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MARCH Number 3 Volume 34 4 what’s inside your 16 community parenting resource for over 30 years! featured topics 2 Editor’sNote 4 in this issue Baby quirks – strange but normal 21 C ongrats to moms who gave birth during the pandemic! 10 Ways to support a new mom 3 H umorMe 12 What are camps going to look like this summer? Parenthood is no picnic – it’s a Safari 16 Talking to your child about personal finances 6 CoverStory Pregnant during a pandemic 20 A wee bit of fun for St. Patrick’s Day 18 EducationConnection How to calculate reading speed Around&About - Calendar of activities & events 22 Around&About This issue of Pittsburgh Parent includes our Around&About calendar of activities March activities and events and events. Please submit your upcoming events to calendar.pittsburghparent@gmail. com - the deadline for our April issue is March 28, 2021. Visit pittsburghparent.com to add your event to our online calendar. special section Remember to check all event’s websites since cancellations due to the pandemic are still taking place in some cases. 4 – 11 All Things Babies Our thanks to our readers for your continued patience and partnership as we evolve to meet the needs of our clients and our community! READ Online Today www.pittsburghparent.com • Why co-parenting matters during a pandemic on the cover • College Prep for sophomores and juniors: Advice from an expert Cover: Ella – born during the 2020 pandemic to Christina and Tom • Study reveals THESE crafts distract your Otroba of Canonsburg kids for up to 34 minutes! PittsburghParent.com MARCH 2021 1
Editor’sNote Patricia Poshard Congrats to moms who gave birth during the pandemic! I want to offer my most sincere congratulations to all the moms who have given birth since last March when Covid-19 hit the US. To say the least, giving birth is a major event and Pittsburgh Parent is published 12 times a little scary even during normal times. During my first and a year by Honey Hill Publishing, Inc. only pregnancy I was told at five months I was carrying twins, at seven months my husband was transferred from northern P.O. Box 674, Valencia, PA 16059 Minnesota back to our hometown of Pittsburgh – that was a 724-898-1898 • PittsburghParent.com move we will never forget. The complications and unknowns kept me in a constant Office hours: Mon - Thurs, 9am-3pm state of anxiety! Looking back, that was really no big deal compared to what preg- nant moms have gone through to have a baby during the last year! Publisher: Lynn Honeywill-Norris When it comes to birth, you simply cannot plan for every contingency. This is true manager@pittsburghparent.com even without a pandemic. Editor: Patricia Poshard Our writer Ann Howley has done a great job telling the stories of three local editor@pittsburghparent.com moms in our cover story “Having a baby during a pandemic.” Since last March Calendar: Tracy Ashbaugh medical professionals and moms have been unraveling the scientific facts associ- calendar.pittsburghparent@gmail.com ated with pregnancy and Covid-19. Talk about dealing with the unknown – from day Marketing & Finance: to day it seemed the information was changing. Did or didn’t the virus have effects manager@pittsburghparent.com the unborn child? Who could enter a hospital safely to be with mom during her birth experience? How can moms recover with a newborn without support when the family Production • Web • Social Media: is quarantined for weeks at a time? Kathy Geib • web@pittsburghparent.com But, babies do bring joy Media Account Executive: Corina Shutack According to mom Sarah Ezrinn, “To begin, having a baby requires us be present. Advertising Sales: Fear is often the brain jumping forward to what could happen in the future, but when sales1@pittsburghparent.com you are taking care of someone else — someone who relies on you for survival — you must be fully in the moment. It is hard to think about anything else, when you’re Editorial • Social Media: dealing with a blowout emergency or singing songs together.” Maria Castello “To act afraid when babies can be so sensitive to even the slightest shift in our at- Founding Publisher: tention changes the dynamic. The minute that my mind wanders toward fear or I start Marilyn McCabe Honeywill to scroll on my phone for updates, our baby seems to sense it and reacts. He draws 1931 - 2013 me back to him with gentle squawks and squeals or sometimes, quite literally, with his hands pulling my face toward his.” Follow Us on