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Her dream is to care for the elderly, the sick, and the handicapped as a religious sister. With the help of Catholic Daughters like you, Cialinett can dedicate her life to helping others. Ready to serve. The problem? Cialinett Colon holds an advanced degree and a heartfelt Religious institutions and seminaries rarely accept desire to serve our Lord as a member of the Sisters of individuals burdened with outstanding educational Christian Charity. loans. This year, nearly half of all candidates in the U.S. will abandon their vocations for this very reason. Sadly, thousands of vocations are in jeopardy. Many devout, educated young people like Cialinett The good news is, Cialinett’s vocation and many seek vocations to religious life and the priesthood each others can be saved! year. Many are highly accomplished professionals — all Since 2003, Labouré has helped deliver over 255 worthy are ready to answer God’s call; but something stands in young people to priestly and religious formation. Will their way. you join us in building a bridge to miracles? Donate today at www.LaboureSociety.org! (Or use the mail-in form below). Help us deliver YES! I will support educated, qualified young people seeking new Catholic religious life through prayer and donations of: vocations by making a $15 $25 $50 $______ (your choice) tax-deductible Donate at LaboureSociety.org or mail a tax-deductible donation to: donation today! Labouré Society, 1365 Corporate Center Curve, Suite 104, Eagan, MN 55121 CD-3-2015 LaboureSociety.org BRIDGE TO MIRACLES 651.452.1160
National Regent’s Message Dear Sisters in Catholic Daughters, Hope all is well with you. May you have a very spiritual Holy Week and a Blessed Easter. The theme of this issue of Share is “Life is a Precious Gift.” From the moment of conception till we take our last breath, life is a precious gift from God; what we do with our life is our gift to God. What will you do with your gift? What are some of the gifts of life God has given us? First we must look toward our families. We must see that they are taken care of but also that we take time with them. If we have young children, grandchildren, nieces or nephews, we play with them, we work with them, National Regent and most of all we pray with them. We must let them know how much the gift of Shirley Seyfried them means to us. We show our young children and grandchildren how much we care and love them by rocking the babies, playing on the floor with the toddlers, attending school age children’s events and especially being there when they receive their Sacraments. Our husbands, mothers and fathers, sisters and brothers are all gifts from our loving God, and we want to show our appreciation of that gift by treating them with love and respect. Do we have elderly parents? If so, how can we help them? Time is a precious commodity for all of us. We sometimes get so busy that we don’t find time to share a visit with our parents and family. Give them a call to let them know you are thinking about them. Our friends and neighbors, and especially our CDA sisters, are all special gifts from God. We help each other out, and share our time and talent with them. In addition, we pray for each other, especially in times of need. When there is sickness or a death in the family, we are there for each other. In fact, we sometimes call our CDA sisters “our powerhouse of prayer” because we know that if we need help, we can always call on them to pray for our families and us. I am sure many of you have personally, as I have, experienced the peace of knowing that our CDA sisters are praying for us. We must remember to thank God for these wonderful gifts He has given us. So far I have talked about appreciating the gift of life that God has given to us in other people. What about the gift of life our God has given to us? One of the best gifts we can give to God is to live our theme for these two years, “Whatever you do for the least of My brethren, you do for Me.” Matthew 25:40. What are we doing “for the least of our brethren”? Have we given to the food shelf or helped feed the hungry at a soup kitchen? Have we donated clothing to help those who have less, or volunteered at a shelter for the homeless? What about helping build a Habitat house to help provide a home for a family? Is there something we can do at the crisis pregnancy center? Perhaps we can counsel a young expectant mother about God’s infinite love for her and her baby and pray that the mother and baby will be healthy. There are many ways we can share God’s gift of life to us by helping others. In this issue of Share, you will see how several people are showing appreciation for their gift of life from God by sharing the talents He has given them. May God truly bless you as you share your life with others. Thank you for sharing those gifts through CDA. Peace and God Bless, Shirley Seyfried National Regent Mission Statement AbouttheCover Catholic Daughters of the Americas strives to embrace The cover picture is of the precious new gift born into the principle of faith working through love in the promotion the Seyfried family while Grandma Shirley was on her of justice, equality, and the way to the March for Life. Ella Lydia was born Janu- advancement of human rights ary 19, 2015, and is the daughter of Shirley and Dave’s and human dignity for all. daughter, Christina, and her husband Gerardo. The Catholic Daughters of the Americas 1
SHARE Catholic Daughters of the Americas Spring 2015 Volume 45• Number 2 National Officers 12 Adoption Stories 24 A Breath of New Life National Regent Shirley Seyfried Minnesota National Regent-Elect 13 Living with Autism 28 REGRET: Portraits Helene Shepard of Post-Abortive 16 New York Women First Vice National Regent Olga Samaniego Life is Precious Texas Second Vice National Regent Sherry Nilles Iowa National Secretary-Treasurer 29 Vickie Feist South Dakota National Directors 20 Leaders for Life Madonna Manor Cares for Retired Catholic Daughters Carolyn Bachmann Ruth Guidry Susan Moné 32 Texas Louisiana Arizona Letty Calvetti Jo Hammen Margi Oller Pennsylvania Wisconsin Ohio Keeping Alive the Joyce Ann Fleming Janet Martineau Sheila Storey Precious Gift of Life Massachusetts Montana North Carolina National Chaplain www.catholicdaughters.org Rev. Matthew Kuhn Minnesota Editorial Offices: Advertising Sales Share Magazine Representative: National Office Staff Catholic Daughters of the Americas Tom Panas Executive Director/Publisher 10 West 71st Street (212) 877-3041 Mary Impellizeri New York, NY 10023 Email: (212) 877-3041 cdashare@aol.com 2 Share Magazine • Spring 2015
