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1 REAL LIVES Summer 2021 | Issue 62 AWA R D -W I N N I N G Supporting & empowering ostomates Confidence and the battle to get active again ED ROWLAND, WITH RICHARD BIDDLE SHARON MORRIN SUE LENNON Emergency stoma Let’s talk Real stories surgery during lockdown about Real sex S TOMA HEL PL FREEPHONE I NE: 0 8people 0 0 3 28 4257
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F RO M T H E E D I TO R I A L T E A M 3 Dear readers Editorial Team Welcome to our new look prescription services is on the minds of Tidings which, as ever, is some readers. To find out more about Editor, Writer & Researcher this and its likely impact on patients Richard Biddle packed with all the features turn to page 7 of Colostomy UK news. Creative Editor & General Manager and articles you love! In our news pages, you will also find Libby Herbert details of a survey we are conducting Marketing & It’s tempting to kick off by talking about the service ostomates receive Communications Manager about the pandemic, but as things in from companies that manufacture Lucinda Mitchell the UK seem to be moving in the right and deliver stoma products. If you have direction as I write this, I’m not going time, then please complete this. You Senior Stoma Care Nurse Specialist Ambra Bertinara to tempt fate. All I will say though, is can do it online or via the tear-out that the Colostomy UK team intend survey form on page 8. Lastly, on page Colostomate & Volunteer to start a gradual return to our offices Jackie Dudley 36 you will find a ‘teaser’ about our (indeed it may be underway by the upcoming September challenge… Colostomate & Volunteer time you read this). Although this Gillian Cowell comes with the pain of having to So, what else lies in the pages ahead? Data Analyst & Publishing travel to work each morning, it’s fair In Dear nurse, Mark Johnston talks Arvind Anand to say that everyone (even those who about pancaking. We also have an claim otherwise) is glad. It signals the important article from Sue Lennon resumption of office banter and that who is a psychosexual therapist. Sex is buzz you get working with like-minded a topic which, to my mind, isn’t given and enthusiastic people. Somehow the attention it deserves. As a charity, this is never the quite the same online, we are keen to push it to the forefront although it is nice to sneak a peep at and get ostomates and healthcare the inside of colleague’s houses! The professionals discussing it as a matter return will also mean we will be able of course. We have five Real lives to quickly turn around requests for stories. I know from feedback just how RADAR keys and our literature etc. helpful these are to people. Anyone struggling to get fit after surgery There are a number of things I would should find Ed Rowland’s experiences like to draw your attention to in this useful. John Bigland’s and Laura Plant’s edition. I know from calls and emails stories capture that courageous received that the issue of centralised spirit we so often see when people Tidings Magazine: The views expressed by the contributors are are faced with seemingly endless not necessarily those of Colostomy UK. Great care has been taken to ensure accuracy, but and insurmountable health issues. Colostomy UK cannot accept responsibility Similar is the case with Sharon Morrin for errors or omissions. who ended up facing the prospect Disclaimer: of emergency stoma surgery during The display, description or demonstration lockdown. of products and services or the inclusion of advertisements, inserts and samples within Tidings Magazine does not constitute an Finally, Alan Blacklee reflects very endorsement or recommendation of these honestly on the price he paid for products and services by Colostomy UK. delaying seeking help. It’s a cautionary ©Copyright 2021 Colostomy UK. All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be tale, but one you will be glad to hear reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or has a happy ending! transmitted, in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, Best wishes, recording or otherwise, except as permitted by the UK Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988, without the prior written permission of the publisher. All marks acknowledged. Design H2 Creative (Bath) Limited Richard Biddle www.h2bath.co.uk Editor, Writer & Researcher WWW.CO LOSTO MY U K . O RG TIDING S 6 2 I SUMMER 2021
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CONTENTS 5 Contents Colostomy UK is a national charity that offers support and advice to people living with a stoma, their families, carers, and Colostomy UK News friends. We’re here if you have questions, need support or just want to talk to someone who lives with a stoma. 6 Colostomy UK: News We also run projects to EMPOWER ostomates to return to sports, hobbies 16 Colostomy UK: Volunteers and other interests and give them the confidence to take up fresh challenges. 30 Active Ostomates We are advocates for ostomates’ rights and their voice on the bigger issues. Our Real Lives campaigns raise awareness and encourage organisations to make their facilities more inclusive. SUPPORTING and enhancing ostomates’ wellbeing is at the core of everything we do. 10 The Dangers of Ignoring the How to contact us Symptoms of Illness – Alan Blacklee Stoma helpline for: 12 Emergency stoma surgery during Emotional support, experience-based lockdown – Sharon Morrin advice and guidance from a volunteer. 0800 328 4257 24 hours a day and completely free. 18 Confidence and the battle to get active again – Ed Rowland Adminline for: Information packs, ID cards, RADAR 38 I still carry a lot of guilt when it keys, travel certificates and Literature. 0118 939 1537 comes to my illness – John Bigland If we’re not in, just leave a message. info@ColostomyUK.org 46 16 years and more than To request (or cancel) your quarterly 20 surgeries – Laura Plant copy of Tidings call 0118 939 1537 info@ColostomyUK.org Editorial Enquiries Wellbeing Letters, articles or other submissions Colostomy UK, Enterprise House, 34 Dear Nurse – Mark Johnson 95 London Street Reading, Berkshire, RG1 4QA info@ColostomyUK.org 43 Let’s talk about sex – Sue Lennon Advertising enquiries For a media pack and advertising rates: 0118 939 1537 Fundraising Marketing@ColostomyUK.org 20 Colostomy UK: Fundraising 36 Step up for stomas Social media: Support Find us on Facebook 49 Your letters and emails Join our ‘private’ support group today simply put ‘Colostomy UK Support Group’ into your Facebook search bar, click on ‘Group’ and click on ‘Ask to join’ you will Donating to Colostomy UK be assured of a warm welcome! An annual donation of £25 (or what you can afford) allows us to produce Tidings and to continue our vital work, supporting, and empowering ostomates – see page 25 for our donation form. You can also donate via our website www.ColostomyUK.org/donate or by calling us on 0118 939 1537 WWW.CO LOSTO MY U K . O RG TIDING S 6 2 I SUMMER 2021
