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Contents 4 DEAR YOUNG Minister's Message 14 Narratives of Success WE ARE REDEFINING SINGAPOREANS OUR OWN VERSIONS OF SUCCESS 6 Executive Summary THIS IS OUR TIME 23 Lifelong Learning WE ARE CHANGING COURSE AND LEARNING DIFFERENTLY 27 WE ARE REWIRING Mental Health MINDSETS
32 WE ARE CALLING Race & Religion 45 Environmental Sustainability WE ARE TRASHING OUT RACISM FOR OUR OLD WAYS WHAT IT IS 36 WE BELIEVE THAT Social Equality 49 WE WANT TO SHAPE Geopolitics EQUALITY IS NOT A THE FUTURE OF THE LUXURY REGION 41 Social Inclusivity WE ARE REMOVING 53 VOICES THAT Youth Message THE INVISIBLE MATTER CLOAK 55 YOU ARE MORE NYC Opportunities
MINISTER’S MESSAGE Dear Young Singaporeans a message from Grace Fu GENERATION ME OR GENERATION WE? Society is often quick to pin labels on you, our youths—the “Strawberry Generation”, “Generation Me” and more. They claim that you bruise easily, are not able to face challenges and feel deeply self-entitled. I disagree with these labels. I believe that you are a great force for positive change. While you may think and operate differently from the previous gen- erations, I know that you care very much about our society. I have seen how you have brought valuable perspectives, fresh ideas and solutions to the many challeng- es we as Singaporeans face. I have also seen many of you step up and take the lead to effect change in our community. With your passion and sense of purpose, I believe we can shape a brighter future for Singapore, together. 4
MINISTER’S MESSAGE Turn Conversation Into Action Conversations must yield opportu- nities for collaboration and action. Many of you have already done so Your Voice Matters by forming new communities, and My Ministry and the National Youth together, translating some of the Council started the Youth Conver- ideas into collaborative action. I am sations in response to your desire glad to see some of you stepping up to be heard, to be empowered and to create positive and tangible im- to have a greater stake in our future. pact. I hope more of you can similar- The Youth Conversations provides ly step up, take action in areas you you with a safe space for dialogue are passionate about, and support and sharing of diverse views, based one another’s efforts. The National on mutual respect, an openness Youth Council is ready to support to listen and the desire to under- you by providing access to infor- stand one another better. Since April mation, networks and the necessary 2018, as many as 8,000 of you, from resources. We will also be creating all walks of life, came forward to access for our youth leaders to part- share your views with other youth ner directly with agencies on policy and policy makers. You engaged issues that matter to them. in meaningful discourse with fellow youths and the government about Later this year, we will be launching the challenges you and other citi- the SGYouth Action Plan, which en- zens face as a nation. capsulates your views, dreams, and aspirations for Singapore, from what I trust that those of you who partic- you have shared through the Youth ipated walked away with broader Conversations and other platforms. perspectives and an understanding We will work together with you to of national issues. This is crucial for translate your feedback into policy us to have a shared vision of how changes, and support you to lead we want to progress as individuals, initiatives in areas that you and oth- a society and a nation. er young Singaporeans care about. The conversations should also Every single action, no matter big reach out to more of our young or small, counts. Lead your own people, with more diverse back- conversations and catalyse actions grounds. Look out for the Digital with your friends to bring about the Youth Conversations that will be change you want to see. Be ambi- launched later in 2019. This will give tious, not only for your own aspi- you more opportunities to partici- rations, but also for the collective pate and expand your networks with good of our nation. I am confident other online communities. that you will rise up to the challenge. Yours, Grace Fu Minister for Culture, Community and Youth Chairperson, National Youth Council 5
THIS IS OUR TIME Our times are not easy. As young Singaporeans living in the 21st century, our world is changing very quickly around us. Every day in the news, there are new technological disrup- tions, new shifts in global powers, new pandemics, new trends, new threats—the list is never-ending. 6
EXECUTIVE SUMMARY It wasn’t that long ago that the world This time is messy, but it is ours. seemed united around the promise of borderless trade and travel. To- Today, 42% of the world population day, globalisation has produced its is under 25 years of age. Here in winners and losers. World leaders Singapore, every one in four per- have won elections by riding the sons is under 35 years of age, num- waves of nationalism and populism, bering over 1 million. We are the driven by populations increasingly future Singapore, so we have to weary of being overlooked. As a build on foundations laid by those result, the walls between nations before us, and continue to adapt YOUTH IN SINGAPORE¹ are getting taller. And can we talk and create the rules that we will about climate change? We don’t hold on to as a people. We have to Resident Population: need to be scientists to see how out chart the path ahead, the dreams 3.994M of whack the weather has become. we want to chase and the home we will build together. In the short span of a few years, we’ve seen our home change dra- We aren’t doing this from scratch. Youth: matically. There are new housing Compared to young people living 1.055M estates, new MRT lines, new build- in other parts of the world, we are ings, and new schools created from fortunate to have an effective sys- shrinking cohorts. This quickening tem, good education, accessible pace comes with escalating expec- healthcare and above all, peace. tations. Do well in school but don’t stop there, lifelong learning is the Life in Singapore is good and we way to go. Don’t stick to traditional can make it even better. courses, go for a broad-based ed- 1 million ucation. But focus on the growth sectors, which also keep changing, mind you. Get an overseas stint but come back. And please have There are over 1 miilion youth children, two or more if you can. residing in Singapore, making up approximately 1/4 of our resident population. Youth is defined as persons aged 15 to 35 years old 7