Contents 6 March for Life Speech 25 Quality of Life Departments 1 National Regent’s Message 18 CDA in Action 41 People 4 National Chaplain’s Message 36 Focus on Youth 42 Anniversaries 8 Catholic Daughter Projects 37 News & Notes 44 Book Corner Submission of materials for publication in Share: All articles, stories and items must be submitted electronically via email to Tom Panas at the following email address: cdashare@aol.com. They should be submitted in a Word document attached to your email or within the body of your email. Photos must be sent in JPEG format as attachments to your email. Beginning with the Fall 2015 Issue NO HARD COPY PHOTOS WILL BE ACCEPTED. Be sure to identify individuals in photo, “from left to right.” Deadlines for final emailing of materials for publication are: Spring Issue—January 15; Summer Issue—April 15; Fall Issue—July 15; Winter Issue—October 15. Due to limited space all material appearing in Share is evaluated for interest to readers, theme in keeping with the purpose of Share, educational, informational, and religious value to readers and date received. The publishers are not responsible for factual errors from information submitted by authors and readers. The Catholic Daughters of the Americas has 70,000 members in 1250 courts in the United States, Mexico, Guam, the Virgin Islands and Puerto Rico. The Catholic Daughters of the Americas 3
National Chaplain’s Message Dear Sisters in Christ, Every life is a gift from God. Have you opened yours? In one of my favorite movies, Joe Versus the Volcano, an eager young woman tells Joe Banks that most people live as if asleep. In her words: “Only a few people are awake, and they live in a state of constant, total amazement.” I have always liked this quote because I think it captures the beauty of what faith does to our lives. When we acknowledge God’s role in our lives, we wake up! We see the world through the eyes of faith. Suddenly everything is a miracle. Everything becomes meaningful because everything is a gift from God. Life is an opportunity for constant, total amazement at how much God loves us. Saint John says this better in his First Letter: “See what love the Father has Father Matthew Kuhn bestowed on us that we may be called the children of God. Yet so we are.” God wants us to acknowledge our relationship to Him and to live in a manner that is consistent with our identity as children of God. Every created thing exists because God thought the world would be better with that thing in it, even you--especially you! The world is better because you are in it. God created you for a beautiful purpose, and you make the world better just by being alive! So now, child of God, what will you do with the beautiful gift of life that your loving Father has bestowed upon you? How will you honor the Giver? One of my favorite ways of thanking God is to make a list of my blessings. I mean a real, physical list. Name and list every person, event, or thing that has been a source of joy in your life, even just for a moment: Thank you God for my father. Thank you God for my father’s sense of discipline which has helped me to grow in virtue. Thank you God for the guy who let me merge into traffic on my morning commute today. Thank you God for my favorite yellow sweater; it reminds me of the sunshine. Ooh! Thank you God for the sunshine! Whatever and however God has gifted your life, thank God for that. Then, if you are tempted to gossip, you have a whole list of better things to talk about. Just bring up one of your small gifts, or ask a friend about his or her gifts, or thank that friend for being a gift in your life. If you have a bad day, go back and review your list. If you are having a good day, add to the list. God has blessed you richly; all you have to do is open your eyes and be amazed. Near the end of Joe Versus the Volcano, Joe Banks finds himself adrift and utterly helpless. Feverish and alone, he looks up as the moon rises and bathes his little raft in light. Struck by the awesome beauty of the moment, Joe cries out to the heavens: “Dear God, whose name I do not know, thank you for my life. I forgot how big... thank you. Thank you for my life.” My dear sisters, may you always live fully awake to the precious gift of life. May you live in a state of constant, total amazement. And may God continue to bless you richly and bless others through your unity and charity. Peace in Christ, Father Matthew Kuhn National Chaplain 4 Share Magazine • Spring 2015
From Planned Parenthood to Zealous Pro-life Leader Zealous Pro-life Leader “A riveting story! Offers important insights on the fight for life in the modern age.” —Jennifer Fulwiler, Author, Something Other Than God “An enthralling, page-turning memoir. You won’t want to put this book down!” —Donna-Marie Cooper O’Boyle, EWTN TV Host ♦ REDEEMED BY GRACE A Catholic Woman’s Journey to Planned Parenthood and Back By Ramona Trevino with Roxane Salonen A t age eight, Ramona Treviño received a sign that God was real and made a pact with herself to follow him always. But family difficulties and growing pains made it very hard to keep that pact. Pregnant at sixteen, she dropped out of high school and entered an abusive marriage, which ended in divorce. Wanting to help girls in similar tough situations, she accepted a job as the manager of a Planned Parenthood facility. However, Ramona began to grapple with whether she was doing women more harm than good, setting her on a path to seek the truth, no matter where it might lead. A compelling story of Ramona’s struggle to reconcile her identity as a daughter of God with a world that sends conflicting messages about the source of our dignity and happiness. It is the heartfelt account of a woman who, with the help of grace, overcame the wounds of her own RAMONA TREVIÑO is a devoted wife and mother who, past while becoming an agent of healing for others. after her exodus from Planned Parenthood, became an Spanish Edition: RBG:SP-P . . . Sewn Softcover, $14.95 international public speaker and prolife advocate, defend- ing the sanctity of life. ROXANE SALONEN has worked in RBG-H . . . Sewn Hardcover, $17.95 professional communications for over twenty years as an For more information, visit: award-winning columnist, reporter, children’s author, redeemedbygracebook.com and freelance writer. “A must-read book! It shows us that “Stark, challenging and yet filled with hope. no matter how far we stray from God, his The work can and will save lives!” mercy can always bring us back.” —Lisa Hendey, Founder, CatholicMom.com —Shawn Carney, National Director, 40 Days for Life Other Popular Memoirs from Ignatius Press UNPLANNED Abby Johnson THE EAR OF THE HEART Mother Dolores Hart UNP-P . . . Softcover, $14.95 LH-H . . . Hardcover, $24.95 SOMETHING OTHER THAN GOD Jennifer Fulwiler A VOICE UNDEFEATED Collin Raye SOG-H . . . Hardcover, $22.95 TMSY-H . . . Hardcover, $21.95 www.ignatius.com P.O. Box 1339, Ft. Collins, CO 80522 1 (800) 651-1531
