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Centerline
          Vol. 4, Iss. 2
          June/July 2021                                  MAGAZINE

Connecticut's LGBTQ+ Magazine    A Publication of the New Haven Pride Center

                           Twilight World
                               Continued efforts to reach
                                LGBTQ+ youth during the
                            pandemic yield mixed results,
                               but work continues to add
                            more resources, online and off

                            PLUS:
                            •   Gender Stereotypes Get in the Way
                            •   Doctors: Trans Youth Health a Right
                            •   LGBTQ+ Topics Needed in Schools
                            •   Lipsticks, Lashes and Lies Turns 3
                            •   Chez Legends All Stars Red Carpet
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Photo by RahVisions                                                                           Photo by Joshua O'Connell

                                    In This Issue
Reaching Youth Online                                           Peek at Y2Y New Haven
Q Plus founder Mel Cordner, seen above,                         In the upcoming months, Y2Y New Haven
has found themself now managing virtual                         will open its doors. Lucy Gellman takes a
programming for youth for over a year. They                     look at how it's coming together. 32
share the opportunities and challenges. 6

                                                                Lipstick, Lashes & Lies
Becoming Yourself                                               Despite a pandemic, the drag show at
Ace Ricker, also seen above, shares how                         Mohegan Sun's Comix Roadhouse thrives,
gender stereotypes can get in the way of the                    recently celebrating three years on the
ability for trans people to be themselves. 18                   comedy stage. Photos 20, Article 22

PLUS: Viewpoints, Photos from Around Connecticut, and MORE!

Centerline
                                                          MAGAZINE                   Editor in Chief and Designer
                                                                                          Joshua O'Connell
                                                                                        Editor Patrick J Dunn
                                                                                Contributors: Matt Allen Photography,
                                                                                  Susan D. Boulware, Mel Cordner,
 Centerline Magazine is published six times a year by the New Haven Pride
                                                                                    Nick Dionne,Kelly Carpenter,
   Center. Opinions expressed are not necessarily those of the publisher          Lucy Gellman, Christy L. Olezeski,
   or of Centerline but of the writers. We welcome a variety of viewpoints           Anisha D. Patel, RahVisions,
    and encourage submissions. Complete or partial reproduction of any             Ace Ricker, Stuart A. Weinzimer
    advertisement, news article, feature or photography without written         Cover photo: Pexels/Lukas Rychvalsky
consent from the publisher is strictly prohibited. Send advertising inquiries
 to mleonardo@newhavenpridecenter.org ©2021 New Haven Pride Center.                     Printed by TCI Press
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FRONT OF THE LINE
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Interconnection
    When putting this edition of Centerline      progress.
together, we didn't purposefully intend              We also
on the interconnected themes that came           have a follow-
together, but what a happy accident it           up piece from
turned out to be!                                Q Plus founder Mel Cordner on the
    The content inside largely revolves          continuing challenges and opportunities of
around four core themes:                         virtual programming for youth during the
    1. Trans Issues                              pandemic. While it can unlock access for
    2. Health Issues                             some, it can create fresh hurdles for others,
    3. Youth Issues                              especially when you begin to explore adults
    4. Drag Performances                         providing permission and Internet access
    On trans issues, we have a wonderful         to the various programming opportunities
piece from Ace Ricker on gender                  that for many youth is a critical lifeline to
stereotypes and how they seep into the           stay connected. Cordner's been doing this
trans identity, to the point where it can        all along, and as one of the released staff
be an obstacle in someone simply being           from True Colors that we covered this year,
themselves. Ace shares some great                they've thrown themselves into these needs
anecdotes and stories that help illustrate the   head on through Q Plus.
challenge, and offers some advice on how to          Finally, we have drag performances.
navigate this.                                   During a challenging year and beyond of
    We also have a piece in this issue           the pandemic, drag has been one area that
featuring the viewpoint of five doctors who      has managed to keep going in modified
affirm trans healthcare for youth is a right     form. We take a look at Lipstick, Lashes and
and is essential, and they share why this is     Lies, a show that recently reached its three
so important.                                    year anniversary at Comix Roadhouse at
    For health issues, we have that piece, as    Mohegan Sun. I spoke with the co-owner of
well as items from two of our local youth        Comix, and host Mia E Z'Lay, to take a look at
talking about the importance of LGBTQ+           what's making that successful.
topics and conversations in health class, not        Another successful franchise is Chez
only to ensure the proper education of these     Legends, and their recent annual All Stars
issues, but to help normalize talking about      event took place to great success. Natalia
LGBTQ+ topics in general. There's a number       Fiercé beat out Kalysta Kaykes in what was
of aspects to this, and they get into it in      an epic competition, and we've got not
depth.                                           only the details, but some of the red carpet
    These pieces cover some of the youth         photos.
connection, but also we cover an important           As always, we'd love to hear from you and
development in New Haven with the                find out what you think of the latest edition.
approaching arrival of Y2Y New Haven, an         Email your thoughts to us at
LGBTQ+-focused shelter that should bring         centerline@newhavenpridecenter.org - we
some critical infrastructure and resources       appreciate all feedback, whether positive or
to help those ages 18-24, an age group           negative, as we continue to grow and evolve
commonly left behind when it comes to            the magazine.
homelessness and needs, and in particular            Thanks for picking up a copy, and we'll
the LGBTQ+ population. Lucy Gellman              see you in a couple of months with our next
provides some great reporting on their           issue. Until then, have fun and stay safe.
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VIRTUALLY SPEAKING