EXECUTIVE SUMMARY YOUTH HAVE A STRONG SENSE There are great opportunities for OF PURPOSE AND PLAY AN connection and action like never ACTIVE ROLE IN SOCIETY before. With a few clicks, we can reach out to like-minded people, and we can start a movement and hear the voices of many more re- sounding back. > 5,000 9 in 10 consider helping the less fortunate A video of a turtle with a straw up its nostril can change how we live our daily lives. A 26-year-old can tell of us participated in online polls, contributing some 3,000 state- and contributing to society as world leaders at a United Nations ments casting close to 140,000 important life goals² climate summit that they aren’t do- votes on topics of discussion that ing enough. Singapore youth are mattered to us—aspirations for indeed ready, and are taking action. young people, doing more for the environment, building an inclusive We have what it takes to be ex- society, mental health, and geo- traordinary. We lead the world in politics. Math and Science scores, we top Asia in employment, education and 2 in 5 entrepreneurship mobility, and our people are passionate about mak- ing a difference. youth (aged 15—24) have volunteered in the past year³ We can bridge that gap between Close to 3,000 hope and reality. And that is why we came together for the Youth Conversations in 2018—a platform that allows for us to speak up on of us joined 30 Youth Conversations what we believe in, deliberate with on these topics, diving into issues more than one another, and to partner poli- and listening to voices and per- 3 in 5 cy-makers to create solutions on spectives that we never considered. issues that we care about. youth have participated in at least In all of these sessions, we heard one civic activity in the past year4 from youth who were different from us, with different life stories and experiences. We heard from youth outside the room, through digital From April to June 2018, youth tools that brought in diverse views voted on statements provided by and perspectives. And we were one another, in response to the heard by experts and policymak- question ers who wanted to know what we thought. “AS A YOUTH IN SINGAPORE, WHAT ARE YOU CONCERNED ABOUT?”5 Here is what we voted for: Inclusivity Pathways to Success Active Citizenry Environment & Sustainability Governance & Politics Education & Learning Jobs & Economy Cost of Living Mental Health Marriage & Parenthood 8
EXECUTIVE SUMMARY “How should we define Success?” OUR ASPIRATIONS AND CONCERNS Our journey uncovered the com- plexity of success, particularly the difference between how society During our conversations, we shared how our aspirations defines success, and how we see are different from our parents, and how we are discovering it. For many of us, nowhere is this tension more keenly felt as when different pathways for ourselves in life, while balancing our parents tell us what they expect of us. For most of us, success is family and societal expectations and practical needs. being able to chase our dreams, to grow and discover ourselves in the We’re fuelled by our curiosity and passion as we learn, and journey toward our goals whether want to forge our success stories on our terms, without we reach them or not, and finding happiness in the experiences of life. letting stress overwhelm us. It is our hope that Singapore will encourage new dreams, different pathways and provide support to “One of the first things we did was the help us achieve them. values board, where we tied a string “When was the last time you learnt something new?” between opposing values. The idea is that Learning does not stop after school. there is no one definition of success We shared similar views on the im- portance of learning, particularly that you might have as an individu- with the fast pace of change today. Given our commitments to work, al. It’s more of how your values inter- family and friends, learning is often the last thing on our minds. When play and there are different tensions we do decide to commit the time and money, it’s a tough choice be- that exist. I think one good example is tween professional upgrading for career advancement and a person- work-life balance—do you want to spend al interest that we are passionate about. more time at work, or with family and But for something so personal, the friends, or doing things that you like?" onus falls on us to take charge of our own path and at our own pace. —Pay Leon Khee, participant at the Youth Conversation Society can play a part by providing on Narratives of Success the resources, networks, and sup- port for us to tap on when we find the right circumstances. “What should we do to address mental health in Singapore?” The stress of juggling our dreams and life’s demands can take a toll on our mental health. The proportion of people who have experienced a mental disorder has increased over the past few years, with depression emerging as the most common. We brainstormed about what more could be done for mental health in Singapore—whether it’s putting out more positive stories of persons in recovery, having public figures 9
EXECUTIVE SUMMARY talk openly about mental health, or broadening education among young people and their parents. The stigma of an invisible ailment makes it so much more difficult for sufferers to seek help. The Conversations led to action. Two of us came together to start The SOAR Initiative (School of Abili- ty and Recovery), that aims to foster mental wellness and reduce stigma in the community through educa- tion. Many of our peers who par- ticipated have also stepped up to form a resource panel for the Health Promotion Board, giving feedback on their publicity, programmes and collaterals for mental health. Youth Corps Singapore has also strength- ened education and equipping for youth volunteers passionate to make a difference in this area. There are so many possible avenues to make difference if we choose to step up and stand in the gap! “During the youth convo, we were very thankful for a safe space created for the participants. Because of that, the youth felt safe to share their personal struggles with mental health. It was very encouraging to see our youth rising up and having courage to share their personal struggles and lend their trust and sup- port to fellow peers who are facing similar problems.“ — Cho Ming Xiu, participant at the Youth Conversation on Mental Health. Together with his friends, Ming Xiu started Campus PSY—a mental health literacy training programme aimed at equipping youths to better support their peers with mental health issues. 10
EXECUTIVE SUMMARY TOWARDS A MORE INCLUSIVE SOCIETY “I think there are no real one-off solu- tions. Education as a long-term approach We want to build an inclusive Singapore, is key, so it is important to continue to with space and love for those who are organise such events where students and different. Across class, age, race, religion, youth of different backgrounds can and where we come from, Singapore must come and interact, to really understand be big enough for all of us to belong. We understand that it won’t be easy. But we each other’s experiences, which can open care, and see what others might not— up new perspectives on these issues.” the casual racism of a “joke”; the uneven —Sujandren Alaghimanvalan, participant at the Youth Conversation on Race and Religion opportunities enjoyed by different people in society; and invisible people whom we might conveniently forget. “What should we do about “Is life fair?” “How can we show migrant racism?” workers in Singapore that we Our Conversations touched on how value them?” Together we reflected on how inequality and exclusion can cut common casual racism can be, across many labels, because all of Our dream of an inclusive Singapore and how often it goes unacknowl- us have multiple identities—race, extends to the invisible workers in edged. We struggled with what we religion, gender, sexual orienta- our midst. The Youth Conversation should do in those situations and tion, choice of career, or disability. on Migrant Workers was a learning challenged each other to be cou- Too often, we talk about inequality journey for us to the ‘homes’ of rageous against the status quo. We when