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THE MAGAZINE OF FAITH METHODIST CHURCH | APRIL 2021 MCI (P) 046/02/2021 07 16 40 SPOTLIGHT ON OUR CONVERSATIONS@ TRUSTING GOD IN NEW PASTORS! FAITH TOUGH TIMES Rev Reuben Ng & Rev Chan Mei Ming Dealing With Mental Health Experiencing God’s Goodness Hope Arise
36 14 CONTENTS THE MAGAZINE OF FAITH METHODIST CHURCH APRIL 2021 01 Editor’s Note 02 Pastor’s Letter 04 DEEPER IN CHRIST Private & Public Worship (Part 2): 24 Sacred Meeting for the Sacrament 31 SPECIAL FEATURE 07 Rev Reuben Ng: Imitating Christ In Love 10 Getting To Know Rev Chan Mei Ming HEARTBEAT 14 One Mission Small Group Conference 16 Conversations@Faith: Mental Health 20 The Importance Of Fatherhood 22 The World Needs A Father Deep Dive 48 Series: Overcoming Porn 24 Everlasting Blessings and Peace EDITORIAL 28 Serving with Love Pastor-in-Charge Writers / Contributors 31 A Different Christmas Celebration Rev Reuben Ng Ara Teo Jimaia Wong 35 Bringing CNY Cheer to our Mission Workers Brenda Tang John Woon Editors Claire Yeh Khoo Tse Horng 36 SUN JAM Playshop Esther Ong Lionel Lau Glynisia Yeo 38 A Father’s Heart’s Cry Audrey Mok Godiva Ysip Mark Tan Janice Lim Monica Tan 40 Trusting God In Tough Times Janice Ong Stella Seah Sub-Editor 42 Regathering For Worship Rachel Tham 43 Back to Worshipping Onsite and Listening Photographers Althea Chan Jonathan Lau to the Word of God Contributing Pastors Jimmy Png Leong Kwok Seng Rev Eddie Ho Joash Lee Richmond Tan PEOPLE OF FAITH 45 KidsLEAP Children’s Programme For contributions, please send them to faithlink@faithmc.sg. SPOTTED AT FAITH 48 First Hybrid 11.15am Service 50 Small Group Leaders’ Dedication Service Faithlink is published three times a year by Faith Methodist Church 51 Corporate House of Prayer (Singapore) for internal circulation to the congregation of Faith Methodist Church and their friends. Views expressed in Faithlink are the contributors’ 52 TRAC Seniors Ministry and do not necessarily reflect those of the Church and the Editorial Board. 53 Night of Worship Copyright © 2021 by Faith Methodist Church All right reserved. This magazine or any portion thereof may not be MARKETPLACE reproduced or used in any manner whatsoever without the express 54 Impacting Lives Beyond The Classroom written permission of the publisher except for the use of brief quotations in a book review.
EDITOR’S NOTE 1 LOVE = GOING THE EXTRA MILE W hen was the last time you went the extra mile for someone? In his book The First Mile, author Derek Prince wrote that in the context of Matthew 5:41, “Jesus here depicts a situation in which law, or social custom, gives a man the right to compel another to walk a mile together with him.” Jesus then challenged His disciples to not just walk the first mile but to go on with the second mile. The author then explains, “We may say that the first mile represents duty, the extra mile represents love. Love freely does twice as much as duty can demand.” In this hectic society we live in, many decisions are centred around self-serving causes, in order to benefit the self. This is why we often find it heartwarming to read of a Good Samaritan or an individual who went out of his or her way to help another human being; and who went the extra mile for someone else, even a total stranger. When love becomes the compass of our lives, it will influence our decisions in a way that brings positive change around us. Likewise, God demonstrated His love for us by sending His only begotten Son, Jesus Christ, to earth (John 3:16). That one act of redemption changed the course of humanity and paved the way for mankind to be reconciled back to God! Today as we commemorate Resurrection Sunday and remember this Great Love from heaven, will you now go the extra mile for someone and love them with the love of Christ? In Christ, Glynisia Yeo Editor @FaithMethodistChurch @faithmcsg FaithMC News faithmcsg
2 PASTOR’S LETTER 3 Once we jump into such waters, what looks to be a nice easy swim in still gentle waters, can very quickly UNDERCURRENTS become an intense struggle against currents that forcibly pull and drag us into danger. I recently came across an article by Channel News Asia (CNA). It focused on the can appreciate the danger of to flow. When viewed from tenderhearted. In so doing, dangers of swimming in the undercurrents. Once we jump the surface, everything might we practice the biblical call open sea. If you’re wondering into such waters, what looks look “gentle” or even “still”. to “be kind to one another” in why CNA would focus on a to be a nice easy swim in still But it is just an appearance; a very practical way. topic better suited to training gentle waters, can very quickly what is underneath is a totally material found in a sea sports become an intense struggle different thing. But why can’t we just live club, it was written in view of against currents that forcibly with the appearance of an unfortunate incident that pull and drag us into danger. I do not believe we, as “stillness” while nursing the occurred in 2020 — the sad Christians, are called to live undercurrents? Because drowning of a boy off Undercurrents. with undercurrents. If so, that is not what God did Changi Beach. God would not have placed with us. He dealt with the They may not look dangerous, in Scripture, verses like, “undercurrents” we had Among other things but they certainly can be… “And be kind to one another, with Him when He forgave mentioned in the article, which brought me to reflect tenderhearted, forgiving us. And now, He calls us one potential danger raised further on “undercurrents” in one another, even as God in to do likewise, so that the that swimmers ought to be terms of relationships. Christ forgave you,” gentleness and stillness are wary of, are undercurrents. (Eph. 4:32, NKJV). This verse not just on the surface, but And what exactly are Whether husband and wife, seems to tell us not to live also underneath in our hearts. undercurrents? Doing some child and parent, fellow work with the appearance that mini research revealed to colleagues, siblings or even all is “gentle” and “still”, May we as followers of me that they are currents of between church members/ but to deal with the Christ be people who do not water that flow under the worshippers, there are undercurrents itself. live with the danger surface of another larger times when undercurrents of undercurrents. body of water. exist. Perhaps it was a past How do we do that? By action or deed, a careless releasing the cause of Shalom! What is interesting is that word spoken, a difference in those strong “emotional while the undercurrent may opinions that brought about currents”, forgiving one be intense and strong, the disagreements, etc. another so that the currents surface of the water will have no reason to exist. more likely than not, be still Whatever it may have been, It is certainly not by being or have only small gentle it caused some strong, hardhearted and stubborn Rev Reuben Ng waves. By now, I am sure we intense emotional “currents” about it but by being Pastor-in-Charge APRIL 2021 . FAITHLINK FAITHLINK . JANUARY 2021