The Challenges & Bonuses of
LGBTQ+ Youth Programming
and Outreach in a Pandemic
by Mel Cordner                  the obvious accessibility        take turns reading the chat
                                issue we all face: you need      aloud and even describe
    I spend at least ten        reliable internet and a          on-screen images that are
hours a week on Zoom            functional device to get         shared so that no one misses
with teenagers. The time        online. As a minor, you also     what’s being discussed.
might be spent in planning      need reliable PERMISSION to      They will greet and say
meetings, support groups,       access those things. When        goodbye to youth who ‘lurk’
game nights, activities, with   youth are grounded from          or attend via chat only as
guest speakers, or one-on-      attending group or forced to     enthusiastically as they do
one. I wish everyone could      leave early for curfews, their   the on-camera members,
see what I’ve seen over the     mental health suffers. Adults    carefully and emphatically
last year.                      dismiss it as “just” online      using their chosen names
    Virtual youth               programming, especially as       out loud. It sounds like a
programming is a mixed          schools reopen, but many         small thing, but it FEELS
bag like anything else. The     queer young people don’t         like finding a key to a world
challenges have been more       have close friendships           you’ve been locked out of
outlandish than I imagined      with students in their own       for your whole life — a world
they could be; I’ve seen        schools or towns. Being cut      that sees you as yourself.
grown adults ‘zoom bomb’        off from online friendships          Oddly (or not), access
children with violent or        can mean complete                and adults are the biggest
pornagraphic videos, and        isolation, which is especially   challenges I face in running
had suicidal teenagers          unhealthy for developing         youth programming online
wordlessly disappear from       young people.                    as well. I’d long ago resigned
groups for weeks at a time.         In our case, access          myself to having to deal
The bonuses have been just      and isolation are further        with “that’s not a real job”
as intense: I’ve become good    complicated by the queer         and “you don’t know my
friends with adults I never     closet. Some entirely            kid” from adults for the
would have met otherwise,       closeted group members           rest of my life, so that
and seen ‘disappeared’ teens    attend without their             part isn’t new. What I’ve
rejoin group from a new         parents’ knowledge. They         thankfully not had to deal
home out of state because       might put headphones in          with before is queerphobic
they were homesick for a        and appear to be listening       adults attacking queer
Zoom meeting.                   to music to any parents          youth in space that is built
                                checking in, while actually      specifically for them. Our
ACCESS & ADULTS                 engaging in the only queer-      Zoom links have been
                                focused activity they’ve ever    shared by conservative
   The biggest challenges       attended. The way the rest of    twitter profiles with calls for
youth run into regarding        the group adjusts to include     action multiple times. When
online programming are          youth who attend this way is     support or game groups
access and adults. There’s      almost automatic. Youth will     are zoom bombed, youth
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Access and adults are two of the more challenging aspects of ensuring youth can access
        critical programming online that is specifically designed to help them.

attendees never know; the      been genuinely traumatic        media creation and sharing
waiting room fills with new    to someone else. I’ll never     than I ever thought I’d care
names containing sexual        understand why some             to know. There’s no space to
innuendos or insults, but      people find joy in attacking    be afraid of technology in a
only the Zoom host ever sees   children.                       global pandemic.
the waiting room. Open mic         Technology reliance is a
zoom bombers are harder to     separate challenge. I didn’t    ONLINE CRISIS
deal with. Performers invite   even pay for internet before    MANAGEMENT
audience members, so I         the pandemic; I only ever
admit appropriately named      went home to sleep so there         I’ve been talking teens
strangers. The bombers that    wasn’t a point. Now, I have     through crises since I was
jump in screaming slurs        paid for membership on          a teen in crisis myself, and
or playing pornography         multiple gaming websites in     have dealt firshand with
are instantly removed. The     order to host enough players    everything from self harm
sneakier ones wait for a       to accommodate my entire        to suicide to addiction
while before attacking. I’ve   group.                          to assault. I’ve never felt
had folks spam the chat            I’ve become an expert on    helpless in those situations
with derogatory rants and      handling Zoom controls —        — as long as the person was
drown out the performers       which is pretty impressive      in front of me, I knew they
with static. Once, someone     if you know that I used to      were safe for that moment,
staged a fake home invasion    refuse to even turn the         and all we had to do was get
on their screen — I thought    television on during in-        through each moment after
I’d kicked them out quickly    person movie nights for fear    that. Online, it’s different.
enough, until our youngest     of somehow “breaking the        Online, there is no tether of
attendee complimented          technology.” I’ve crashed and   reality keeping that person
how realistic their fake       revived multiple devices over   with me. If they decide a
guns were. It was funny        the last year, and learned      conversation is over, all they
to him, but it could have      more about animation and        have to do is sign off.
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The thing that really haunts me about              With online groups, I’ve come to expect a
those situations is that I’m entirely helpless     much faster and more honest reconnection
to reach them any other way. I can’t               because online anonymity removes me from
walk someone outside to chat with their            that system. When online group members
guardian. I can’t call home. I can’t be sure       move states away or check themselves
of a young person’s legal name or town             into hospitals, they tend to be back two
of residence, so I can’t track them down           weeks later — along with two or three new
at school. I can’t follow up or even google        friends from the new program or location,
them. If the worst happens, I’ll literally never   who didn’t have a community until they
know.                                              found us online. I can’t track them down
                                                   on my own anymore, but I can offer a safe,
ANONYMOUS AUTHENTICITY                             consequence-free home to come back to no
                                                   matter what else is going on — something
    While that easily-severed connection           that was entirely missing for many youth
is terrifying to me as an adult, it’s actually     before the pandemic.
experienced as a form of safety by many                The anonymity afforded by online
young people. I can’t alert local authorities      meetups allows all youth attendees to be
when I have no idea what “local” means,            more authentic, in crisis or not. Youth can
and from a youth perspective that makes            engage entirely in chat without cameras
me a safe adult to be honest with because          or microphones, which allows them to
they don’t risk “getting in trouble.” When         circumvent appearance-based assumptions
in-person group members changed homes,             of others as well as their own dysphoria.
went inpatient, or ran away, I knew not to             They can use the names and pronouns
expect so much as an “I survived” email for        they choose without ever being “clocked” by
months — if ever — because I was part of           their voice or face. They can attend groups
the system, whether I liked it or not.             as who they are, not as who the adults
                                                   around them tell them they have to be.
                                                   They can also start at any time; new group
                                                   members are accepted into the group in
                                                   the same way new players are accepted into
                                                   our RPG campaign: seamlessly, as if they’ve
                                                   always been part of the story.
                                                       The most common critique of online
                                                   programming — that it isn’t “real” socializing
                                                   — is also its greatest strength. Youth can
                                                   control how they are perceived online, which
                                                   negates tons of social pressure. Online
                                                   events allow youth to access social spaces
                                                   on their own sensory terms as well; teens
                                                   can control the brightness and volume of
                                                   their interactions, and guarantee that they
                                                   will not be accosted by strong scents or
                                                   unexpected touch. Events can be accessed
                                                   without the overstimulation and anxiety of
                                                   physical travel, and can be attended without
                                                   any worries about eye contact, posture,
                                                   fidgeting, or other social norms. Virtual
                                                   programming is accessible to depressed,
                                                   anxious, neurodivergent, and otherwise
                                                   sensitive youth in a way that no in-person
                                                   event can be.
                                                       The same applies to accessibility from a
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physical perspective. Virtual     continue, no matter                               for their online friends more
programming does not              how much in-person                                than once. Every single
require any physical mobility     programming returns.                              one of them has grown in
or transportation. There’s no                                                       some way, be it through self
need to ask about ramp or         VIRTUAL REALITY                                   discovery, conversation and
bathroom access or seating                                                          conflict mediation practice,
availability for an online            I never want to hear                          or even coming out.
event, and no risk of germ        another person say internet                           I miss the magic of in-
exposure to chronically ill       friendships aren’t “real”                         person programming as
or immunocompromised              ever again. With all the                          much as anyone else. I
people. Youth with busy           complications of attending                        know just about everyone is
schedules or from rural           in-person events out of the                       looking forward to more in-
areas no longer have              way, focus and energy are                         person human interaction.
to juggle their options           freed to dedicate to content                      I also know we can never
trying to sort out travel         and genuine connection.                           go back to ignoring the
plans. Hundreds of young          Most of our group members                         life-saving connection that
people across the state           have never met each other                         virtual programming offers
who were not being                in person, but the groups                         to countless people who
reached are suddenly part         are more tight-knit than any                      have until now been left
of our audience — and             in-person group I’ve ever                         behind.
their lives are changing          facilitated because they’ve                           Mel Cordner is the
because of it. There can          all become one another’s                          founder of Q Plus, a
be no forcing those youth         lifelines. Youth have been                        community organization
back into isolation; virtual      moved to tears in group                           that creates space for queer
programming MUST                  while professing their love                       youth to be themselves.