we are really asking for fair- the migrant workers at the Tuas reaffirmed the importance of honest ness. And fairness and inclusion are View dormitory, hosted by migrant conversations so we can build a ideals that we strive towards even worker ambassadors. This was fol- deeper appreciation for our diver- if it will never be perfect. But that lowed by a panel discussion with sity. Not everyone had a personal doesn’t mean we should accept the representatives comprising policy experience of racism or discrimina- status quo. There is room for us to makers and authorities. tion, but everyone made an effort to make a difference, as did Clarence understand how it mattered. Ching, who started Access, a pro- Among the participants, many of gramme that focuses on tackling us were already working with mi- education inequality in Singapore grant workers in our school or vol- through providing greater equal- unteering in projects. We asked ity of opportunities, mentorships candid questions on the adequacy and apprenticeships for students. of housing regulations and paths Whether we start by looking at our to resolve employment disputes. own mindsets and attitudes, or our We wrestled with the trade-offs and institutions and policies, what mat- implications to what had seemed ters is that we start. Through our like straightforward tweaks to em- actions, we can build the future we ployment legislation. We left with a want to live in. better understanding of the issue and a deeper conviction that as youth, we can do more to help the invisible workers among us. 11
EXECUTIVE SUMMARY OUR PLACE IN THE WORLD “What can we do to fight Climate Change?” We came together over two Youth For many of us, the threat of climate Conversations on Climate Action and Zero Waste. While we all came change is a growing concern. We are to the conversation with different increasingly dedicating ourselves to sus- starting points, with some of us leading local sustainability efforts, tainability efforts, and we see advocacy and others just starting to think about these issues, we all agreed gaining momentum. While we understand that we needed to do more to bring Singapore towards becoming a that environmental sustainability might zero-waste nation. not be at the top of everyone’s minds, we We may have strong views on fight- want to challenge our society to do better, ing climate change, but through the process of dialogue, we also rec- to create a more sustainable environment ognised that sustainable practic- es to reduce waste must consider for everyone and for future generations. other perspectives. Take banning straws for example—we can and must step up our efforts to reduce usage of plastic straws, but this must not come at the cost of oth- er’s needs, such as people with disabilities. We walked away from these conversations with a stronger conviction to do more in our daily lives, be it learning how to recycle right, or starting conversations with our family and friends. “What is Singapore’s place within ASEAN?” The insightful discussion opened our eyes to the inter-dependence among ASEAN member states and the considerations behind our for- eign policy. Most of us gained a broad understanding of Singapore’s position within the region and that made us think about how we can be Singapore’s ambassadors in our circles and professional networks. This topic held special significance because of Singapore’s Chairman- ship of ASEAN in 2018. 12
EXECUTIVE SUMMARY FROM CONVERSATION TO ACTION What did we make of all these Youth Conversa- tions? As we listened deeply to each other and connected on the issues that matter to us, three key insights about us youth emerged: We want Singapore, our little Red Dot, to continue to be exceptional, and help 3 KEY POINTS EMERGED FROM THE 2018 shape a world that is even better than to- YOUTH CONVERSATIONS day's. We want to inspire our children and 1. Youth are not apathetic They want to find out more, about many issues our children’s children to achieve more. that concern them. They want to hear from policy makers about what was really going on behind the scenes, about the dilemmas, trade-offs and This report charts our journey through other considerations. Among the participants, more than four in five were new to the National the Youth Conversations. It describes the Youth Council, keen to expand their perspectives. After the conversations, 79% indicated they had hopes and ideas of young people stepping up to make a difference in our own way. a better understanding of issues that Singapore faces. But we can only do so much by ourselves. 2. Youth want to make a difference In fact, some are already initiating action on the We need to partner with the rest of Singa- ground across issues and causes. But there are many more youths who aspire to make a differ- pore as we find our way forward. ence, but who may lack the awareness, oppor- tunities, resources and networks. 3. Youth want to be engaged through different This is our time. And we claim it. modes, reflecting their diversity and versatility Not all need to engage in deep face-to-face con- versations to gain an appreciation of the issues that matter to them, or to contribute. Many more youths participated digitally through social media and online polls. Time is a precious resource. YOUTH CONVERSATIONS GAVE PARTICIPANTS OPPORTUNITIES TO HEAR AND APPRECIATE NEW PERSPECTIVES 86% 87% were more aware of were more other citizens’ views appreciative of what and perspectives, they had in common which might be differ- with others ent from their own 13
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NARRATIVES OF SUCCESS WE NEED A NEW WAY OF LOOKING AT SUCCESS TOP 10 LIFE GOALS THAT ARE VERY IMPORTANT TO YOUTH AND FAILURE, TO SUPPORT THE DIVERSITY OF OUR The 2016 National Youth Survey ASPIRATIONS. HELP US DREAM BIGGER. showed that while careers are im- portant to youths, it was secondary to learning and acquiring new skills. Earning lots of money surprisingly came in 5 th in the list. Youth also WE ARE REDEFINING SUCCESS value helping the less fortunate and being able to contribute to society. It wasn’t so long ago that your proudest moment was Home ownership 70% Strong family relationships 70% seeing us stand up and take our first steps. How we Learn/acquire new skills 62% made you smile when we called you ‘Ma’ and ‘Pa’ for Successful career 59% Earn lots of money 46% the first time. We see the milestones you lovingly laid Help less fortunate 41% out for us: doing well in school, finding a girlfriend or Contribute to society 40% Get married 36% boyfriend, getting a degree, landing a good job, getting Have children 35% Good religious life 31% married, and having kids. We know that you want the best for us. You mean so much to us, and how you see our choices shapes how we see ourselves and our narratives of success. We appreciate you and others journeying alongside us as mentors and friends—to advise, support and even WHAT YOUTH VALUE challenge us in our pursuits. However, we also ask that These findings were similarly re- you take the time to understand how complex our world flected in a series of online polls on the topic of success for the has become, and that you give us space to define what Youth Conversations. Over 500 respondents defined success as success means for ourselves. broader than getting good grades, traditional jobs and financial sta- bility. Instead, youths strive for non-conventional goals, such as personal development, caring for their well-being and seeking out purposeful experiences. 15