Social Media She continues, “At a time when we are being asked to stay away from one facebook.com/pittsburghparentmagazine another and to practice “social distancing,” babies are a powerful source of connec- tion. Feeling their tiny hands wrap around your fingers or the way they gaze deeply instagram.com/pghparentmag into your eyes brings you back to the moment.” pinterest.com/pghparentmag Babies elicit calm “When a parent and baby connect chest to chest, whether for a snuggle or in twitter.com/pghparentmag a carrier, the heart rates of both the baby and the parent not only lower but even seem to synchronize. There is nothing more calming than hugging my son in close. www.PittsburghParent.com An instant feeling of relief washes over me. They are powerful healers.” @ Sign Up For Our E-Blast at Babies are a source of joy PittsburghParent.com “Literally. Spending time with babies increases two key pleasure hormones in our Pittsburgh Parent is produced monthly with circulation brains — dopamine and oxytocin. No matter how bad the news of the day or how targeted in and around Allegheny, Armstrong, Beaver, upset I may be, when I hold my baby close, and he flashes me a toothless grin, my Butler, Washington and Westmoreland Counties. Due to the COVID-19 pandemic the publication is online mood is immediately lifted.” at pittsburghparent.com and e-mailed to the homes And they are hilarious of over 55,000 parents. Distribution of this magazine does not constitute an endorsement of information, Sarah says, “From being super smooshy as newborns to their little laughs and products or services. The publisher reserves the developing senses of humor. I find myself belly laughing with our son multiple times right to reject any advertisement or listing which is not in keeping with this publication’s standards. The a day, and we all know laughter is the best medicine.” entire contents of the publication are copyrighted and may not be reproduced or copied in any form “Finally, I would do anything for my son and our family. During this pandemic, this without the permission of the publisher. Copyright has meant making decisions to take care of myself better than I perhaps would have Honey Hill Publishing, Inc. 2021. All rights reserved. otherwise. By taking care of my son, I am learning how to take care of myself better at a time when my health is important for the greater good.” Yes, a baby can bring joy even in the midst of a worldwide pandemic! n 2 MARCH 2021 PittsburghParent.com
HumorMe Rick Epstein Parenthood is no picnic (It’s a… Safari) obody ever said parenthood is a picnic. Really it’s more of a safari. shiping eyes, and the woman reels back into the shrubbery. And pervading each scene and You meet someone, you get Your daughter is about to start transaction, is parenthood’s true married and you blithely plan a kindergarten, all dressed up and carry- purpose – to produce another lov- family. It’s as if you are in a settlement at ing a new lunchbox. With smartphone ing person. That’s the mission and it’s the edge of the jungle, buying supplies, in hand, you pose her in front of the the biggest thing any of us will ever trying on sporty khaki outfits with ep- school. “Stand over there right next to attempt. Yes, every so often you’ll find aulets, then celebrating with a drink in that cauldron and smile.” A red-faced yourself in the tightening coils of a huge a bar with zebra skins on the walls and man sits chest-deep in the steaming wa- snake, but parenthood is really all about ceiling fans turning slowly. On the stool ter amid sliced carrots and celery. One love, yours and theirs. n beside you is an unshaven man in filthy eye is swollen shut and he is weeping khakis. The whites of his eyes are yel- and wailing. Rick Epstein can be reached at low and he smells bad. He grabs your “Hey, Mister,” you say. “Could you rickepstein@yahoo.com. lapel with a shaking hand and says, “My keep it down? I’m trying to get a nice daughter is marrying a guy that I can’t picture.” stand, and the wedding is going to cost “I just p-p-put myself $150,000 in me $30,000.” You look away, thinking, debt to p-p-pay for college,” he sobs, Attention Advertisers “A crank. The tropics are full of them.” “and my son dropped out in the last se- Conception occurs and the baby mester before g-g-graduation.” A tear rolls from his good eye, down a bruised Look What’s Coming grows and begins kicking. Now you in the April Issue of are in the jungle, marching at the head cheek and into the hot water. of your