4 DEEPER IN CHRIST 5 PRIVATE & PUBLIC WORSHIP (PART 2): SACRED MEETING Holy Communion is an outward sign of God’s inward grace to us. But it is a sign, no FOR THE SACRAMENT matter how sacred, so we ought not make it more than what it is. By Rev Eddie Ho In my previous Faithlink These channels are called in Corinth met regularly for (which Roman Catholics call Hence, some congregations article (Jan 2021), I shared “means of grace,” and there the purpose of Communion “Transubstantiation”). in their circuit might be three apparent reasons why are many types and forms of (1 Corinthians 11:18). served Holy Communion public worship is important: means. It can be as simple Secondly, while Holy only once a month, or every (i) worship is not about you; as the meals we are provided Not More than it is Communion may be two months, and others (ii) worship is about God and with and therefore we say a sacrament, it is not a maybe three to four times His Church; and (iii) we ought “grace” with every meal; or Holy Communion is a sign mandatory commandment a year. The parishioners to yearn for public worship the Word that we read (“for of the presence of Christ but an exhortation. It is were on a communion fast working towards the ultimate man shall not live on bread among the people of God a means (of grace) to until they could partake it; worship in eternity. That alone,” Matthew 4:4); or and their unity in Him. When strengthen our faith, not an but when they could, they is why not only is physical the preaching that we listen we partake the wine or end in itself. So, if situation communed together. public worship irreplaceable; to (“for faith comes from juice (blood), we remember demands it – such as during it is a sacred meeting to look hearing,” Romans 10:17). Jesus as the giver of new a pandemic where minimal This practice has stuck forward to. Life and the New Covenant. physical contact is called for with us and that is why in And among the many means When we partake the to reduce the community pre-COVID days, most (not In this article, I would like to of grace at God’s disposal to bread or wafer (body), we spread of the virus – it all) Methodist churches talk about the sacramental bless us, there are two which are reminded we are all one is alright and our social celebrated the Eucharist once reason why we gather are personally ordained and Body with Him and with responsibility to fast from the a month. physically and regularly to instituted by Jesus Himself: one another (1 Corinthians Lord’s Supper. worship and partake Holy Water Baptism and Holy 10.16-18). Not Lesser than it Communion together as Communion, also known In fact, fasting from Holy Should Be a congregation, whenever as the Lord’s Supper and Holy Communion is an Communion is not a new public health conditions allow. the Eucharist. We call outward sign of God’s thing, it had been observed Even so, we must them Sacraments. inward grace to us. But it is a and practiced throughout the also not make Holy What is a Sacrament? sign, no matter how sacred, history of the church. One Communion lesser than Baptism is a sacrament so we ought not make example in the history of what it is, which is a Our God is a God of we do only once in our it more than what it is. Methodism was in the 1700s tendency of modern grace. This means that He life time, while Holy when pastors looked after people like us. The Church blesses us with gifts we do Communion is a sacrament Firstly, because it is our faith several parishes in different in Corinth faced the same not deserve (“unmerited we partake as often as we in Jesus Christ that saves places and were on a circuit problem and thus Paul in favour”). How do we receive can. Although there is no us, not the act of eating His travelling around the country 1 Corinthians 11 instructs His gifts of blessing? We biblical requirement, we body and drinking His blood. throughout the year. This us to treat it seriously – receive them via channels know the Early Church took Besides, the bread and the means that these pastors that is, not to do it as if (or vehicles) that deliver His it frequently (Acts 2:42-48), wine are not the actual could not be in every church we were consuming our grace or gift to us. and specifically the Church body and blood of Jesus on every Sunday. own meals separately in APRIL 2021 . FAITHLINK FAITHLINK . APRIL 2021
6 DEEPER IN CHRIST DEEPER IN CHRIST: SPECIAL FEATURE 7 REV REUBEN NG: IMITATING CHRIST IN LOVE In November 2020, the Trinity Annual Conference (TRAC) appointed Rev Reuben Ng as Pastor-in-Charge of Faith. Faithlink chats with our new PIC and discovered more about his life and the motivation behind his values. By Lionel Lau If our Worship Service is like a dress rehearsal of the Ultimate Worship, then Holy Communion is like the “appetizer” of the Great Banquet. Who is Reverend But an inner transformation Reuben Ng? took place one day in primary school. During the our own homes, but to wait consecrates the elements is like a dress rehearsal of A pastor who is in Religious Emphasis Week, for each other and partake at the table as if it is one the Ultimate Worship, then it together as a community. loaf and one cup (which Holy Communion is like the world, but not he watched a skit that have since been modified portrayed the crucifixion of the “appetizer” of the If you like, you may see the to two-in-one packs due to Great Banquet. of the world. Christ and the scene opened his heart to the reality of Lord’s Supper like a “reunion personal hygiene and public A pastor who is God’s love and sacrifice in a dinner” where every member health reasons). The two-in- When we gather together for of the family waits for each one pack is distributed to the the Lord’s Supper, we look clear about goal profound way. other to fellowship with one another over the table. congregation, who then eat the bread from the batch of forward with expectation and eager anticipation setting, yet has That personal encounter became a defining moment It would not be a “reunion” “one loaf”, and drink from the to the Great Banquet on the heart of a which has left an indelible per se if everyone were to “one cup” together because Resurrection Day, where take it on their own over a we are one Body. we will finally and wholly be shepherd. mark on his life to this day. played video on screen or united with our Lord Jesus not physically present. The A Rehearsal for Christ, eating and drinking Born to Methodist parents, The Call Patriarch or the Matriarch of with him and communing Rev Reuben Ng was baptised the Ultimate in Paya Lebar Methodist Pastor Reuben’s journey into the family would not exactly with one another in the Church. He grew up in Toa full-time ministry reflected be satisfied, would they? Brothers and sisters in Father’s kingdom (Matthew Payoh Methodist Church a sense of responsibility for Christ, Holy Communion 26:29; Mark 14:25). and Anglo-Chinese School, his worldly sojourn and his In our Methodist tradition, we is a blessed practice and a so it can be said he is a true- eternal place in the Kingdom take it seriously. An ordained holy sign of our union with That is the day to behold! blue Methodist. of God. Elder (Pastor) plays “host” and Christ. If our Worship Service Hallelujah, Amen! From 1 May 2021, Rev Eddie Ho will be in-charge of the “Celebration” pillar comprising Sunday Services and Hospitality. He will oversee ministries including Worship & Music, Children, Youth, Mandarin, and the Filipino and Indonesian Fellowships. APRIL 2021 . FAITHLINK FAITHLINK . APRIL 2021
