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                                     We’re particularly pleased to share with
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                                     you the representatives of different faith
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  traditions—all of whom are reaching out to LGBTQ+ people looking for a                                                     When icicles hang by the wall
  place to practice their faiths. For many, this has been a difficult issue, and           Creative Director
  we’re encouraged by the expansiveness, welcome and open invitations these                  Stacy Murray                      And Dick the shepherd blows his nail
  leaders are providing. For those seeking a home in which to celebrate faith,                                               And Tom bears logs into the hall
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  many more doors are open.
                                                                                           Doreen Chudoba                      And milk comes frozen home in pail,
  Brian Lipton scored an interview with designer Christian Siriano, and he’s,               Sales Executive                  When blood is nipp'd and ways be foul,
  well, “fierce,” a term he popularized in the Project Runway series that                   Paul Whitman
  jumpstarted his career. He’s also a man passionate about his art. Frank                                                    Then nightly sings the staring owl,
  Rizzo talked to the largely nonbinary and gender expansive team at Elm City               Cover Photo by
                                                                                           Shane LaVancher                                  Tu-whit;
  Games, another—and very different—community that welcomes anyone who
  wants to sit down and play. and Jane Latus profiles a program at Middlesex            Shane LaVancher Studio               Tu-who, a merry note,
  Health dedicated to teens finding their authentic selves.                              New York, New York
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  In other coverage, we address a difficult but important subject for our
  community—financial planning. Over the next issues and online, we'll                                                       When all aloud the wind doth blow
  address the unique issues facing LGBTQ+ communities in this area. Michelle
  Cutrali kicks us off with an article on long-term care. Finally, Tedd Levine                                                 And coughing drowns the parson's saw
  writes about some of the legal issues related to living together and some of                                               And birds sit brooding in the snow
  the pitfalls people don’t always considering.
                                                                                                                         ™
                                                                                                                               And Marian's nose looks red and raw,
  I’ve been pleased and encouraged by the number of people who have                                                          When roasted crabs hiss in the bowl,
  reached out to me in the past few months. I am excited and inspired by
  the conversations that have been started, and I look forward to continuing.                                                Then nightly sings the staring owl,
  Please reach out to me at the Editor’s Corner at ctvoice.com.                             To advertise in                                 Tu-whit;
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IN THIS ISSUE //

                                                                                                                          CELEBRATE LOVE
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                                                                                        COVER STORY
                                                                                        World-class designer (and
                                                                                        Westport resident) spills
                                                                                        the tea about his career
                                                                                        and what matters to him.

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     CONTRIBUTORS                                 HEALTH AND                          COMMUNITY
     Meet the writers behind the                                                      A new survey profiles
     stories in this issue.
                                                  WELLNESS                            Connecticut's LGBTQ+
                                                  How Middlesex Health
                                                                                      community.
                                                  programs support teens and
     9-23                                         families as the teens search for
     WHAT’S THE BUZZ                              their authentic selves.             72
     Author Steven Petrow on                                                          PETS
     growing old. Artist Dan Crowley              40                                  The role of dogs in community
     on growing up gay. Actor Rory                                                    policing, and the positive impact
     O'Malley on his new Netflix
                                                  CULTURE                             they're having on many lives.
                                                  Elm City Games is a haven for
     series. Backstage on Broadway.
                                                  gamers of all identies...right in
     Senator Chris Murphy on
     advocating for transgender
                                                  New Haven.                          80
     youth, legal and financial issues                                                THE LAST WORD
     for the LGBTQ+ community, and                46                                  The Rev. Darrell L. Goodwin on
     more.                                                                            "Queering the Faith."
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                                                                                                                                           Getting Ready for the
                                                                                                                                           Senior Fling … So To Speak