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COMPETITION

                      Chez Legends
             The annual Chez Legends All Stars competition took
           place earlier this spring, with a red carpet hosted by Joan
           Rivers, played by Loosey LaDuca. Natalia Fiercé took the
           win, but Kalysta Kaykes put up an amazing performance
                            in the competition as well.

                             Photos by RahVisions

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PERFORMANCE
                                                                     Coming Up
Chez Legends Crowns                                                  The Chez Legends

Latest All Star Winner
                                                                     competition returns
                                                                     to the Chez stage
                                                                     in June for its 7th
by Patrick J Dunn                 Fiercé joining her and             season, where drag
                                  snapping photos under              entertainers of all types
     Glitter and confetti         her photography company            will showcase their
fluttered from the ceiling,       RahVisions.                        talents and via for a
the crowd roared with joy,            The two spent the next         chance to compete
and a glistening crown            two hours greeting the 70          for the crown. Season.
adorned the head of a             guests, posing questions like      8 will begin in the fall.
beautiful Latina diva. “I did     “Who did your hair?” and           Chez Legends All Stars
it” she said at the top of her    “Is your dress from Amazon         is scheduled for May
lungs. That was the scene         too?” The red carpet was also      2022 and will feature
at the 3rd Annual Chez            live streamed onto the Chez        the winners of Season 7
Legends All Stars Finale.         Est’s facebook page.               and 8.
Attended by a limited                 Once inside guests
number of pre-sold ticket         were met by other Chez Est        portray celebrities. Kalysta’s
buyers, the room was filled       headliners – Giganta Smalls       portrayal of Britney Spears
with socially distant and         and Kiki Lucia – and Chez Est     was unexpected, a fun
masked fans of both of this       title holders – Bebe Gallini,     surprise for the audience
years’ competitors, Natalia       Lady Tatianna, Chez Legends       that might try to put
Fiercé and Kalysta Kaykes.        2019 Winner Mz October            them in the box of being a
     Throughout the               May Lay and Chez Legends          more political or “darker”
pandemic, the Chez has            2020 Winner Ray Decorazón.        performer. Though in true
been a beacon of light in         Staff in Chez Est t-shirts        Kalysta style, they shocked
the sea of darkness for           and matching black masks          the audience when they
LGBTQ+ artists. Their walls       escorted folks to their tables,   ripped off their wig and
are decorated with paintings      which would be their safety       started shaving their head
and photography by local          bubble for the next few           on stage.
visual artists, their stage has   hours as Natalia and Kalysta         When Natalia entered
been open to performance          battled for the crown. Food       the stage as Janet Jackson,
artists of all types – drag,      and drinks made their way         the room exploded. You
musicians, singers – and          to the tables throughout          would have sworn that it
their kitchen sends out some      the evening, featuring            was the actual Jackson on
of the best culinary delights,    classic Chez favourites and       the stage followed in tow by
and yes food is art, that         some special dishes for the       three backup dancers. The
rivals any bar & restaurant       evening.                          only thing missing was an
space in the area. The Chez           This year, slightly           “accidental” nip slip.
Legends All Star Finale was       different from previous              Act 2, Kalysta again
no exception.                     years, each act was               thought outside the box
     As guests began to arrive,   introduced by a different         portraying themselves as
they were greeted on the          Chez Headliner alongside          the Zodiac killer for the Act
Red Carpet by Chez Est            event host and producer           2 category “Zodiac.” Their
Headliner Loosey LaDuca           Mia E Z’Lay, who stunning         performance included a
in her best Joan Rivers on        the audience in a gorgeous        moving body bag (with Chez
the red carpet look, with         green gown.                       Est favourite Frizzie Borden
Chez Est Headliner Robin              Act 1 saw the contestants     hiding inside) and some
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blood. Natalia approached the
                                                            category with a more traditional
                                                            look, wearing a beautiful
                                                            headpiece to represent her
                                                            sunsign and performing her
                                                            heart out.
                                                                 Final Act was Evening Gown
                                                            Extravaganza, which also gave
                                                            each performer the opportunity
                                                            to present their version of a
                                                            show stopper performance.
                                                            Kalysta kicked off the act with
                                                            a nail biting performance that
                                                            included their signature of using
                                                            fire, lighting up part of their
                                                            costume as they delivered their
                                                            best performance of the evening.
                                                            It was both heartbreaking and
                                                            inspiring at the same time.
                                                                 Natalia delivered a beautiful
                                                            performance that had many in
                                                            the audience in tears by the end,
                                                            including having pieces of white
                                                            fabric descend from the ceiling
                                                            and attach to her dress.
                                                                 By the end of the act, the
                                                            audience was in full discussion
                                                            about who would win – my guess
                                                            is it came down to a one or two
                                                            vote difference.
                                                                 While votes were tallied,
                                                            guests enjoyed performances
                                                            by all of the Chez Est Headliners
                                                            and title holders, including
                                                            the final performance of Mx
                                                            Chez Est 2020 Ray Decorozón.
                                                            Each performance reflected
                                                            on the vast diversity that the
                                                            Chez attracts in their line-ups –
                                                            from campy comedy to fierce
                                                            nerdiness to empowering and
                                                            political.
                                                                 In the final moments of the
                                                            evening, the audience watched
                                                            on pins and needles, holding
                                                            their breath wanting their
                                                            favourite to win. There was a
                                                            moment where it was like the
                                                            world stood still and hostess Mia
                                     Photo by Nick Dionne   E Z’Lay called out “The winner
Natalia Fiercé celebrates after being crowned at the        of Chez Legends is . . . Natalia
     3rd Annual Chez Legends All Stars Finale.              Fiercééééééééééééé”
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YOUTH VOICES