8 DEEPER IN CHRIST: SPECIAL FEATURE 9 Reflecting on his own life and ministry, uses these moments to pray daughters! The movie buff named his daughters after he remembers often failing God and entrust his day into God’s favourite movie characters, and His demands of holiness, God’s hands, knowing ultimately combining them with names that God is the one who is in reflecting God’s faithfulness grace and love picking him up in charge of the church. and grace in his life. His daughters are now 19 and every instance to continue being an Love Is The Key 17 years old respectively and instrument for Him. share a close relationship Love is the heart of Pastor with their father. Reuben’s vision for Faith. Reflecting on his own life and the busiest, Pastor Reuben ministry, he remembers often reserves his Sunday evenings He aims to lead our Equipped for Ministry failing God and His demands for dinner with his family, church in reaching out Joining the Methodist of holiness, God’s grace and and spends time with them to the community, each Church came after another love picking him up in every wherever possible. member moving in love as four years of “training his instance to continue being God’s hands and feet. He mind” at Trinity Theological an instrument for Him. He exercises regularly and shared that goals and key First hearing God’s call to full- you can have mantou and College (TTC), but not enjoys a good movie as a way performance indicators time ministry in his final year chill crab?” without God’s lessons in Likewise at Faith, he to rest and recharge. might give purpose and of studies at the Singapore humility, grace and love. recognises that each direction to Faith’s many Institute of Commerce, his Seven years into his trading member in the church From intense westerns to successful events and parents assured him that career, amidst the 9/11 crisis, In 2007, Reverend Reuben Ng should be the hands and Bollywood comedies, we activities, but these would be God would provide and put God’s call came again. This became a Methodist Pastor feet of God and hopes to discovered that Schindler’s nothing if we have not love bread on the table. However, time, Pastor Reuben and his and has not looked back see members grow in their List ranks top of his favourite (1 Corinthians 13). wanting to give his family a wife, Angela, both left their since. Acknowledging the gifts of healing, preaching, movies. He recalled how he higher standard of living, he jobs and joined Rhema Bible call of God in his life, Pastor planning, and organising and a friend left the cinema He also hopes that the carved out a successful and Training Centre (RBTC). Reuben shares that even the events for the community. in tears after watching its community will notice the enriching career as a forex During his diploma studies Pastor-in-charge is placed in scenes of carnage and love our members have trader in a bank, then saying, there, the family was also a local church by the grace He wants to make disciples sacrifice, and oppression of for each other and the “Why settle for bread when blessed with their two of God. of all men and women the marginalized. people around us, and in church and who love that if Faith is suddenly the community around, Pastor Reuben is not only the removed from her location, whatever their backgrounds, Pastor-in-charge of Faith; he is that people would miss religion, race or culture. also the District Superintendent experiencing that love in for District Two of the Trinity community. And within our Staying Connected Annual Conference (TRAC). church family, he hopes To God These roles entail many for us to develop a lifestyle meetings with people, but of love and outreach, In the midst of a hectic he always remembers to stay regardless of how that love schedule, he makes effort connected to God daily. is reciprocated. to balance his time between work, recreation and family. In between visits, or when “This would be the real litmus While his weekends may be driving to appointments, he test,” he emphasised. Lionel is a volunteer writer on the Faith Communications team. Thirty years a student, twenty years an educator, and a lifetime of learning... from the Master Teacher. APRIL 2021 . FAITHLINK FAITHLINK . APRIL 2021
10 DEEPER IN CHRIST 11 GETTING TO KNOW come for mission work autonomously on a day- I are God’s beloved, let’s be to begin! But as I prayed to-day basis, there should secure in that! about it, I sensed the Lord also be connectedness and REV CHAN MEI MING directing me to stay on at the International Baptist Church Singapore (IBCS) and understudy the pastor to learn camaraderie in ministry for the furtherance of God’s Kingdom. Q Share with us the strong influences in your life and ministry. Our New Pastor At Faith. By Esther Teo A about pastoral ministry. I eventually applied for a Pastor Edmund Chan and “transfer of ordination”, his wife, Pastor Anne Chan, Frustrated, I learned from the whilst serving at Ang Mo whose mentoring group Lord that the first call God Kio Methodist Church as I have been in for over 14 places on the life of a person Pastoral Team Member. years, have been major Faith welcomed two new pastors in is the call to be His child; and The Methodist Church in influences in my life. One January 2021, one of whom was Rev the second is to go wherever Singapore recognized my of the things I learnt from He appoints. After graduating Baptist Ordination Credentials Chan Mei Ming, who has served in from the Baptist Theological as of 1 August 2020. Pastor Edmund is this – “Discover the truth; Apply the Q full-time ministry for nearly 20 years. Seminary, the opportunity truth; Reap the benefits; and Faithlink caught up with her to find out arose for me to become the Who is God to you? Pass it on”. Minister of Cell Groups at IBCS, more about her life and influences. A where I had worshipped and That is a good question! God Too often we discover the Q served for years. is not just a transcendent and truth then immediately pass Tell us about your call to full-time immanent being who lives out Q it on, failing to first apply it ministry. Why the switch from there, but He is my Heavenly to our own lives. Not having Baptist to Methodist? Father, and my identity is experienced the benefits A Back then, if someone had told me I would found in the fact that I am His when we obey God’s Word, A become a pastor, I would have told them they [laughs] Everyone seems child. We all say we know that it takes away from our were barking up the wrong tree! [laughs] Actually, so curious about this! I feel we are God’s children, but authenticity as Christians and I am a nurse, by training, and was bonded to and that some distinctives of often this may not go beyond in discipling others. working at the Singapore General Hospital. During the Methodist Church are head-knowledge. this time, I was accorded no-pay-leave to study for helpful in church ministry, I am also a big advocate of my nursing degree in Australia. It was during the and also resonate with I discovered in the reading of literary mentors! Authors like time in Australia that I sensed the Lord’s call to full- me on a personal level. The Return Of The Prodigal Richard Foster, Dallas Willard, time