Shanley Catholic High School is located in Fargo, North Dakota. Because of the outstanding Pro-Life program at Shanley, they were asked to carry the lead banner in the March for Life in Washington, DC. The grandson of Shirley Seyfried, National Regent, and the nieces and nephew of Vickie Feist, National Secretary-Treasurer, attend Shanley and are active in the Pro-Life organization there. Julia Johnson, a senior at Shanley and also very active in the Pro-Life Program was the representative from Shanley High School who was chosen to speak at the National Mall before the March for Life. Having previously met and spoken with Julia, the Catholic Daughters were extremely proud of the wonderful speech she Julia Johnson delivered on the Mall in Washington just prior to the March. (There is an hour of Pro-Life speeches on the Mall prior to the beginning of the March). Below is the text of Julia’s speech. —Shirley Seyfried March for Life Speech by Julia Johnson T hank you. As was mentioned my name is Julia Johnson, and I am a senior at Shanley High School in Fargo, ND. As a school we are humbled and honored to have been selected to carry the lead banner in this year’s March for Life. To the youth of America, it is our responsibility to end the scourge of abortion. At Shanley High School, we are trying to do just that. We have had an active pro-life group for many years and in being named to carry the lead banner, we decided to bring our entire high school this year. Including students, teachers, and chaperones, we packed 400 pro- Shanley High School Students holding the banner leading the March. life warriors into eight buses. We have traveled for 24 hours to come to DC to be a witness for Life in our Nation’s capital. We are the Pro-Life Generation! To my fellow youth, our cause in defending life is a noble one. It is noble because we are living in a modern-day Holocaust, a Holocaust that on average takes the lives of more than 3,000 babies each day, which amounts to over one million babies a year. The silent 6 Share Magazine • Spring 2015
horror of abortion has embedded itself into society and has targeted the most vulnerable and precious of us all. But, we will not remain idle. We cannot! It is our job to protect our brothers and sisters in the womb and their right to life. It is our obligation to “speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves;” (Pr. 31:8) for one’s value is not determined by size, or age. As I look out I see hundreds of thousands of people willing to stand up for what is right and true and virtuous. Our generation has stared through the smoke screen of lies and deceit, and we have seen the truth! We know that human life is present in the womb, and we are willing to fight for it. We refuse to stand by and watch the lives of innocent children be discarded as nothing more than “medical waste.” This is why we March: we march to stop an injustice that has taken the lives of a third of our generation. This pro-life revolution was not born out of hate for our neighbors, but out of love for them. And as we walk today I look forward to experiencing the joy that comes from being a part of an event that is bigger than ourselves. I am privileged to Catholic Daughters gather to continue the annual tradition of attending the Vigil Mass at The Basilica of the National Shrine of the march with each one of you, and that together we will Immaculate Conception on the eve of the March for Life. In the front achieve victory for mothers and their babies, for our pew, left to right, are National Regent-Elect Helene Shepard, National country, and for our God. God bless you. Regent Shirley Seyfried and Shirley’s husband Dave. The Catholic Daughters who marched together in the annual March for Life in Washington, D.C., January 22, 2015. The Catholic Daughters of the Americas 7
Catholic Daughter Projects Speaking at the 55th Biennial National Convention last year, National Regent Shirley Seyfried asked that each court commit to one new activity or project each year. “Start a new project and let me hear about it,” Shirley said. “I would like to feature some projects in SHARE Magazine, in the Quarterly and on the Website.” This is SHARE’s New Projects section where some of your projects will be featured in each issue. Sponsor a child Court Du Quoin #795, Du Quoin, Illinois One of the main projects of CDA court #795 in Du Quoin, Illinois is the sponsorship of a young boy from Kenya from Project Nairobi, through the UNBOUND organization. UNBOUND works side-by-side with people living in poverty in 21 countries around the world. Our parish priest and CDA chaplain, Father Joseph Oganda, was born and raised in Nairobi, Kenya, which is another reason we selected a youth from this specific country. Several individual members of our court have also elected sponsorship of children, youth/students and/or the elderly in Shoperoo and Missions other countries. Court St. Petronille Parish #1096, Glen Ellyn, Illinois Our second major project that we have planned Court St. Petronille Parish #1096 in Glen Ellyn, Illinois, added Shoperoo is to support a program our parish and diocese as a new charity for this year. My Circle of Love chairman, Gertrude refer to as “Bibles for Life,” which funds the MacPhail, started it. Shoperoo is a free app for your smart phone that purchase, translation and distribution of bibles to turns pictures of your shopping receipts into cash donations for your underdeveloped countries throughout the world. designated school. The school receives $1 for every $500 of grocery Again, several individual members of our court are receipts. Gertrude gathers all of our shopping receipts and records personally supporting this missionary work through them in her smart phone. These are raising money for our parochial voluntary donations. The cost of an individual bible is school. greatly reduced when purchased in larger quantities, At this coming March meeting, I will present a program at our which results in more bibles being donated. regular CDA meeting featuring Mary Miller, our Youth Minister In recognition of our national CDA theme from St. Petronille, and Karen O'Brien, our parish Christian Service “Whatever you do for the least of My brethren, Minister. They will be presenting a film on their Mission trip to the De you do for Me” —Matthew 25:40, we are extremely LaSalle Blackfeet School on the Blackfeet Reservation in Browning proud and honored, as both CDA members and Montana. This reservation is home to twelve thousand Blackfeet individuals, to support both this projects. Indians who live in poverty and suffer many attendant problems such as unemployment, high rates of alcoholism and family dysfunction. Brenda Sims, Regent The average family income is $12,000 per year. Some years ago, the De LaSalle Christian Brothers were asked to start an elementary school to educate children and give them hope for a brighter future. We understand that this school can use help with books and other materials for the children who attend. After the presentation to our membership, we hope to ask our group members if they would vote to add this to our list of charities this year. If our membership votes positively, we will then have our two new charities for this year as you hope each of our courts would do. Mary Ann Jung, Regent 8 Share Magazine • Spring 2015