6 NEWS Libby Herbert General Manager Libby.Herbert@ColostomyUK.org Welcoming Tom Skilbeck We are delighted to announce the appointment of Tom Skilbeck who As General Manager of Colostomy joins Colostomy UK as our Strategy UK I am delighted to announce that and Change Trustee. - after jumping through numerous hoops - our application to work Originally hailing from the north-east with the charity Pilotlight has of England, Tom now lives in north been accepted. Pilotlight, whose London with his wife and dog. Tom is sigmoid colostomy. It was during one strapline is ‘Great causes deserve a management consultant who helps of many sleepless nights searching for great talent’, brings businesses organisations to deliver people-related information that Tom found Colostomy and charities together to support change programmes. He has worked UK and the treasure trove of support and strategic planning. extensively in the private sector with resources we offer. clients from all over the world. The ‘Pilotlighters’ are professionals Tom is thrilled to be joining the from different sectors, who will be As part of his ongoing battle with a board of trustees. He sees it as a working with us over a 10-month complex transphincteric horseshoe fantastic opportunity to use his skills period to help us shape Colostomy fistula, Tom became an ostomate and experience and make a positive UK’s strategy and develop our people. in September 2019 and has a loop- difference for ostomates everywhere. Pilotlight works specifically with small and ambitious organisations like ours, tackling disadvantage in the UK and trying to improve the lives of those Have your say on the companies most in need. Making no charge for their services, Pilotlight only support that manufacture and deliver around 75 charities at a time, so I am thrilled that Colostomy UK has been stoma products selected. Working with such talented As part of our commitment to be the voice people and a fantastic organisation of ostomates, Colostomy UK is investigating is an amazing opportunity for our the service provided by companies that charity. Their expertise will help us to manufacture and deliver stoma products. evolve which, in turn, will help us to better support ostomates. You can help us by completing a short survey. Your responses will Ed Mayo, CEO, Pilotlight said: “At allow us to build a better picture the heart of all great charities is a of stoma care in the UK, which decision to care. I am delighted to we can then use to work with the welcome Colostomy UK as a new stoma industry and the NHS. charity partner for Pilotlight, to support your vital work of care for We want to ensure ostomates get the best people with a stoma. Good luck for support and services possible! To complete the survey, follow the work ahead!” this link: https://www.surveymonkey.co.uk/r/5WMVKCW or turn to page 8 to complete a paper copy of the survey which you To find out more about Pilotlight can return by post. visit: pilotlight.org.uk/ FREEPHONE S TOMA HEL PL I NE: 0 8 0 0 3 28 4257
Back to content page NEWS 7 Centralised Everything points to similar services being introduced in other locations in prescription the future. So why is this happening and how could it affect you? services CCGs are introducing centralised prescription services for four main reasons: Traditionally repeat prescriptions 1. To make sure that ostomates for stoma products have been issued by your GP (family doctor). In some areas of England this is get the right products, in the right quantity. Legacy Update: starting to change with Clinical Commissioning Groups (CCGs) 2. To make sure that ostomates have a regular review with a Helping ostomates introducing specialist stoma products ordering services, stoma nurse. 3. To improve quality of life. achieve their GOALs overseen by stoma nurses. 4. To reduce waste. In the last edition of Tidings, we If you live in Nottinghamshire, South Change can be disconcerting, told you about our new eight-week Tees, Rotherham, Luton, and Harrow but it is important to remember pilot project called ‘Giving Ostomates for example, your prescriptions have the following: Active Lifestyles (GOAL)’. Everyone been managed by a centralised taking part in the programme was prescription service for some time. • The only real change is that your prescription will now be looking for support with healthy eating If you’re in Halton, Knowsley, and exercise following stoma surgery. Liverpool, St Helens, Warrington, or managed by a prescribing The Wirral, the new Merseyside & service not your GP. On 15th March, our first six participants Region Stoma Service will soon take • The prescribing service will logged on to the first online session with over managing your prescriptions. contact you to place your Personal Trainer Jo Prance. There was a These services are generally run by regular order rather than follow-up session a few days later with an external company. your dispensing company. Sophie Medlin, Consultant Dietitian. Although each service operates • How you receive your order It is thanks to the legacy of Isabel and Derek slightly differently, generally speaking WILL NOT CHANGE. Jonas that we were able to run this pilot. We you can expect a monthly call to hope the results from it will allow us to do a • Specialist nurses from review your last order and place a full roll-out in the future. As many will know, prescribing services are all new one, along with some health it is common for ostomates to struggle trained stoma care nurses. They and product-related questions to with their weight after surgery and to lack are there to complement the make sure that your needs are being confidence when it comes to exercising. support you receive from your met. Your prescription is then placed hospital team, not replace them. As a self–funding charity, donations such with the dispensing company of your choice or your local pharmacy, who will If you have any questions as legacy gifts are vital. Large or small, they deliver your order. If your monthly call about centralised prescription have an extraordinary impact on the people identifies any health or product issues services please email we help and support. As well as funding you will be offered an appointment info@colostomyuk.org or speak projects like this, legacies enable us to: with a specialist stoma nurse. to your stoma nurse or GP. • Run our 24-hour Stoma