LGBTQ+ Health Education
in Schools is Essential
Assata Johnson, Class of        these topics on their own      student at a school going
2022 at Hill Regional Ca-       which can lead to more         through transitioning. Even
reer High School                harm than good sometimes.      after copious amounts of
                                The point of school is to      research, some things can
    The average health          teach students everything      slip through the cracks.
class is supposed to teach      about life and that includes        There are many health
students healthy ways           LGBTQ students as well.        risks that can come with
of living: How to prevent           Topics that need to be     transgender health like
things, what to do and          talked about and why:          an increased risk of HIV,
what not to do, and how to                                     hormone issues, blood clots,
cure any disease you may        GENDER IDENTITY AND            liver damage and more.
encounter outside of high       TRANS HEALTH                        Outside of health risks
school life. All the health                                    and things, we should also
curriculum is “Don’t drink           There are more than 2     try making school more
and drive, drugs are bad,       genders. Whether or not        gender neutral.
eat healthy and the only        people want to accept that          Many times in PE have I
way to prevent STDs/STIs/       is up to them, but there       heard the phrase “Boys over
Pregnancy is contraception      are students and people        here, girls over there.” Well
and abstinence” Boom! I just    out in the world who do        what about the students
summed up an entire year’s      not conform to just “male”     who don’t feel like they
worth of learning in one        or “female.” I mean even       resonate with either binary
sentence.                       some people, even though       gender? Will a teacher look
    The health program is       its a small percentage,        at the female presenting
very flawed, and not many       are born “intersex”,           student and tell them “look,
students take away anything     meaning they don’t have        just go stand with the girls”
from the class other than       sex characteristics that fit   and discredit their feelings
what I just summarized.         into either binary gender.     or tell a male presenting
From middle school to high      This includes the person’s     student “Its fine its just
school, me and many of          chromosomes and genitals.      for today anyway.” Well
my peers see no change or            But there is also “non-   it’s not just for today. It’s
any depth put into either       binary” that can be talked     their whole lives they have
curriculum from what we         about. “Non-binary” is a       been told they are “boy” or
already knew. Not only          person who doesn’t truly       “girl” and they finally find
that, but there is barely any   identify with either of the    something that makes them
mention of LGBTQ health         binary genders and just        comfortable and it’s just
topics at all.                  simply wants to exist as a     going to be disregarded for a
    Schools can teach gender    person, not male or female.    grade?
indentity, trans health, how         Then there’s also              We should also have
to practice safe sex, and so    transgender people who just    more gender neutral
much more but they don’t        aren’t really mentioned at     bathrooms for this reason.
do that. Instead LGBTQ          all. This can be dangerous     A non-binary or gender
students are left to research   because say there is a         fluid student should not
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        Health class can feel quite empty without inclusion of LGBTQ+-specific topics.