Catholic Daughter Projects Quiet Bags Court St Rita #409, Perham, Minnesota Court St Rita’s project is “Quiet Bags” for little children. Our Court Treasurer Rosie Altstadt’s son Dewey crafted four stands with pegs to hang bags on. The stands were embellished with a cross to better suit the church environment. Our bags were imprinted with the Catholic Daughter emblem so everyone using the bags can see that CDA is sponsoring the Quiet Bags. The bags are supplied with religious children’s books, color crayons and a weekly children’s bulletin. Families with young children are encouraged to use these bags during Mass if they would like, returning them to the stands at the end of Mass. The children’s weekly bulletin is for the child to take home. The bags are then updated by the Catholic Daughters for the next week. Pictured in the photo are Father Matt Kuhn, our Parish Priest and National Chaplain, Project Chairmen Janel Altstadt and Regent Dianne Rohde-Szarke. Florence “Fuzz” Hammers Gifts for the Pregnancy Center Court Mother Frances Cabrini #1415, Lebanon, Oregon Court Mother Frances Cabrini #1415 chose our local Pregnancy Center as our new project of the new year. We began by holding our November meeting at the center. With about 15 members attending, we were given a complete tour of the facility. It was followed by a brief history as they had just celebrated their 25th year. We left excited to begin and did so by using our Christmas party to collect personal items for the women and men clients of the center. With over 25 Moms and Munchkins women attending our Christmas Court Howard #1882, Ellicott City, Maryland party, we were able to deliver In September 2014, Court Howard #1882 from Ellicott $300.00 worth of personal City, Maryland launched a new program, Moms and items with gift bags and wrap Munchkins. The purpose of the program is to provide to the center. They were thrilled. stay-at-home moms with an opportunity for a morning Our next step was to host a out, to meet with other moms while their children are baby shower in our parish with supervised in a Catholic setting. Members of Court setting up a crib near the altar. We began on the Sunday of the Howard developed and led the program. The program Feast of the Holy Family and it lasted a month, with our parish provides liturgy sessions, prayer, song and arts & crafts members filling the crib to overflowing. We delivered a pickup activities for the children. The purpose is to bring the truck loaded with almost 400 items and the crib to the center. moms closer to the love of Jesus along with their We will continue with delivering $5.00 Dutch Brothers gift cards children. The sessions are on the third Friday of the to the women on Mother’s Day and $5.00 gift cards to the men on month. Participants have expressed appreciation for Father’s Day. We will also continue by walking as a court in PAC’s the program and the Court members involved are very annual Walk For Life in May, one of their major fundraisers. pleased with the events to date. Chris Williamson, Regent Mary F. Messina, Regent The Catholic Daughters of the Americas 9
Catholic Daughter Projects Neck Pillows for Hospice Patients Court Ludington #745, Ludington, Michigan We were approached by the father of one of our members who is active in Hospice of Ludington requesting assistance with sewing neck pillows for their patients. I made a few phone calls to members whom I knew were sewers. I soon had a group of able women to help with this project. Hospice provided us with a pattern and Spiritual Adoption Project some material and appropriate stuffing. We started this project the second week Court St. Veronica #1273, Hardwick, Vermont in December, which is busy for everyone, Baby Shower for Care Net but we were able to complete enough For nine months, Catholic Daughters of the Americas Court St. Veronica #1273, pillows to take them through spring. One Hardwick, Vermont, prayed for an unborn baby in danger of abortion. The Court of our members enlisted the help of her “named” the baby Veronica in their prayers. To culminate the nine months, the granddaughter who had a new sewing Court held a baby shower on September 28, at St. Norbert Church in Hardwick, machine to use. for Care Net Pregnancy Center of Central Vermont in Barre, Vermont. Court St. In the picture, Susan Boes is surrounded Veronica and other Vermont court members and parishioners of Mary Queen of by a pile of neck bone pillows. All Saints Parish donated gifts for the baby shower. Sheila Bailey, Director of the Care Net Pregnancy Center, spoke to the group about their work and the needs of Rosemarie DeLoof, Regent the Center to counsel women and men faced with unplanned pregnancies. They help support pregnancies and parents with their baby boutique of maternity and baby clothes, diapers, equipment and parenting classes. Just as in a real baby shower, games and refreshments were part of the day, as well as eyeing all the cute baby outfits and gifts. Ms. Bailey brought back the baby clothes, diapers, wipes, lotions, baby wash, blankets, and more that had filled a table and display rack to replenish their baby boutique. In the photo, front row, left to right: Pat Lemay, Robin Gauthier, Mary Jane Fradette, Debbie Brown, Sheila Bailey and Anne Renaud Conway. Back Row, left to right, Emma Pudvah, Doris Voyer (regent), Beverly Shepard, Jeannette Brochu, Jeannine Young, Helen Willey, Jocelyne Lussier and Lindsey Warren. Doris Voyer, Regent Pennies for the Poor Court Pere Marquette #1058, Sturgeon Bay, Wisconsin Court Pere Marquette #1058 would like to do what it can, but our court has many elderly members, so some projects would be too difficult due to limited physical abilities. The ladies of our court decided for this year our project will be Pennies for the Poor, with the contributions added up at the end of the year, and given to either the Hispanic community, Feed and Clothe My People (a local organization in our community) or the Christ Child Society. Jean Austad, Regent 10 Share Magazine • Spring 2015