Helpline • Provide our volunteers with the training and support they need • Produce Tidings Vacancy: Clinical Trustee • Fund campaigns • Move closer to our vision of a Are you a healthcare professional actively working with stoma stoma-friendly society patients and the stoma community? We are looking for a registered practitioner to join our board of trustees. You will enhance Colostomy UK’s understanding of the challenges clinicians To find out more about leaving a gift in face on a day–to–day basis and help us to forge productive relationships your will, see the legacy leaflet enclosed with the healthcare profession. Your input and guidance will shape our with this Tidings, or visit our website. services, helping ostomates of today and tomorrow thrive and flourish. For more information about GOAL visit: colostomyuk.org/active-ostomates/ This is a voluntary position suitable for a senior clinician. Charity experience goal-giving-ostomates-active- will be beneficial. lifestyles. To enquire please email: info@Colostomyuk.org. TIDING S 6 2 I SUMM ER 2021
8 SUPPLIES SURVEY Have your say on the companies that manufacture and deliver stoma products As part of our commitment to be the voice of ostomates, Colostomy UK is investigating the service provided by companies that manufacture and deliver stoma products. You can help us by completing a short survey. Your responses will allow us to build a better picture of stoma care in the UK, which we can then use to work with the stoma industry and the NHS. We want to ensure ostomates get the best support and services possible! Either complete the survey below and post it to us (Colostomy UK, Enterprise House, 95 London St, Reading RG1 4QA) or follow this link: https://www.surveymonkey.co.uk/r/5WMVKCW 1. Where do you live? o England o Scotland o Northern Ireland o Wales 2. What type of stoma(s) do you have? o Colostomy o Ileostomy o Urostomy o Don’t know Other (please specify) D D M M Y Y 3. When did you have your stoma formed? Date 4. Have you ever received any communication (call/mail/email) from a stoma product manufacturer or dispenser offering you samples that you haven’t requested? o Yes o No Comment 5. Have you had your stoma products changed without being consulted? o Yes o No Comment 6. Have you had any products added to your prescription that you felt weren’t needed? o Yes o No Comment 7. Were you actively involved in choosing the stoma care products that you use? o Yes o No Comment 8. Were you offered a choice of dispenser/delivery company? o Yes o No Comment 9. Please select all the options that are important to you when choosing your dispensing/delivery company? o Ease of ordering o Complete delivery of order o Quick delivery of order o Provision of free complementary products such as wipes or disposal bags o Telephone advice relating to stoma care o Telephone advice relating to stoma care o Being able to easily sample and trial different products o Annual product review by a Stoma Care Nurse o Please expand: Comment FREEPHONE S TOMA HEL PL I NE: 0 8 0 0 3 28 4257
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10 REAL LIVES Back to content page The dangers of ignoring the Having established with hard symptoms evidence something that everyone already suspected (indeed I can almost hear the sighs of our women readers!) the researchers went on to ponder many questions. They of illness queried for example the extent to which the reluctance of men to visit their GP might be a contributing factor to lower male to female life expectancy (particularly as men are more likely to have dangerous occupations than women). They BY RICHARD BIDDLE also touched on the implications of delaying seeking help, and how this can lead to patients (both male and female) presenting with a serious disease at a later (and less treatable) stage. The latter is of course very pertinent in the current climate and is something that Colostomy UK’s president, Ian Daniels FRCS has warned about recently in this magazine. A similar gender disparity exists with bowel cancer screening, which is all the more worrying given that men are at higher risk of getting bowel cancer than women. According to Public Health Matters, which is the official blog of Public Health England, in 2014 only 53% of men completed their home tests Research published compared to 58% of women. recently in the British The purpose of this article is not to Medical Journal examine why all this might be. You concluded that men will also be relieved to hear that I am not going to inflict on you an were less likely to analysis of the researcher’s detailed consult their GPs findings. But what I do want to do, is to use the experience of one of than women. our readers to show, starkly, what the above can equate to in human terms. My intention, and that of Alan Blacklee, who was kind enough to share his story with me, is twofold: This finding followed a huge study, to encourage people to seek help which looked at the consultation early when they are ill, and, if you rates at 446 GP practices over a are in the age bracket to qualify for three-year period, taking in almost bowel screening, urge you to do the four million patients. The crude tests (and to tell your loved ones to consultation rate was 32% lower do them too!). This message applies in men, and the gender gap in equally to men and women, but I consultation rates most pronounced am saying it just a little bit louder to between the ages of 16 and 60 years.* male readers, for obvious reasons. * Wang, Y., Hunt, K., et al., ‘Do men consult less than women? An analysis of routinely collected UK general practice data’, British Medical Journal Open 2013;3. FREEPHONE S TOMA HEL PL I NE: 0 8 0 0 3 28 4257