ministry. Connectionalism, for Son by Henri Nouwen that I and Bishop Rueben Job have example, where Methodists am not only God’s child, but ministered to me deeply Eager to fulfil the call and feeling led to be a are interconnected and also His beloved; He loves through their books. For missionary, I contemplated breaking my bond with these connections are built me as much as He loves His those who would like to be SGH. However, the Lord impressed upon me to into the church structure at Son, Jesus. That realization mentored by Jesus, I seriously complete my bond with SGH, teaching me that a the various levels. was life-changing for me, and recommend you read the person’s word is his honour. Slightly dampened but allowed me to rest securely Four Gospels – Jesus’ words, not discouraged, I submitted to His plan and more Baptist churches very much in Him, having “nothing to life, and ministry are recorded than completed my bond as a nurse. function independently, prove, nothing to lose, and in its pages! with their highest point of nothing to hide”. Now, bond-free, I thought the time had come to authority being their Senior/ Rev Chan Mei Ming is in begin serving as a missionary! However, the Lord Lead Pastor and Board/ the third year of her When we know, experientially next impressed upon me to go for theological Council. Connection with Minister-On-Trial (MOT) and personally we are God’s studies. Even though I thought I did not need a other Baptist churches is journey. Let’s pray for God’s beloved, we can rest securely theological degree to do mission work, the time in voluntary, and each local strength and guidance as in our Heavenly Father’s love Seminary was meant to be quality time spent with church is self-governing. she continues to minister to no matter what happens, and Him. Reluctantly, I obeyed. our Faith family and those I believe that as much as seek God’s approval and not churches should function the approval of man. You and around her! Nearing the end of my 3-year Master of Divinity studies, I thought the time must finally have Esther is the youngest volunteer writer in the Faith Comms team. She loves to read and is a bright star in the making! 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12 DEEPER IN CHRIST FA I T H M C . S G / CA M P 13 QUOTABLE QUOTES BY an Mei Ming Rev Ch The first call of a person’s life is to be a child of God; and the second is to go wherever He appoints. ~ On her calling into full-time ministry As much as churches should be adaptive to the spaces where they serve, there should also be collectiveness and connectedness with everyone, a communal support in the furtherance of God’s Kingdom. ONE ~ On becoming a Methodist Pastor 12-13 JUNE God is not just some transcendent imminent ONLINE & being that lives out there, but my Father, and my identity is found in the fact that I am His child. ~ On her identity in God MISSION CHURCH CAMP 2021 IN-PERSON R E G I S T R AT I O N OPENS 18 APRIL APRIL 2021 . FAITHLINK FAITHLINK . APRIL 2021
14 HEARTBEAT: SMALL GROUPS 15 ONE MISSION SMALL GROUP CONFERENCE By Godiva Ysip The One Mission Small and our Small Group Pastor, Chan Siew Leong, Rev Cheng Group Conference (OMSGC) Rev Peter Koh, shared about Kim Leong, Jiamin Choo- was originally scheduled discovering and embracing Fong, Wilson Lau, Ruth in July 2020 but due to our One Mission. The eight Lew, Esther Ong, Janice the COVID-19 pandemic, it English breakout sessions Poh, Anna Tan, Pearly Sim, was postponed indefinitely. were conducted on Saturday, The Tacklebox (TTB) Youth However, our church life and held concurrently with Leaders: Christiana Chan, continued even in the midst the Mandarin plenary and Adele Tan, Chloe Ting and of this pandemic. After six breakout sessions. Joseph Wong, and Small months of waiting, our Groups, Heritage 1 & 2 and One Mission Small Group The OMSGC 2021 team of River of Life. Conference was held on Pastors, Parish Leaders, and Friday and Saturday, 22 and Small Group (SG) Committee Let us continue to partner 23 January 2021. Members, thanks all God as He accomplishes participants and volunteers His work through us – His The English Plenary was who attended or served Church – and to those He livestreamed via Faith’s at the conference. We are has placed among us, just YouTube channel on Friday also deeply appreciative to around the corner, along the evening. Our Pastor-in- the team of speakers who street, and across the regions charge, Rev Reuben Ng, helmed the various sessions: beyond our borders! Godiva is a Pastoral Team Member for Small Groups and also oversees Baptism and Membership at Faith. New post-OMSGC equipping resources under Small Groups are now available at our church website https://www.faithmc.sg/portal/. Contact your Parish Leader should you need notes and/or an in-depth equipping session for your Small Group! Other OMSGC 2021 conference details are available here: https://faithmc.sg/faithlink. APRIL 2021 . FAITHLINK FAITHLINK . APRIL 2021
16 HEARTBEAT : DISCIPLESHIP & NURTURE 17 love one another just as that they not to be sin- young. I have not known life our Lord has loved us (John focused, or think of it as a without depression until the 13:34) and the church should spiritual/moral failure. Instead, last few years. I hide it very be a safe space for them to it should be person-focused, well, as many who struggle talk about it without stigma. helping the person to see with mental health issues It is therefore imperative God’s grace and hope. This often do. Most would not that we help to create a is more than just telling them suspect I was depressive safe environment within the that you would pray for them unless they were closer to church for our members to or simply quote Bible verses. me since I generally function open up and feel loved and Being person-focused means well at work. “Difficult” is an accepted. This allows them to investing lots of time for them understatement to describe receive healing. to be assured of our care, our that period of my life. It was presence and our attention. not easy to open up about my CONVERSATIONS@FAITH: TH: The statistics are indeed a concern. Behind these numbers are individuals Knowing they are being prayed for and receiving Bible verses are encouraging but depression in church. I have been on the receiving end of clichéd responses such as “I MENTAL HEALTH suffering, and sadly, many only when it is being shared will pray for you,” “you need times they remain alone and in the context of a caring and to trust God more,” or “don’t misunderstood. Furthermore, authentic relationship. let the devil take away your these individuals have families joy.” They were well-meaning, By Khoo Tse Horng and loved ones who need TH: Indeed, while we all have but these responses actually the necessary support in good intentions, we need shut me up. The Discipleship and Nurture Committee Professor Leslie Lim who spoke on Mood knowing how to provide to be sensitive in how we (D&N) conducted its second session of the Disorders, Dr Ken Ung on Creating a Safe care. So, for our church to journey with someone who Being a church staff made Conversations@Faith* (C@F) series on 29 Environment, Ms Audrey Yeo on Suicide, Mr be an environment that is is hurting. One disturbing it tougher as there was August 2020. Chong Ee Jay