                                                                                                                                           D
                                                                                                                                                      on’t let the title                                                                           siblings to get their dad to
                                                                                                                                                      fool you. Steven                                                                             use a walker, or even a cane.
                                                                     DAWN ENNIS                                                                       Petrow’s new book,                                                                           He cites statistics on how
                                                                     Dawn Ennis talked with faith
                                                                                                      STAN GODLEWSKI                                  Stupid Things I                                                                              effective these are, and at the
                                                                     leaders around the state         Stan Godlewski is a                  Won’t Do When I Get Old, is                                                                             same time, he writes about
                                                                     for our piece on faith and       photojournalist who has              more than just a laundry list                                                                           how the device can become
                                                                     LGBTQ+ people. (Page 30)         worked for magazines and             of things older people do that                                                                          a fashion accessory—if you
                                   BRIAN SCOTT                       She is an award-winning          newspapers for 30 years              annoy younger people and                                                                                can convince someone to use
                                   LIPTON                            journalist, a professor at       covering news, sports,               their families. It’s a thoughtful                                                                       it. All of it, though, is written
                                   Brian Scott Lipton talked with    University of Hartford and       features and celebrities.            collection of essays that just                                                                          with good humor, love and
  FRANK RIZZO                      Christian Siriano for our cover   writes for several news          His favorites thing to
                                                                                                      photograph is his next thing
                                                                                                                                           happens to have a waggish—
                                                                                                                                           and attention-getting—title.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   caring, even within the
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   frustration he and his family
                                   story (Page 24) and he gave       outlets. Ennis was America’s
  Frank Rizzo caught up with                                                                          to photograph.                                                                                                                               often experience.
                                   his fashion sense a seasonal      first transgender journalist
  playwright Douglas Lyons
                                   turn with our piece on layering   in a TV network newsroom                                              Petrow says that the book
  (Page 10) and rolled the dice                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Some of Petrow’s wisdom
                                   (Page 46). He has been a          when she came out nine                                                is “all about the stupid
  with Elm City Games (Page                                                                                                                                                                                                                        is hard-won. He is a cancer
                                   nationally renowned journalist    years ago. Follow her @                                               things that my parents did
  40). He has written about                                                                                                                                                                                                                        survivor, has gone through
                                   for over 30 years. Among          lifeafterdawn on Twitter,                                             wrong as they were getting
  the arts in Connecticut and                                                                                                                                                                                                                      a divorce from his husband,
                                   his many accomplishments,         Facebook and Instagram.                                               into their seventies. And I
  nationally for more than 40                                                                                                                                                                                                                      has been living with HIV
                                   he has been Editor in Chief       Ennis and her family                                                  was a smart 50-something
  years; for the The New York                                                                                                                                                                                                                      for many years, and as a
                                   of TheaterMania.com and           reside in West Hartford,                                              who was taking notes. I’m
  Times, American Theatre                                                                                                                                                                                                                          result had to reset his path
  Magazine and dozens of           Resident Publications,            Connecticut.                                                          a journalist and I became
                                   Managing Editor of men’s                                                                                interested in how I might do                                                                            and identity on several
  other outlets. He is also a                                                                                                                                                                                                                      occasions. He’s particularly
  theater critic for Variety.      fashion magazines DNR                                                                                   things better when my turn
                                   and MR, and his byline has                                                                              came, and that list got bigger                                                                          concerned that LGBTQ+
  Follow Frank’s work at                                                                                                                                                       Steven Petrow is smart about getting old. Photo by Bethany Cabino   individuals stay active and
  ShowRiz.com and on Twitter       appeared in such publications                                                                           and bigger. It turned into a
                                   as Forbes, The Wall Street                                                                              New York Times essay, and it                                                                            involved in life. “You know,
  @ShowRiz.   
                                   Journal and Where. He is a                                         CARLA TEN EYCK                       turned into a book.
                                                                                                                                                                               any age and not buying into         theme throughout the book
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   we become invisible in our
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   culture whether it’s at 40 or
                                   proud member of the LGBTQ                                          Carla Ten Eyck is a Queer
                                                                                                                                           “And when I’m not being a           presumed cultural attitudes,        is the advice to accept what    50, and that’s a detriment to
                                   community.                                                         Hartford CT native who
                                                                                                                                           smartass, I would say that          or what others might think.         comes your way without          everybody.” The refusal to be
                                                                                                      focuses on storytelling,                                                 To that end, he recommends          using setbacks or challenges    invisible is what inspired the
                                                                                                                                           it’s really a manifesto about
                                                                                                      inclusivity and joy. She has                                             having friends of all ages and      as a reason to withdraw         orange pants. “That was a
                                                                                                      been photographing weddings,         aging and the things that we
                                                                                                                                           can all do in our daily lives to    being open to new ideas and         from the world. One chapter     lesson my mom taught me,”
                                                                                                      events and families for 20                                               the inevitable changes that         in particular, “I Won’t         he says. “She was always very
                                                                                                      years. She is a two time             sort of retrain our brains away

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               >>
                                                                                                                                           from some of the anti-aging         time brings. He also advises        Let a Walker Ruin
                                                                                                      published author and a                                                   living in the present and not       My Style (but I’ll
                                                                                                      podcaster and loves sharing          stereotypes that are part of
                                                                                                                                           our culture.”                       worrying about things that          Still Use It)”
                                                                     RENEE DININO                     stories.
                                                                                                                                                                               are out of his control—great        describes the
                                                                     Renee DiNino is our resident                                          At the heart of Petrow’s            advice for everyone.                difficulty of
                                                                     pet maven and wrote the piece                                         manifesto is the central                                                Steven
  JANE LATUS                                                         dogs in community policing.                                           admonishment for people             Like many middle-aged               and
  Jane Latus covers health and                                       (Page 72) She is the director                                         not to “go gently into that         people, he had to come              his
  politics. She followed up on                                       of community affairs for                                              good night,” as Dylan               to terms with the realities
  two breaking political stories                                     iHeartMedia in Connecticut,                                           Thomas wrote. For example,          of dealing with his aging
  in CT (Pages 19 & 22) and                                          the midday host on The River                                          he won’t stop rocking stylish       parents and their deaths.
  explored Middlesex Health's      DANIEL EUGENE                     105.9 and host of an hour-                                            clothing, including orange          Several chapters deal
  commitment to the LGBTQ+                                           long syndicated talk show on                                                                              with end-of-life issues
  community (Page 32). She is      KAMINSKI                          all Connecticut iHeartRadio
                                                                                                                                           pants, because they don’t
                                                                                                                                           fit external notions of what        with the very good and
  a writer and personal trainer    Daniel Eugene is a visual         stations. She also appears
  living in Canton. She and        artist, singer, and documentary   weekly on WFSB Channel 3’s       ​​ALEX ACQUARULO                     people his age “should”             practical advice that
                                                                                                                                                                               people should have as much
                                                                                                                                           wear. He also won’t color his
  her husband Ken have an          photographer who is a native      “Better Connecticut.” An avid    ​​Alex Acquarulo grew up in          hair—one of the funniest            control over the end of their
  escalating number of cats        and resident of Bethany,          animal lover and advocate, she   North Haven and is the owner
                                                                                                                                           pieces in the book in which         lives as possible. Among
  and two grown sons, one          CT. Outside of freelance          and her husband Sal have a       of CT FoodGirly, LLC, a social
                                                                                                                                           he learned what worked              these are making sure that
  transgender and one gay.         work Eugene focuses his           German Shepherd, Luke, they      media marketing platform that
                                                                                                                                           for Diane Sawyer didn’t for         you plan your own funeral
                                   photographic pursuits             rescued in Hartford. instagram   discovers and showcases
                                                                                                                                           him—or refuse a hearing aid,        and memorials, accepting
                                   documenting drag performance      @reneedinino.                    Connecticut’s best restaurants.
                                                                                                                                           should the time come when           physical challenges with
                                   and grassroots stock car                                           You can follow her via Instagram
                                                                                                                                           he needs it. Bottom line:           grace, and being sure to
                                   racing culture throughout New                                      (@ctfoodgirly), Facebook
                                                                                                      (CTFoodGirly) and her website,       Petrow is a strong advocate         say goodbye to people as
                                   England. Eugene also keeps
                                                                                                      www.ctfoodgirly.com. To learn        for staying engaged in life at      they are dying. A significant
                                   a daily drawing practice and
                                   performs regularly as drag                                         more about Ashley Amendola
                                   queen Sorcia Warhol.                                               and Coven Catery, visit
                                                                                                      covencatery.com.
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fashionable well into the 70s and 80s.     WHAT’S THE BU ZZ ?
So, I’ve been a proponent of wearing
skinny jeans and neon-colored
clothes. It’s part of who I am, but it’s
also a part of just being visible in the
world.
                                             Hallelujah!
                                             Douglas Lyons’s
Petrow also pledges not to be
disappointed with his life. Writing
about his very accomplished father,
his heart breaks for a man who at
the end, departed without a sense            Comedy Made It
                                             To Broadway
of fulfillment. Like many men of his
generation, as the gay son, Petrow,
had a cordial but somewhat distant
relationship with his father, and there
is a sense in the chapter about what
was lost in that. Petrow refuses to go
down the same path. As he observes,
“We are only given a limited number
of decades in our lives—it would be
a terrible thing to come to their end
with a sense of disappointment. I am
in charge of how my life turns out,
and I will make the most of it.”