Back to content page REAL LIVES 11 Alan is now 61 years old and lives in November 2014. As his cancer had Middleton St. George, near Darlington, spread circumferentially around the with Frances his wife of 38 years. The bowel and rectum, it was necessary couple have two grown-up sons and to remove part of his bowel, along two grandchildren. Alan served 32 with his anus, sphincter, and coccyx. years as a firefighter with Cleveland Fire He also had a permanent colostomy Brigade before retiring from the service formed. Mr Gunning told Alan in 2010. He then retrained and worked afterwards that he was extremely as a Class One HGV driver until March lucky that the cancer had not burst this year, when he “retired for good”. out of the bowel, saying that this was Alan is now free to enjoy the things imminent. Alan was in hospital for he loves, which include motorcycling, 11 days before spending a long and walking, the great outdoors, as well painful recovery period, made all the as cooking and photography. I get more frustrating due to tailbone pain the impression from speaking to and stitches which made it difficult Alan that the motorcycle trumps for him to sit. everything else. As he has been keen to tell me: “Call anytime, I’ll always Thankfully, Alan has been cancer free answer, unless I’m out on the bike.” since his surgery and has adapted well to life with a stoma. As you will When I asked Alan to tell me his have picked up, he is ‘back on the story, he began by referring to bike’ and when we last spoke, he himself as “a fool”. Taken aback was counting down the days until by this (it’s not usually someone’s he could go out for a pint with his opening gambit when I interview mates. But reaching this point has them) I asked him to explain what taken time. Initially he struggled he meant. It quickly became clear: with his body image, and the nerve damage he sustained during Looking back Alan still can’t believe “I was a typical bloke. I had surgery will always be there. He has what he did next… nothing. He also never managed to regain his symptoms for a long time rationalised what had happened as fitness, although he sees this as and found every excuse in a burst haemorrhoid. Alan gets quite work in progress. Alan readily admits the world not to attend the passionate when he talks about this he was lucky, in the sense that he doctors, until it was too late.” incident. He is very clear: “I was an idiot. is still alive. Being generally of a I knew something was seriously wrong, positive disposition, he has moved Alan’s first symptoms appeared in 2010, but instead of doing what I should have on. He has also learned to live with just after he retired from the fire service. done, I accepted my fate. I also hid the consequences of his inaction, These took the form of a strange what was going on from my wife.” But, although he still wonders what might sensation in the area of his anus and by now, time was running out. Over have been if he had acted on his occasional diarrhoea. Alan says these the course of the next few days Alan symptoms back in 2010. This was symptoms got significantly worse over started to lose control of his bowels. really driven home to him recently, time with the appearance of blood His hand forced, he finally booked to when an ex-colleague from the fire when he went to the toilet. Rather see his GP. His doctor acted promptly. service was diagnosed early with than getting things checked out by his On hearing how long Alan had been bowel cancer and had this removed doctor, he passed the bleeding off as experiencing symptoms she rang the by keyhole surgery and without the possible haemorrhoids. Alan lived with hospital immediately and Alan was need for a stoma. Alan’s advice to this state of affairs for almost four years booked in for a colonoscopy the day readers is simple: until one summer day in 2014, when he after. Mr Gunning, the consultant who got the sudden urge to open his bowels. went on to operate on Alan, performed “If you take nothing else He explains that he was incredibly lucky this. He found three abnormal growths from my story, take my to get to the toilet in time and then, in Alan’s bowel, which were later when he got up from the toilet, was advice to seek medical help confirmed as cancerous. shocked to see the bowl bright red with as soon as you have ANY blood. He says that there was a massive After a short course of radiotherapy unusual symptoms.” amount of blood. Alan went down for surgery in WWW.CO LOSTO MY U K . O RG TIDING S 6 2 I SUMMER 2021
12 REAL LIVES Back to content page Emergency stoma surgery during lockdown BY SHARON MORRIN When you are only 46 years old, you don’t immediately associate a change in your bowel habits with cancer. Perhaps that’s why when I first started to get symptoms, I didn’t pursue the matter quite as I should have done. That’s the benefit of hindsight for you, and it didn’t help me last spring, when things came to a head. I’ll never forget the 24 March 2020. As I set off for work that morning the stomach pains started. Putting this down to trapped wind, I persevered, but the pain got steadily worse. On the way back from picking up my son Marty from his Dad’s I got some extra strong mints, having heard these were good at getting ‘things’ going. That evening I ate the whole packet. After a restless night I woke up in agony and my partner Russ called 111, who said to go to A&E. FREEPHONE S TOMA HEL PL I NE: 0 8 0 0 3 28 4257
Back to content page REAL LIVES 13 By the time we arrived, I was meant Russ had to go home, doubled over in pain. The doctors leaving me scared and alone. The thought it was my appendix, but tests included a CT scan, as they then the questions turned to bowel thought it could be inflammation movements. of the bowel or appendicitis. This revealed a mass in my sigmoid colon. I explained they had started to change, The doctors said they couldn’t be from loose to constipated, sometimes sure if it was cancerous, but they with blood showing. In fact, this had needed to operate. Two days after been going on for some time. I’d just being admitted I had an emergency got used to it. The blood started in Hartmann’s procedure and end 2017 and I got this checked by my colostomy formed. While I waited, GP. It was a bit embarrassing: without I was in contact with Russ and the promise of a meal or a night out, managed to speak to Marty and my he performed a rectal examination. mum, but no visitors were allowed. He said it could be internal piles and It was very difficult. I didn’t even told me to record if and when blood know what a stoma was and didn’t showed again. For the next three years have a chance to process what was I saw blood occasionally but put it happening. There wasn’t even time down to internal piles. It was easier to site my stoma. this way. But as I’ve come to realise, the path of least resistance isn’t always I came round with people the consultant told me I was lucky to the best… The pain side of things at my bedside. My surgeon be alive, as apparently the tumour came later. The first episode was in was about to burst. Hearing this gave December 2018 when me and Russ delivered the bad news: the me goosebumps. Arrangements were were at a concert for his 50th birthday. mass was cancerous, and made for me to have a colonoscopy It came on just before the gig started, a lesion had been found through the stoma to check my bowel lasted two hours, and then was gone. on my liver. was ok and an MRI scan on my liver. Further episodes followed, but I didn’t The thought of the former freaked me pay them much attention. Why would This came as a huge shock. I had out. My stress levels on the day weren’t I? The pain didn’t