on Addiction, and our resident safe for everyone, it has to point I learnt was that even apprehension and anxiety counsellor, Ms Chong Mingli who conducted start with us. We need to be a pastors don’t feel safe sharing over my colleagues, leaders The focus for the second session was on the Youth workshop. safe space for those who are their mental health struggles. and pastors’ response, not to Mental Health and featured an impressive struggling, and for those who It indicates that the church mention how the members line-up of speakers who covered a wide range Below is a conversation between Khoo need to feel safe when they is really not a very safe would think. Should someone of related topics. Pastor Chua Seng Lee, Tse Horng, Chairman of D&N at Faith and are vulnerable. environment to be vulnerable with mental health issues Deputy Senior Pastor of Bethesda Bedok- Tammy Ang, Pastoral Team Member (D&N) for church leaders. work in the church? I was Tampines Church, was the plenary speaker. on the urgency for the topic of mental What was one thing at this and still am every bit as The workshop speakers included Associate health for our church. C@F session on Mental Health In one study by a Christian competent as anyone of that resonated with you? group, only 65% of church them and would not want leaders surveyed felt that them to give me concession TA: Pastor Seng Lee the church was a safe place on their expectations on my Tse Horng (TH): Tammy, what were the people experienced some form of mental emphasised that “our mental to talk about mental health work. I did not want to be reasons for having Mental Health as the focus disorders (mood, anxiety, addiction, etc) [2]. illness doesn’t define us; God issues. Even more concerning made to feel like a liability of the second Conversations@Faith series? One in 11 youths is affected by depression. defines us”. It was extremely is that only 28% of church staff because they thought I was liberating and comforting to felt equipped to help someone “siao” (insane) or that I was Tammy Ang (TA): According to statistics, the On top of the common addiction to be reminded that not even with mental health issues. using it as an excuse. I have suicide rate among our youths and elderly is substances and pornography, there is a rise our mental state should felt very misunderstood and a great concern. There were 400 reported in cases of cyber addiction. Looking at these define who we are. Our Tammy, I understand decided to hide it even more. suicide cases in 2019, of which 71 were in statistics, we are aware that there are fellow identities rest in God alone! you had experienced Suppressing it definitely did their twenties [1]. Based on a study by the brothers and sisters at Faith who also struggle depression before. Would not help the condition. Institute of Mental Health (IMH), one in seven with mental health issues. We are called to The other point that you like to share with us was comforting was the your experience? TH: Thanks for opening [1] https://www.channelnewsasia.com/news/singapore/suicide-sos-samaritans-singapore-youths-aged-20s-12985146 emphasis on those who were up and being vulnerable, [2] https://www.imh.com.sg/uploadedFiles/Newsroom/News_Releases/SMHS%202016_Media%20Release_FINAL_web%20upload.pdf journeying with persons TA: Unknown to many, I Tammy. I must confess that struggling with mental illness, had depression since I was being a co-labourer with you Conversations@Faith is a series of talks organised by the Discipleship & Nurture ministry. The aim is to address topics of interest etc… [description will be updated] APRIL 2021 . FAITHLINK FAITHLINK . APRIL 2021
18 HEARTBEAT : DISCIPLESHIP & NURTURE 19 in D&N for so many years, I • Accept them as they are, listen in silence. We have did not have any clue that you connect with the person, to resist offering answers, had depression or even asked and feel the pain with the comments, or our thoughts. enough about your state person. When the person All we should attempt to of mental wellbeing. It is so feels you are there, it do is to empathize with the important that we take time really helps the person to person, and acknowledge the to do that for one another, carry the “load”. By feeling agonising pain that they since, as a church, we are their pain, trust is built and are experiencing. called to love one another. I when the time is right, the truly believe that loving one person would be more What would be very helpful is another requires not just receptive to seeking help. to offer an open channel and goodwill but knowledge, skill, just be with them. Educate and time. • Phrases such as “I yourself. Learn all you can understand” are not about the person’s condition. Could you share with us how helpful because one Sign up for a course. Learn we can better love and care will not be able to fully basic listening skills. for those among us with understand what the mental health issues? What other person is going TH: These are indeed very interest to serve. It may TA: To my fellow brothers and TA: Yes, certainly. To those would be useful for members through; and that is ok. useful tips and reminders. I help to ask the person if the sisters, there is hope in the who are helping a loved one, in the Small Groups to take So try to avoid using do believe the sense of work or ministry is within condition and in the struggle it is a tough journey. Do not note of? this phrase. purpose or mission is their capacity to manage. you face. Even when healing give up, even if it may feel important for a person. Our Ministry leaders should is not complete or does not like three steps forward and TA: The culture of capitalistic • Do not be in a hurry to purpose energises us. In not decide for that person come quickly, the Lord will two steps back at times. You productivity has influenced offer solutions, quote your opinion, can a person unilaterally. Honesty and find ways to bring comfort are important to them. But the church so greatly that Bible verses, or try to fix with mental health issues still authenticity builds trust. Open and healing to us. Take the please protect and take care we compromise on human the person. You may not serve God? conversations on how we first step to talk to someone of yourself by not doing this relationships, even in church be able to do anything could support each other you trust, and seek help; there alone as well. It is important sometimes. When someone practical for the person in TA: Definitely! I believe while serving together will is no shame in that! to be aware of your own state gets physically wounded, we that moment. all of us can serve unless help each person grow and of wellbeing. Seek support in would not tell the person to the person’s condition is gain confidence. We need More importantly, do not your journey. ignore the pain and not think • Never put ourselves on debilitating or unstable. journey alone. Ask God to to be sensitive when serving about it., would we? So why a pedestal – as if we Otherwise, allowing the lead you to the right person if TH: Thank you, Tammy! alongside persons with would we tell someone who is know everything. person (if the person is the first person you reached mental health issues. Look struggling with emotional pain willing and able) to serve, can out to