Catholic Daughter Projects Family Christmas for Christmas Court #1377, Iowa, Louisiana The members of Court #1377 of Iowa, Louisiana, always exchange gifts at our Christmas meeting. This year we decided to adopt a family of three: a father and his two grown sons. They have hardly anything. We filled the trunks of two cars, bringing them clothes (all new), cleaning supplies, food items and wash cloths/towels. They were so appreciative, and so surprised. One said, “this is for all for us.” Then the church parish gave them a food basket. This was a new project our court took on and the members really came out supporting this project. It was a great success. In the photo, Dora LeBlanc, left, and Bobbie LeBlanc, right, show one of the car trunks filled with donated items. Vickie Broussard Melanson, Regent Ruby’s Pantry—Food Distribution Nursing Home Visits Court St. Joan of Arc #1291 Court St. Charles #472, Lincoln, Nebraska Marshall, Minnesota Court St. Charles #472 in Lincoln, Nebraska, adopted a new project: Court St. Joan of Arc #1291 in Marshall, Minnesota, Visits to Nursing Homes. We appointed a chairman and co-chairman has adopted a new project called Ruby’s Pantry. The and the court members sign up to visit when the priests lead the program is a monthly Food Distribution program. rosary and celebrate Mass at the local nursing homes. Members of our Catholic Daughters of the Americas Court have actively taken part in assisting with Alice Rotter, Regent the food distribution by stocking tables of food, organizing lines of people for the event, and being cashier. We will continue to assist with this program Pro-Life Project ongoing in the spirit of “Sharing the Love of Christ Court Washington #1651, Washington, Pennsylvania Through Food.” This food distribution program serves Through the husband of one of our members, we learned of the the entire community and is used by many. Knights of Columbus Ultrasound Machine Purchase Program, which they launched as a new initiative aimed at providing women Coleen Frye, Regent considering abortion a new way of viewing the life within them. After presenting this information to our members in September, they unanimously voted to adopt this as our Court’s Pro-life project, using the monies that are available in our Pro-Life Fund to help fund the ultrasound machines. Our Pro-Life Fund comes from loose change, as well as paper money, which is collected in our baby bottle at each meeting throughout the year. We then invited the State Co-Chair of the project to speak to our members at the November meeting. He explained that our donation would be applied to the purchase of an ultrasound machine for the “Women’s Choice Network in Oakland, Pennsylvania.” A check in the amount of $150 was presented at this meeting and we plan to make an annual donation to the Knights Ultrasound Project. We are happy to be able to assist those women who might be contemplating an abortion to recognize the miracle of a new life within her. Laraine A. McGinnis The Catholic Daughters of the Americas 11
Adoption Stories B oth National Regent-Elect, Helene Shepard and Past National Regent, Claudia Bosch have adopted children. As part of our “Life is a Precious Gift” issue, we asked them to share their stories of adoption. Helene Shepard Each year going to the March for Life has special Becoming birth parents is a gift from God. Sadly, meaning for me because if their mothers had chosen not every married couple receives this gift. It was not abortion, John, Patrick, and Allen would not have given to John and me. However, we realized that some existed, and my life would have been vastly different. children are born from their mother and father, and Life was given to Deacon John, and we in turn were some are born from the heart. This was the case for able to give a new life to Patrick and Allen. If I could, I Patrick and Allen who were born from our hearts. Once would do it all over again. we found out that we were unable to have our own children, adoption became our goal. Claudia Bosch We adopted 10 year old, Patrick, and When Jim and I were married, we had hoped for a two years after we adopted Patrick, we large family. Needless to say, when we became pregnant found out that we could now adopt a with our son, we were overjoyed. I was positive I was four year old boy named Allen. The the most beautiful mother-to-be who ever existed, even twenty years Patrick was with us were though I gained 45 pounds. I was so happy I was a mother, happy ones for each of us. He brought joy and happiness that I strolled the baby all around town so everyone could to our home. We had the opportunity to become a see I was a “Mom.” I even wore an apron at home because family. When he was thirty, he had a heart attack while that also was a sign of motherhood (in my mind)! watching TV. This came as a shock to all of us. We felt, As the years went by, we prayed for however, that it was, “Better to have loved and lost than more children, but apparently God had not to have loved at all.” (Alfred, Lord Tennyson) other plans for us. When our son was Allen on the other hand, had many needs, and he seven, I thought about adoption. Notice presented numerous challenges to us. It is gratifying, I said ‘I’ thought about it. Jim wasn’t however, to know that he did not have to spend his too sure about the idea because he was life growing up in an orphanage. He could be part of a concerned that he may not be able to love another child family through adoption. as much as our biological son. After discussing this with Life to us has always been considered a precious our dear priest friend, we soon realized and understood gift. Deacon John, my husband of happy memory, was that childbirth is an act of nature and adoption is an act of not raised by his biological mother. The only contact God. We contacted Catholic Family Services and were on he had with her was at the time of her death. He was our way to increasing our family. Seven months later, we informed about it, and he insisted that we attend her got “the call;” our daughter was waiting for us. Talk about funeral. When paying our respects, he put his hand nerves! Paintbrushes and baby clothes were flying all over on her coffin and said something very powerful, “She the place - we only had two day’s notice! I had to call my gave me life.” It made such an impression on me that parents to come and care for our son because he had the I could not help but think that the world has been a measles and couldn’t come with us. Talk about anxiety! better place because she gave him life. It also made me Driving the 100 miles to meet our daughter was think of the many brave young women who choose to worse than the labor I experienced giving birth to my give birth to their child rather than abort and allow that baby to be raised by a new and loving family. Continued on page 14 12 Share Magazine • Spring 2015
