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E D I TO R S’ L E T T E R D E LAWAR E • MAR CH 2020 VITAL INFORMATION FOR A VITAL LIFE® S pring is finally here! Even though we really haven’t had very much of a winter (I think my spring bulbs started popping up in January), I’m still always so hopeful about the new beginnings the EDITOR IN CHIEF season brings. That’s why we thought what better way to continue our Karyn Cortez Vital Life series on growth and new knowledge than by helping you karync@vitalmagonline.com to train yourself to look at the people, places and things around you in a brand new light…through photography. Sometimes it seems that C R E AT I V E people today are so enthralled with taking selfies and documenting every little thing they ART DIRECTOR do that they’re missing out on really “seeing” the exquisite beauty of the world around us. Heidi Atwell Check out the resources on page 3 for inspiration for your creativity, go grab a camera (or your phone) and see what you can see! C O V E R S T O RY PHOTOGRAPHY This month we’re introducing you to Erik Bashford and Holly Henderson-Smith of Pan- Nikki Shaw tano Real Estate. They’re Delaware’s Certified Senior Real Estate Specialists and your go-to people if you have any questions whatsoever about buying or selling a home in Dela- ware. They’re dedicated to helping the community and have the connections to help you Vital! Magazine is every step of the way! Learn more about them on pages 8 and 9 (and don’t forget to cut out published monthly by and keep their Resource Corner!) Vital Media LLC. Articles are intended for general information purposes Know anyone who has their medical marijuana card? Don’t get that confused with CBD. only and should not Although CBD oil can come from marijuana, it can also come from hemp. You don’t need replace your personal a medical marijuana card to buy CBD oil derived from hemp. It’s non-psychoactive, so advisor’s advice. you can’t get high. But you can get relief from nausea, sleeplessness and a host of other ail- Any reproduction in part or ments. Your primer on CBD is on page 5. in whole of any part of this publication is prohibited without express written And finally, as the poem goes: consent of the publisher. The spring is sprung, the grass is riz. Wonder where the boidie is. Vital! Magazine 4556 Simon Road Wilmington, DE 19803 Grab your camera and go find him! 302-544-0684 www.vitalmagonline.com Happy March! Karyn and Heidi Unsolicited material in the form of article contributions and community notifications are welcomed and are considered intended for publication. Upon VITAL INFORM ATION FOR A VITAL LIFE ® VITAL INFORM ATION receipt such material becomes the FOR A VITAL LIFE ® property of Vital Media LLC and ® L LIFE FOR A VITA RMATION VITA L INFO VITAL Sarah Fleetwood INF OR MATIO N FO R A VITAL 99 Years is subject to editing. Material will LIF E ® Delaware Young and Hospice Loving LIFE! be returned if accompanied by a How You Live We’re About self-addressed, stamped envelope. Vital Media LLC will not knowingly Country House accept any advertising in violation Expansion of History in the Making Family: Make Train Your Brain: The Best U.S. equal opportunity law. Getting Fit: 5 Financial Grand Plans The Will Power Lower Interest Lifelong Place to G 7 Signs l Work Out Tasks to Tackle by Year-End for the Holidays to Exercise RatesCan Ruin Retirement Learning: et Better ring: Sel Without Weights Page 12 Page 3 Skills for 2020 It's Time to Page 5 Healthy Hea nger Page 12 Poor Postu Page 7 Page 3 y Lead to Po re Can 19 DECEMBER 20 Float Your Wa The Game Cha 6Page or Health Test Drive to Fitness Page 5 Your JAN UARY 2020 BER 201 9 Page 5 Retiremen Page 3 NOVE M t Lasting Lo Pag e7 Lives Onve Want Home Delivery? Page 8 FEBRU ARY 2 Visit vitalmagonline.com to subscribe or call 302-544-0684 020 2 MARCH 2020
YO U R V I TA L L I F E ELEVATE The Art of Your Lifestyle! Photography March 20th is the first day of spring! And what better way to welcome warm weather than to get outside and photograph Mother Nature in all her glory? These days it’s all too common to hear complaints that people spend too much time taking pictures of their experiences instead of living them. The thing is, the pho- tographs play an important role in you. Why not aim for a part-time gig allowing people to hold on to memo- on the side? ries and give the rest of the world a 7 peek into their lives. Photography brings you clos- er to your natural spirituality. Why take up photography? It makes Look around at the wonders your life better! of nature. You simply can’t help but understand how very small you are 1 Photography affords immor- while considering how very vast and tality. Don’t believe it? Look majestic the world really is. at all the old photographs your 8 mom or grandmother had around. Photography lets you see Some of us are even lucky enough things that you may never to have photographs of great-grand- notice otherwise. The play of At The Summit Senior Living we believe parents. What a difference between the lively, natural photographs to- colors, the interactions of people and things, a fleeting moment that will that every day should be enhanced with day and the stiff, formal pics from a live forever. lifestyles that are designed with our century ago! 9 Photography preserves new residents and their families in mind. Dine 2 Photography documents your and old memories. Think of journey through life. From the wife or husband who has out every day, celebrate with activities your childhood pictures to lost a spouse. Or the child who lost a parent. With pictures not only can your child’s pictures to your grand- and events, and let us make a great child’s pictures. From first smiles to they have no fear of forgetting their loved one’s face, but can remember impression with housekeeping and first steps to first dates, your life can be documented and preserved. exactly what was going on when that maintenance included. picture was snapped, cementing the 3 Photography is a wonderful memory forever. All our community is missing is you! stress reliever. I mean, really, how much can you concen- Get started! trate on that all-consuming problem There are plenty of websites around Schedule Your FREE Lunch & Tour! when you turn your focus instead to the petals of a flower, the wings of that can help you get started without having to plunk down big bucks for a butterfly, the graceful curves of a photography classes. Google “Learn Summit majestic mountain, or the dimples of photography” or visit these websites a smiling baby? and use these search terms within THE the site: 4 Photography inspires your imagination. Make connec- 1 Canva.com tions in your world that oth- Search for “20 effective ways to learn erwise might be lost. Just imagine photography without going to pho- how the cracks in the sidewalk sur- tography school.” rounding a couple’s shadow convey 302.635.9024 how solid their connection is, even in the midst of this crazy, cracked up 2 Adorama.com Search for “Learn Photography.” TheSummitRetirement.com world. 