NARRATIVES OF SUCCESS “When it came to domains of suc- cess defined by us, most of us chose personal factors like family, finance, spirituality and emotional well-being. On the other hand, do- mains of success defined by society tend to be more objective-driven, such as career and studies […] I found myself relating with stories about the dilemma of choosing courses in school or carving own “What I shared about was real- This Is What Success career paths, all while balancing ex- ly how to align both passion and Means To Us pectations from family and friends.” purpose. With passion being what makes you happy, brings you joy, In a 3-part series that took place and purpose being how you can over 5 sessions and 7 months, we contribute to others and to the wid- explored what success means to —Jocelynna Seah, er community with the things that us. Here are the key takeaways Youth Conversation participant you are passionate about.” from our conversations. —Jared Kong, an in-house lawyer 1. Success is more multi-dimen- “I used to think there shouldn’t be a and part-time DJ, on how he sional than what it used to be. tension between any of the worlds, brought together his passion with and that I should only choose one of a rewarding career There is a difference in how we see those worlds. In this session, I had society defines success and what to think about what would be the we believe success should be. We best of these two tensions. When think that society values success I thought about it, I realised I’ve in the domains of studies, career, already been doing that in my life, finance, family and having a place like juggling and balancing between of our own. But as youth, we also these two worlds. It made me real- place great value on personal learn- ise that I shouldn’t be so adamant ing and growth, freedom, passion, about just choosing one world. It meaning and emotional well-be- really gave me this objective view ing. And for society as a whole, of my life.” we would be successful if we are compassionate, kind and caring. We are pragmatic, and we know —Ng Sze Min, money is important to fulfil basic Youth Conversation participant “I grew up in a typical family, where needs. We have families to support I’d come home with a 92% and my and bills to pay. But what we also parents would ask, what happened seek is a broader definition of suc- to the other 8%? I was at the height cess and more diverse pathways of my career at 22, and yet, I real- to get there. Our pathways and ised I was unfulfilled, still looking for choices may appear at times com- that missing 8%. I thought passion peting and contradictory, but what meant I had to suffer for my craft, we learn and experience within the but now I realised that passion has journey is just as important as the to graduate to compassion, a con- destination. nection to something larger than yourself.” That is why many of us live in the complexity of having to navigate —Inch Chua, a singer-songwriter the tensions in life. We are aware of on how she took a break at the the need to responsibly fulfil prac- height of her career to rediscover tical needs; at the same time, we a balance of pursuing passion want to live for more. While this and self-exploration. path is not easy, we believe that we can determine our successes and create the meaningful lives that we desire. 16
NARRATIVES OF SUCCESS HOW WE THINK SOCIETY VIEWS SUCCESS, AND HOW WE VIEW SUCCESS Top 3 Domains of Success Top 3 Domains of Success According to Society According to Youth Our views on societal definitions of Our goals, however, are much success focus on these few more varied: domains: • Career/Work • Emotional well-being • Finance/Money • Personal learning/growth Clement Tan, a participant who had • Studies • Family a conversation with his parents • Family • Finance/Money after the Youth Conversations • House/Belongings • Spirituality “I think my parents and I realised there are differences between our expectations of how I should lead my life. While my mom made her choices based on what she thought was ‘natural’ or ‘best for my fu- ture’, I believe that these implicit narratives of ‘natural’ and ‘best’ are based on some sort of social norm of her generation. 2. Believe in us. On hindsight, although I realised that the intention of what she did We are grateful for our families. was for my own good, I would Nothing beats having your love and have preferred that the execution support. We know you want the of what she did was more tactful. As best for us, and it is not easy to let a young kid and now a young adult, us do something different, new or it may still be hard to discern the in- uncertain. Allow us to take owner- tentions of the giving party from the ship of our choices, and have the sentiments of the receiving party. space to discover and learn. It’s okay to let us fall; we will pick our- I think this is what may be causing selves up and find our way in life, the tension between parents and as you did too. youth now. For example, parents say, ‘you must get good grades’. At our conversations, many of us And then, the child feels his worth is voiced our desire to be able to de- only tied to the grades. But implicit fine, for ourselves, what success in that statement is the nuanced un- means. We believe we can chart derstanding that our society, espe- our own paths and create oppor- cially government institutions, use tunities. grades as the meritocratic leveller to determine who gets the job and During our conversations, we also who doesn’t, which in turn deter- heard from others who found a mines who gets a stable income balance between pursuing their and ultimately, lives a ‘more com- dreams and meeting the expecta- fortable’ life. tions placed on them. They shared about difficult conversations they Maybe it’s the silent concession had with their parents about their of the parent to the realities of an tensions. It reminded us that having institution that has and is still fo- such open communication with our cused on grades. Or maybe it’s the own parents is important and deep- generic Asian mentality of having a ly empowering. measurable medium of comparison between two things.” 17
NARRATIVES OF SUCCESS WHAT IF YOU COULD TELL YOUR PARENT YOUR INNER FEARS? We penned letters to our parents on what we didn’t dare to say. 3. In redefining success, we should also redefine failure. We want to redefine and be more accepting of failure, but still it’s tough to not worry about failing. We are also pragmatic and see that conditions out there can be com- petitive and sometimes unforgiving. Also, we might have to strive harder than before for the same goals. But that’s life and we can accept it. As we try to redefine the notion of failure for ourselves, we’ll need to deal with the stigma around not being good enough and the fear of being judged if we make a misstep. In Singapore where standards are high, expectations can be daunting. But failing is naturally part of grow- ing and learning, and we know these anxieties can hold us back from reaching our full potential. Yet, overcoming these anxieties is easi- er said than done, and it would help if society can progressively shift its perspective of failure as necessary growth experiences. We recognise that it will take cour- age to forge our own paths, and to persevere in the face of circum- stances. Hearing the stories of fellow youth who have overcome failure gives us hope and inspires us to take charge of our own journeys. We want to be brave and open in the face of unknowns, to explore opportunities and possibilities, to overcome our self-doubt, and to see failures as opportunities to- wards success. We see in each oth- er courage, perseverance, passion and purpose. 18