entourage. The rhythmic throb “You should’ve saved up,” you say. Pittsburgh Parent of native drums begins at dawn and Then, as if tossing a bay leaf into his continues all day. It seems to be coming from every direction and it does not soup, you add, “You probably didn’t read to him when he was little.” Summer fun begins with stop. There is agitation in the ranks. You look to your guide, and there You take your child by the hand and go to meet her first teacher. Pittsburgh Parent are beads of sweat on his waxy skin. *** He says, “Bwana, the drums warn of Twenty years ago, I announced to childbirth. They foretell 36 hours of my father that my wife and I were ex- labor and unspeakable agony.” You pecting our first baby. Dad said, “Son, turn around to find all the porters have you are embarking upon an adventure vanished with the food and ammo. the likes of which you cannot imagine.” “Haven’t these primitive drummers The old man knew what he was talk- heard of Lamaze?” you say and march ing about. Unless you’ve raised a child on. or two, you haven’t lived; you’ve merely The baby is born after 36 hours of skimmed across Life’s surface, glanced labor and unspeakable agony. A perfect through its brochure or “liked” it on little girl. Three months later you put Facebook. her in a stroller and take her to the park. There is a crashing in the bushes and a In any given day, raising kids can PITTSBURGH PARENT woman stumbles into the clearing. She be as challenging as taming hyenas, as exciting as discovering a lost tribe, as SUMMER ACTIVITIES &CAMP GUIDE is wild-eyed, her clothes hang in shreds and her body has been raked by claws. painful as a pantload of fire ants, and as April Issue Space Deadline fun as tickling a monkey. March 5, 2021 She raves, “My daughter is 13 and she Parenthood will propel you through thinks I’m an idiot and only her so-called For More Information on Advertising emotional landscapes as jolly as a field friends know anything. But they are of Easter eggs, as scary as an Emergen- (724) malignant dopes!” sales1@pittsburghparent.com Your baby looks up at you with wor- cy Room, and as eerie as the front seat 898-1898 of a car with your child at the wheel. PittsburghParent.com MARCH 2021 3
All Things BABY Baby quirks Strange (but normal!) things babies do By Christa Melnyk Hines very new parent at some point about seizures when their infant sud- Mellick says. wonders: Is my baby supposed to denly throws out their ams and legs as if If you’re ever concerned about do that? Is this normal? they’re falling. strange movements that your baby Morgan Shandler recalls Pediatrician Jennifer Mellick, MD, makes, try to video record it, suggests several moments of new mama anxiety FAAP, says that the startle or Moro Jennifer McBride, MD, internal medi- during the first few weeks home with Reflex is a normal neurological infantile cine and pediatric specialist. her daughter, who is now a busy one reflex that disappears as the nervous “Nine times out of ten, baby won’t year old. system matures. do the motion when in the office with “One thing that particularly freaked “If you believe in evolution, there’s us. If parents record it, I can see what me out was when Violet would bob probably some reason why mammals the baby looks like when they are do- her head when attempting to nurse. and homo sapiens have this instinctual ing that movement and either reassure It almost looked like she was having a need to grasp, and if they’re falling, them or decide if we need to do some- seizure or like she was a broken down reach out to find something and grab thing else,” McBride says. robot,” Shandler says. “But my pedia- on. Babies do that same kind of thing. Funny breathing. Babies have trician assured me it was a completely If they feel like they are falling, they are breathing patterns that alarm many normal part of ‘rooting’ for the breast.” going to throw their arms and legs out newbie parents. Physicians call it “peri- wide to find their caregiver and grab,” Startle reflex. Parents also worry odic breathing of the newborn” – and 4 MARCH 2021 All Things BABY PittsburghParent.com