3 Adorama.com 5850 Limestone Road, Hockessin, DE 19707 5 Photography as a career is Search for “10 Best Free Online INDEPENDENT LIVING | ASSISTED LIVING | MEMORY CARE possible for anyone with a Photography Courses.” true passion for it. There are Prices, plans and programs are subject to change or withdrawal without notice. Owned and operated by Discovery Senior Living. Void where prohibited by law. ©2019, Discovery Senior Living, SUMM-0052 5/19 classes, books, and websites to teach You’re off to a great start! Next stop: you as much as you want to learn. Photoshop and Lightroom. Have You have your whole life in front of fun! w w w. Vit a lM a g O nline. co m 3
TO YO U R H E A LT H How to Check Yourself for the Deadliest Kind of Skin Cancer A n estimated 1 in 54 Ameri- size, color, or other characteristic. Even though only 15 percent of mel- including the ugly duckling sign in cans are at risk of develop- anomas are nodular, they account self-skin check guidelines. They call ing melanoma in their life- Nodular Melanoma for 50 percent of melanoma deaths the new criteria DUC, or “Do U C time. The aggressive cancer begins If you find an irregularity, see a because they penetrate the skin and Melanoma?” It stands for Different in melanocytes (cells that make the doctor immediately. Completely reach the lymph nodes faster than from other moles, Uneven in any pigment melanin). Often the first removing melanomas before they other skin cancers. way (which includes the ABCDEs sign of melanoma is a change in the grow deeper into the skin is a cure mentioned above), and Changes shape, color, size, or feel of an exist- for melanoma. DUC over time. ing mole. In 1998, French dermatologist Jean- Be aware, though, that not all mel- Jacques Grob proposed a new sys- Be vigilant Protect yourself. Check yourself. anomas meet the above criteria. tem to identify melanomas that slip The good news is that melanoma is It’s recommended that you have Nodular melanoma, an invasive, past the ABCDEs. Grob observed preventable. The easiest ways to pro- a dermatologist do an annual skin aggressive form of skin cancer that that people typically produce moles tect yourself include learning your check. But nobody knows your body grows quickly, can look like a mole that look similar to each other, so a family’s melanoma history, educat- better than you do, so it’s also rec- or pimple. Nodular melanomas are lesion that doesn’t conform to the ing yourself about detection meth- ommended that you periodically harder to diagnose because they body’s usual pattern for moles may ods, and protecting yourself from check your moles yourself. It’s easy don’t fit the traditional ABCDEs of be pre-cancerous or cancerous, even UV rays. That means staying out of to remember what to look for when skin-cancer detection. They’re often if it doesn’t bear the classic signs of the sun when its rays are the stron- doing your self-check if you just re- symmetrical, small in diameter, and skin cancer. Grob called it the “ugly gest (between 10:00 and 2:00), be- member your ABCDEs. The acro- may be only one color. Many are duckling sign.” ing vigilant about wearing sunscreen nym stands for asymmetrical shape, blue-black, but five percent are pink (and reapplying every 2 hours or after border irregularity, color variegation or red so they look like infections or Ashfaq A. Marghoob, director of sweating or swimming) and covering (multiple or uneven colors), a diam- pimples. They can be dome-shaped, clinical dermatology at the Memo- your skin when outside. Just consider eter larger than the size of a pencil with varying color, although likely rial Sloan Kettering Skin Cancer it an opportunity to stock up on some eraser (>6mm), and evolving shape, don’t look like your other moles. Center and his associates suggest brand new SPF 50 clothing! PI C T U R E YO U R S E L F H E R E 4949 OGLETOWN-STANTON ROAD • NEWARK, DELAWARE PH: (302) 998-6900 • CHURCHMANVILLAGE.COM 4 MARCH 2020
CBD Oil: a Primer As more states legalize marijuana regulate biological functions such as usage, cannabis products have be- appetite, sleep, pain responses, in- come increasingly common. Canna- flammation and mood. bidiol, or CBD, is one such product. CBD is a chemical compound of the What are some benefits of CBD cannabis plant that offers therapeu- oil? tic properties without the psychoac- As more research is conducted, new tive “high” typically associated with benefits and uses of CBD are be- cannabis use. CBD products come ing discovered all the time. CBD in many different forms, including has therapeutic properties for all oral tinctures, gummies, and topical age groups. Common uses by older creams. adults include treatment for: CBD use has exploded across the ain management. Because n P nation, and the 50+ group is no ex- CBD reduces inflammation, it ception. According to one study, has been shown to be effective for are some helpful steps to take. First, or light golden, depending on the cannabis use among adults age 50 chronic pain, including arthritis be sure to research the brand or carrier oil used. These products and over increased by 250 percent and sciatica. company you’re interested in. CBD have isolated and removed the between 2006 and 2013. Nearly one products can be bought pretty much cannabidiol and mixed it with a in five Americans over the age of 50 leep problems. CBD can help n S everywhere, from online stores, carrier oil. Isolates strip out ben- has used a CBD product, according insomniacs sleep better; alter- farmer’s markets, dispensaries and eficial cannabinoids and fatty to a recent Gallup poll. even major retailers like Walmart acids that full-spectrum oils con- nately, it can be microdosed dur- ing the day to promote alertness. and CVS in some areas. tain, so you may want to focus on Adults age 65 and above are among full-spectrum oils. the most medicated population However, before buying any CBD nxiety and depression. Stud- n A group in the U.S. They represent products, be sure to research the