last long. lost my dad 16 months earlier to helped by all the waiting between oesophageal cancer. My goal now was patients due to the heightened care It was early 2020, when I noticed more to recover from this operation and being taken with Covid-19. The changes and saw more blood. I knew get used to living life with a stoma. procedure wasn’t as bad as I expected. I should have gone to the doctors, but I found everything overwhelming The worst part was the Moviprep I had like many GP practices, you can only at first. After five nights in hospital, I to take the night before, leading to call ours for appointments at 8:00 am. went home. Recovery was hard. It was regular toilet trips to empty my bag! As this is when I leave for work, it’s a three weeks before I could straighten bit awkward. Sometimes you have to up and sleeping was difficult. Russ was The MRI scan confirmed four lesions wait 20 minutes to get through, plus a huge support, helping me shower, across the liver, one of which was I didn’t feel comfortable having to say changing my stoma bags, etc. It close to where the blood vessels anything to my work colleagues, so wasn’t plain sailing; there were a few enter and another that was too big I left it. Our lives are ruled by time. accidents, and I don’t think the sofa for surgery. This meant four rounds Scarcely did I know how little of it I will ever be the same again. But we of chemotherapy in late May. I found might have had left. If I’m honest, just laughed it off; it was all part this difficult to cope with. It played by this point cancer had crossed my of getting used to this new way of life. havoc with my calves and I suffered mind. I’d recently seen stuff on social painful constipation which lasted up media about it. But I didn’t have any On the 14 April 2020, I was well to four days each time. Stool finally of the other symptoms, such as losing enough to celebrate my 47th birthday. passing through the stoma was like weight. If anything, I was putting it Stuck in lockdown it was a quiet day having contractions, but I felt such on. This helped me to rationalise my spent with Russ and Marty. That relief afterwards. Post-chemo CT decision not to call. evening the Indian takeaway we had, and MRI scans showed the tumours washed down with a couple of glasses had shrunk enough for surgery. I was Back at A&E, an X-ray showed of wine, prepared me for my follow-up given notification of my pre-surgery a shadow in my abdomen. I was appointment at the hospital. It was appointment on the same day as I admitted for more tests. Coronavirus here my diagnosis was confirmed and received news that Marty’s father had WWW.CO LOSTO MY U K . O RG TIDING S 6 2 I SUMMER 2021
14 REAL LIVES Back to content page died unexpectedly. My emotions were this; from clothes not fitting anymore all over the place, having to tell my son because of my stoma to not being able the awful news while trying to prepare to be with the people I love. But I have for major surgery. I was more nervous remained positive. Russ has been my this time round as I had the time rock, as well as my carer, nurse and to think about things. Fears of not housemaid! Thanks to him I have kept coming out of surgery swept over me. going. He has cheekily named my stoma I was scared about leaving my child an “Kuato” from the film Total Recall and orphan. In the end, they removed 60% bestowed on me the DJ name “Atoms” of my liver, along with my gallbladder. a stoma anagram, for when we can start Originally it was meant to be 40%, but DJing again. The professionalism of chemo can change the way the liver NHS staff and the support of friends, looks, so it was decided to remove family and work colleagues has been everything that looked suspicious. vital too, as has the help I have received I stayed in for seven days, again with from Colostomy UK and Bowel no visitors. Cancer UK. Shortly before Christmas I had follow- my neck and rectum. I am now due I hope my story will help up bloods and another CT scan. In to have a fine needle aspiration of others who are going through January 2021 my oncologist informed the neck (biopsy). It has been an a similar journey. I hope, too, me all the cancer markers were low, emotional 12 months, compounded that my experience is a salutary and my lungs, liver and bowel were by coronavirus visiting restrictions clear, but due to an enlarged para- in hospitals, which left me scared reminder to everyone not to aortic lymph node in my aorta, I had and alone at some of my darkest delay acting on the symptoms of to have a PET CT scan. This showed moments. I’ve shed many tears from illness. As I have learned, you are small, highlighted lymph nodes in the frustration of going through never too young to get cancer. Annual Prize Draw gives you the chance to win £2,500! 00000 £1 Detach and return First name .............. this with payment ............................ to the address below. Ticket 10 per book 00000 Keep this portion .............. ............ for verification. Surname .............. ............................ Annual Prize Dr ............................ Address .............. .. ............................ 1st Prize £2aw ............................ Supporting and ............................ .... empowering ostomates ............................ ............................ ............................ .......... ,5 ............................ 00 ............................ ............................ .......... ............................ ............................ Postcode .............. .......... ............................ ............................ Phone no .............. . 2nd Prize £1,00 ............................ ............................ 2021 Raffle Tickets eMail ............................ . 0 3rd Prize Please return payment .............. ............................ , ticket stubs and ......... no later than Friday unsold 15 October 2021 tickets Colostomy UK, to: 10 prizes of £10 CUKM016 01v00r00 Enterprise House, 95 London Street, Draw date: Monday 0 Reading, RG1 4QA. 18 October 2021 Draw to take place Tickets are only £1 each and all money raised from the draw will go on: 18 October No tickets may around 12:00 at at Colostomy UK, Enterprise 2021 be sold by or to Colostomy UK, 95 London Street, House, 2nd Floor, Promoter: Mr Giovann anyone under Enterprise House, Reading, Berkshire i Cinque, Colostom 16 years. No tickets 2nd Floor, 95 London Late entries will , RG1 Colostomy Associa y UK, Enterprise may be sold on Street, Reading be treated as donation 4QA House, 95 London the street. Winners , Berkshire, RG1 tion t/a Colosto will be notified s. Every ticket purc my UK is a charity Street, Reading registered in England , Berkshire, RG1 by telephone, 4QA email or post. hased helps us and Wales No: 4QA. For more tickets please call: to SUPPORT and 1113471 0118 939 1537 towards supporting vital Colostomy UK services such as our 24–hour Lottery Licence EMPOWER mor no: LOT000141 e ostomates stoma helpline, support literature and Tidings magazine. If you would like to purchase raffle tickets please get in touch by calling 0118 939 1537 or email info@Colostomyuk.org. Every ticket purchased helps us to support and empower ostomates. Half_RaffleLM_v2.indd 1 FREEPHONE S TOMA HEL PL I NE: 0 8 0 004/05/2021 17:57 3 28 4257
