who And as if all that wasn’t ways to create.” Rory O'Malley didn’t have resources, so enough to keep him busy, he worked with the Actors’ O’Malley with his husband is The first season of Chicago Fund to help raise money for now a dad to a two-and-a- Party Aunt is on Netflix. It’s those in need. He stresses half-year-old son, which he rated TV-MA. Hamilton is O’Malley is proud of the work how important—and calls “the greatest thing that at the Pantages Theater in and thrilled to be working appreciated—it was for the ever happened to me. I’m a Los Angeles, slated to run with a host of actors who community to come together luck guy, and I’ve gotten to 618 West Avenue identify as LGBTQ+, including during the darkest period do so many cool things in through January 2022. RuPaul. “I am not over the Norwalk, CT 06850 fact that RuPaul is a part of many theater people have ever known. my career, but to be a dad to our son, it’s what I’m on You can hear my full conversation with Rory on the something that I’m doing this planet to do.” Among all 203.852.9525 because I bow down to Now that theaters are open, the other exciting parts of Voice Out Loud podcast. the queen, and I’ I think O’Malley is back on stage. parenthood, O’Malley says that RuPaul’s fantastic in He just began performing his son has a great sense of —Christopher Byrne 16 CT VOICE | WINTER 2021-2022 CT VOICE | WINTER 2021-2022 17
WHAT’S THE BU ZZ ? Senator Murphy Expands Efforts To Help Transgender Youth S enator Christopher or legal names. The for fearmongering. In Murphy has consequences of April, a federal judge consistently failing in these areas, dismissed a lawsuit Tune in worked to help Murphy writes, can that attempted to ban mend and support the Connecticut result in delay in care transgender participation mental health system in or inappropriate care. Public Radio in sports, though an the U.S. In late September, Weekdays 1 p / 9p Approximately 2 percent appeal is in the works. the Senator redoubled Sat noon his efforts, addressing the of youth identify as Connecticut has banned Departments of Health transgender. In the Stream United States, over discrimination based and Human Services and ctpublic.org Substance Abuse Services, 1.9 million youth are on gender identity and calling attention to estimated to be LGBT expression for a decade, much-needed action on between 13-17 years but that doesn’t stop behalf of adolescents in Senator Christopher Murphy of age, with almost bills being put forward. general and transgender 150,000 self-identifying While this is only one and nonbinary youth, as transgender. TGE area of concern, 21 in particular. youth may experience states nationwide Council (BHCC), along a host of mental health have introduced bills He cited a national survey with experts in the field of burdens including anxiety, that would deny of LGBTQ+ youth released adolescent transgender depression, and suicidal gender-affirming by The Trevor Project that care, to offer guidance thoughts, largely due on best practices for to societal stigma and healthcare to youth. showed that more than half of transgender and adolescent inpatient lack of access to care. Senator Murphy’s letter nonbinary youth had mental health care for these youth. Our This effort is imperative was co-signed by Senator serious suicidal thoughts in 2020. The survey goal is to help mental to the health and Blumenthal, and stresses sample included 45 health providers offer wellbeing of transgender how important it is for this percent youth of color and the best care they can youth in Connecticut, population to have a voice 38 percent identifying as to the nation’s TGE as this remains a highly that is heard and receive transgender or nonbinary. youth without a delay vulnerable population, too the care they deserve. in treatment. The focus often treated as a political In his letter to the of this request is for football and a platform —Christopher Byrne departments, Murphy the pressing needs of wrote, “Nationally, hospital or residential adolescent mental health care even as we recognize providers have expressed the need for guidance concern for the increasing across all settings of need for adolescent mental health care.” behavioral health services. We have also heard from Murphy also notes the health care providers need for guidance on about the need to answer best practices for serving an urgent call for the gender diverse youth, in unmet mental health all types of residential and needs for transgender treatment environments, and gender expansive and the essential need (TGE) adolescents, for gender-affirming including exploring, care, understanding non-binary, agender, terminology, genderfluid and queer pronoun usage, and youth. As co-chairs, we acknowledging patients encourage the Behavioral by their chosen names Health Coordinating and not their given You can access the entire Connecticut Public Radio show line up wherever you download podcasts, or get them and all national and local public media programs by downloading our free Connecticut Public app. 18 CT VOICE | WINTER 2021-2022 CT VOICE | WINTER 2021-2022 19
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FEATURE // Whether he’s designing couture collections that will be worn for years or glamorous one-night only CHRISTIAN dresses for celebrities, Connecticut resident SIRIANO: Christian Siriano can be counted on to create memories for a lifetime … A MAN of MANY TALENTS A BY BRIAN SCOTT LIPTON t age 36, Christian Siriano has already accomplished more than most people twice his age. A recent resident of Westport, Siriano first became one of the country’s most coveted fashion designers after winning the popular television competition show, Project Runway, a decade ago. Since then, he has created multiple retail collections, been inducted into the prestigious Council of Fashion Designers of America (CFDA) and collaborated with a galaxy of the world’s biggest celebrities—from Lady Gaga to Jennifer Lopez to First Ladies Dr. Jill Biden and Michelle Obama—to create memorable, news-worthy looks. Moreover, in the past few years, Siriano has both returned to Project Runway as a “mentor” and executive producer and seen his work exhibited in museums nationwide (including the current “A Lexicon of American Fashion” at New York’s Metropolitan Museum of Art), created a highly anticipated coffee-table book, Dresses to Dream About, hosted the Bravo talk show, So Siriano, and even recently started his own interior design business. He also claims to sleep. Siriano recently took some time from his ultra-busy schedule to chat with CT Voice about his many projects, his “favorite” celebrities to work with, how the Covid-19 Photo by Shane Lavancher Studio pandemic changed his business and his outlook on life, and so much more. Note: This interview has been edited and condensed for clarity. CONTINUED ON PAGE 26 24 CT VOICE | WINTER 2021-2022 CT VOICE | WINTER 2021-2022 25