NARRATIVES OF SUCCESS At the final Youth Conversation on Redefining Success, Together, we shared what we believed was holding us back. “In the booth where we expressed our ideal successes for Singapore, pasted were distinct goals that we would not have considered successes a dec- ade ago, like “empathy” and “accept- ance” […] Indeed, the idea of success encompassing the achievement of certain career ideals was challenged 4. As a society, we want to be by the sheer variety of hopes and more inclusive, compassionate dreams that participants had, even and kind. those beyond the workplace […] If such discussions can lead us toward Redefining success is not an indi- “I’ve faced quite a number of re- a society that is more accepting of dif- vidual pursuit. Our personal suc- jections and failures throughout ferent ways people think of success, cess is defined in relation to our our 5-year journey. Courage and perhaps thoughts of successes and friends, family and society. In the perseverance are often not loud failures may be less distressing and final conversation, we saw that our and dramatic—they are often quiet burdensome, especially to youth like individual life choices determine and made up of many small steps myself who do not know much about the nature of our society. And so, that shows a firm resolution to keep what we want to achieve just yet.” standing at the nexus of the pres- trying.” ent and the future, we want to live a life with a larger purpose and to —Jumaiyah Mahathir, co-founder be able to make a difference in our of Halalfoodhunt community. —Grace Neo, Jumaiyah was one of the resource Youth Conversation participant We hope for a Singapore that val- persons who shared with partici- ues and appreciates our different pants how her team kept their chins perspectives, skills and talents. In up despite their challenges. Despite one of the group activities in our rejections by investors and many conversations, nearly 7 in 10 of us setbacks, Halalfoodhunt is now an expressed a wish for Singapore to established halal food directory in be more inclusive, kind and com- Singapore. passionate—a broader narrative of success. 19
NARRATIVES OF SUCCESS OUR REFLECTIONS AND HOPES FOR OURSELVES AND SINGAPORE I am Chew Si Min I am Melissa and to me, success means: and to me, success means: being happy and caring about other Doing my best in all that I strive to people’s happiness achieve I care about Youth Development I care about education and a successful Singapore should: and a successful Singapore should: have a more connected community give students opportunities to explore platform to voice and/or share suc- interests outside academics like in cess, failures, learnings and stories theatre, arts, music, etc I am Jun Jie I am Abdullah and to me, success means: and to me, success means: doing what you love no matter what living a meaningful life, learning and others may say or how society might experiencing as much as possible define success to be I care about contentment I care about my loved ones and a successful Singapore should: and a successful Singapore should: be a place where everyone has the embrace different talents and opportunity to do what they want aspirations regardless of background, and be supportive of each other social status or interests I am Clorisa I am Jack Kong Jing Kai and to me, success means: and to me, success means: adhering to your own goals (can be bring out the best within ourselves passion, purpose) and being satisfied I care about the future with your achievements and a successful Singapore should: be a more caring, comprehen- I care about social issues and a successful Singapore should: sive, inclusive, cohesive, open-heart- work hand in hand. listen, under- ed, open-minded, and meaningfully stand and empathise with each peaceful and harmonious society other, taking action to make impact on disadvantaged people. Be kind. I am Jerry I am Izzanzurin and to me, success means: and to me, success means: accepting and loving yourself on your making my parents proud of me and own terms taking very good care of them when I care about smiles they come to old age and a successful Singapore should: I care about the people of Singapore and a successful Singapore should: embrace gratitude, appreciation, and celebration of life and people. continue doing what it means to be successful 20
NARRATIVES OF SUCCESS 5. Success is not a destination; it's a journey. Life is a constant negotiation of opposing values and priorities. In meeting fellow youth who came for the conversations, we’ve come to realise that we are all at different points, moving at our own pace. Many of us start out uncertain Some of us are standing at the and unsure because we haven’t edge, we have some idea of what quite figured out what we want and we want, but still we are held back what drives us. We are quite com- by the weight of our own fears and fortable where we are; beyond this, that of others’ expectations. We do we haven’t yet asked ourselves the not want to disappoint ourselves or hard question of how far we are those who love us. We are finding willing to go and how much we are it scary to take the leap into the prepared to risk. unknown, as we do not know if we will find success. Comfort At the zone edge “During the session, I was surrounded by people who have made it, and youth like me who are searching New growth Taking the for roads that lead to the and new plunge ground discovery of their passion and purpose. It was a safe space to explore multiple S ome of us have made i t Some of us have chosen to across the abyss and found our take that leap into the unknown, possibilities of our lives and own version of success. We did not and are swimming in fear and always know that we would make self-doubt. We’re not sure if we take small steps in the it, but today we find ourselves, on will achieve our dreams but we are solid ground of our own making. trying. While the fear is great, we midst of uncertainty to But life is not all peaches and roses are committed to who we want to once we land; having reached a be and emboldened by those who create new possibilities for personal milestone, we keep going have succeeded before us. on this journey, onwards to new ourselves.” challenges, new discoveries. —Marielle Descalsota, Youth Conversation participant 21