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16 NEWS Emma Howell Volunteers Manager Volunteer @ColostomyUK.org I know from speaking to our volunteers just what a worry tackling the ‘firsts’ can be after having stoma surgery – be that the first meal out, the first time going to the shops, or the first time using a public toilet. For many new ostomates these opportunities have been delayed by lockdown or shielding over the last year, and therefore their worries have amplified. With this in mind I asked the team what advice and tips they would give new ostomates. Hopefully, even our more stoma- experienced readers will pick up a nugget or two from what follows… The overarching message from our volunteers was ‘be prepared and remember no one will know that you have a stoma – unless you tell them’. Many of our volunteers have their own pre-packed travel or emergency bags, which they take with them whenever they go out, whether it be to the shops, the cinema or even round a friend’s house. The one pictured opposite is used by Helpline volunteer Sue. It contains from the top, clockwise: non-descriptive bag to it goes onto the pad, rather than my their ID card and RADAR key. Finding carry everything, stoma bags, safety clothes. I promise you, this tip has accessible toilets is a topic that most item (a folded puppy training pad for helped a lot of ostomates feel safe of our team mentioned. You can use extra protection against leaks), dry and more confident.” ‘Toilet Map’, ‘AccessAble’s Accessibility wipes, bottled water, adhesive remover Guide’, or ‘Changing Places Toilets (spray or packet), hand sanitizer, over- Other volunteers, such as Chris, also Searchable map’ to find toilets near the-counter output thickeners*, air include a peg in their bags, which they you. Bernard said: “don’t be afraid to freshener and black disposable bags. find useful for holding upper clothes use the accessible toilets and if you out of the way when they are changing Sue said: “I always have Puppy Training get funny looks from people just out- their bag. Donna also takes a roll of pads (Amazon £13 for 50), smaller, stare them or ask them if there’s microporous tape. In her experience it neater and thinner than hospital bed a problem – in my experience it can repair, temporarily, most problems! pads. I fold these up and tuck them usually works very swiftly! People between my pants and ensure it covers As well as a travel/emergency bag, need to remember that not all my stoma bag, so that if the bag leaks, many of our volunteers also take disabilities are visible.” FREEPHONE S TOMA HEL PL I NE: 0 8 0 0 3 28 4257
Back to content page NEWS 17 Recycle and Raise Funds We’ve teamed up with ‘iCollectClothes’ to offer a hassle-free way of donating items you no longer want. They will collect clothing, shoes, linen, bedding, towels, curtains, accessories (bags, belts, hats, scarves), books, DVDs, CDs, soft toys, electronics and small domestic appliances and convert them into a donation for Colostomy UK. Donations allow us to continue focusing on the things that matter to you - supporting and empowering ostomates. If you live in Greater London, the West Midlands or Merseyside you can book a collection. For all other areas give them a call and they will be able to advise when they will be collecting near you. Book your collection by calling 0344 879 4417 or book online at icollectclothes.co.uk/donate/colostomy-uk Icollect Clothes - Recycle and Reuse HP- v2.indd 1 29/04/2021 07:47 Here are some other tips/ advice from the team: • M ake sure your bag is secure • S tay local at first so that you and empty before you go out. know the area and where toilets are in case of need. • W hen you first venture out, have a purpose, like getting a • I f eating out, avoid anything newspaper and chose a time too rich or spicy. when you think your stoma is • Try to remember that no-one less likely to be active. knows you have a stoma. Try • D on’t feel pressured (either by to be confident! yourself or others) to make that And finally, as a number of our first trip out. Take it when you volunteers said: feel ready. • T hink positive. You can do this! ✓ • D on’t be afraid to use If in doubt, phone the Stoma accessible toilets. Helpline (0800 328 4257) and ✗ • G o for a short walk to start with. speak to a volunteer who has Then as your confidence grows, been there, done it and got the get more adventurous! stoma bag!! • I f possible, go out with a family Take care, Emma member or friend, so you feel * Before trying output thickeners, supported. speak to your stoma care nurse, as excessive use can cause blockages. WWW.CO LOSTO MY U K . O RG TIDING S 6 2 I SUMMER 2021
18 REAL LIVES Back to content page ED ROWLAND WITH RICHARD BIDDLE Confidence If you’ve followed the and the battle exploits of our Rugby League team, then to get active you will know that its impact has extended again Ed Rowland, with Richard Biddle far beyond the pitch. Media coverage of fixtures has brought stomas and the needs of ostomates to a wider audience and, at the same time, raised awareness of Colostomy UK and the work our charity does in supporting and empowering ostomates. But it’s also about the difference it makes at an individual level. It’s about the effect it has on somebody when they don the purple kit, tie their boot laces, and make their first tackle. It’s about people like Ed Rowland. Ed, who is 38 and a police custody sergeant, is married to Kate who is also a police officer. The couple have two children, Maggie who is now five and Grace who is one. Ed had stoma surgery in October 2016 after a ten-year battle with ulcerative colitis (UC). He was diagnosed following a foreign vacation, when he came back with what he thought was a post-holiday ‘tummy’. However, rather than improving, it got worse. At the time he was a frontline police officer. For a man in his early twenties, this was his first encounter with serious illness. His weight dropped dramatically, and he became increasingly concerned about what was going on. In the end, Ed was admitted to hospital and diagnosed. Over the next decade, he found himself in and out of hospital with flare-ups. He was also on and off steroids, while all the time battling to stay well enough to continue doing the work he loved. Ed says that the stoma option was broached with him, but he always shut these conversations down quickly. As he said: ‘I wasn’t prepared to even consider it’. Ed’s views changed when UC nearly caused him to miss the birth of Maggie. This was the moment when he realised that he couldn’t continue as he was. During his next flare-up Ed FREEPHONE S TOMA HEL PL I NE: 0 8 0 0 328 4257