it’s completely normal. color or lacking in the brown “They will almost pant for a period or green tones or if there is of time and then they will pause for sev- ever blood or red in the eral seconds – several seconds in baby diaper,” McBride says. breathing seems like a really, really long Difficulty time. Then, they take a deep breath, let pooping. Your out a deep sigh and they pant again,” baby may Mellick says. appear to Babies also often make lots of struggle “gurgly, snorty sounds,” says Michael Greenfield, MD, internal medicine and pediatric specialist. “This is pretty normal because ba- bies have to breath through their nose when they’re eating and a lot of babies have congestion so it will make their breathing sound much worse than it really is,” Greenfield says. Bless you! Just as babies make funny sounds when they breath, they often sneeze, which leads parents to wonder if their child suffers from aller- gies or is getting sick. “That’s just how the baby clears out his nose because they can’t blow their nose like we can,” McBride says. Hiccups. Just like the rest of us, babies Did you know? experience hic- your physician. cups, which are Baby girls born with an intact More zzz’s... sudden con- uterus can sometimes have a little Photo by Katie Smith pretty please? tractions blood in their diaper after birth. on Unsplash Among the most popular of the dia- phragm. This “mini period” happens be- questions pediatricians field from tired parents has to do Often a cause they are no longer receiving with sleep and when everyone in baby can get their mother’s estrogen. the family can get more of it. when they hiccups after a “Sleep is the Holy Grail of parent- go, but as long as feeding. -Source: Jennifer McBride, MD hood,” Mellick says. their poop is soft and “Babies will hic- Babies generally don’t sleep for long doesn’t look like pellets cup for hours on end, periods of time because they need to or rocks (a sign of constipa- which doesn’t bother eat every few hours. Their tiny tummies tion), don’t worry. them at all,” Greenfield can only hold so much milk. Babies can have dirty dia- says. “As they get older, they still need pers anywhere from once a day to Scaly scalp. Cradle cap, every few days. to eat frequently because they need a which is a greasy, yellowish, scaly “Formula-fed babies don’t neces- large volume to get the calories they rash on the head, may not look cute, sarily poop every day and sometimes need to grow,” Mellick says. but it’s usually nothing to worry about. that concerns parents, but the body By about six months, your baby Try brushing your baby’s hair or head doesn’t process formula as fast as it should be sleeping for a seven to eight once a day with a soft baby brush, does breastmilk,” McBride explains. hour stretch. which will help loosen the natural oils If your little one is passing watery Wait, they changed. What is on the scalp to avoid build up. Moistur- diarrhea, contact your doctor as this can normal today probably won’t last since izers like baby oil, mineral oil or coconut be a sign of an infection. babies grow and change rapidly, but al- oil can also help. ways consult your family physician with Jeepers, creepers... It may look “If it seems to be getting worse or any concerns. weird, but babies sometimes sleep with looking really red, that would be a time “We’d rather you call with a ques- their eyes half open or appear as if their to see the pediatrician. It could be a tion that isn’t really something to be eyes are rolling around in their head. sign that baby is going to have ec- alarmed about than miss something that “I don’t know that anyone knows zema, which typically runs in families,” is,” Mellick says. n why eyes roll around the head. It’s McBride says. probably something to do with their Strange colored poop. Depending sleep patterns. They don’t have well- Freelance journalist Christa Melnyk on whether your baby is breast-fed or organized R.E.M. sleep at that age,” Hines and her husband are the parents formula-fed, the color of their poop can Mellick says. of two adolescent sons, who still do range from green and yellow to brown. Occasionally, it may appear that strange things! Christa is the author Breast-fed babies will have more color your baby’s eyes are crossing, which is of Happy, Healthy & Hyperconnected: variations since breastmilk is comprised normal up to 18 months of age. If your Raise a Thoughtful Communicator in a of mom’s diet. baby’s eyes seem persistently crossed Digital World. “I get worried if the poop is a gray or turned in or out, however, talk with PittsburghParent.com All Things BABY MARCH 2021 5