dibles: These are food items n E ies show that CBD has mood- 12 percent of the total population brand and company. A reputable infused with CBD concentrate, regulating effects that can safely but account for more than a third brand will submit each batch to in- including gummies and syrups. and effectively treat depression. of the country’s prescription drug dependent third-party testing to Edibles take longer to produce There’s evidence to believe that use. As our bodies naturally age, verify the contents and be sure there an effect since they must be ab- CBD can help treat other mood older people are more likely to suf- are no contaminants. Also, make sorbed via the digestive system. disorders such as PTSD and fer from serious health conditions. sure the plants are hemp and grown OCD as well. Therefore, this group could possibly in the USA. While there is currently opicals: CBD-infused lotions, n T see the greatest benefit from CBD no federal regulation for CBD prod- balms or patches are applied di- products. In fact, states that have le- hemotherapy side effects. nC ucts, the U.S. does have specific rectly to the skin. They can help galized cannabis including CBD re- Cancer patients were among the farming practices the industry must with surface-level issues such as liably prescribe fewer opioids, have first group to experiment with med- adhere to. headaches and arthritis. fewer deaths caused by prescription ical marijuana to treat symptoms opioids and fewer people in treat- including nausea, vomiting and Until the FDA steps in to issue CBD oil dosage ment for opioid addiction. loss of appetite. More recent studies guidelines on CBD safety, the onus While a doctor can provide guid- show that CBD can be equally ef- is on the consumer to stay safe, so be ance for your specific situation, a Unfortunately, even though many fective for these symptoms. sure to closely read the label. general guide to ensure seniors’ safe- older adults are taking advantage of ty is to start at 2.5 mg, which is half the benefits CBD has to offer, not ementia. Several studies have n D Using CBD the recommended dose for younger everyone is on board. Many seniors indicated that CBD treatment Oral tinctures, vape pens and edibles adults. Everyone’s metabolism and may still hold onto outdated stereo- may slow cognitive decline in de- tend to be most popular with older experience is different, so it’s im- types of cannabis use, not realizing mentia and Alzheimer’s patients. adults. When shopping around, portant to start slowly and gradually that CBD could significantly im- keep in mind that different forms increase the dose. Older adults are prove their quality of life. In many Is CBD oil safe? of CBD produce different effects, more likely to be taking other medi- cases, CBD may reduce or even re- Research has shown that CBD is and the same product can produce cations and may feel the effects more place pharmaceutical drugs. Here a safe and effective treatment for effects that vary from person to per- quickly due to age. are some answers to questions you many people. Of course, anyone in- son. Keep an open mind that find- might have about CBD. terested in using CBD should speak ing the perfect CBD product may be Over the course of a few days to a with their doctor first, and never a process of trial and error. Here are week, the dose can be increased in What is CBD? stop taking medication without a a few types of products to consider: 2.5mg increments. Physical symp- CBD is short for cannabidiol, one of doctor’s guidance. Like any other toms tend to respond more quickly more than 100 chemical compounds substance, there are some known ral tinctures: CBD oil or hemp n O to treatment than psychological found in the cannabis plant. These interactions between CBD and cer- oil usually contains a food-grade symptoms, so be sure to talk with chemical compounds are called tain medicines or supplements, so be oil such as MCT or coconut oil. A your doctor about your specific cannabinoids and share a similar sure to have a candid discussion with full-spectrum hemp oil offers the symptoms and a realistic outcome. molecular structure to the endocan- your primary care provider. benefits of CBD, plus other valu- Never stop taking any medication nabinoid hormones our bodies pro- able nutrients. without a doctor’s supervision. duce. 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TO YO U R W E A LT H The Stretch IRA is Dead. Time for Plan B. By Bob Carlson, Forbes.com abolished the Stretch IRA. Now, second disadvantage of the Stretch IRA to fund their retirement, and when an IRA is inherited, the ben- IRA was that distributions from Max will have to take Required R emember Stretch IRAs? eficiary has to take distribution of an inherited IRA were taxed to the Minimum Distributions (RMDs). They weren’t really IRAs, the entire IRA within 10 years. That beneficiary just as they would have but rather a strategy used by means the IRA has to be fully taxed been taxed to the original owner, as The Profits form a trust with their people who inherited IRAs as ben- within 10 years and the tax-deferred ordinary income. So, in effect, a ben- two children as beneficiaries. Max eficiaries in order to make the IRA compounding ends. The change also eficiary inherited only the after-tax and Rosie transfer the annual RMDs last as long as possible to take advan- applies to 401(k) plans and Roth value of the IRA. to the trust. There are no gift and tage of its tax-deferred compound- IRAs. Congress wants that money estate taxes because of the annual ing of income and gains. To accom- out of the tax-advantaged IRAs and Fortunately, there are alternatives gift tax exclusion, which is $15,000 plish this, the beneficiary of the IRA subject to taxes. (There are some ex- to shelter your money that some- in 2020. The trust takes out a joint would have as little distributed from ceptions. The 10-year distribution times deliver better results than the and survivor life insurance policy the IRA each year as possible. In the requirement doesn’t apply to a ben- Stretch IRA. on Max and Rosie, naming the trust ideal situation, the investment re- eficiary who is a surviving spouse, as beneficiary. Because of their ages turns would exceed the distributions disabled person, a chronically ill Alternative Strategies and good health, the policy benefit is each year, so the IRA balance would person, a minor child or someone If you don’t plan to use most of a tra- more than $1.4 million. increase over time. The beneficiary fewer than 10 