Always looking for the positive—and
the possibilities—in any situation,
Petrow says, “I won’t stop believing
in magic.” I am a proponent of                                                                                                          Ebony Marshall-Oliver, Michael Urie & Aigner Mizzelle in a scene   Cleo King & the Cast of Chicken & Biscuits. Photo by Emilio Madrid
magic, but I’m a bigger proponent                                                                                                       from Chicken & Biscuits. Photo by Emilio Madrid
of science. I remember as a kid, the
wonderment I had and a belief in the
possibilities of the world.                                                                                                                           I asked Lyons how he would                           “The love in the room was            celebrate black women who
                                                                                                                                                                                                           palpable. It was a joyous night
“And as I got older, that kind of got                                                                                                                    describe his comedy: “The                         I’ll never forget.”
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                are so often in mainstream
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                media reduced to pain and
beat out of me as it happens to                                                                                                                         tone [of the play] would be                                                             suffering and taking care
many of us. We become pragmatists                                                                                                                                                                          Chicken & Biscuits, which            of everyone else. My goal
and, you know, everything seems                                                                                                                        The Book of Mormon meets                            is set in New Haven, draws           to open up what blackness
incremental. One of the good things          Ebony Marshall-Oliver, Michael Urie, & Devere Rogers in a scene from                                    Tyler Perry. Or, if you saw the                       from that community, Lyons’          look like and for us to be the
that came out of me having cancer in         Chicken & Biscuits. Photo by Bethany Cabino                                                                                                                   family, and their church. His        center of the story. There is so
                                                                                                                                                      film Soul Food, it’s more like

                                            W
my twenties was a good friend, gave                                                                                                                                                                        mother is the first female
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                much joy and beauty that I’ve
                                                                                                                                                                                                           pastor of the Thomas Chapel
me this Fairy God Bunny. This was
                                                                hen we last talked          “This family comedy, with its cheek                     that; like a homecooked meal                           Church of Christ in New Ha-
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                grown up among the black
really a nonbinary gender-neutral                                                                                                                                                                                                               women in my life. I want
bunny who had a tutu and a wand
                                                                with playwright-            and secrets and eulogies and amens,                              with a familiar family.”                      ven on White Street.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                to show the layers and the
                                                                actor Douglas Lyons,        wants to offer audiences living in bad
and so on. It was given to me as a                              he was isolated at          times an old-fashioned good one,”                                                                                                                   varieties and the laughter of
                                                                                                                                                                                                           Lyons wrote much of Chicken
talisman when I was going through                               his New York City           wrote theatre critic Jesse Green in The                                                                                                             that world that the American
treatment. And it was something             apartment during the pandemic, and              New York Times.
                                                                                                                                                                    Sounds delicious.                      & Biscuits backstage when he
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                theatre has missed out on.”
                                                                                                                                                                                                           was appearing in the long run
that I came to believe in, held onto,       crossing his fingers for some future                                                                                Now pass the biscuits.                     of Broadway’s Beautiful. (His
took to all my appointments and kind        life for his play Chicken & Biscuits,           New York Magazine’s Helen Shaw                                                                                 previous Broadway show, The          Chicken & Biscuits, which
of created this wonder again. That’s        whose run at a small Queens venue               wrote: “Going to Chicken & Biscuits                                                                            Book of Mormon, was a gig            stars Tony Award-nominee
where that thought about staying            was cut short when theaters shut                does feel like being fed by loving but                                                                         he landed after he graduated         Norm Lewis and Michael Urie,
in this moment of possibility and           down in mid-March 2020. (See VOICE              overweening relatives…it’s a meal full                                                                         from the Hartt School at the         runs through Jan. 2.
magic and seeing where that takes           Winter 2020/2021 issue.)                        of comfort dishes, difficulties resolved,                                                                      University of Hartford.)
us comes from.”                                                                             and love requited.”
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                And for the show’s future?
                                            Flash forward to October when Lyons’                                                                                                                           Lyons is one of eight Black
As one reads Petrow’s book, it’s clear      comedy—which centers on a vola-                 And this from Variety’s Ayanna Pre-                                                                            playwrights being produced           “The church doors are
that rather than avoiding doing             tile African-American family during             scod: Chicken & Biscuits is a feast of                                                                         on Broadway this season, a
                                            the funeral of its patriarch— pened                                                                                                                                                                 open and who knows what
                                                                                            a production, and there is enough                                                                              record number. The show has
stupid things, the trick is to stay in                                                                                                                                                                                                          blessings are in store,” says
                                            at Broadway’s Circle in the Square              sustenance and libation for the entire                                                                         also attracted many celebs,
the game, no matter how that may                                                                                                                                                                                                                Lyons. “We’re already getting
                                            Theater.                                        family...with a brilliant script that’s                                                                        including Billy Porter, Lupita
shift. These essays are a good start—                                                                                                                                                                                                           licensing requests, so hope-
                                                                                            fresh, relatable and laugh-out-loud                                                                            Nyong’o, Lea DeLaria and
and a useful roadmap.                       The reviews were mixed, but even                                                                                                                                                                    fully a couple years from now
                                                                                            funny. “                                                                                                       Nick Jonas, who also signed
                                            critics who had reservations about                                                                                                                             on as one of the producers.          Chicken & Biscuits will be in
You can hear my full interview with         the New Haven-set family play that              “Opening Night felt like a wedding,                                                                                                                 every community around the
Steven Petrow on the Voice OutLoud          features LGBTQ characters, acknowl-             though I’m very much single,” says                                                                                                                  country.”
                                                                                                                                                                                                           Lyons says his play was writ-
podcast.                                    edged audiences’ enthusiasm, and                Lyons, 34, who was born and raised in                                                                          ten in part “to amplify and to                         —Frank Rizzo
                                            the welcome uplift of the show.                 the Fairhaven section of New Haven.
                   —Christopher Byrne