have to go to great lengths              and                        be talking about the
to explain themselves                 4. Show that they care        diseases that can spread
to a teacher, principal or               about their health and     between women, like HPV,
security as to why they don’t            safety.                    bacterial vaginosis , and
feel comfortable using a                                            trichomoniasis in addition
gendered bathroom and                  Teaching students about      to the other STDs/STIs that
have to spend time going           gender identity can be an        can be spread.
back and forth with that           eye opener so that they              There's also health risks
adult just to be told “Its fine,   are more respectful and          with gay sex as well. Gay
just use either bathroom.”         knowledgeable about these        men have a higher risk
That completely defeats the        topics for if they encounter     of dying from prostate,
whole purpose.                     this at any point and time.      testicular and colon cancers.
    I feel like it is a school’s                                    We need to talk and teach
duty to talk about these           SAFE SEX                         about these topics because
things and expose students                                          straight sex isn’t the only
to this to:                            Yes we know about            thing in the world right now.
                                   condoms, and yes we know         Matter of fact it never was.
   1. Open their eyes to the       about abstinence. But what           There are many LGBTQ
      real world,                  about Lesbians and Bisexual      people who had to go
   2. Make school more             women? A regular store-          through and experience
      comfortable for these        bought condom could be           these things so that we as
      students,                    effective in some ways, but      the future didn’t have to.
   3. Introduce the gender         they would probably need         So that we as the future
      spectrum to kids             something a little different.    generation can know and
      that don’t feel here         Female condoms are an            prevent these diseases.
      nor there but can’t          option, and they dont just       Therefore not teaching safe
      describe it and teach        exist for lesbian and bisexual   sex outside of a straight
      students how to be           women either.                    couple does more harm than
      respectful of them,              We should also               good.
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KEEPING THE COMMUNITY SAFE                        Elisa Cruz, Class of 2022 at Hill Regional
                                                  Career High School
    Homophobia and transphobia are very
serious topics in the LGBTQ community.                My experience with high school health
People are hurt and killed over just trying       was definitely not of the ordinary since
to be their true selves and it’s revolting that   midway through, COVID-19 had hit. At that
this community has to hide this part of           point, work started to become optional
themselves to stay alive, homophobic and          and ‘light’ in order to accommodate every
transphobic tendencies are taught. You are        students’ needs, while dealing with the
not “born” these things. They are taught these    pandemic. As for that year, we did not
things by the people who raise them and are       start the new unit on sexual education/
around them. Talking about LGBTQ anything         the topic of sexuality. In my own personal
whether it be what the acronym means,             experience, I never even received a sexual
what gender is, what sexuality is can start a     education as a middle schooler since I
conversation between people. It can open the      went to a parochial school. However, I am
eyes of those who are younger that not every      able to easily anticipate how high school
couple is “man and woman.” We can break           sexual education would have been taught
the idea in which straight is “default” and       to me. The curriculum would have focused
“normal.” If we teach students that straight      on heteronormative sex precautions, not
is not “the normal" then we can have more         mention other seuxalities, and briefly go
students feel more proud and open about           over consent.
being LGBTQ belonging rather than them                The negligence to the LGBTQ+
feeling like they don’t belong or that they       community when it comes to seuxality and
will be attacked because of it. Opening the       sexual education is simply depriving the
eyes of these students can show them that         youth- either LGBTQ+ or not- of an enriching
being a part of the LGBTQ community is            education opportunity.
okay and that even though they themselves             If the LGBTQ+ youth only learns about
may not feel they are LGBTQ belgoning             how to practice safe sexual education in
that they should still be respectful of them.     a a heterosexual relationship, it just gives
Being a part of the LGBTQ community isn’t         them knowledge that is not useful for them.
some disease. If a LGBTQ person touches           Even moreso, we do live in a heternormative
a straight person, the straight person isn’t      society and gaining knowledge about safe
going to magically become a part of the           heteroseuxal sex is not inaccessible. In
LGBTQ community. Talking about the LGBTQ          comparison, it is more difficult to gain more
community also wouldn’t make a person gay         knowledge about safe LGBTQ+ sex.
either. The school curriculum needs to stop           What better place to learn more about a
walking on eggshells around this topic and        topic than school itself? More importantly,
try to avoid it because schools are excluding     by treating LGBTQ+ sex as equal to
your LGBTQ students and not helping them          heterosexual sex, it allows for even more
at all. LGBTQ students shouldn’t have to wait     normalization of the LGBTQ+ community.
to experience something in their lifetime             Another positive outcome in making the
without knowledge of it while straight people     curriculum more LGBTQ+ affirming, is that
learn about it every single day. I understand     this can easily be a way a school can provide
that not every topic I said here can be talked    support for their LGBTQ+ students without
about because of time restraints, but we can      having to out the students themselves. It
atleast learn about the gender spectrum and       just allows for the LGBTQ+ youth to be more
safe sex for the LGBTQ community. LGBTQ           educated in their own community without
topics shouldn’t be left up to the media          the pressure of having to out themselves
and for LGBTQ belonging students to have          — if they are not ready — in order to gain a
to research. We should at least learn a little    more sophisticated education.
something more other than “LGBTQ people
exist.”
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VIEWPOINT

Adhering to Gender
Stereotypes Won’t Help
You Become Yourself
by Ace Ricker                    enforce conformity that            or not) try to fit a societal
                                 tries to make everyone             norm so that we finally feel
    Cis or trans, we live in a   the same. Conforming               that space of acceptance
gender-obsessed society.         to gender roles ignores            or safety that was missing
Whether it be pink, blue,        diversity and differences so       before we transitioned.
feminine, masculine; hurdles     ignorant individuals can be        The simplest sad but true
upon hurdles are thrown at       comfortable without having         example of safety being an
each of us since the day we      to question their beliefs.         issue linked to gender norms
are born. We are inundated       One reason we get backlash         is bathroom access. Like
with messages about what         for breaking through these         most trans people, I have
we should look like, what        boxes is that others also          faced verbal and physical
activities we play or watch,     want to do so but feel they        violence in a restroom for
and more; even the words         can’t, or because it brings a      simply going to a space
we use to describe ourselves     sense of discomfort to not         that I identified with. I was
or inanimate objects             have a cookie cutter right         perceived as a threat, when I
are often unnecessarily          or wrong answer for every          really just had to pee.
gendered. Society has so         question. Since we’re born             Before transitioning,
many boxes that have been        we are constantly being            it seems like we’re always
labeled pink or blue, girls or   confronted with messages           combating stereotypes
boys, and the repercussions      about how we should act            of the gender we were
of sticking your middle          or look or exist, and when         assigned; transitioning
finger up and paving your        you question these ‘rules’         changes the challenge to
own path tend to include         you threaten their power           start adhering to stereotypes
turmoil and ridicule due to      over you. As a young trans         of the gender we actually
not following the “rules.”       person, I would try to follow      identify as. It feels as if
Many of us find ourselves        these ‘rules’ to feel and be       we will be looked at as
accepting these gender           accepted as a “real man”           somehow lesser if we don’t
boxes because it’s easier to     when there truly isn’t a “How      follow the gender ‘rules’
just fit into them than to       To Be A Man For Dummies”           associated with that group.
constantly question them.        book out there.                    We might even become
    As I grew into my                Because of all this, many      our own bullies by pushing
adolescence I started            trans people step into their       ourselves to follow a new set
realizing that we’re always      gender transition believing        of stereotypes.
seeking approval by fitting      that their goal is to fit into a       These stereotypes
into these gender norms,         new set of stereotypes.            can shape and limit our
when truthfully gender is            As trans individuals,          transitions. Among trans
just a construct used to         sometimes we (consciously          men, it is a common belief
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that trans men “must”
have low voices and heavy
facial hair. They may feel
like they can’t show “too
much” emotion. Many trans
men feel uncomfortable
using the stall in a men’s
bathroom, as if that makes
them “less of a man.” As a
trans man, I even find that
others in the community
will not use certain words so
they don’t get questioned
on their manliness! I know
trans men who will not say
“PJs” for pajamas, or call the
cloth under the Christmas
tree a “skirt” because that’s    I was seen as one of the         express myself as myself.
too feminine. I’ve even met      guys… but second, I found            Why should anyone, trans
men who use a coffee app to      myself still treated as an       or not, have to go through
order their drink with extra     outcast because I was used       being pushed and pulled
caramel because they feel        to diminish the masculinity      in and out of pink and blue
they would be ridiculed as a     of other men who were            boxes they don’t even want
man ordering extra caramel       playing the sport. At that       to fit into? There isn’t a book
out loud. It took me some        point in my life I didn’t        to give you all the answers,
time of hearing and seeing       understand that I still wasn’t   but a blank canvas to paint
these things, and even doing     accepted, I was just being       what you want the pages of
them myself at times, for        used in a different way. I had   that book to look like.
me to learn that fitting the     to learn that whether I do           Sometimes even in
stereotypes doesn’t help us      something to fit the “norm”      spaces we think we’ll be
at all; if anything it takes     of being a man or not,           accepted, we find pushback.
away our uniqueness.             people are going to perceive     We’ll always find pushback.
    In high school I played      me however they want to.         The positive thing out of
co-ed basketball. Being seen         I looked for the “right      that is that you can choose
as a young girl, I was already   way” to be a guy in messages     your life path based on that
outcasted because girls          from society, social media,      pushback in a way. You can
“shouldn’t” play with boys,      and more, for years. When        choose your friends and
let alone play “aggressive”      it came to fitting into the      family. You can focus on
sports because they were         boxes, I found that I didn’t     the pushback you will grow
“violent” or “dangerous.”        feel comfortable there; it       from, and walk away from
The only way I was accepted      wasn’t me. As I grew up          the pushback that will shove
within that league was           and wasn’t obsessed with         you back into that pink or
to defy gender norms. I          sex, violence, or power, that    blue box.
blocked a cis boy opponent       didn’t make me less of a             Transitioning isn’t
who thought he could             man; if anything it made me      about fitting new gender
plow through me. He failed       get to understand myself as      stereotypes, it’s about
miserably, and because I         a person even deeper than I      figuring out who you are and
showed physical strength in      would have otherwise. Trying     how you want to share that
the “man’s world” two things     to conform to what someone       with the world. Transitioning
happened. First, I gained        else chose as the ‘right’ way    isn’t about doing gender
acceptance into the men’s        to be a guy took away my         right, it’s about being
league of basketball because     freedom to be who I was and      yourself right.
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COMEDY