is not receptive. This To the rest of our Faith out for signs and understand to ignore the pain and expect • Do not trivialise their facilitate the healing process. may be the thorn that we family, D&N will continue when they need time out. that they would feel better by experiences by saying But each person will differ need to live with but God’s to provide conversations just not thinking about it? statements like “never in the capacity or the roles presence is with us, and TH: That is very assuring. I and equipping opportunities mind, everyone goes they serve in. The church our Hope is in the God who remember reading the late cares for us. Recognise that to help us be faithful Here are some suggestions through it,” “it will should recognise that these Henri Nouwen, who had the journey for each one of disciples of Christ, in loving (from personal and others’ be okay,” “just pray persons with mental health been through depression, us is different, but don’t give and caring for each other. experiences) that would la” or “all families are issues, are serving even in who wrote, “The main up as we make sense of our With a strong culture of be helpful: dysfunctional.” While their brokenness. Yet despite it may be helpful to their challenging state, they question is not how can we situation. care and trust, we will be • Listen with your heart. normalise the situation, can still offer their gifts and hide our wounds… but how more able to help one When someone shares such statements mostly strengths to bless the church can we put our woundedness TH: Thanks, Tammy. That is in service to others”. Could another grow in Christ. You deeply and openly, it trivialise the experiences and others. encouraging. How about a you give a shoutout to those shoutout to those who are are welcome to write to means that the person of the one suffering who are struggling with journeying with their loved me (tsehorng@gmail.com) is trying to trust you. from depression. There is a need for honest Listening with your heart conversations and patience mental health issues? ones and friends? with ideas! means listening in order to It is perfectly fine to let to journey with the person understand their emotions, the person know you have who is struggling and who Tse Horng has been blessed by the ministry of Faith’s people and his Small Group, Barnabas, since 1982. He attends the 11.15am service with his wife, Bee Leng, and his children are in the church’s children and youth ministries. He is a Principal of a mission school and serves as the Chairman of worries, and beliefs. no words to offer, or to has already expressed an Nurture and Discipleship at Faith. He hopes to receive comments at tsehorng@gmail.com. APRIL 2021 . FAITHLINK FAITHLINK . APRIL 2021
20 HEARTBEAT : FAMILY LIFE HEARTBEAT : FAMILY LIFE 21 THE EVERY SEASON COUNTS we were presented with unless we are transformed a thought-provoking by the Holy Spirit first. view: In fulfilling IMPORTANCE those aforementioned responsibilities, we were not When we are immersed in the Holy Spirit, we will Did you know that there is actually an “SOP” in fathering a child? Here’s During this session, a participant from Faith commented that he wished OF FATHERHOOD building a Christian home then begin to realise God what participants learnt someone had told him this which focuses on worship in us, and progressively during one session: earlier because his child had and prayer as a family; we God with us, and already grown up and he Family Life reports on The World Needs a Father were instead building a eventually us in God. Only (1) Making a mother happy had missed many windows which was conducted online. By John Woon “secular” home that focuses then can we release the during conception of opportunity. However, on studies and successes, Spirit of God in us to our phase promotes faster participants also realised and in where Christians live. family and to the world. In growth of the baby. that there are teachable In November 2020, 15 fathers Fatherlessness And The Upon reflection, we had this way, we become the moments at every stage of our from Faith Methodist Church indeed “outsourced” the Cry Of Our Children light of the world, a city (2) The first thousand days children’s lives. When these attended the TWNAF (The spiritual development of that is not hidden, giving of a baby’s life is key to opportunities present World Needs A Father) online Most people may assume our children to the church. light to everyone in the developing his or her themselves, fathers must course. The sessions were led that the role of a father is We had failed to be spiritual house (Matthew 5:14). brain potential. be prepared to provide by Cassie Carsten and was held not that difficult a task: He fathers in our family, and this good support to their over four consecutive weeks. is required to work hard to results in the cry of many of (3) Preschool days is the children because they There were a total of 330 provide funds for the family, our children today. phase where a child are the key participants from 14 countries. strengthen bonding by going develops either to laying for tours as a family during Transforming the Home autonomy or a strong The World Needs A Father school holidays, nurture uncertainty. foundation children’s spirituality by The good news is that the is a worldwide movement in them. sending them to Sunday Bible has the power to to help fathers bring heaven (4) Children explore their School classes, and support transform our homes. We identity and sexuality into their homes. We covered their learning by signing up can bring heaven home, but when they are in fourteen modules in total on topics such as, fatherlessness for enrichment classes. unless we (fathers) change, primary school. and the cry of the children, nothing will change. We every season counts, and the This was what most cannot transform a secular John is a member of the Family Life Committee at Faith Methodist Church. participants thought until home to a Christian home father’s wound. MOVING AHEAD: THE DEEP DIVE SESSIONS A group of 13 Faith Methodist Church fathers have committed to gather every fourth Saturday of the month A FATHER’S heaven home to must step into inner victory. Indeed, two are in 2021 to help conduct The World Needs a Father Deep Dive Series. We are privileged and thankful to partner WOUNDS our families. (Matthew 18:22) better than one, with Pasir Ris Mission Church which will be leading this programme. The purpose for this monthly gathering • The sins of our parents Nursing a wound is not because they have is to journey together in a fathers’ community and to • How successful we sowed years ago may have easy and fathers often fail to a good reward for encourage one another to apply the truths we have father our children created predispositions, but address their wounds because learnt into our daily lives. depends on how successful it need not create they are fighting alone. their toil. For if they We invite you to join us as we aspire to bring heaven we manage to nurse our destination. Therefore, it is important to be fall, one will lift up into our homes. our wounds. accountable in a community his fellow. But woe • Whatever the wound is, we of like-minded fathers because • If we do not address these must own it, and we must we need to practise biblical to him who is alone. For more info on Family Life ministry, contact wounds, it is harder to bring forgive that person, and we principles together. ~ Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 (ESV) Wendy Voon at 6471-9420. APRIL 2021 . FAITHLINK FAITHLINK . APRIL 2021