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                                                                                                    DRAWING ON EXPERIENCE:
                                                                                                    Artist Dan Crowley’s New Book
                                                                                                    Celebrates Creativity
                                                                                                              ven as far as we’ve    it turned out it was the host’s   area, and so he turned to           book where he is looking at
                                                                                                              come as a society,     grandfather made it during        drawing and creativity as a         the beauty of another boy
                                                                                                              coming out as          the 1918 lockdown. Wow.           means of expression, and he         but trying not to be noticed.
                                                                                                              LGBTQ+ is always                                         says he found teachers who          He says, “I got really good at
                                                                                                              a big deal. For kids   “And so I, I thought, well,       supported and mentored              hiding.”
                                                                                                              of the Baby Boom       if I’m remembering the            him. Still his awakening as
                                                                                                    generation, it was often even    [current] lockdown, I want to     LGBTQ+ wasn’t easy.                 Today, Crowley is no longer
                                                                                                    tougher, as the culture wasn’t   create something. This was                                            hiding, and he’s sharing his
                                                                                                    ready to accept kids who         my chance, and so I decided       He says that seventh                stories in a warm, witty and
                                                                                                    were “different.” And yet, so    to write a book or make a         and eighth grade were               highly approachable way.
                                                                                                    many were.                       book about what it was like       particularly difficult. “I think    Readers may see themselves
                                                                                                                                     growing up gay and creative,      for a lot of us who grew up
                                                                                                                                                                                                           reflected in some of his
                                                                                                                                     and to make something that        gay, that was a pivotal time.
                                                                                                                                                                                                           vignettes, or they may recall
                                                                                                                                     would help kids and families      We were aware that we were
                                                                                                                                                                                                           their own. As Crowley says,
                                                                                                                                     who are going through this        gay. We were aware that we
                                                                                                                                                                                                           he wants everyone—of
                                                                                                                                     or have gone through it.”         were outside of what was
                                                                                                                                                                       happening with our peers            every age—simply to be
                                                                                                                                     The geography of Crowley’s                                            themselves, however that