: What was your earliest you can have in this business. Of course, : You have both a career happening. Then, once I got started, I recollection of “fashion”? they’re not all the same; sometimes it is retrospective exhibition at the felt like I had to hold up my end of the CS: My earliest memories are being with very quick, practically off-the-cuff, and Savannah College of Art and bargain by making more and more, and my sister when she was studying to be sometimes it takes weeks and months. Design (SCAD) this fall and as the pandemic continued, it became a ballet dancer and going backstage and Personally, it doesn’t work, at least for you’re releasing an updated even more important to keep doing seeing all those costumes. I also loved me, when the celebrity or his or her team version of your book, Dresses to overthink the outfit. I am just not an this—even if we weren’t making money watching the transformation from girls Dream About. What has it been in warm-up clothes to becoming fairies overthinker by nature. I am reactionary; like looking back at your career from it! Eventually, we did find a way on stage. That really sparked my interest. that’s how I roll. this way? to a make some money from it, but And my mom was quite fashionable CS: What’s good is I am not a regretful ultimately, it’s one of the things I’ve done and stylish. Instead of something : At the risk of asking you designer. In fact, sometimes, I get excited that I am most proud of! traditional, she got married in a Diane Von about “favorites,” can you to see what I did just starting out, even Furstenberg wrap dress! I am lucky that name a few celebrities you’re knowing how much I’ve grown. And no : So, do you think a lot my mom, who is a teacher, encouraged particularly happy to work with? matter what outfits I’ve designed, they all about what the future holds both her children to be creative and follow CS: Alicia Silverstone was my whole have memories—even the bad ones! So muse growing up, thanks to Clueless, and in store for Christian Siriano, their passion, instead of doing something it’s been fun! professionally and personally? they really didn’t want to. I still love working with her. Christina Hendricks is one of the nicest women on : Speaking of “bad,” more CS: As far as fashion, I really admire : Now you inspire a lot of other the planet! Billy Porter just works it, no than ever, the mainstream what Donna Karan, Marc Jacobs, Oscar young designers by being a matter what we come up with. Janelle media really talks about fashion, de la Renta and some of the other mentor on Project Runway? Monae is wonderful because she’s such a especially red carpets like at the American houses were able to build. What are the greatest rewards— creative artist. She can be tough because recent Met Gala. How does that People don’t realize American designers and challenges—of working she knows what she likes and she thinks affect you and your work? simply don’t have the same amount of with these contestants? about fashion differently than some other CS: I don’t take the criticism of my people, and I love that. I adore working “I don’t want any woman money to work with as the European CS: What’s great is these young designers work personally, but I don’t like that the are so obsessed with this world of fashion with people like Kristin Chenoweth media seems to attack the person wearing to feel bad about herself. designers. I really think people forget— that it inspires me, especially when I have and Danielle Brooks, both of whom are something, whether I made it or not, by or don’t understand—how hard it is always so fun to be with. It’s honestly a And what makes me a hard day, by reminding me that there saying how it’s doesn’t flatter her, or to survive in this industry, especially are so many people who would perhaps big list. it doesn’t fit her. No one wants to hear angrier is that we haven’t after this pandemic when people aren’t literally kill to do what I do. The biggest they look fat or ugly in a dress, and I shopping the way they used to be. That’s challenge of being on the show, however, : As that list also proves, don’t want any woman to feel bad about learned, especially since the you’ve been a big champion of one reason why I will never again put is that it takes a lot of time and the one herself. And what makes me angrier is pandemic, is how much we thing I don’t have these days is a lot of body diversity in fashion! Why is that we haven’t learned, especially since all my eggs in one proverbial basket time. that so important to you? the pandemic, is how much we need to need to be kinder to each and why I have taken on so many other CS: I made a very important decision be kinder to each other. At the end of the other. At the end of the day, projects. It’s not only that I have to be : That’s an understatement! early on that I didn’t want to alienate day, this is just fashion—we’re not curing stimulated in other ways than just making In the past few months, you any customer, famous or not. I feel like cancer. this is just fashion—we’re not clothes; it’s also that the pandemic designed an entire couture what I want to leave behind is being curing cancer.” taught me—and maybe all of us—that collection and created countless known for more than just designing great : Speaking of the Covid celebrity outfits for award clothes, but for representing all women. pandemic, it was particularly –CHRISTIAN SIRIANO everything could be taken away just like shows and galas, among your Otherwise, to me, this business would be hard on the luxury fashion that. These days, I focus more on my many other projects. Is it nothing more than packing up dresses and industry. But you took the family, my health and my new house. really fun for you to work with shipping them to stores. Trust me, the initiative to make over three That said, I do have to finish my pre-fall celebrities, or is it just part of nitty gritty of the fashion business is not million PPE masks. Why did you collection, which shows in December. I the game? fun. I say to people, “You think this is do that? still have a lot of energy. I know that I CS: I definitely feel like working with all glamour? Do you want to see all the CS: In the beginning, it was a completely can drive some people crazy. But for me, celebrities is as true a collaboration as bills I have to pay?” emotional reaction to what was at least, that’s a good thing! CHRISTIAN SIRIANO 26 CT VOICE | WINTER 2021-2022 CT VOICE | WINTER 2021-2022 27
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