NARRATIVES OF SUCCESS A youth athlete and aspiring profes- sional sportsperson, Diane recalled a powerful point shared at the Youth Conversation panel discussion on Redefining Success, Together. “Mr Alex Soh (a life coach) said that his idea of success is about having Samuel Choo, happiness and health. This is mean- Youth Conversation participant ingful for me. You can’t buy happiness or health. Having both are more im- At one of the Youth Conversations, portant than other forms of material Samuel shared his experience with wealth. Doing track and field makes fellow participants, hoping that oth- me happy, even if it is not something ers might find strength from his that other people would consider a story. Samuel mixed with the wrong proper career. One thing I learnt from company during his formative years “Being constantly tired and stressed the Youth Conversation is not to let the and was sentenced for drug abuse became the norm for me. It got to views of others decide what success to a year in military prison during his the point that I couldn’t see any oth- means to me.” National Service. er possibility than the reality that I was living. Throughout my first clini- During his time in prison, his family cal year, I felt insignificant, and often would travel every month without stuck in the identity that I was never —Diane Hilary Pragasam, fail from the east to the west to enough—never smart enough, never Youth Conversation participant visit him. That was the turning point hardworking enough. which made him realise the love his This Is Our Time; Redefine family has for him. After a summer of intrapersonal work, Success with Us. it made me realise that I had every Following his release, Samuel cut choice and ability to live a life of my It’s hard not to compare in Singa- ties with bad company and has own calling. A group of us started pore, but if we want a more inclu- stayed drug and smoke‐free. He is Project HAY (How Are You?) after a sive and accepting society, that currently pursuing his studies and life-changing summer that we had change starts with us. It starts with is grateful that his family did not with a dear mentor who taught us the recognition that all of us have give up on him and had constantly about social emotional learning. The different starting points in life, with been supporting him to bounce 6 of us shared our personal journeys, our own paths to lead. Our collec- back in life. and we realised that this was an issue tive choices and pathways add up that so many of our peers were go- to the collective story of us. To Samuel, success is about not ing through, yet no one ever speaks letting his family and friends down about. Through the Youth Conversations and keeping the promises he has on Success, it became clearer what made. Through Project HAY, we hope to success means to us as a genera- someday see our community care tion. But it takes more than us youth for ourselves as much as we do for talking among ourselves. It would our patients. Until then, we will still be be naive to think that the current no- working tirelessly to see that happen. tions of success held by many in our society can be changed overnight. To you, I’d want to say “Have courage dear heart”. You don’t necessarily We hope our parents and socie- have to make a huge change, but ty will hear us. Better yet, be our imagine the few people whose lives friends and mentors. Jour ney you’ve changed for the better just with us as we redefine and push because you did what you did.” the boundaries of what it means to be successful for ourselves and Singapore. —Mak Wei Zhi, This is our time, come redefine Youth Conversation participant success with us. 22
WE ARE CHANGING COURSE AND LEARNING DIFFERENTLY 23
LIFELONG LEARNING WE CAN FIND THE JOY OF LEARNING IF WE TAKE CHARGE OF HOW WE LEARN. WE ARE RETHINKING LEARNING We spend over a decade sitting for tests and exams, being told that we need to do well in school to do well in life. When we finally graduate from school and step out into the working world, it feels like yes, now is when our lives can finally begin. Reality kicks in when the job hunt begins. Suddenly, all those years of formal education seem barely sufficient to score us an interview. Things are moving so quickly these days that what we learnt in school might be outdated by the time we graduate. New skills are emerging as quickly as old ones become obsolete. When we land a job, we are told that we need to upgrade to stay relevant, because if we don’t, we will get left behind. DO YOU THINK WHAT YOU ARE LEARNING/HAVE LEARNT IN SCHOOL IS PREPARING YOU Every year, salary guides tell us also reflected in a Youth.SG poll in WELL FOR THE WORKFORCE? which professions are the most April 2018. Among 376 respond- Unsure/Disagree that learn- promising, and every year, the ents, 7 in 10 agree that learning ing helps to prepare for the pecking order changes. We would prepares us for the future. workforce love to know what the future skills that we need are, so that we can The same poll also highlighted our Agree that learning helps to get there in due time, but no one fears regarding the relevance of our prepare for the workforce has such prescience. And so, we formal education. 7 in 10 were either can only try our best to keep learn- unsure or disagreed that learning in ing, whether through short courses, school had sufficiently prepared us part-time studies or from mentors for entry into the workforce. This at work. It’s our best bet against an underscores our attitudes towards uncertain future. learning, particularly young working adults among us who have gradu- 31% We Are Gear ing u p for an ated from the structured education Unknown Future system and entered the workplace. 69% Among the top life goals for youth, ‘Acquiring new skills and knowl- edge’ comes in 3rd after ‘Having a place of our own’ and ‘Maintaining strong family relationships’. Our strong emphasis on learning was 24
LIFELONG LEARNING Across two Youth Conversations on Challenge 2: We can’t decide Challenge 3: We don’t know Lifelong Learning sessions in 2018, if we should prioritise learning it all we came together to discuss the something useful or something challenges we face and to brain- that we enjoy Much as we don’t like admitting it, storm ideas on how we might better we don’t know everything in our support young working adults. For some of us, formal certification professed areas of expertise. And is a fundamental part of our on- it takes a certain kind of maturi- Challenge 1: We don’t have going professional development, ty to acknowledge weaknesses; it enough time or energy and a necessary step for career demands vulnerability that some of progression. For the rest of us with us may yet not be brave enough to Holding down a full time job can career paths that are more varied, admit. Our fear or misplaced pride drain the life out of us. At the end of the multitude of options makes it can stand in the way of learning a work day, we barely have enough difficult to choose what to pursue. new things. time or energy for much else. No one knows what skills might be Learning is often reduced to short needed four years from now, so news articles or nuggets of interest- what we think might be our next “[Let] yourself know that ing facts that we scroll through on career break might just be irrelevant our mobile phones. Anything more by the time we are done. it is okay to fail, that than that becomes a serious com- mitment that we have to carefully Conversely, we need to decide if you can learn through consider. picking up something that we enjoy might have a bigger return on our failures… embracing the With little time or energy, learning mental wellbeing, even if it may not often becomes a chore. Those who improve our earning ability. With fact that you are not pursued part-time degrees talked limited time and energy, negotiating about the personal discipline they learning priorities is a challenge. good enough, that you need had to exercise and sacrifices they had to make in order to pursue their "We are advancing so fast to learn new things, and learning. On bad days, it’s easy to do just enough to get by. as a society. I guess what have the ability to move we need to do is to grab forward from it.” “I’d succumbed to being hold of every opportunity —Youth Conversation participant nothing more than anoth- to learn. For example, I er drone reading emails, work as a pharmacist checking for social media and part of my job is to updates, and perusing me- dispense medicine accu- dia releases.” rately. Now with tech- —Rice Media article, ‘“Why Do I Feel Dumber As I Grow Older?” nology, this process is being Said Every Singaporean Ever’6 automated in order to minimise error. Instead of learning how to dispense medicine, I need to learn how to operate such ma- chinery." —Nirmal Bhai, Youth Conversation participant 25