     Never Stop Creating.
                                                                                                                                                                       who were starting to date
                                                                                                                                     growing up was different as       members of the opposite sex.        may be expressed.
                                                                                                                                     well. “I was born in New York,    And because we’re virtually
                                                                                                                                     and then we moved to Sao          of the same age, we were            Danny, Growing Up Gay
                                                                                                                                     Paulo, Brazil. And I spent a      hiding completely.                  & Creative is available on
                                                                                                                                     few years of my young life                                            Amazon.
                                                                                                                                     speaking Portuguese and           “My peripheral vision really
                                                                                                                                     living in South America.          got developed during those          You can hear my entire
                                                                                                                                     Then we come back to              early years. I didn’t want          conversation with Dan on the
    Seabury is a community where residents and members are encouraged and given every               Artist and author Dan Crowley.   Connecticut, and I go into        anyone to know that I was           Voice Out Loud Podcast.
                                                                                                                                     first grade in a Catholic         looking over here.” Crowley
    opportunity to pursue their artistic passions.                                                                                   school. This was a completely     mentions one                                  —Christopher Byrne
                                                                                                    Artist and author Dan            different world than anything     drawing in the
                                                                                                    Crowley, who spent part of       I’d ever experienced in my
    As a Life Plan Community for adults 50 and over, we have many thriving artists on and           his growing up in Wilton,        life. So, I couldn’t help but
                                                                                                    knew that he was “different”     stand out. And the nuns used
    off campus. Some are lifelong practitioners, and some are just getting started, but they’re     from an early age, and           to think that I was trying
    all creating beautiful art that enhances our environment.                                       he’s taken that experience
                                                                                                    and put it into a new book
                                                                                                                                     to speak in tongues when,
                                                                                                                                     when Portuguese would
                                                                                                    Danny, Growing Up Gay and        come now, I kept getting
                                                                                                    Creative. Over the course of     punished for trying to be a
    Come tour the Seabury campus art galleries and meet some of the creative artists                fifty drawings with captions,    class clown.”
    who make their home here.                                                                       the reader follows Dan on
                                                                                                    his journey from birth to        Crowley found his
                                                                                                    age 18, how he expressed his     way to fit in as the
                                                                                                    difference, and how he grew      class artist. His
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                                                                                                    was born out of the COVID        was his “weirdness”
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                                                                                                    on several different book        different and at the
                                                                                                    projects of my own, and then     same time gave him
                                                                                                    the lockdown happened            some power, and prestige,
                                                                                                    last March. I decided that I     with his peer group.
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                                                                                                    to a party years ago where I     he was in middle school, his
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                                                                                                                                                            A CULTURE OF DIVERSITY,
                                                                                                                                                            EQUITY, AND INCLUSION
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   Potential Legal Issues                                                                                                                                   through the efforts and activation of our Global Pride
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   I
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        n a relationship, few           in a divorce, couples who             extent, but oral contracts, if
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        things are as exciting          are merely cohabiting are             proven, can be as binding             relationship, even though no            for six years in a row by the Human Rights Campaign®
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   shouldn’t be taken lightly. No
                                                                                                                                                            and are committed to building a diverse workforce where
                                        In my practice, I’ve had to           was formed, and the person            the action is being brought
   one wants to be a buzz kill or       handle a number of cases of           suing is entitled to the assets       was unjustly enriched by                all talent can thrive, and one that is reflective of the
   undermine all the romantic           couples separating in which           of that partnership.                  the efforts of the one who              communities we operate in.”
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   home and a life together.            the other for distribution            You can be accused of fraud.          really happen? If so, what was         -Vinay Kapoor, Global Chief Diversity Officer
   At the same time, as you             of assets and income. All             In other words, a partner can         it worth? As you can probably
   address the practical matters        these cases have a couple of          claim that the other partner          see, there’s a lot of room (not         www.factset.com/diversity
   of cohabitation, you’ll want to      things in common. Either the          somehow fraudulently                  to say a “yawning chasm”) for           www.factset.com/careers/join-us
   consider the legal issues that       parties didn’t set up a clear         induced them to live with             interpretation and argument,
   could arise if the relationship      agreement of how assets and           him or her or they and gain           which is why cases of this
   doesn’t work out.                    income would be handled,              access to their knowledge             nature can drag on over time.
                                        or one party thought they             and efforts and are thus
                                        had set things up clearly,            entitled to compensation and          Finally, with regard to
                                        only to find an action                damages.                              property, if you choose to
                                        brought against him or her                                                  put a partner’s name on a                                             F I N A N C I A L   D ATA   |   A N A LY T I C S    |   T E C H N O L O G Y   |   S E R V I C E S
                                        that was never anticipated.           Another argument that I’ve            real estate deed, you could
                                        Unfortunately, such cases             also seen in my practice—and          be subject to an action of
                                        dragged on for years after the        in some high-profile celebrity        partition. The partner who
                                        relationships ended.                  breakups—is the concept of            brings the action would be

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Cameron
                                                                              “constructive trust.” In this         entitled to half the asset, even
                                        I know you may be thinking,           case the claim is that one            if they never contributed a
                                        “well, what really could              partner is legally holding the        dime to it.
                                        happen if we’re not married?          other’s assets. That partner
                                        Wouldn’t we just go our                                                     Now, the purpose of this

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Carpenter
                                                                              somehow obtained control
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                                        separate ways? What’s                 of the assets and is now              is not to scare you off
                                        the big deal?” Well, buckle           denying them. The partner             living together. Far from it.
                                        up because even though                would then be unjustly                Couples need to address                                                                                                  The best is yet to come!
                                        Connecticut has never had             enriched by not relinquishing         all the practical matters of
                                        common law marriage—one               the assets and instead                their relationship in order to
   Attorney Ted Levine                  of the issues I hear with
                                        some regularity—a partner
                                                                              keeping them for themselves.
                                                                              Since a constructive trust is
                                                                                                                    provide a strong foundation
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                                        can still make certain claims         implied rather than stated,           is just one more component
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Cameron Carpenter is
   This is particularly true if
                                        against the other’s assets and
                                        income, and just because it
                                                                              there are four elements
                                                                              that must be proven: a
                                                                                                                    of that. In our next column,
                                                                                                                    we’ll talk about the steps                          live                                                                                                              the world’s most visible
   you choose not to marry.
   Marriage provides certain
                                        may be tough to prevail in
                                        some of these claims, getting
                                                                              confidential or fiduciary
                                                                              relationship, a promise, a
                                                                                                                    you can take to ensure
                                                                                                                    clear understanding and
                                                                                                                                                                      events                                                     DIVA POWER                                               organist, the first ever
   rights, which have only
   been available to same sex
                                        to a settlement (versus
                                        going to court) can be time
                                                                              transfer made on the basis
                                                                              of that promise, and unjust
                                                                                                                    protection for each person.                       return                                                                                                              to be nominated for a
   couples since the Obergefell
   decision legalizing so-called
                                        consuming and expensive.              enrichment. Proving these
                                                                              can be messy. For instance,
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                                                                                                                                                                       2022                                                                                                               GRAMMY Award for
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          a solo album. In this
   gay marriage in 2015. That           One of the more common                one partner may claim that            over to the Editor’s Corner
   said many couples, of all            claims we see is that an oral         they took care of property            on ctvoice.com, and we’ll                                                                                                                                             unique and intimate
   kinds, choose to live together       contract was formed, which            while the other earned the            answer questions of general                                                                                                                                           concert experience,
   without being married, and           provided for sharing income           bulk of the alleged joint             interest.
   there are issues to be aware         and assets into the future.           assets. That work, which                                                                                                                                                                                    Cameron will once
   of. Whereas married couples          This ends up as a “they said/         benefitted both partners,                       —Tedd S. Levine, Esq.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          again prove why he’s
   would have to settle issues          they said” argument to some           could be called an asset
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          described as “The
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   all information in this article is for general informational purposes only. Please contact your lawyer for advice based on your individual situation.