22 HEARTBEAT : FAMILY LIFE THE WORLD NEEDS A FATHER DEEP DIVE SERIES: OVERCOMING PORN By John Woon What can fathers do to confront the negative impacts of fatherlessness caused by negative impact of the porn pandemic? What safeguards can we have in the home? addiction, the behaviour is compulsive. With porn addiction, we spend an inordinate amount of time watching porn instead of interacting with others or completing important tasks. The consequence is failure X X X The Lure of Porn Why is pornography addictive? Pornography is incognito and it offers us a desirable fantasy world where we can be worshipped like God, with sexual relationships that do not reject us. Instead, it gives an illusion of perfect intimacy. Porn offers us an escape away from a world of failure and into a world where no judgement exists. During the focus group discussion, we attempted to answer two related questions: How should we respond to porn addiction as a church, Battling Porn Colossians 3:5 (NLT) So put to death the sinful, earthly things lurking within you. Have nothing to do with sexual immorality, impurity, lust, and evil desires. Don’t be greedy, for a greedy person is an idolater, worshiping the things of this world. The following are some suggested solutions that we can introduce in our homes to protect our children and help them overcome the addiction of porn. Here is a systematic HEARTBEAT : FAMILY LIFE set in place a system of accountability. Second, we can replace the time-alone moments where porn might be watched, and replace it with some other positive habits. And finally, we should educate our children (and us) to run from unhelpful situations, and remove all things that might trap us. 23 and guilt. and secondly, what safeguards approach: First, we should These were some of the can we put in place for our recognise the triggers, and (Refer to the chart above for more information.) questions being discussed How do we know that we are children to protect them during our Zoom focus addicted to pornography? against porn? group discussion on 27 Here are some signs: In closing, I find this song “We Fall Down” by Bob Carlisle, especially meaningful as I remember February as part of The One of the safeguards that the families who are tackling this challenging issue in their homes and in our journey of faith: World Needs a Father Deep • Craving to watch porn we can set up in our home Dive Series. • Failed attempt to cut down is for fathers [and mothers] or control watching porn to set a godly example. The Cursing every step of the So when he saw a priest who ‘Cause if the priest who fell Pornography addiction only thing necessary for the way, he bore a heavy load walked, for once, beyond the could find the • Failure to complete major can seriously damage triumph of evil is for adults to To the market ten miles away, iron gate Grace of God to be enough relationships and take tasks at work, church, the journey took its toll He said, “tell me of your life Then there must be some do nothing. We believe that precedence over important school, home there is no easy solution, it And every day he passed inside the place” hope for the rest of us functions and responsibilities • Having social problems takes a lot of accountability, a monastery’s high And the priest replied There must be some hope left in our lives. If we have a porn because of porn and if we are willing to submit cathedral walls We fall down, we get up for us to God, we believe the Holy And it made his life seem We fall down, we get up We fall down, we get up Spirit will work in us. And if meaningless and small We fall down, we get up We fall down, we get up we are willing to be open to And he wondered how it And the saints are just We fall down, we get up our spouse, we believe our would be to live in such the sinners And the saints are just spouse will go through this a place Who fall down and get up the sinners together with us. Remember, To be warm, well fed and at Who fall down and get up Disappointment followed no wound is so deep as to be peace, to shut the world away him home, out of the reach of Christ’s he’d hoped for so much more redeeming grace. But he saw himself in a light he had never seen before If you are trying to overcome addiction to porn or you need some help with your child, we invite you to contact Lionel Chan from Family Life at 9642-2512. APRIL 2021 . FAITHLINK FAITHLINK . APRIL 2021
24 HEARTBEAT : MANDARIN MINISTRY 25 EVERLASTING BLESSINGS AND PEACE Our Mandarin Ministry celebrates the Lunar New Year with an evangelistic Service. By Claire Yeh Also known as Lunar New Year and limitation of people was successful. We had or the Spring Festival, Chinese allowed in gatherings. a total of 158 attendees, New Year is undoubtedly including volunteers who the most important event in Despite these restrictions, our served at the event. Our the Chinese calendar, and Mandarin Ministry Committee invited speaker, Reverend is traditionally celebrated by prayed and decided to continue Sophia Tan preached Chinese all over the world. with our annual Chinese New powerfully on “Everlasting Year Harvest Service on Sunday, Blessings and Peace” based C Chinese C New Year in 2021 14 February 2021. on Job 22:21. was very different for those M celebrating M in Singapore due All glory be to God, our We rejoice and give all glory Y to Y the coronavirus pandemic. application to hold the to our Lord Jesus for one There were many restrictive event with a maximum salvation case. To Him be all CM measures MC like social distancing capacity of 250 attendees glory and praise! MY YM Claire is the Assistant Pastoral Team Member for the Mandarin Ministry and CY YC Outreach and Social Concerns Ministry. CMY YMC K K 年年纳福,岁岁平安 供稿人:叶冯清颜 华人新年,又称春节,无疑是 尽管如此,我们的华语事工委 我们的特邀讲者,陈鸾卿牧 农历中最重要的日子,是全球 员会在祷告后,决定在2021年 师,以约伯记22:21和主题「 华人普天同庆的传统节日。 2月14日按原定计划举行我们 年年纳福,岁岁平安」,有力 的年度农历新年布道会。 地证道。 由于冠状病毒大流行,2021 年的农历新年与往年大不相 我们成功申请到举办250人的 我们为一位朋友得救恩欢喜, 同。我国实施了各种安全措 活动许可,荣耀归于上帝。我 一切荣耀归于我们的主耶稣! 清颜是华语/外展与社区关怀事工的助理教牧同工。 施,如安全社交距离与限制 们为当天出席的158名会众与 愿一切荣耀和赞美归于祂! 聚会人数。 志工感谢上帝。 APRIL 2021 . FAITHLINK FAITHLINK . APRIL 2021