Living with Autism Sherry Nilles Second Vice National Regent R especting life in all forms is one value that is central to Catholic teaching. Family is where values, attitudes, and acceptance are learned. “Emily doesn’t travel well.” patterns of autism. As a result of that, more individuals —Anna, Emily’s sister, age nine. are diagnosed and have access to resources needed. Additionally, a widened definition of autism has also Emily is six years old. Her day is very structured. accounted for some of the increased prevalence. Morning starts with choosing clothing for the day. But what causes autism? A common misconception Shoes that were lined up perfectly the evening before is that vaccines caused autism. Vaccines do NOT cause are slipped on. autism. The study that originally caused people to She likes Pop Tarts with her milk for breakfast. believe that vaccines caused autism was found to be Lunch favorites are chicken strips, fries and a milk fraudulent and has been retracted from Lancet, the shake. The dinner menu includes spaghetti sauce with journal in which the study was published. In fact, the noodles and milk. Snack specialties are grapes, Goldfish drug Thimerosal, thought to have caused autism, was crackers or Alphabet cereal. Sounds pretty normal for a removed from vaccines in 1992. child of six, doesn’t it? The items listed for Emily are the There is probably not just one single answer only foods she will consume each and every day. Other or cause for autism. As the label Autism covers a foods are not given consideration or tried. spectrum of symptoms and behaviors, so the causes Emily’s favorite time of day is the bus ride to her may be many and varied. One of the observed factors school. She has her self-assigned seat on the bus. Only common in autism is the age of the parents at the time that seat will do for the bus ride. The same route must of conception. Another is exposure to certain agents be followed every day. Any deviations cause distress, while the fetal brain is developing. Use of certain anxiety and a very unhappy child. Travel because of medications is also on the list. In addition, there can its unstructured pattern is nearly be some infectious agents that can impossible for Emily. What causes cause autism. One area being studied this behavior? This family lives with is specific genes that cause autism, autism. not because genes are the only One in sixty-eight children is cause, but that they can be readily diagnosed with autism. Why did Emily defined and understood biologically. develop autism? Is there an autism Understanding how the brain works epidemic? In the late 1980’s and early and the biology behind it helps to 1990’s, legislation was passed that come up with strategies to be able provided autistic individuals with to more completely understand and resources and access to educational intervene. materials that would help them. Looking at the concordance rate, Given this increased awareness, more that is the probability that more than parents, pediatricians and educators Emily (6) and her sister Anna (9) by the one child in the same family will be learned to recognize the behavior Christmas tree. autistic, gives a further understanding The Catholic Daughters of the Americas 13
103⁄4 101⁄2 of genetics. Identical twins, fraternal twins and regular parents were very concerned. When Emily was finally siblings were studied. The concordance rate was diagnosed, an intensive program was set up for her. most prevalent in identical twins, yet only at a rate of At the tender age of three, Emily was immersed 77%. For fraternal twins the rate was only 31%. Genes in a daily program for autistic children. The morning account for a lot of the risk, but not all, suggesting that was spent with a one-on-one therapist in the family there are common exposures for fraternal twins that home. Afternoons involved a school setting with other are not shared as commonly as siblings alone. In some autistic children. She now attends kindergarten with individuals, autism can be genetic not because it runs in the assistance of an aide. Her speech, while not yet age the family, but because certain individuals actually have appropriate, is understandable and logical. Medication genetic changes or mutations that are not passed down has helped lessen the anxiety she experiences. Food from the mother or the father, but actually start brand choices are still limited, but new foods are hesitantly new in them. tried. Her parents continue, with normal discipline and The current estimation is that there are 200 to 400 exposure to the outside world, to encourage continued different genes that can cause autism. That explains the growth and the ability to function in society. She plays broad spectrum of autism. Early diagnosis is critical quietly, mostly by herself, and loves to be tickled! in the ability to transform and impact the growing Respect for all life from conception to natural death developing brain. includes accepting children and members of society Combinations of factors are being used to intervene. who have challenges. Emily’s mother commented that Medications and drug therapy are commonly used. working and living with Emily has made her more But beyond just drugs, educational strategies are used. compassionate and accepting of God’s plan, realizing Autistic people are wired a bit differently. They learn that God provides strength. Advocating for all children in different ways and absorb their surrounding in a who need assistance has made her stronger and given different way. Although much is known, there is a long a greater understanding that God is good. way to go and much more to learn along the way. Anna and Emily are my granddaughters. What is Emily’s prognosis? Because her mother is a registered nurse with experience in child development, For additional information on autism, she recognized early warning signs. Her mom noticed please go to www.autismspeaks.org no eye contact with mom during nursing. Speech that normally would have occurred by age two did not. Even Sherry Nilles though the pediatrician was at first not concerned, her Adoption Stories (continued from page 12) son! This beautiful gift from God was lying in a crib, beautiful gift. One needs to understand adoption is not eyes wide open looking at her Mommy and Daddy and a birth mother’s rejection, but an unconditional love smiling at us. I started to cry, and Jim gently picked that inspires her to put herself last and her baby first. her up and held her. She just stared at him and smiled. My daughter is a product of two women - just two Once my tears stopped, Jim handed her to me, and the different types of love. Today, this daughter is a mother look I got seemed to say, “It’s okay Mommy, I’m yours.” of three children - one biological and two adopted. Thus we became a family of four. Our birth announcement’s cover read: There is absolutely no difference between being biological or adopted - they are both special gifts from NOT FLESH OF MY FLESH, NOR BONE God, and I am so lucky to be their Mother. OF MY BONE Over the years, we had the opportunity to meet our BUT STILL MIRACULOUSLY MY OWN. daughter’s birth family, as well as the foster parents. YOU DIDN’T GROW UNDER MY HEART, It gave us the opportunity to thank them for this BUT IN IT. 14 Share Magazine • Spring 2015 101⁄2