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                                     Proudly serving the     FATHERHOOD, HAMILTON AND NETFLIX:
                                     primary care needs      Talking with Rory O’Malley
                                      of LGBTQ seniors
                                                             F
                                                                        or Tony- and Drama     it. And it’s just, it’s been an
                                                                        Desk-nominated         incredible experience, to be

                                       and long-term                    actor Rory O’Malley,
                                                                        the pandemic
                                                                        took him offstage
                                                                                               playing a gay character, to
                                                                                               be a gay man, playing a gay
                                                                                               character and to have two

                                       surivors of HIV.
                                                             but not out of performing.        generations of gay characters

   Primary Care                                              His latest project is voicing
                                                             the character of Daniel in
                                                             the new, animated Netflix
                                                                                               be portrayed in the same
                                                                                               show because an 18-year-old
                                                                                               now who’s gay has a very

  Sexual Health                                              series, Chicago Party Aunt.
                                                             Daniel is gay and struggling
                                                             with whether or not to go
                                                                                               different life experience for
                                                                                               somebody who’s middle-
                                                                                               aged, and certainly a gay

  HIV Treatment                                              to Stanford for college,
                                                             and while his parents are
                                                             encouraging him to go
                                                                                               man of color. So, to have
                                                                                               these two characters and
                                                                                               to have RuPaul play it so

  LGBTQ Health                                               the traditional route, his
                                                             aunt, Diane, is encouraging
                                                             him to find himself. Diane
                                                                                               perfectly is a real treat. And I
                                                                                               got to be on zoom calls and
                                                                                               table reads with RuPaul, and

    PrEP & PEP                                               herself was a hard partying
                                                             young woman—and the
                                                             party has never stopped for
                                                                                               really trying to get any kind
                                                                                               of spoiler about drag race
                                                                                               out of them. So that was like

  Covid Vaccines                                             her. As O’Malley says it’s an
                                                             opportunity for both of them
                                                             to grow and “learn some
                                                                                               beyond, beyond a dream.”

                                                                                               O’Malley has been doing
                                                                                               more than just recording in        as King George in the             humor. “Sometimes were
                                                             different lessons about life.
                                                                                               his garage in Los Angeles.         Los Angeles company of            the butt of his jokes. But you
                                                             And comedy ensues.”
                                                                                               He’s been actively involved        Hamilton, and he’s loving         gotta’ hand it to him; the kid
                                                                                                                                  being back on stage. “We          knows comedy.”
 Visit us online at:
                                                                                               in Broadway Impact, an
                                                                                               organization he founded with       couldn’t talk about how
                                                                                               fellow Broadway star Gavin         much we missed that feeling       Like so many others, O’Malley
www.CircleCareCenter.org                                                                       Creel. Originally formed           for the last year-and-a-          says he was fortunate to
                                                                                               with Broadway Cares/Equity         half. We had to suppress it       be able to make it through
                                                                                               Fights AIDS to promote             because there was a time          the pandemic. He says, “it’s
                                                                                               marriage equality. O’Malley is     when I thought it might           nice that we’ve been find
                                                                                               proud of what this group of        be four or five years before      other ways to create and
                                                                                               artists accomplished, though       we got back into a theater        communicate.” At first, he
                                                                                               the work is not done. During       again.” He says that the          says he wasn’t comfortable
                                                                                               the worst of the pandemic,         excitement of being on stage      with all the technology he
                                                                                               the organization worked            in front of a live audience       had to master, but he says,
                                                                                               with Broadway Cares to             sharing an experience is          “I’ve been able to figure out
                                                                                               raise money for the many           something everyone in the         new ways to be creative. And
                                                                                               actors who were out of work.       company is feeling—as are         that’s the plus side of what
                                                                                               There were, O’Malley notes,        the audiences.                    we’ve all been going through
                                                                                               many people who work in                                              as artists: we’ve found new
                                                                                               all aspects of theater who         And as if all that wasn’t         ways to create.”
                                                             Rory O'Malley                     didn’t have resources, so          enough to keep him busy,
                                                                                               he worked with the Actors’         O’Malley with his husband is      The first season of Chicago
                                                                                               Fund to help raise money for       now a dad to a two-and-a-         Party Aunt is on Netflix. It’s
                                                                                               those in need. He stresses         half-year-old son, which he       rated TV-MA. Hamilton is
                                                             O’Malley is proud of the work     how important—and                  calls “the greatest thing that    at the Pantages Theater in
                                                             and thrilled to be working        appreciated—it was for the         ever happened to me. I’m a        Los Angeles, slated to run
                                                             with a host of actors who         community to come together         luck guy, and I’ve gotten to
    618 West Avenue                                          identify as LGBTQ+, including     during the darkest period          do so many cool things in
                                                                                                                                                                    through January 2022.

                                                             RuPaul. “I am not over the
   Norwalk, CT 06850                                         fact that RuPaul is a part of
                                                                                               many theater people have
                                                                                               ever known.
                                                                                                                                  my career, but to be a dad
                                                                                                                                  to our son, it’s what I’m on
                                                                                                                                                                    You can hear my full
                                                                                                                                                                    conversation with Rory on the
                                                             something that I’m doing                                             this planet to do.” Among all
       203.852.9525                                          because I bow down to             Now that theaters are open,        the other exciting parts of
                                                                                                                                                                    Voice Out Loud podcast.