Back to content page REAL LIVES 19 was told he was out of options and so I had a sneaky look at the variety of ball, I thought I could still move like a the next day had surgery. Post-op he support wear, bands and protection teenager, and tried a side step past was determined to get his fitness back. plates on show. I was wearing my work an opposing player, which I did, only Ed talks in terms of his stoma giving him ostomy guard but debated whether to to realise the ball had been snatched a new lease of life. He began to put on wear it. I decided I would as it would give out of my hands. But the whistle blew. weight and, as he puts it: ‘feel normal me a bit more confidence in taking a hit. I received the ball again, and took it again’. For the first time in many years Ed It then dawned on me…I wouldn’t be into the tackle, holding it tight this was able to do what he wanted without able to wear my glasses. I wear them all time. I took the hit and went to the the fear and anxiety that UC had cursed the time and things are blurry without ground with the ball nestled into him with. That’s not to say of course, them. I took them off and made my way my right armpit. that he didn’t have to adjust to life with out squinting and worrying that I would As I hit the ground, I felt a crack and a a stoma and all that brings. find it difficult to see the ball, let alone pop as the wind was knocked out of me. catch it when it was passed to me! Ed’s road to fitness started with the It was lucky I couldn’t talk as there were gym. He took things gradually, a bunch of expletives in my head as I welcoming the fact that for the first Take your time. Small stood up. I heard my teammates yelling, time in years, he didn’t need to keep but I couldn’t breathe let alone ‘play the dashing off to the toilet. He then progressions make a ball’. I saw the ball on the ground and progressed from the gym to running. massive difference in the used my foot to roll it behind me as I All the while his confidence was slowly long term. Start light and had seen on TV. I then bent over with returning. This brings us to early 2019 build yourself up steadily. my hands on my knees to catch my when Ed read about the Colostomy UK breath while the game continued. Rugby League team and decided he was I felt the adrenaline rushing and the ready for such an opportunity. Ed made pain subsiding. I was hooked. I loved his debut that summer against the being part of this team, despite feeling Political Animals. This is what he said I wasn’t any good! But it didn’t matter. about the experience: I took the ball into another tackle to “I was nervous about leaving home be held up by two players who gave and traveling to Leeds. I had recently me a pat on the back, one of whom moved to the north east with my said ‘good lad’, in a distinctive northern family and transferred jobs. This was accent. I made a good couple of tackles, a massive change in my life, and now took a few good hits, passed the odd I had volunteered to pull on the Team decent ball, missed a couple of tackles, Colostomy UK rugby league shirt! I had and loved every second of it. never played league before, and grew Afterwards, it was great to share a pint up going to a union school… but that with both teams, talk about the game, was 20 odd years ago, and since then I and watch the rugby on the bar TV. I left had grown older, bigger, with more life for home with a boost of confidence, a experience, and there was the matter new network of friends and, of course, of having a stoma… a few battle scars to be proud of!” I was confident in taking hits and rolling Just then I was spun a ball from a Regaining your fitness after stoma around on the floor from work but saw blurry faced player in purple. I caught surgery can be a real challenge. And, of rugby as a real test. I purchased a pair of it and my eyes adjusted a little. We course, fitness means different things to cheap boots, packed a bag of kit, made then proceeded to warm up with a few different people. Not everyone aspires sure I had the armour I wear for work, up-and-under kicks. The first of these, to playing a contact sport like rugby. and set off first thing. I had no idea I nailed a catch, pulling the ball into For some it’s about getting out and where I was going, so was completely my torso and dropping down to my walking or doing the garden. However, reliant on the sat nav. After a few wrong knee. My confidence rocketed and I was Ed’s advice on the matter applies to turns, (which with UC would have set suddenly that 15-year-old schoolboy all: “Take your time. Small progressions off a need for the toilet) I arrived at back on the rugby pitch. I was told I make a massive difference in the long the ground and was met by a smiley would be playing as second row. I was term. Start light and build yourself up Giovanni and Libby who introduced me comfortable with this as I had played steadily. Wear hernia support. Enjoy the to team members as they arrived. hooker at school, and being a forward, progression and with it the boost to I then went to the changing room. I wouldn’t need to worry much about confidence that follows. Above all, as It was the first time I’d actually got lines and formations, or so I thought. difficult as it may be, try and see your ‘changed’ in front a group of people with I soon realised rugby league is very bag as a trophy of a previous illness or my bag. I had been on holiday and let it different to union. The whistle blew battle, not a representation of defeat.” all hang out, but this seemed different. to start. The first time I received the WWW.CO LOSTO MY U K . O RG TIDING S 6 2 I SUMMER 2021