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Life is Precious By Vickie Broussard Melanson Past National Director and Past State Regent of Louisiana W hy do we get distracted by everyday living? What importance do we place on our got-to-have list? Why has our must-do list grown so large? Why do we make life so difficult? Why do we place so much importance on the trivia of living? This all hit me July 2012, as Hospice was called in health, and your children. If everything else was lost and for Johnny, my husband, who had cancer and there was only they remained, your life would still be full. Pebbles nothing else to do for him. We traveled to MD Anderson are other things that matter—like your job, your house, in Houston for three years praying for a miracle. The your vehicle. The sand is everything else, the small stuff. name of his cancer, which I could not even pronounce, If you had put the sand first, there would have been illustrated how complex we make life today. no room for pebbles or rocks. The same goes for your As we prepared to leave Houston and return home, life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small I was scared, upset, and worried. How would I be stuff, you will never have room for the things that are able to care for my husband around the clock? How important. Pay attention to the things that are critical to would I be able to make him comfortable for the last your happiness. Play with your children/grandchildren, few months of his life? I said, “I cannot do this.” As I go dancing, go to the movies, sit and read a book, visit was forced to build up courage to face what was ahead, God was already delivering just what I needed. My family, along with Johnny’s, came forward to be with us during this time. My pastor, people of our church, friends, and neighbors surrounded us with love by doing things for us or just being there, but the greatest of all were the ones who prayed for and with us. The light and love of the people we loved showed through the everyday cluster of trivia we all put in our lives. Love flowed giving me strength and courage to overcome my fears and doubts. The power of love took over. Love soothed, healed, and showed the way of hope. Yes, LIFE IS PRECIOUS. All of us matter. Always remember, the greatest gift you can give to others is to share your time and talents to meet the human needs of others. Your love and your presence can change the world. Do not allow stuff to rule your world. I will explain to you what is very important and what matters. Get a jar and fill it with rocks, then pebbles, and last sand. That jar represents your LIFE. The rocks are the important things—your family, your spouse, your 16 Share Magazine • Spring 2015
friends/relatives, please hug your family members daily, others. LIFE IS PRECIOUS. Remember God expects and let them know you love them. the best from each of us and our fellow man depends Mother Teresa once asked, “What can you do to on us. LIFE IS PRECIOUS. promote world peace?” The answer was to “go home During my husband’s last few months of life, he and love your family.” Do not miss doing important or quoted these lines of Scripture many times, “as it is these fun things with your family/friends because you have remain: Faith, Hope, and Love. Of the three of them, the to do housework or other things like this. You see, your greatest is LOVE.” My husband passed away in October family/friends may not be here tomorrow, but that of 2012 after we were married four years. Both of us housework will still be there. Take care of the rocks learned during this time that LIFE IS PRECIOUS; we first; these are the things that really matter. Set your already knew this, but we took life for granted as most priorities, the rest is just sand. LIFE IS PRECIOUS. of us do. We found out what was important in our Love truly matters; make one of your purposes in life. Praying was also very important to us, we prayed life to be able to help someone today. Even if you do together daily. So you see my friends, we may not be not have money or you’re not healthy—you can always here tomorrow, so make the most of today, and enjoy help someone; there is always someone worse off every minute as if it were your last to live. than you. I witnessed this many times going back and I want to leave you with something to think forth to MD Anderson Hospital in Houston. Johnny about: What is your plan to do with your PRECIOUS and I met a woman in an elevator all alone, and she LIFE? As Dr. Seuss said so well, sometimes you will looked like she had received bad news so, as we were never know the value of a moment until it becomes exiting the elevator, I asked her, “you need a hug?” So, a memory. LIFE IS PRECIOUS. May God bless each I hugged her, and she thanked me and cried saying she one of you and please enjoy each minute of your life, needed that. See it does not take much to show love to because LIFE IS SO PRECIOUS. Prayer for Life O God, our Creator, all life is in your hands from conception until death. Help us to cherish our children and to reverence the awesom e privilege of our share in creation. M ay all people live and die in dignity and love. Bless all those who defend the rights of the unborn, the handicapped and the aged. Enlighten and be m erciful toward those who fail to love, and give them peace. Let freedom be tem pered by responsibility, integrity and m orality. — from Catholic.org The Catholic Daughters of the Americas 17
CDAInAction www.catholicdaughters.org California Court Holds Bake Sale Louisiana Court Members Members of Court St. Raymond #2057, Dublin, California, Gather in Peaceful Protest in held its semi-annual bake sale with the generous support Front of Abortion Clinic of parishioners who purchased and enjoyed homemade baked items prepared and donated by court members. The bake sale accommodated people with special dietary needs, offering sugar free and gluten free baked goods. The rain did not dampen the spirit of parishioners who stopped by to either purchase baked goods or make cash donations to the court. Court members, standing behind attractively packaged baked goods, are, left Members of Court Regina Coeli #2063, Baton Rouge, to right, Sylvia San Louisiana, rallied in front of the Delta Clinic (an abortion Miguel, event chair, Nubia Walker, Nicole provider) in Baton Rouge. The walk was part of the court’s Allen, recording participation in the 40 Days For Life Campaign, which, secretary and Annie according to its website, is “a