                                                             the queen, and I’ I think         O’Malley is back on stage.         parenthood, O’Malley says
                                                             that RuPaul’s fantastic in        He just began performing           his son has a great sense of                —Christopher Byrne

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   Senator Murphy Expands Efforts
   To Help Transgender Youth

   S
            enator Christopher                                      or legal names. The            for fearmongering. In
            Murphy has                                              consequences of                April, a federal judge
            consistently                                            failing in these areas,        dismissed a lawsuit            Tune in
            worked to help                                          Murphy writes, can             that attempted to ban
   mend and support the
                                                                                                                                  Connecticut
                                                                    result in delay in care        transgender participation
   mental health system in                                          or inappropriate care.                                        Public Radio
                                                                                                   in sports, though an
   the U.S. In late September,                                                                                                    Weekdays 1 p / 9p
                                                                    Approximately 2 percent        appeal is in the works.
   the Senator redoubled                                                                                                          Sat noon
   his efforts, addressing the                                      of youth identify as
                                                                                                   Connecticut has banned
   Departments of Health                                            transgender. In the                                           Stream
                                                                    United States, over            discrimination based
   and Human Services and                                                                                                         ctpublic.org
   Substance Abuse Services,                                        1.9 million youth are          on gender identity and
   calling attention to                                             estimated to be LGBT           expression for a decade,
   much-needed action on                                            between 13-17 years            but that doesn’t stop
   behalf of adolescents in          Senator Christopher Murphy     of age, with almost            bills being put forward.
   general and transgender                                          150,000 self-identifying       While this is only one
   and nonbinary youth,                                             as transgender. TGE            area of concern, 21
   in particular.                                                   youth may experience           states nationwide
                                     Council (BHCC), along          a host of mental health        have introduced bills
   He cited a national survey        with experts in the field of   burdens including anxiety,
                                                                                                   that would deny
   of LGBTQ+ youth released          adolescent transgender         depression, and suicidal
                                                                                                   gender-affirming
   by The Trevor Project that        care, to offer guidance        thoughts, largely due
                                     on best practices for          to societal stigma and         healthcare to youth.
   showed that more than
   half of transgender and           adolescent inpatient           lack of access to care.
                                                                                                   Senator Murphy’s letter
   nonbinary youth had               mental health care
                                     for these youth. Our           This effort is imperative      was co-signed by Senator
   serious suicidal thoughts
   in 2020. The survey               goal is to help mental         to the health and              Blumenthal, and stresses
   sample included 45                health providers offer         wellbeing of transgender       how important it is for this
   percent youth of color and        the best care they can         youth in Connecticut,          population to have a voice
   38 percent identifying as         to the nation’s TGE            as this remains a highly       that is heard and receive
   transgender or nonbinary.         youth without a delay          vulnerable population, too     the care they deserve.
                                     in treatment. The focus        often treated as a political
   In his letter to the              of this request is for         football and a platform                —Christopher Byrne
   departments, Murphy               the pressing needs of
   wrote, “Nationally,               hospital or residential
   adolescent mental health          care even as we recognize
   providers have expressed          the need for guidance
   concern for the increasing        across all settings of
   need for adolescent               mental health care.”
   behavioral health services.
   We have also heard from           Murphy also notes the
   health care providers             need for guidance on
   about the need to answer          best practices for serving
   an urgent call for the            gender diverse youth, in
   unmet mental health               all types of residential and
   needs for transgender             treatment environments,
   and gender expansive              and the essential need
   (TGE) adolescents,                for gender-affirming
   including exploring,              care, understanding
   non-binary, agender,              terminology,
   genderfluid and queer             pronoun usage, and
   youth. As co-chairs, we           acknowledging patients
   encourage the Behavioral          by their chosen names
   Health Coordinating               and not their given                                                                          You can access the entire Connecticut Public Radio show line up wherever you download podcasts, or get
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FEATURE //                                                      Whether he’s designing
                                                                  couture collections that
                                                                  will be worn for years or
                                                                  glamorous one-night only

  CHRISTIAN                                                       dresses for celebrities,
                                                                  Connecticut resident

   SIRIANO:                                                       Christian Siriano can be
                                                                  counted on to create
                                                                  memories for a lifetime …
          A MAN of
        MANY TALENTS

   A
               BY BRIAN SCOTT LIPTON

                                    t age 36, Christian Siriano
                                    has already accomplished
                                    more than most people
                                    twice his age. A recent
                                    resident of Westport,
                                    Siriano first became one
                                    of the country’s most
                                    coveted fashion designers
                                    after winning the popular
                                    television competition
   show, Project Runway, a decade ago. Since then, he has
   created multiple retail collections, been inducted into the
   prestigious Council of Fashion Designers of America
   (CFDA) and collaborated with a galaxy of the world’s
   biggest celebrities—from Lady Gaga to Jennifer Lopez to
   First Ladies Dr. Jill Biden and Michelle Obama—to create
   memorable, news-worthy looks.

   Moreover, in the past few years, Siriano has both returned
   to Project Runway as a “mentor” and executive producer
   and seen his work exhibited in museums nationwide
   (including the current “A Lexicon of American Fashion”
   at New York’s Metropolitan Museum of Art), created a
   highly anticipated coffee-table book, Dresses to Dream
   About, hosted the Bravo talk show, So Siriano, and even
   recently started his own interior design business. He also
   claims to sleep.

   Siriano recently took some time from his ultra-busy
   schedule to chat with CT Voice about his many projects,
   his “favorite” celebrities to work with, how the Covid-19                Photo by Shane Lavancher Studio
   pandemic changed his business and his outlook on life,
   and so much more.