LIFELONG LEARNING 9 in 10 We Are Rediscovering the Joy of Learning Respondents preferred to learn Equipping ourselves with new through non-traditional approaches where they attend courses relevant 1. Learning is a journey learning approaches and mind- to their personal interests, learn from We engage in introspective reflec- sets will support us better in our their peers, engage in online learn- tion, make sense of our experienc- learning journey. Through the Youth ing platforms, or have a personal es and struggles, and draw insights Conversations, it became clear that mentor. for ourselves. It is through this jour- while competition motivates many ney that we grow and understand of us to learn, this anxiety is tiring Compared to learning through tra- ourselves. and counter-productive. We want to ditional approaches such as in a rediscover our love for learning by classroom setting, new learning for- taking charge of our own learning mats allow us to set our own pace and style of learning, and are hence journey, whether through new sub- more engaging and authentic. jects, skills or formats. Beyond tangible programmes, we 2. Learning feeds our passions are embracing different mind-sets WHAT DOES LEARNING MEAN We pursue our interests and do towards learning. From our group TO YOU? not limit ourselves to what is con- discussions at the Youth Conver- ventional. sations, we came to realise that the joyful learning mind-sets we have Learning through are expressed in these different non-traditional approaches ways. 21% Attending any course out of We Never Stop Learning passion/personal interest This new mind-set is in truth quite 21% Listening to other people share old. Henry Ford said that “Anyone their life stories/experience who stops learning is old, wheth- er at 20 or 80”. There’s a similar 13% Reading online (lifestyle, 3. Learning is part of everyday Malay saying—“Pelajar Sepanjang entertainment content, fiction life Hayat”—which means “student for books, etc) We see learning as a cornerstone a lifetime”. Both maxims are quoted of our lives, and not just the class- often, probably because they hold 13% Having a personal mentor room. It is part of all our interac- a grain of truth. tions with others and the things we 12% Watching documentaries observe. Learning is evidence of an aspir- ing young mind, one that is never 10% Reading online (news, research satisfied with his or her lot in life. papers, etc) There are undoubtedly challenges in pursuing lifelong learning, but we can overcome them. We will expand the possibilities open to us in an Learning through uncertain world with the seeds of a traditional approaches joyful learning mind-set, paired with the blessing of divine discontent 10% Attending courses to obtain 4. Learning is driven by that drives us to always do better. professional work-related purpose certification We assess the usefulness and rel- evance of the knowledge we gain by how it helps us keep pace with changes and circumvent challenges in the world. More importantly, we learn best when we have a sense of purpose for what that knowledge is for and how it can make a posi- tive impact on the world and those around us. 26
WE ARE REWIRING MINDSETS 27
MENTAL HEALTH WE WANT TO TALK OPENLY ABOUT MENTAL HEALTH —IT’S OKAY TO BE DIFFERENT AND IT’S OKAY TO SEEK HELP. STRESS IS PART OF OUR LIVES “In working with patients Our challenges are manifold. We stress about our studies, suffering from mental stress about our relationships, stress about money, stress illness, we found that so- about work, stress about our future, and stress about our cial stigma is a major health. In a vicious cycle, this stress in turn affects our block for them, in getting health. There’s just no running away from stress. So, we back to their previous deal with it in the best way we know. We share our prob- lives, and being accepted. lems with our family and friends, on social media, and we Even though they had sig- get by. But sometimes, when it gets a bit too much, our mental health takes a hit. nificantly recovered from their mental illnesses, they The National Youth Survey 2016 The Singapore Mental Health Study found that youth experience similar 2016 also found that depression is were still not accepted stressors across our life stages, the most common mental disorder, with top three stressors remaining with 1 in 16 people suffering from it back into their homes.” the same across the 2013 and 2016 at least once in their lives. study. —Team M.U.S.E. The same study also found that the According to the Singapore Mental proportion of people suffering from Health Study 2016, the proportion mental disorders not seeking help of people who have experienced a remains high, with more than 3 in 4 mental disorder has increased from people suffering in silence. 1 in 8 to 1 in 7 over recent years.7 YOUTH ARE STRESSED OVER THE FUTURE AND THEIR RESPONSIBILITIES8 Rating from 1—Not at all stressful, to 5—Extremely stressful Mean Scores for Stressors 2013 2016 Team M.U.S.E from Youth Corps 3.46 3.46 3.43 5—Extremely stressful 3.36 Singapore filmed a social exper- 3.22 3.3 3.13 3.23 3.07 3.04 iment video inviting passers-by along Orchard Road to reach out to someone suffering from schizo- phrenia with a simple act of giving 1—Not at all stressful a high five. The short video gives a A B C D E glimpse of the stigma that people suffering from schizophrenia face, A Future Uncertainty B and the compassion in all of us. Studies C Emerging Adult Responsibilities D Health of Family Member E Finances 28