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28 HEARTBEAT : MISSIONS 29 SERVING WITH L VE A Digital Mission Trip to Shwepyithar, Myanmar. By Janice Lim Serving with Love”, as well as bandwidth and adequate IT home visitations. equipment to provide optimal participation for over 100 children and youths. We also now our testimony that with understanding of loving God Planning a Virtual God, all things are possible! through their actions. Mission Trip made contingency plans in case of power outage (which is not uncommon) at the orphanages. After weeks of meetings, “Visiting” Singapore In early October, the team Finally, we arranged to have IT preparation, synchronized from Myanmar leaders and our missions enablers and translators who prayer sessions and ministry volunteers met over could provide support before rehearsals, the big day The highlight on the second Zoom to plan the programme, were able to conduct our and during the 2-day event. finally arrived. Besides the day of the virtual trip was with much thought being given first ever Virtual Mission Trip participants from the five a video called “All About to how we could overcome For most of us, the year 2020 for the children’s home in With the above considerations homes, we had 21 volunteers Singapore”, a compilation of the constraints posed by a has been a year like no other. Shwepyithar, Myanmar via in mind, the team decided to (20 in Singapore and 1 from short videos contributed by virtual setting. Hence, we The COVID-19 pandemic Zoom on 26-27 December pre-record various segments of Canada) calling in on Zoom our Singapore volunteers and planned the programmes such brought about massive 2020. COVID-19 may have the Bible camp: Bible lessons, with much anticipation. The slickly stitched together by that they were creative, could changes to the way we live, hindered us from travelling worship, and skits. We played program started promptly at one of our ministry volunteers, promote engagement and work, study, socialise, attend to meet our Myanmar friends the recorded videos that came 10am Singapore time (8:30am Zhimin. This 10-minute video interaction over Zoom, and church and travel. However, in person for the year, but with simultaneous translation in Myanmar). was meant to bring the prepared Bible lessons that our even though it brought God gave us the technology, during the event itself. This Myanmese children on a virtual young Myanmarese friends numerous businesses and manpower, expertise and meant more systematic What followed was a full day of trip to Singapore and see what could relate to. activities to a standstill, our equipment to share His Word preparatory work was required Bible lessons on the theme of our day-to-day life is like. Sovereign God has continually and love with the children and of the organisers, orphanage God’s Love, shared by several We were also mindful of shown that He reigns, His work youths in the various homes. home leaders and volunteers Singapore volunteers via video The children had the chance logistical challenges, including never stops and His Word is from both countries. or Zoom. The Myanmese to view Singapore’s places of the observance of safe not chained. In keeping up with our children also recapped their interest, schools, wet markets, distancing measures in both previous Acts 1:8 trips, this learning points and shared hawker centres, parks, Faith It is indeed by God’s generous virtual trip included a Bible Singapore and Myanmar. We Spreading God’s Love had to ensure that the five with us their takeaways. It was Methodist Church, how we provision that we, together camp with the theme, By the grace of our generous heartening to hear many of commute, where we exercise orphanages had Wifi network with our partners in Myanmar, “Meeting God Face to Face – God, this virtual mission trip is them share about their deeper and pursue our hobbies. The connection with sufficient APRIL 2021 . FAITHLINK FAITHLINK . APRIL 2021
30 HEARTBEAT : MISSIONS HEARTBEAT : MISSIONS 31 A DIFFERENT Christmas Celebration By Brenda Tang media team also worked We are indeed thankful for the opportunity to continue to really hard to put together a serve with love and to connect with our Myanmese field With the sudden uncertainty of life in 2020 caused by the summary video of the activities partners despite the challenges of 2020! COVID-19 pandemic, online missions became the new way of from Day 1, showcasing the outreach. With borders shut and leisure air travel coming to a children’s happy faces and Here are some reflections from the participants of the halt, we had to adapt to the situation and find creative solutions their craft works. two-day virtual trip: to continue to reach out to and minster to the children in Nujiang village, Myanmar. However, challenges arose with the limited After watching the videos, I have found this year’s The most important network infrastructure in the Nujiang village. we proceeded to our virtual home visitations by going Bible lesson, craftwork lesson God has and home visit held over taught me is, if we Each December over the past few years, the Tacklebox (TTB) into breakout groups with Zoom really helpful. have the skills and ministry has been spreading the Christmas joy and reaching out the five orphanages. During The children could knowledge to help to the children through activities such as carolling and a concert the breakout sessions, we for the village children. Despite the physical restrictions, different managed to improvise experience and apply the others, it is useless resources were tapped on last year to continue spreading the familiar activities which lessons learnt in practical without love. So even Christmas joy and message to the children. we would usually conduct and spiritual ways. if we have no wealth, during our actual trips, such Pastor Kyaw San, we still have the strength The 2020 Tacklebox Year 4 leaders came together to record a as, song performances by Orphanage leader of FCC to act on the basis Christmas message through video on Zoom. The message of the children and games. We of love to help others. God’s love and encouragement for the children to continue being also had a dialogue session The most important Cherry, 16-year-old girl the salt and light of the world was sent in parts via Facebook where the children shared their reflections, testimonies lesson God has from FCC Messenger to the teaching leaders in the centre. and thanksgiving. taught me is to love God with all my heart. Be intentional in serving In addition, gift packs containing notebooks filled with written God when doors open words of encouragement to each child were couriered to one of Reaping in Joy Cherry, 14-year-old girl the teaching leader’s house in Lashio. The teaching leaders then from Makarios Home for us to serve, especially brought the video to the children’s houses to reach out to the It was a joy hearing so giving away our time. families while waiting for the gifts to arrive in Lashio. many thanking God for His I learnt to love others Jessie, regular protection and granting them even though we are Acts 1:8 tripper The COVID-19 pandemic and infrastructure challenges did not the opportunity to delve not physically stop the youths from reaching out to the children in Nujiang. deeper into His Word or present with them. Even more with the ongoing pandemic, we wanted to spread the spend time with their families Lee Lian, regular festive cheer to the children. Even though we could not celebrate during the lockdown. On the Acts 1:8 tripper the festive season in person, we connected in spirit. other hand, some also shared how they felt isolated and We thank the Lord for the opportunity to continue reaching out bored when schools were Janice is a regular Acts 1:8 tripper to Shwepyithar, Myanmar. She is part of Grace Vision Small Group and and connecting with the children in Nujiang. closed for most of 2020. enjoys travelling and reading. Brenda is part of Echadh Small Group and serves in the Missions Committee. She enjoys engaging the youth to explore mission fields locally and globally. APRIL 2021 . FAITHLINK FAITHLINK . APRIL 2021
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