           Lipstick, Lashes & Lies
           Turn the page to read about the Lipstick, Lashes and Lies
             show at Comix Roadhouse at Mohegan Sun, which is
           running twice a week at the venue. Each show features a
           rotating line-up of drag performers providing an eclectic
                             array of entertainment

                    Photos by Matthew Allen Photography

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Safe Protocols,
Edgy Comedy

       Lipstick, Lashes and Lies
      Keeps the Laughter Going
           at Comix Roadhouse
            Inside Mohegan Sun
                  by Joshua O'Connell
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“We’ve got a reporter
here tonight!” Mia E Z’Lay
noted on the mic between
                                  Showtimes and Tickets
performances during a             Lipstick, Lashes and Lies takes place twice weekly at Comix
recent Lipstick, Lashes and       Roadhouse at Mohegan Sun. At press time the schedule
Lies show at Mohegan Sun’s        was Fridays at 9 pm and Sundays at 6 pm. Due to evolving
Comix Comedy Club, located        COVID policies the exact timing will change in June 2021.
inside the Comix Roadhouse.       Tickets are $15 each for general seating and $35 each for
“Let’s make sure he talks         VIP seating; a food and drink minimum of $10 per person
about my bodacious bosom,”        is also required during the show, standard for comedy
the host of the night’s           shows. For the latest scheduling and to order tickets, visit
festivities added to the          comixroadhouse.com
audience’s delight. Mia, you
got your wish.
    For me, it was my first      live singing doesn’t make        night, Z’Lay cracks jokes,
time seeing live drag            Robin special. Something         does crowd work and keeps
performance in over a year,      that makes someone in            the audience energized. In
and the night’s events,          the audience happy, may          that way, she’s not unlike
which coincided with the         make another person not          other comedians and
three year anniversary of the    as happy. So we have very        performers who grace the
first show at Comix in April     diverse talent on the stage”     Comix stage throughout the
2018, featured a talented cast   so there’s something for         weekend.
that consisted of Z’Lay, Robin   everyone.                            Marc Wiesenthal is the
Fiercé, Sparkle A. Diamond            Z’Lay envisioned the        co-owner of Comix and
and Angelina D’Amor.             show as having more of           noted that this success
    Within that line-up          a Vegas-style format of a        follows in the pattern of
there was live singing           longer performance and           other successful shows at
(Fiercé), throwback              crowd interaction with each      the venue, which originated
energy (Diamond),                performer, (that interaction     at Foxwoods in 2010,
acrobatics (D’Amor), and         has been temporarily             shifted to Mohegan Sun in
more comedic-focused             paused to maintain social        2015 and then added the
performances (Z’Lay). Each       distancing).                     Comix Roadhouse in 2018.
brought a unique element              During the set I saw,       Lipstick, Lashes and Lies
to the show, an intentional      which is a standard format,      was originally one of a few
decision, according to Z’Lay     each performer does two          ideas to generate some fresh
during a conversation after      numbers, and then there’s        concepts for their late night
the show.                        a group number at the end.       line-up.
    “When I book the show,       The result is a tight hour-          “We were looking
I think of a cast of diverse     ish variety show with a lot      for something different.
talents,” Z’Lay said “It’s not   of moving parts, and the         Something more engaging
going to be 100 percent          diversity of performances        than a traditional standup
comedy or how would I            keeps things engaging.           comedy show.” Wiesenthal
be special? 100 percent               Z’Lay said, “Each time      said. “We wanted a new
                                 there’s a new audience, and      format for our Friday night
At left, Mia E Z'Lay works       they get to see our best         time slot. We had been
up the crowd at the onset        numbers, very Vegas-y. A         doing a number of different
of the Lipstick, Lashes and      little audience interaction      concepts, but they just didn’t
Lies show on April 18 at         really fills the 30 seconds      stick like Lipstick, Lashes and
Comix Comedy Club, inside        between a joke or the next       Lies does.” They were initially
Comix Roadhouse at               song.”                           piloting concepts, each on a
Mohegan Sun in Ledyard.               As the host and             once-a-month basis, including
Photo by Joshua O'Connell        connecting tissue of the         Men in Motion Male Revue.
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Z’Lay noted the main change was the
                                                     crowd interaction had to be curtailed for
                                                     safety.
                                                         “We’re unable to go off stage,” she said.
                                                     “Safety is my number one. Angelina had
                                                     to cancel a show earlier on as she thought
                                                     she had been around someone who was
                                                     sick. I’ve kicked girls off the show for not
                                                     following safety precautions. If I catch you
                                                     getting off stage without a mask you’re
                                                     gone.” All of this is to ensure the guests’
                                                     safety and comfort.
                                                         In November, rules changed yet again
                                                     and a 10 pm curfew was initiated. That
                                                     made the ability to do a Friday night
                                                     show no longer viable. They decided to
                                                     try a Sunday afternoon slot, which proved
                                                     successful.
                                                         When the curfew was later reduced, they
                                                     brought back Friday nights, and have since
                                                     been offering shows twice a week. Since
                                                     then they have done shows Friday nights at
                                                     9 pm (which was 10 pm pre-pandemic), and
                         Photo by Joshua O'Connell
                                                     6 pm on Sundays.
 Sparkle A. Diamond performs during the
                                                         Both Z’Lay and Wiesenthal said the
 Lipstick, Lashes and Lies show on April 18
                                                     expansion has largely proven a success.
at Comix Comedy Club, inside Comix Road-
                                                         “We were somewhat concerned about
    house at Mohegan Sun in Ledyard.
                                                     doing two shows a week, would it stretch
    Among the early successes in that                our audience too thin? We found that it
rotation was Lipstick, Lashes and Lies, and          didn’t. Not only do we have our regulars
before long its once a month had expanded            have a choice between 8 shows per month,
to twice a month, and then three times a             we’re able to attract new customers who
month. Then the pandemic hit.                        may not have been able to make a Friday
    Z’Lay, who has made drag performing a            night show.”
full-time career, was stressed by the initial            Z’Lay concurred. “We said we’ll try two
shutdowns, but worked with Wiesenthal                shows a week and it’s been selling. We are
and Comix to adapt the show to socially              very lucky. We have a good cast.”
distanced times. Wiesenthal said that ability            Z’Lay has been sharing hosting duties
to adapt allowed the show to return more             with Kenya Mone Heart, her roommate,
quickly than others.                                 since the expansion, to ensure the show
    “Mia’s show was more adaptable to                remains fresh and because of Z’Lay’s
COVID and social distancing than some of             availability. Heart hosts most of the Friday
our other audience participation-driven              shows, whereas Z’Lay mostly hosts the
shows,” Wiesenthal said. “Mia made the               Sunday shows.