MENTAL HEALTH The Issue Is Stigma MORE SUPPORT, MORE AWARENESS, MORE INCLUSIVITY A 2018 survey by the National Council of Social Service found that 6 in 10 people have a misconcep- tion that mental health conditions are caused by a lack of self-disci- pline and willpower. Furthermore, 5 in 10 people indicated that they are A poll conducted with 170 youths They also felt that more could be unwilling to live with, live nearby or on mental health issues found that done to increase awareness on work with a person with a mental the majority feel that more sup- mental health issues, destigmatise health condition.9 port is needed for young people in mental health, and create a more schools and workplaces inclusive society It doesn’t have to be this way. We want those of us suffering from Disagree (%) Agree (%) mental disorders to know that it is okay, and that they will be support- Words like ‘crazy’ come to my ed. Living with a mental disorder is 74% mind when I hear the term ‘mental 26% already so difficult, and it shouldn’t illness’. be tougher than it already is. Being able to talk about mental 0% issues is important. 100% Fighting the stigma starts with edu- cation to help youth and the people We should be inclusive of those around us understand what mental 0% with mental health issues. 100% disorders are. And because mental disorders are invisible, we will teach There should be greater publicity 0% on the mental health resources 100% Singaporeans to be more compas- that are currently available. sionate towards others who are different. There should be more mental well- 1% ness group activities for young peo- 99% ple in schools or in the workplace. Workplaces in Singapore need to "I think it's very impor- support those with mental health 0% problems, instead of discriminating 100% tant to question our own against or stigmatising them. biases, insecurities and fears, because these are the underlying factors in mental health stigma- tisation. When we have that awareness with- in ourselves, it would be easier for us to recog- nise how and what we want to contribute." —Nawira Baig, mental health advocate 29
MENTAL HEALTH TOGETHER, WE ARE CALLING FOR SINGAPORE TO TAKE ACTION ON MENTAL HEALTH. 1. Let’s use social media campaigns to spread awareness about the issue and learn how to support our friends in their times of need. 2. Let’s put out more positive stories and show how sufferers have recovered to lead fulfilling lives. 3. Let’s rebrand mental health terminology to be more positive. 4. Let’s humanise the issue and encourage sufferers to step out of the shame to seek treatment. 5. Let’s care for the caregivers, who support sufferers through their journey. Put the Positive Word Out in their video also uncovered the “It was heart-warming to inherent compassion in Singapo- Over the years, there has been in- reans. see everyone very open to creased attention on mental disor- ders. In 2016, the #Howru campaign Through the Youth Conversation the concept and to see saw celebrities showing their sup- on Mental Health, the insights port for World Suicide Prevention and ideas were shared with rele- people come up to give Week by wearing a black plaster vant government agencies includ- on their inner wrists. In 2018, Chan- ing the Health Promotion Board a high five. Even though nel NewsAsia Insider produced a (HPB) Mental Health and Strate- 4-part documentary series on de- gic Planning team, the Agency for there was a low num- pression, drawing attention to how Integrated Care (AIC) Community it affects students, working adults, Mental Health Division, the National ber of high fives in the women, and the elderly. Council of Social Service (NCSS) Youth Alliance Team, and the Public beginning, there was still In the Youth Conversation on Men- Service Division’s Moments of Life tal Health, close to 50 passionate Families Programme Office. acceptance from peo- students, volunteers, mental health professionals and working profes- Many of these participants have ple for who they are.” sionals came together to share also stepped up to form a panel what more could be done for mental of resource persons for the Health —Eddie Chan, Team M.U.S.E health in Singapore. Promotion Board to provide feed- back for HPB’s programmes and We Care About Mental Health collaterals, share insights about mental health-related issues among Among us, there are many who care young people, and raise awareness passionately about changing things of HPB’s initiatives in their own net- for the better. works. Through their social experiment vid- eo, the members of Team M.U.S.E met volunteers who wanted to be a part of their project, and challenge the stigma against schizophrenia. The honest responses of strangers 30
MENTAL HEALTH Through this Youth Conversation, other agencies like NCSS and AIC, “I also think it’s very im- Ying Ying, 32, and Geraldine, 27, they’ve also lent support to youth came together to start a project groups like Campus Psy and Hush portant to bring mental called The SOAR Initiative (School Teabar. of Ability and Recovery), that aims health literacy to school. to foster mental wellness and re- As the closing event for the Men- duce stigma in the community tal Health Awareness Singapore We have physical educa- through education. They reached Learning Series in 2018, Campus out to more people to join them and Psy organised “Stay Woke Youth tion, and I think we should more than 20 people from all walks Fest” in the National University of of life responded to their open call. Singapore to get students to learn also have mental health Starting in January 2019, they are more about mental health. running a series of workshops titled education in schools. “Slowing Down” to help partici- Campus Psy has also joined forces pants learn how to take care of their with 8 other organisations to collec- They go hand in hand.” mental health. tively design solutions to address mental health issues among chil- —Nawira Baig, mental health dren and youth, with the support of advocate the Singapore Tote Board. “I think that education, honest conver- sations and meaningful interactions with persons in recovery will really We Can Fight the Stigma make a difference in breaking down “I felt that there is progress in terms that ‘us’ versus ‘them’ barrier to sort of youths and young adults coming Stress will always be in our lives. of level the playing field for different forward to talk about mental health Our struggles today may not be stakeholders in the community. issues. There is more awareness for basic needs like those of our and more advocacy done in terms grandparents’ generation, but they The response to SOAR’s workshops of events, or even dialogues like the are challenging nonetheless. While has been quite good, people turned Youth Conversations on mental health life in Singapore is fast-paced and up, and they gave good feedback by NYC and Youth Corp. which is a demanding, it doesn’t have to be at about the content of the workshop, good sign, because a few years back, the expense of our mental health. and the quality of the trainers, so I there weren’t such open discussions think that’s quite heartening for me, or open dialogues on mental health Now, we need everyone to sup- knowing that there is so much support issues; people weren’t talking about port us in spreading the word and from the ground.” it, it’s like a taboo topic. Even now, fighting the stigma. Help us make there’s still prevalent stigma. But you a difference. realise, youth and young adults are more forthcoming because they see a lot of campaigns going on, like for —Lee Ying Ying, co-founder of the example, the recent beyond the label SOAR Initiative campaign by NCSS.” Championing Mental Health Also happening in 2019 is a series —Cho Ming Xiu, co-founder of of film screenings by Sherman Ho Campus PSY from the Happiness Initiative. Sup- ported by the National Youth Fund, the “Happiness Film Festival” is a series of film screenings and Q&A sessions that aim to make it easier to talk openly about personal strug- gles with mental health. With more of us stepping up to champion mental health, Youth Corps Singapore has also strength- ened education to equip youth volunteers passionate to make a Photo credit: Youth.SG difference in this area. Along with 31
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