years younger than the ditional IRA during your lifetime, ultimately could use the IRA bal- original IRA owner.) there might be better strategies than Max and Rosie use the RMDs to ance to help finance his or her own to keep the money in the IRA. For make annual gifts to the trust that retirement or to pay for a substantial There were several disadvantages to example, you can distribute the mon- are used to pay the premiums. After expense later in life. the Stretch IRA. One disadvantage ey, pay the taxes and invest the after- Max and Rosie pass away, no matter was that the original IRA owner had tax balance. One advantage is that when that is, the insurance company The Setting Every Community Up a lack of control or influence over the the portfolio can be managed to avoid will pay at least $1.4 million to the for Retirement Enhancement (SE- disposition of the IRA. The original ordinary income taxes on the income trust, and the trust will use it for the CURE) Act, which became law owner might have intended for the and gains. Instead, the earnings could beneficiaries or distribute it to them December 17, 2019, effectively balance to benefit the heirs in the be tax-advantaged long-term gains as called for in the trust agreement. wiped out this tax-saving strategy. future, but most IRA beneficiaries and qualified dividends. You also The life insurance benefit is tax free Among many provisions of the Act, distributed and spent IRAs within a could use any losses to offset gains to the trust and also tax free when one provision of the SECURE Act few years after inheriting them. The to minimize taxes. Your result could distributed to the beneficiaries. The be a higher after-tax return earned by children also receive any amount Problem House? investing the money outside the IRA. that’s left in the Profits’ IRA. Another benefit of this strategy is The life insurance guarantees the Unwanted Inheritance? Problem Tenants? that when your heirs inherit the as- trust receives more than is currently Facing Foreclosure? House Needs Repairs? sets, the tax basis of any appreciated in the IRA. The amount the trust Behind on Payments? Owe Taxes? assets are increased to their current eventually receives doesn’t change fair market value. When you buy with market fluctuations. Max and Fair price offer for your house and hold stocks, mutual funds or other investments, the gains that Rosie can draft the trust agreement to direct when distributions will be accrued during your lifetime never Call 302-635-0205 made to their children. Of course, Fas face capital gains taxes. the details depend on individual cir- Closintg A second strategy was explained to cumstances and the type of policy purchased. me by David Phillips of Phillips Fi- nancial Services of Gilbert, Ariz. He The bottom line is that if the Stretch calls it the IRA Leverage Strategy. IRA was part of your retirement and It’s best explained with an example. estate plan, it’s time to revise your plan. The SECURE Act just took Suppose Max and Rosie Profits are away the Stretch IRA from your age 71. Max has a $1 million tra- heirs and is forcing you to consider ditional IRA. They don’t need the alternatives. Time to find a Plan B. 9 Things to Give Up If You Want to Be Happy 1 Complaining 6 Resistance to change 2 Limiting beliefs 7 The need to impress others 3 Blaming others 8 The need to always be right Delaware’s # 1 House Buyer 4 Negative salf-talk 9 The need for other’s approval 5 Dwelling on the past No realtors, no commissions, no closing costs, no fees 6 MARCH 2020
Ways to Effectively Use Grandparent-Owned 529 Plans you’ve earned in your 529 account should be opened in the same state may barely outweigh the loss in aid. as the grandparent-owned 529 plan to avoid recapture rules when funds Average Annual Cost of If the 529 plan is owned by an inde- are rolled over to a different state’s College Statistics and pendent student it will be reported 529 plan. Key Findings as a student asset on the FAFSA and n A verage Total Annual 3 will reduce eligibility for need-based Take a distribution later. If the Cost of Public Colleges: aid by as much as 20% of the asset student will graduate in four $25,290 (in-state) value if the student does not have de- years, grandparents can wait $40,940 (out-of-state) pendents other than a spouse, and by until after January 1 of the student’s as much as 3.29% if the student has second semester of their sophomore n Average Total Annual dependents other than a spouse. So a year in college to take a distribution, Cost of Private Colleges: $10,000 student asset means $2,000 after the student has completed his/ $50,900 less financial aid. Note that assets are her last FAFSA. This is because the n T he majority of students reported as of the date the FAFSA is FAFSA uses the prior-prior year’s in- pay between $6,000 and filed, unlike income, which is based come and tax information to calculate $15,000 per year in tuition on the prior-prior year. eligibility. If the student will gradu- for both public and private ate in five years, families should wait S pring can be a busy time of year, schools in the United A grandparent-owned 529 account until January 1 of the student’s junior States. especially for families with year to take a distribution. high-school seniors ready to is not included as an asset on the FAFSA. However, any withdrawal 4 take the next step to college. In addi- pay for college. Another alterna- or distribution from a grandparent- Wait until after junior year or tion to thinking about college accep- tive is to wait until after the student owned 529 to pay for college could graduation. To avoid the hit to tance letters, parents (and grandpar- graduates to take a distribution to reduce the student’s financial aid a grandchild’s eligibility, it’s of- ents) should be thinking about how pay down the student loan debt. by 50% because the withdrawal is ten advisable to wait until the grand- a 529 account can help pay for col- child’s junior year of college (after he lege when your child or grandchild counted as income to the student the next time a FAFSA is filed for or she files their last FAFSA) to help savingforcollege.com may qualify for some level of federal financial aid. financial aid. This means that a $10,000 distribution from a grand- parent-owned 529 plan will reduce All colleges offering federal need- aid eligibility by as much as $5,000. based financial aid require students to complete the Free Application for Federal Student Aid (FAFSA). This disparate impact is simply a Colleges