community-based campaign Brozosky. that takes a determined, peaceful approach to showing local communities the consequences of abortion in their own neighborhoods, for their own friends and families.” Six court members and one guest participated. In the photo, left to right, are Gail Harris, Charlotte Mathis, Mary Decuir (guest), Liz Bennett, Joyce Eiserloh, Carolyn Bonfanti and Anita Harper. New York Court Collects Texas Court Helps Catholic Supplies for Schoolchildren School Build Gymnasium Court Our Lady of the Gulf #2267, Port Lavaca, Texas, donated $10,000 to Our Lady of the Gulf Catholic School to help complete the school’s new gymnasium. In the photo, left to right, are Principal Theresa Dent, Margaret Rosales, Regent Margaret Hilscher, Treasurer Margaret Yanta, Pastor Rev. Tommy Chen, Vice Regent Georgia Mikosh, Nancy Thompson, Recording Secretary Vonnie Greenly, Patty Weaver and Rose Marie Knobles. Members of Court St. Ann #866, Piermont, New York, pack school supplies they collected for the People to People “To School With Dignity Drive,” a program dedicated to bringing confidence and dignity to needy children. Standing, left to right, are Edna Blose, May Pang, Therese O’Dowd, Janet Zahn, Bridget Rogan, Barbara Volpe and Anne Marie Flynn. Seated, left to right, Robin Miller and Maryann Beckerich. 18 Share Magazine • Spring 2015
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Leaders for Life Helene Shepard National Regent-Elect, National Leadership Chairman B ecause of our past wonderful leaders, we have made a smooth transition into the 21st century. We are proud and blessed to have many leaders who are able to continue to serve our organization after their terms as National Regent are completed. As a tribute to them, and also as a sign of gratitude, we are featuring them in the following article. Presently, there are seven living Past National experience for me to visit the membership and to see Regents who have impacted the lives of all Catholic them in all phases of our programs.” Daughters. They have reached the pinnacle of M. Joan McKenna served as National Regent leadership in their terms as Local, State, and National from 2004-2006. Officers, and, ultimately, as National Regents. They “Since my involvement with JCDA beginning in were each asked to respond to four questions, and as 1948, I have honed my leadership and mentoring you read, you will see that their service did not end skills and strengthened my spirituality.” when their terms ended. They are Leaders for Life, Claudia R. Bosch served as National Regent and they are all active members in their local courts from 2006-2008. and have continued to serve in various capacities. “The road I’ve traveled as a Catholic Daughter laid the foundation for my being today. The opportunities How did your term as national Regent impact your extended to me provided an inner strength I wasn’t life in a personal way? aware existed. I discovered becoming involved in spiritual and charitable works with CDA provided me Rayola McLaughlin served four years as with wonderful avenues I had not had the strength or National Regent from 1986 -1990. courage to encounter.” “It was invigorating to be alive and active, living Libby Ramirez served as National Regent from and leading the Catholic Daughters in this Century. 2008 - 2010. It truly made me much more aware of the many “My life was impacted when I was elected challenges confronting us on a daily basis. It also National Regent-Elect and especially when the road gave me a more reverent and respectful regard for the to National Regent began. I had the opportunity to mystery of the Church.” meet so many people and members of the Catholic Grace Di Cairano served as National Regent Daughters that I would not have had an opportunity from 2002 - 2004. to meet. It gave me the assurance to finally realize “I was proud and blessed to represent and lead that I could do anything God had in store for me.” the members of our great organization of Catholic Joanne Tomassi, Past National Regent served women. It was a distinct honor and a profound 2010 - 2012 20 Share Magazine • Spring 2015
“Serving as National Regent was an amazing experience. The work seemed endless and very fulfilling. Ultimately, my term gave me the opportunity for a career change. It opened doors for me to go to work for my parish in a position that is service centered rather than profit focused.” Anne Nelson served as National Regent from 2012 - 2014 “Meeting some of the greatest Catholic women in this organization had a profound impact on my life. I always stand taller knowing there are women of great faith, vision and energy carrying the CDA mission to their parishes, communities, states and world. I will treasure their friendship.” What projects or programs did you pioneer during your term? Of what are you most proud? All of the accomplishments of these women are too numerous to include in this one article. However, I do want to highlight one or two from each of their terms. Past National Regents and the years they served. Back row, left to right, Claudia Bosch, 2006-08, M. Joan McKenna, 2004-06, Grace DiCairano, 2002-04. Middle row, left to right, Rayola’s project was the Joanne Tomassi, 2010-12, Libby Ramirez, 2008-10. Front row: Anne Nelson, 2012-14. Missing “Relocation Building Fund from picture: Rayola McLaughlin, 1986-90. Project.” CDA made a pledge of $500,000 to USCCB. The altar in the chapel of the of CDA, in New York and in Washington DC. The bishops’ headquarters in Washington, D.C., was highlight in this term was the trip to Rome and the designated as a gift from the Catholic Daughters. presentation of the Spiritual Bouquet presented to Additionally, seed money in the amount of $20,000 the Holy Father for his anniversary and for the 100th was given to SOAR 28 years ago, and we continue to anniversary of CDA. support this as a National Project. The highlight of M. Joan fostered a monthly newsletter keeping her term was the presentation of Development 88-90. Past National Regents abreast of pertinent The plan was to get 10,000 new members. They organizational and personal information. It was also exceeded their goal by 100% to 20,000, and 42 new sent to all Past National Chaplains. The National courts were instituted. Directors Club was organized, which has provided Grace’s major project was the publication of the past national directors an opportunity to grow closer History Book – A Century in Review in concert and stay in constant contact with each other. with the authors and Mercury Publication Company. Claudia stated that she followed in the footsteps of There were two celebrations of the 100th Anniversary National Regents before her. “I do not wish to specify any The Catholic Daughters of the Americas 21
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