20 FUNDRAISING Giovanni Cinque Fundraising and Development Manager Giovanni.Cinque@ColostomyUK.org Supporting Colostomy UK We are a self-funding charity and rely on donations and grants to fund all our activities. Every £1 that you donate really helps. There are loads of ways you can support us. Please visit https://www.colostomyuk.org/get-involved/fundraising/ for more details. Despite the challenges we’ve all faced over the last twelve months we’re both proud and humbled that people have continued to find ways to support us. Unfortunately, we don’t have the space to acknowledge everyone, but are delighted to feature some of our fundraising heroes in this issue. Make a Carmen can difference with The fabulous Carmen Carmichael is taking on the virtual Land’s End to Amazon Smile John O’Groats challenge - completing 874 miles this year – to support and Facebook Colostomy UK, and if that’s not Do you shop on Amazon? enough she’s also fundraising through You can raise free donations charity auctions and has raised £660 for Colostomy UK when you already! We wish Carmen the best of shop with AmazonSmile! luck with her awesome challenge! Every £1 raised helps us to better support ostomates. AmazonSmile customers can Karen’s 10k support Colostomy UK in the Amazon shopping app. Just open the app, go to the main menu and tap ‘Settings’. Choose ‘AmazonSmile’ and follow the on-screen instructions. Thank you and happy shopping! Despite the Weymouth 10K being Another easy and straightforward cancelled Karen McGuinness way to support is by setting up still managed to don her Team a Facebook fundraiser on your Colostomy UK running vest and birthday. You can encourage your complete 10,000 kilometres on friends, family and followers to her own. She also raised a brilliant donate too. For more details visit £200 as well. Thank you, Karen. facebook.com/fund/colostomyuk FREEPHONE S TOMA HEL PL I NE: 0 8 0 0 3 28 4257
Back to content page FUNDRAISING 21 100 miles in May for Colostomy UK A team from Pentagon Corporate Fleet spent May challenging themselves to cycle, walk or run 100 miles over the course of the month to raise money for Colostomy UK! We’re really grateful to Hannah, Sarah, decision to have an irreversible Freya’s father is likely to need a Chad, Nat, Freya, Janine, Jon, Anne, ileostomy which was carried out on colostomy too, due to Crohn’s Debbie, Ian, Richard, and Tamara for the 8th February this year. We believe Disease. At the moment it affects choosing to both raise funds and this is genetic, as 15 years ago my his day-to-day life and limits things awareness for our charity. grandfather, Terry, (her father) had they can do as a family. Freya bowel cancer, also resulting in an mentioned they no longer go on Hannah explains why they chose to irreversible ileostomy. It is possible family bike rides or camping and support us. “Colostomy UK is a charity I will also require the support of the have to plan meticulously when very close to my heart as both my charity in the future as there is a they do go out anywhere. mother and grandfather have stomas. 50/50 chance I also carry the “It truly is a hidden part of life which In February 2020 my mother, Jeanette, gene... my journey to find that needs to be ‘out there’ more, and I was invited for routine screening, out has just started! hope by doing this May challenge initially a sigmoidoscopy and then a Both my mother and grandfather we can make an impact!” colonoscopy. A high number of polyps are doing well. I am so proud of them, You can still support the team and were found (not all could be removed) but I really believe that this is a Colostomy UK by donating through and she was then referred for genetic subject that needs to be spoken their Just Giving page: counselling and subsequent testing. about more. People have to be more https://www.justgiving.com/ After three long months of waiting, comfortable talking about it. The fundraising/colostomyuk100miles she was informed that she carries the work that Colostomy UK does in AFAP gene, thus increasing her risk of supporting ostomates and their bowel cancer. She took the difficult families is so important.” Picture perfect Talented artist, ostomate, and supporter of Colostomy UK, Emily Hackworthy has created a beautiful and striking set of ‘outline body’ prints representing ostomates. Her artwork of male and female forms with either a colostomy or ileostomy are now available for sale via our online shop, and Emily is kindly donating all the proceeds to Colostomy UK. You can order online at: https://colostomyuk.bigcartel.com/ Please allow 28 days for delivery. Purchase is for print only. Frame not included. Print size A4. WWW.CO LOSTO MY U K . O RG TIDING S 6 2 I SUMMER 2021
22 FUNDRAISING Back to content page Something fishy? A huge thank you to Martin and Lee from Yateley West Fishery fishing club who have chosen Colostomy UK as the beneficiary of their annual charity weekend this August. They’re hoping to raise as much as possible through a combination of donations, tournament entry fees, In the bag! and a raffle over the weekend of 6th to 8th of August. If you’d like to support their big weekend, you can also visit their Just Giving page at https://www.justgiving. If you’re planning a clear-out, you can donate com/fundraising/martin-gardener2 with donations your unwanted clothes, paired shoes, linen, going to Colostomy UK. bedding, towels and curtains to ICollectClothes, and at the same time generate much needed funds for Colostomy UK! They can also collect accessories (bags, belts, hats, scarves), books, DVDs, CDs, soft toys, electronics and small domestic appliances. If you live in Greater London, the West Midlands or Merseyside you can book a collection online at icollectclothes.co.uk/donate/colostomy-uk or by calling 0344 879 4417. POSTAGE STAMPS WANTED For all other areas give them a call and they will be able to advise when they will be collecting near you. Legacy Quarterx1 01v00r00 Stamps | Date of Publication: June 2021 | Copyright ©2021 Colostomy UK | Registered charity no. 1113471 Stamps to be cut/torn , l from recent mail. p. Help us support • British and foreign 37 the ostomates of Your copy of Tidings w .org today and tomorro includes a copy of our stamps – no need legacy booklet. If once you to separate. g you o have taken care of your • No more than 1cm of envelope porting Supp p of ery step ever the way friends and family, you left around each stamp. would like to leave a gift in nside • Do not trim stamps too close so nty red ast we have the your will to Colostomy UK, that perforations are damaged. we would be delighted to At Colopla ä ä æ o youo the right ssolution for new – whetherr that is a ää yo ma care routine. our stom receive your support. more >> >> Find out m You can now Colostomy UK Stamp Appeal For more details please see donate your used and 10 Chestnut Avenue the booklet or email us at unwanted North Walsham info@colostomyuk.org stamps to Norfolk Colostomy UK, NR28 9XH send to: ving Will you consider lea Will? ostom y UK a gift in your Col 27/07/2020 14:35 FREEPHONE S TOMA HEL PL I NE: 0 8 0 0 3 28 4257
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