use information from the result of how the FAFSA treats 529 FAFSA to determine a family’s as- account distributions. sets, including a 529 account, to cal- culate a student’s Expected Family The good news is there are planning Contribution. strategies that can help mitigate this potential impact while coordinating The value of a 529 plan owned by grandparent-owned 529s and finan- a dependent student or one of their cial aid effectively. Here are some parents (529 plans do not allow joint helpful 529 planning strategies: ownership) is considered a paren- 1 tal asset on the FAFSA. A (rapidly Change account owner. If the declining…speak to your congres- 529 plan allows, the grandpar- sional representatives!) portion of ent can change the account the value of the account will fall un- owner to the parent. This will mini- der the Asset Protection Allowance mize the reduction in financial aid (the exact amount depends on the the next time you file a FAFSA. parents’ age). Any parental assets Check to see if your state will recap- beyond that amount will reduce a ture state income tax benefits if you student’s aid package by a maximum change the account owner. of 5.64% of the asset’s value. This 2 means that if a parent’s 529 account Rollover 529 plan funds. exceeds the Asset Protection Allow- Grandparents can roll over a ance by $50,000, his child’s finan- year’s worth of funds to a par- cial aid award could be reduced by ent-owned 529 plan. If the rollover $2,820. If the allowance continues occurs after the FAFSA is filed, the to crash (age 48 is the median age funds won’t be reported as an asset of parents of college-age children. on the FAFSA (assuming the funds For these parents, the asset protec- are spent before the next FAFSA is tion allowance has dropped from filed). Distributions will not affect $52,400 in 2009-2010 to $6,000 in aid eligibility because the 529 plan is 2020-2021, a $46,400 decrease) the owned by the parent. It’s important benefits of tax-free investment gains to note, the parent-owned 529 plan w w w. Vit a lM a g O nline. co m 7
CO V E R S TO RY Vital: Pantano Real Estate is well-known though, I discovered I received more joy from A BOUTIQUE in the community. How did your company get its start? PRE: Pantano Real Estate was founded over 15 real estate than from human resources, which led me down a different path. Before becoming a licensed real estate agent, I worked as a contrac- BROKERAGE years ago by Paul Pantano. Paul wanted to serve the greater Wilmington community through a real estate brokerage that exhibited his values of tor for bank-owned properties and conducted home inspections. I began investing in rental properties in Delaware and New York and to this DEDICATED TO excellent customer service coupled with sound real estate decision-making principals. His journey started in the Trolley Square vicinity, day, real estate is my passion. Holly Henderson-Smith: My background is SERVING THE not far from where he grew up in Wilmington, and from there his vision grew. Today we serve thousands of clients throughout the greater in advertising and marketing. Although I’m a native Delawarean, I worked in New York 13+ years as a vice president of advertising and mar- COMMUNITY New Castle County marketplace. As an indus- try veteran with over 30 years of experience, Paul also buys what he sells. And not only is he keting in the fashion industry. After moving back home and starting a family, I chose to use my skills locally and got involved in real estate. invested in our local community, but he’s also The idea of being able to use my background heavily involved in community service, serving to help people with what may possibly be the and leading numerous community-centric or- single most important investment in their life ganizations, all of which contribute to his fresh was a game changer for me. It’s been an amaz- approach to real estate. ing journey so far, and I haven’t looked back. I haven’t yet gotten into investing yet, but my Vital: You use the term “boutique broker- broker’s mantra is “You’ve got to buy what you age” on your website. What exactly does sell!” So that’s on my list in the near future. that mean? PRE: We call ourselves a boutique brokerage Vital: Why are you focused on helping the not because we keep a small team, but because over-50 market? we offer an elevated level of service we feel is Erik: I’ve experienced first-hand how difficult important to many clients. We start by creat- it can be to help a parent downsize while still ing a detailed plan of action for every client, working full time myself. It was overwhelming. Pantano Real Estate has been a fix- tailored specifically to their needs. We include When my parents moved to a 55+ community ture in Wilmington and New Castle services many other agencies charge for, includ- back in 2007, I wasn’t aware of any realtors or County for over 15 years. The bou- ing custom-designed brochures, minor staging professional services I could lean on to help my tique full-service firm is known for and professional photography. By offering a parents move from their house into a condo. more personalized level of service, we really get Now, with the knowledge both Holly and I have, the relationships agents forge with cli- to know our clients and, in many cases, become the things we’ve experienced and the contacts ents, and the pride they take in those friends with them. We take on a lot more than we’ve developed, we focus just as much on edu- relationships. This month we have the just the sale or purchase of a home. We help cating people as we do facilitating their moves. our clients navigate one of the most important pleasure of introducing you to Holly transactions they’ll ever make in their lives, in Vital: What makes Delaware attractive to Henderson-Smith and Erik Bashford, the process creating a bond that remains well so many people? Pantano’s Certified Senior Real Es- beyond settlement. Holly: Delaware really is a Small Wonder! tate Specialists. We think you’ll agree: There are so many benefits to retiring in Dela- it’s easy to see what makes them espe- Vital: How did you two choose the field of ware, it’s hard to know where to start. Delaware real estate? has always been a popular place for people to cially well-suited to help Vital! readers Erik Bashford: I was born and raised in New- retire, not only for people who’ve lived here all with their home buying and selling ark, went to Salesianum and graduated from the their lives, but also for retirees in neighboring needs. University of Delaware. After college, I began states. Ask anyone who moved here from PA, a career in Human Resources. Very quickly, New York or New Jersey and they’ll tell you 8 MARCH 2020