modifications with the show and worked                   One thing that was important to both
with the performers so we could be                   Wiesenthal and Z’Lay was the general
compliant with those rules.”                         concentration of local talent. This is an
    “We moved forward with the socially              aspect that Comix has held important for a
distant show and we’re glad we did. We               variety of their shows, whether it be comedy
found that customers had been missing it…            showcases, Spinnato’s Comedy Magic Show,
a lot. The demand for a weekly show was              or other programs regularly on the Comix
there.”                                              calendar.
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“We build our
programming around both
local and regional talent as
well as finding comedians
in those communities who
aren’t the usual comedy
suspects (aka white cis
males). We’re an inclusive
club and want to support the
communities our performers
and guests care about.”
    He added, “What we aim
to do with all of our shows
is put out a good, quality
product. If a random patron
is looking for a show, they’ll
be happy even if they don’t
know that performer. The
brand they’re trusting is
Comix Roadhouse. We’re                                                     Photo by Joshua O'Connell
also working with local            Robin Fiercé performs during the Lipstick, Lashes and
performers who also have a       Lies show on April 18 at Comix Comedy Club, inside Comix
local fan base network. We                Roadhouse at Mohegan Sun in Ledyard.
appreciate the support of
those fans coming out as         performers and talent that       Connecticut. People can say
much as the comedians do.”       comes from being able to         what they want but don’t
    Wiesenthal was               book a local show with local     sleep on Connecticut drag
connected to Z’Lay through       performers.                      because you’re missing out.”
a friend, a degree of                “I think it’s great that I       The performers at the
separation scenario that’s       get to put jobs for queer        show I attended all had
led to a great working           talent in Connecticut and        great things to say about the
relationship. Z’Lay is equally   that I get to put money          Comix audience and what
excited to get to showcase       in queer entertainers’           they can do with their art for
local talent.                    pockets and get to spread        the shows.
    Z’Lay said, “99 percent      us around the state,” Z’Lay          Robin Fiercé, a regular
of the show is Connecticut-      said. “Obviously I have the      in the Connecticut drag
based drag performances.         bar down the street from         community who does both
On rare occasions we include     me and get to act a fool. I      lip syncing and live singing,
people from Massachusetts.       get to bring people all over     said, “It’s almost a different
These are people who             Connecticut and perform at       audience each time. A lot of
regularly perform and come       a safe and fun show where a      the time it’s their first drag
out to shows. It is people       variety of talent gets to get    show if not in our immediate
who come to Connecticut,         shown off.                       community. We get to share
and people you recognize             She added, “It might         our art with new people
from Connecticut. These are      be in a certain area of          and introduce people to a
drag entertainers that love      Connecticut and they’re          new form of art that they
the art of drag, want to do      used to seeing drag ABC.         didn’t expect, and get to be
drag, want to support drag,      Then you come here [to           amazed by it for the first
and part of the Connecticut      Comix], and you get to see       time.”
scene that have fan bases.”      A J F and X drag because             Sparkle A. Diamond
    Z’Lay appreciates the        there’s a lot of different       said she enjoys “being able
ability to support local queer   styles and drag around           to bring back nostalgia
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and then often become
                                                                    regulars.”
                                                                        Z’Lay added, “The best
                                                                    part of a show, is if we can
                                                                    get 10% of the tickets sold
                                                                    to queer family, it helps the
                                                                    rest of the crowd who’s new.
                                                                    Tonight was a good show.
                                                                    ‘Where are the gays?’ I asked
                                                                    and there were woos. It’s not
                                                                    a straight only venue,” but of
                                                                    course the shows get their
                                                                    fair share of bachelorette
                                                                    parties and other straight-
                                                                    supporting fans.
                                                                        The end result,
                                                                    Wiesenthal said, is the ability
                                                                    for Comix and the Lipstick,
                                                                    Lashes and Lies show to be
                                        Photo by Joshua O'Connell   a source of joy and laughter
  Angelina D'Amor does a headstand during the Lipstick,             during a challenging period
 Lashes and Lies show on April 18 at Comix Comedy Club,             for many, and bringing
   inside Comix Roadhouse at Mohegan Sun in Ledyard.                back a chance to see
                                                                    entertainment for those like
from the audience. I like to    art, my talent, my drag, my         myself, who had not been
do a lot of diva and older      community.”                         out to a show in a year.
numbers. I like to see people       Both Z’Lay and                      “We’ve heard that from
reminisce back when they        Wiesenthal emphasized               customers on an ongoing
were when that song came        the unique diversity of both        basis,” he said. “We feel that
back out for instance.”         the cast and the audience,          is both an honor and an
    While watching the          which work together to keep         obligation to deliver great
show, it was very clear that    the show fresh years into its       content in a safe format.”
Diamond was connecting          run.                                    Both Wiesenthal and
in just that way with certain       “What we find is our            Z’Lay are excited to continue
audience members, who           customers for this show are         forward, and return to
got quite excited to hear the   Mia and the performers’             normalcy.
numbers she was bringing        fans, fans of drag in                   “We’re lucky to have
to the stage.                   general, our comedy show            partners like Mia and
    Meanwhile, Angelina         customers, and frankly a            Mohegan Sun that have
D’Amor, who was doing all       fairly good contribution            allowed us to adapt our
sorts of acrobatics during      of casino regulars that             venues to be able to operate
her numbers, said she           see on the marquee out              safely since we reopened
appreciates how the show        front or on our website,”           back in June,” Wiesenthal
lets her “have fun with my      Wiesenthal said. “They              said. “We’ve worked hard
sisters in my community, my     may see drag shows at all           with our staff and our
drag sisters.” But she also     the major markets, at the           customers to maintain a safe
appreciates “the way the        casinos, and would love to          and healthy environment
audience reacts to my drag      see one here. I think it’s a        for everyone. We’re looking
and my heart; the high and      credit to the shows as we           forward to that return to
the hype. It’s not about me     pull them together that             normalcy that will allow
enjoying the show. It’s about   those customers want to             people to have more
the people enjoying me, my      come back after seeing one,         engagement. It’s easier to
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Photo by Joshua O'Connell
 From left, Angelina D'Amor, Sparkle A. Diamond, Robin Fiercé and Mia E Z'Lay perform
  during the finale of the Lipstick, Lashes and Lies show on April 18 at Comix Comedy
               Club, inside Comix Roadhouse at Mohegan Sun in Ledyard.