   Note: This interview has been edited and condensed
   for clarity.
                                      CONTINUED ON PAGE 26

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: What was your earliest                   you can have in this business. Of course,         : You have both a career                                                       happening. Then, once I got started, I
recollection of “fashion”?                    they’re not all the same; sometimes it is     retrospective exhibition at the                                                    felt like I had to hold up my end of the
CS: My earliest memories are being with       very quick, practically off-the-cuff, and     Savannah College of Art and                                                        bargain by making more and more, and
my sister when she was studying to be         sometimes it takes weeks and months.          Design (SCAD) this fall and                                                        as the pandemic continued, it became
a ballet dancer and going backstage and       Personally, it doesn’t work, at least for     you’re releasing an updated                                                        even more important to keep doing
seeing all those costumes. I also loved       me, when the celebrity or his or her team     version of your book, Dresses to
                                              overthink the outfit. I am just not an                                                                                           this—even if we weren’t making money
watching the transformation from girls                                                      Dream About. What has it been
in warm-up clothes to becoming fairies        overthinker by nature. I am reactionary;      like looking back at your career                                                   from it! Eventually, we did find a way
on stage. That really sparked my interest.    that’s how I roll.                            this way?                                                                          to a make some money from it, but
And my mom was quite fashionable                                                            CS: What’s good is I am not a regretful                                            ultimately, it’s one of the things I’ve done
and stylish. Instead of something                : At the risk of asking you                designer. In fact, sometimes, I get excited                                        that I am most proud of!
traditional, she got married in a Diane Von   about “favorites,” can you                    to see what I did just starting out, even
Furstenberg wrap dress! I am lucky that       name a few celebrities you’re                 knowing how much I’ve grown. And no                                                   : So, do you think a lot
my mom, who is a teacher, encouraged          particularly happy to work with?              matter what outfits I’ve designed, they all                                        about what the future holds
both her children to be creative and follow   CS: Alicia Silverstone was my whole           have memories—even the bad ones! So
                                              muse growing up, thanks to Clueless, and                                                                                         in store for Christian Siriano,
their passion, instead of doing something                                                   it’s been fun!                                                                     professionally and personally?
they really didn’t want to.                   I still love working with her. Christina
                                              Hendricks is one of the nicest women on          : Speaking of “bad,” more                                                       CS: As far as fashion, I really admire
   : Now you inspire a lot of other           the planet! Billy Porter just works it, no    than ever, the mainstream                                                          what Donna Karan, Marc Jacobs, Oscar
young designers by being a                    matter what we come up with. Janelle          media really talks about fashion,                                                  de la Renta and some of the other
mentor on Project Runway?                     Monae is wonderful because she’s such a       especially red carpets like at the                                                 American houses were able to build.
What are the greatest rewards—                creative artist. She can be tough because     recent Met Gala. How does that                                                     People don’t realize American designers
and challenges—of working                     she knows what she likes and she thinks       affect you and your work?
                                                                                                                                                                               simply don’t have the same amount of
with these contestants?                       about fashion differently than some other     CS: I don’t take the criticism of my
                                              people, and I love that. I adore working
                                                                                                                                          “I don’t want any woman              money to work with as the European
CS: What’s great is these young designers                                                   work personally, but I don’t like that the
are so obsessed with this world of fashion    with people like Kristin Chenoweth            media seems to attack the person wearing      to feel bad about herself.           designers. I really think people forget—
that it inspires me, especially when I have   and Danielle Brooks, both of whom are         something, whether I made it or not, by                                            or don’t understand—how hard it is
                                              always so fun to be with. It’s honestly a
                                                                                                                                          And what makes me
a hard day, by reminding me that there                                                      saying how it’s doesn’t flatter her, or                                            to survive in this industry, especially
are so many people who would perhaps          big list.                                     it doesn’t fit her. No one wants to hear      angrier is that we haven’t           after this pandemic when people aren’t
literally kill to do what I do. The biggest                                                 they look fat or ugly in a dress, and I                                            shopping the way they used to be. That’s
challenge of being on the show, however,         : As that list also proves,                don’t want any woman to feel bad about
                                                                                                                                          learned, especially since the
                                              you’ve been a big champion of                                                                                                    one reason why I will never again put
is that it takes a lot of time and the one                                                  herself. And what makes me angrier is         pandemic, is how much we
thing I don’t have these days is a lot of     body diversity in fashion! Why is             that we haven’t learned, especially since                                          all my eggs in one proverbial basket
time.                                         that so important to you?                     the pandemic, is how much we need to
                                                                                                                                          need to be kinder to each            and why I have taken on so many other
                                              CS: I made a very important decision          be kinder to each other. At the end of the    other. At the end of the day,        projects. It’s not only that I have to be
   : That’s an understatement!                early on that I didn’t want to alienate       day, this is just fashion—we’re not curing                                         stimulated in other ways than just making
In the past few months, you                   any customer, famous or not. I feel like      cancer.
                                                                                                                                          this is just fashion—we’re not
                                                                                                                                                                               clothes; it’s also that the pandemic
designed an entire couture                    what I want to leave behind is being                                                        curing cancer.”                      taught me—and maybe all of us—that
collection and created countless              known for more than just designing great        : Speaking of the Covid
celebrity outfits for award                   clothes, but for representing all women.      pandemic, it was particularly                                 –CHRISTIAN SIRIANO   everything could be taken away just like
shows and galas, among your                   Otherwise, to me, this business would be      hard on the luxury fashion                                                         that. These days, I focus more on my
many other projects. Is it                    nothing more than packing up dresses and      industry. But you took the                                                         family, my health and my new house.
really fun for you to work with               shipping them to stores. Trust me, the        initiative to make over three                                                      That said, I do have to finish my pre-fall
celebrities, or is it just part of            nitty gritty of the fashion business is not   million PPE masks. Why did you                                                     collection, which shows in December. I
the game?                                     fun. I say to people, “You think this is      do that?                                                                           still have a lot of energy. I know that I
CS: I definitely feel like working with       all glamour? Do you want to see all the       CS: In the beginning, it was a completely
                                                                                                                                                                               can drive some people crazy. But for me,
celebrities is as true a collaboration as     bills I have to pay?”                         emotional reaction to what was
                                                                                                                                                                               at least, that’s a good thing!

CHRISTIAN SIRIANO
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