our property taxes are nominal compared to their previous states. Beaches are a short commute no matter where you live, the cost of living is low, and of course, there’s the tax-free shopping. That’s why, over the past decade, we’ve seen the building of more and more 55+ communities and assisted living facilities than you can imagine, with plans to build more in the works. Vital: Can you tell us more about your mis- sion to help seniors? Erik: Nowadays, we more frequently use the term mature or active adults. People aren’t slow- ing down; instead they’re very actively enjoying the fruits of their labor. Our mission is to educate them on all things real estate so they can make in- formed decisions that help pull together a compre- hensive plan of action. Many people we work with haven’t bought or sold a house in decades. The sale a process. As realtors, we’ve also been to a num- this process and that different people need differ- or purchase of real estate can be terrifying – just the ber of homes where the need for additional help ent levels of help. In some cases, we advise on the thought of leaving a home that’s been familiar to and expert advice is apparent. To further support need to hire third-party companies that can as- them all their lives is unsettling. We understand. We our mission, we spent considerable time further- sist with the process. In other cases, the number think of ourselves as the backbone of their support ing our education, and we both are proud recipi- of items to address is minimal, so it’s just about system, connecting them with whomever they need ents of the SRES Certification (Senior Real Estate being a resource for them when it comes to who to help alleviate the stress. Our network of contacts Specialist). This better equips us with the tools we they should call to remove unwanted items, sell spans the widest range possible of services, from need to help our clients make life-changing deci- antique furniture, move furniture, and so forth. move managers to cleanout companies, mortgage sions. After all, their needs, financial means, and But, regardless of the process involved in get- and reverse mortgage providers to senior living re- available options are different than traditional ting from start to finish, we always emphasize the ferral services, home health care providers to elder homeowners. Working with an agent who has this positive, knowing that many clients are downsiz- law and estate planning attorneys, and everything in specific training definitely has its perks! ing because of necessity and not by choice. We’re between. We hold our client’s hand and do a thor- focused on emphasizing the upside of downsizing ough job of bringing them up to speed about what’s Vital: When a client invites you into their and looking forward to making new friends. Our going on in the current market so they can decide home to talk about downsizing, what type of mantra is that saying goodbye to personal items what’s best for them. And sometimes, the best deci- advice do you give them? doesn’t mean saying goodbye to the memories. sion for them is to stay right where they are. Erik: Our approach and our advice depends on so many factors. It’s really a case-by-case basis. Vital: It’s so easy to see you two are not only Vital: What sets you apart from other realtors Everyone’s circumstance is different. When we compassionate, but dedicated to doing the when it comes to helping clients buy or sell first meet new clients, we spend time getting to right thing. That’s so refreshing. If readers are one of, if not the last home they’ll live in? know them on a personal level. It’s very important in the middle of the process of buying or sell- Holly: Aside from both of us genuinely caring for to us to understand their mindset, for instance, if ing a home, are contemplating a move, or just our client’s well-being, we both have personal ex- they’re looking forward to downsizing or if they’re want your advice, how can they get in touch perience dealing with the transition of loved ones struggling with the concept of a move. Our advice with you? and remember vividly the hoops we had to jump also depends on their next home. For instance, are Holly: We’re always just a phone call (or text or through to get them settled. The tasks of figuring they moving to another single-family home, a 55+ email) away! I can be reached at 302-298-2836 or out their options, packing up their life, moving community or an assisted living facility? Down- by email at holly@pantanorealestate.com. Erik them to a new home, and making sure they do well sizing typically involves some level of selling, giv- can be reached at 302-540-8048 or by email at adjusting to the new setting are extremely difficult. ing away or throwing away personal items. We ebashford@pantanorealestate.com. We look for- We’ve been through it. We know what it’s like. It’s understand the need to be compassionate during ward to helping! RESOURCE CORNER We’re here to help make your move easier! We’re proud to work with these local and national resources. Feel free to call us to help you connect. Real Estate Brokerage: Erik Bashford, Pantano Real Estate, 302-540-8048 Holly Henderson-Smith, Pantano Real Estate, 302-298-2836 Reverse Mortgages: Gail Alm, Fairway Independent Mortgage Corporation, 410-868-0423 Elder Law and Estate Planning: Karla Levinson, www.laurencelevinsonlaw.com, 302-656-3393 William Erhart, www.eaels.com, 302-651-0113 Law Office of Kevin A. 