feel more comfortable with your server when     you in the audience I’ll give you a booking. I
you’re not masked and they’re not masked.       want to see CT Drag grow.
    “The casino has done a great job of             “The better and harder they work, it
maintaining a safe environment. This is a       makes us want to work harder. I’m self
solid foundation that we’ve been able to        obsessed. When I see someone doing great
build on since the beginning of the year. We    work, it makes me work harder and want
feel we’re well on the road to ‘normal’.”       to do better. As queer people we’re used
    Z’Lay concurred. “I look forward to         to having to show that we’re better on a
continuing an amazing show, working with        regular basis. It’s nice to show we can go
fantastic entertainers. I hope to meet more     above/beyond that too. We have to fight
and book more. I meet a lot of queer people     for stuff people aren’t used to fighting for.
that want to do drag. When I feel they’re       Whether it’s rights or having to beat another
ready, I say, ‘Hey, come to a show.’ If I see   bottom for a top.”
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VIEWPOINT

Trans Youth are Under Siege
Healthcare for Transgender Youth is
Medically Necessary, Not a Political Tool
by Christy L. Olezeski, PhD;    individuals aged 3 to 25 who      researchers, we know
Susan D. Boulware, MD;          identify as transgender and/      care for transgender and
Kelly Carpenter, MA; Ani-       or nonbinary, we understand       nonbinary folks is not
sha D. Patel, DO; Stuart A.     everyone’s gender journey is      new. We know puberty
Weinzimer, MD                   unique. Some children start       blockers are safe and not
                                to recognize their gender as      experimental. We are not
    Trans Rights are Human      incongruent from their sex        “chemically castrating”
Rights. This refrain keeps      assigned at birth as early        people or sending children
playing on repeat in our        as 2 years of age. Other          to surgeons prior to age
minds. However, as we saw       children don’t notice an          of consent (or without
in Arkansas (where gender       incongruence until puberty,       caregiver consent). Multiple
affirming medical treatment     as they watch their bodies        studies have shown that
was banned for transgender      develop secondary sexual          when youth are supported
and gender expansive            characteristics that don’t        in their identities and are
youth) and are witnessing       fit with their true identities.   able to obtain the necessary
in multiple other states        Still others don’t quite          medical care (including
(including proposed bans        understand why they feel          puberty blockers and cross
on medical care in at least     uncomfortable until they          hormone treatments), they
7 other states and sports       learn the language that           are less likely to engage in
bans in 30 states), some        assists them in exploring         self-injurious behaviors or
lawmakers do not agree.         and understanding their           attempt suicide. Medical
Legislation to make medical     identities. In each of these      decision-making is a process
intervention illegal, to ban    cases, patients need to           that occurs collaboratively
adolescent trans athletes       have care-givers who can          with youth, their caregivers
from playing on sports          provide education and             and their teams of providers.
teams that align with their     medical intervention, and         Having lawmakers decide
identities, and to remove       they need supports in the         what medical care should be
discussion of gender identity   systems in which they are         prescribed is dangerous and
development in healthcare       required to interact (schools,    misguided.
education makes it clear        medical systems, religious             In addition, youth
that some legislators do not    institutions, residential         who have a supportive
think trans and nonbinary       placements, etc.).                community (such as
youth have the right to be          There has been a              extracurricular activities,
themselves. As medical          surplus of conjecture about       support groups, GSAs or
providers, we believe these     transgender healthcare            sports teams) have greater
bills are rooted in ignorance   based on fear, which              self-esteem and lower rates
and fear, not in science.       appears to be guiding the         of depression and substance
    Working in an               state bans on medical             use. They are also more likely
interdisciplinary academic      care for transgender              to report a better quality of
medical setting with            youth. As clinicians and          life. Inclusive spaces where
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