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GOIN’ GREEN Climate is what you expect. Weather is what you get. How Climate Change Plunders the Planet We see climate change everywhere— when we grow food is vitally con- such as shellfish and coral, may dustry started to boom. We’re on our in weather patterns, across farmland, nected to our climate’s normal not have enough calcium to grow. way toward 1.5° C by as early as 2030. and throughout plant and animal patterns. Worldwide, farmers are n F orests are more prone to deadly habitats. In fact, 2015 to 2018 were struggling to keep up with shift- Why a half-degree more is such infestations. Milder winters and the four hottest years ever recorded. ing weather patterns and increas- longer summers allow tree-killing a big deal Here, three critical aspects of an in- ingly unpredictable water sup- insects to thrive. Meanwhile, trees A warmer world—even by a half- creasingly warmer planet. plies. Farms are more likely to weakened by prolonged drought degree Celsius—has more evapora- face attacks from weeds, diseases have lower defense mechanisms. and pests, which affect yield. Ex- tion, leading to more water in the More heat alters ice, weather This cycle of warmer weather, treme events also threaten crop atmosphere. Picture a cotton farm and oceans. weak trees and thriving insects is yields, such as through flooding that’s been around since 1960, with According to the United Nations, likely the culprit behind the mas- or reduced water supply. global average temperatures rising by ninety percent of natural disasters sive die-off of 70,000 square miles roughly half a degree since it grew its are weather-related. These are some n W armer, polluted air affects our of Rocky Mountain conifers. health. A warmer atmosphere in- first crop. The increased evaporation high-profile examples of how the creases the formation of ground- This is why fighting climate and additional moisture in the atmo- extra warmth changes climate con- ditions and weather patterns: level ozone (smog) in polluted change is so urgent sphere has led to 30% more intense regions. Smog irritates lungs and In just the past few decades, rising rain during heavy downpours in that n T he cryosphere—the frozen water part of the U.S. Then a hurricane like triggers asthma attacks. Smoke temperatures have worsened ex- on Earth—is melting. A warmer from wildfires further degrades treme weather events, chunks of ice 2018’s Florence—already strength- atmosphere causes the planet’s the air. Extreme summer heat in the Antarctic have broken apart, ened by warmer oceans and higher snowpack, glaciers and sea and means more deaths during heat- wildfire seasons are months longer, seas—dumps this excess rainfall on freshwater ice to melt rapidly, waves. Warmer freshwater makes coral reefs have been bleached, and the farm. The crops are destroyed. contributing to unprecedented it easier for disease-causing disease-spreading mosquitoes are sea level rise. Melting sea ice agents, such as bacteria, to grow expanding their territory. It’s how you go from a half-degree of exposes darker ocean waters, and contaminate drinking water. warming to economic hardship. which absorb more sunlight than Earth has already warmed by about ice—heating the ocean more and n Infrastructure and transportation 1°C since the 19th century, before in- www.edf.org speeding up a relentless cycle of are at risk. Hot weather, flooding melting and heating. and other extreme weather events damage infrastructure, put heavy nT he oceans are getting hotter, burdens on electrical supplies expanding and becoming more and disrupt how we travel and acidic. They are getting hotter commute. because they absorb 90 percent of the extra heat in the climate. This Natural habitats become hostile. shift causes the oceans to expand, contributing to higher sea levels Habitats on land and in the sea are and bleaching coral. Mass coral changing, making them inhospi- bleaching results in the starva- table for some species, while letting tion, shrinkage and death of the others move in and take over. Some corals that support the thousands ecosystems are at risk of collapsing. of species that live on coral reefs. n T he ice Arctic animals need is Meanwhile, nearly a third of car- vanishing. As sea ice disappears, bon dioxide emissions end up in ice-dependent mammals such as the oceans, triggering a chemistry walruses and polar bears struggle change that makes the water more to survive. In 2008, the polar bear acidic, dissolving the shells of sea became the first animal to make creatures. The ocean is almost 40 the Endangered Species Act list percent more acidic than it used of threatened species because of to be. global warming. n W eather is getting more ex- nC oral and shellfish are suffer- treme. Heatwaves are more fre- ing. Coral reefs are highly sensi- quent worldwide. The increased tive to small changes in ocean evaporation of water is like fuel temperatures. The heat stresses for storms, exacerbating extreme the algae that nourish the corals weather events, such as hur- and provide their vibrant colors. ricanes. Rising sea levels make The algae then leave, and the cor- storm surges capable of much als eventually starve—an event greater damage. In more natural- known as bleaching. As coral reefs ly arid areas, droughts and wild- are home to many other species, fires are intensifying. such as fish, their collapse would disrupt the entire ecosystem. 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C A R E G I V E R ’S CO R N E R The 10 Commandments of Caregiving final decisions should take into ac- recommended by her geriatrician, count how all parties involved can was more appropriate. best maintain their quality of life. The Ninth Commandment: The Fifth Commandment: Stand Your Ground Educate Yourself Doctors, social workers, and pro- Knowledge is power. Knowing what fessional caregivers are all just to expect and what options are avail- people, and though they have been able makes it easier to cope with the schooled, you know your loved one challenges one may face. Resources best. Listen to everyone’s advice, are everywhere: books, websites, and if there’s a problem, don’t let it forums as well as caregiver support be ignored. It’s your responsibility groups. Use them. to call attention to the situation. You are your loved one’s voice. The Sixth Commandment: Learn Every Bureaucracy The Tenth Commandment: How many times have we heard Take Care of Yourself someone say, “That’s not my re- Caregiver burnout is a constant By Mimi Pockross, caregiver.com sponsibility”? Whether it’s con- threat. That means eat right, ex- tacting a physician, working with ercise, get enough sleep and take T the Medicare system, managing breaks. Don’t feel guilty about need- aking care of two elderly parents with differing needs medications, figuring out how home ing time to yourself to read, to shop, was not an easy task. My on-the-job training came health care works, filing claims with to get a massage. Whether a family from professionals I met along the way, from living insurance companies or knowing member or friend takes over or you day to day with the challenges that I experienced, and from who does what at the senior living rely on caregiver respite services, others who had gone through this “roller coaster ride of care- facility, the more one knows about you can’t take care of someone else if who to contact and how to proceed, you’re not well yourself. giving.” This is what I’ve learned. the less frustrated everyone will be. There will always be ups and downs The First Commandment: tion, spousal information, birth cer- The Seventh Commandment: in the caregiving process, but if you Analyze Your Personal tificates, marriage licenses, divorce Stay Fluid follow these commandments, there Circumstances agreements, financial statements. It is a better chance that when you look should all be in one place – or at least There are going to be times when back on this stressful time, you will Everyone is different and every- know where the information can be you will need help and support and have comfort in knowing that you one reacts to situations differently; found. Many books are available to the answers will not come quickly. did the best you could, both for your sometimes personalities clash. Some help guide you. I started with one It’s important not to panic and not loved one and for yourself. of us are deniers and refuse to admit notebook and ended with notebooks get mad. A sense of humor really that there is trouble. Some of us are for each parent and a file box filled comes in handy if you can manage needy and expect others to do all with folders labeled by category. to keep yours. If all that fails, take a the things that we can no longer do. few deep breaths, share the burden, Some of us are naïve and just plod or, even though it might be hard, The Third Commandment: along until there is a crisis. Some of take an hour or two away from the us know better but keep putting off Communicate situation. I remember once near the doing anything about the current Whether it’s an ER physician who time of Dad’s passing when I just let situation until it becomes an emer- needs to know your loved one’s situ- loose on the CNA (certified nurse gency. Some of us think we know ev- ation, or your loved one who needs assistant) who couldn’t find Dad’s erything and want to stay in control, to be reassured, or a family member prescription. Turned out it was left making all the decisions. Start the who may have a differing opinion, life in the mailbox. These things are go- family conversation early to assess is better if there is a continuing dia- ing to happen; keep in mind you get personalities, options and who will logue, a respect for different points of more bees with honey. (or will not) help with what. It will view, and a shared objective. be a work in progress. The Eighth Commandment: The Fourth Commandment: Do Your Homework The Second Commandment: Prioritize Don’t make important decisions Organize Is it more important to save money without consulting experts or by Caregivers need all the care recipi- or to have the very best amenities seeking out credible reading materi- ent’s basic information, not just liv- possible? Is it more important to age als. When my mother became more ing wills and powers of attorney. It’s in place with home health aides or and more aggressive, the geriatric social security numbers and comput- to be in a continuing care commu- care manager suggested that Mom er passwords, keys and home mainte- nity? Is it more important for your needed psychiatric help. When I ran nance information, medical history, loved one to stay in their hometown this by the head nurse of her demen- Medicare paperwork. banking infor- or move closer to a child? There are tia unit, she laughed at the thought. mation, safe deposit box information myriad decisions to be made, so list Ultimately, I felt that employing a and more. It should include insurance what’s important to everyone in- psychologist would do more harm policies, important contact informa- volved. At the very minimum, the than good. I decided a sedative, as 12 MARCH 2020
By Madisyn Taylor T here is a popular misconception that we might be able to just wish our dreams into being. Maybe on some other level of consciousness this is the case, but here on earth what we need to do is take action in our lives. Vision is an important companion to our efforts, but it can’t accomplish anything all by itself. When we focus on what we want and ask for what we want, we are initiating a conversation with the universe. Our desires, passionately defined and expressed, bring about valuable and relevant opportunities, which we then respond to by either taking or leaving them. Many of us are afraid to step out into the world and make things happen, and so we hang back, dreaming and waiting and watching. There are times in life when this is the right thing to do, but this phase of inaction must eventually give way to its oppo- site if we are to build our dreams into a reality. This can be really scary, and we may Take Action fail and struggle, but that’s okay because that’s what we’re supposed to do. Waiting for everything to be perfect before we act, or waiting for what we want to be handed to us, leaves us waiting forever. No one expects us to be perfect, so the best thing we can do for ourselves is to get out there and take action on our dreams. In order to make our dreams come One of the hardest parts about having a vision is that when we test it in the laborato- ry of life, it often comes out looking completely different than what we had in mind true,we must take action rather than or, worse, it doesn’t come out at all. If you read the life stories of people who have simply wishing for what we want. brought their dreams into reality, you will hear many stories about this experience. But you will also hear about hard work, taking action, perseverance, and, finally, the successful birthing of a dream. The Best Place to Get Better. BETTER REHAB. BETTER NURSING. BETTER RESULTS. We are one of the largest providers of post acute care in the region, offering a supportive environment with state-of-the-art technologies. Our team works collaboratively to develop an individualized treatment plan for each patient. SKILLED NURSING CARE REHABILITATION AND EVIDENCE -BASED THERAPY COMPREHENSIVE PULMONARY CARE Cadia Healthcare Cadia Healthcare Cadia Healthcare Cadia Healthcare Cadia Healthcare Silverside Pike Creek Broadmeadow Capitol Renaissance 3322 Silverside Road 3540 Three Little Baker’s Boulevard 500 South Broad Street 1225 Walker Road 26002 John J. Williams Highway Wilmington, DE 19803 Wilmington DE 19808 Middletown, DE 19709 Dover DR 19904 Millsboro DE 19966 (302) 478-8889 (302) 455-0808 (302) 449-3400 (302) 734-1199 (302) 947-4200 w w w. Vit a lM a g O nline. co m 13
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