Pregnant during a pandemic By Ann K. Howley n March, I was eight months pregnant,” says first-time South Park mom, Emma Cencich. “Everything was locked down. It was unnerving.” Pennsylvania recorded its first two cases of COVID-19 on March 6, 2020. Less than two weeks later, the Department of Health announced the first death in the state. As the virus continued to spread through the com- monwealth and case counts climbed, Governor Tom Wolf ordered all non-life sustaining business to close, and on March 23, 2020, Allegheny County was included among the first counties to be issued a stay-at-home order. From that point on, Emma’s husband, Sebastian, was no longer allowed to go with her to her bi-weekly doctor checkups. Emma remembers how eerie her doctor’s office felt. There was no administrative staff in the office, only the doctor and a nurse were there. The waiting room was empty, chairs were sepa- rated, and everything looked sterile. “It was like one of those sci-fi movies” Emma says. “I never thought this would happen.” There was much uncertainty at that time, and her doc- tor advised her to be as cautious as possible, warning her that being pregnant could potentially put her in a high risk category for COVID. What are the risks for pregnant women? At the beginning of the pandemic, doctors initially feared that COVID might spread from mother to fetus, which they now believe is not the case. However, according to local Dr. Michael Aziz, a Maternal- Fetal Medicine Specialist and State Liaison for the Society Emma for Maternal-Fetal Medicine, the bigger fear was that COVID would be like two other recent viral outbreaks. “MERS and SARS were deadly for pregnant women,” Dr. Aziz says. “In those outbreaks, 25 percent to 35 percent of pregnant women who contracted those viruses died, and when this pandemic started, we feared COVID would be just as deadly.” Although the overall risks are generally low for women of reproductive age, studies indicate that pregnant women who develop symptoms are indeed at significantly higher risk for severe illness. “Pregnant mothers are more likely to end up in intensive care and require intubation,” Dr. Aziz says. “They are also more likely to need ECMO treatment,” which, in laymen’s terms, means being hooked up to a heart/lung machine. The risks are even greater for black and Latina women who are pregnant. Although they comprise only about 14 percent of sample cases, they represent 37 percent of COVID deaths. “It spreads like wildfire.” Julie Watkins and her husband, Devin, who live in Belle Vernon, didn’t want to wait to have a baby. “We’ve been wanting kids for so long,” Julie says. The couple found out that she was pregnant in June 2020 which means that their baby, due in February 2021, will be one of the millions of “pandemic babies” around the world conceived and born during this international health crisis. In November, Devin tested positive for COVID. “He had cold symptoms and was achy for a few days,” she says. “One thing Dr. Michael Aziz scared him, it was hard to breathe. It takes your breath away.” 6 MARCH 2021 All Things BABY PittsburghParent.com
Fortunately, his symptoms were expect. Christina fortunately did not minor, but his illness raised additional have a high risk pregnancy, so the questions and concerns and Julie only appointments she had to attend wasn’t sure how worried she and her in-person were for important visits, husband should be. like at 20 weeks, when she was “When Devin got sick, we won- scheduled for an ultrasound. dered if I should go to my parents’ Tom was allowed to come house? But if I had it, I couldn’t go to with her, but some my parents. I was afraid of giving it to of her pregnant them.” friends told her Julie got tested, and was relieved they had to do their when both the rapid test and the diag- ultrasounds alone, nostic test sent to the lab were nega- which Christina tive, but she still didn’t know what she thought would be a should do. “sad thing to have “Should I get tested again?” she to do by yourself.” wondered. The hardest part Ultimately, the couple decided to for Christina was “ride it out.” She and Devin quaran- not hearing the tined for 14 days. At home, they tried heartbeat every to stay away from each other as much visit. as possible, sleeping in separate “You always rooms for a few weeks. want to hear the Julie & Devin “I didn’t get it,” Julie says, but in heartbeat, which hindsight, she wonders if maybe she shows the baby is did contract the coronavirus first, as okay and still alive she remembers feeling achy and tired in there. You have after the Halloween weekend. At the to have faith that time, she thought she was just worn everything is okay,” she out, but Devin got sick shortly after says. that. Her delivery felt very different “I wish I knew where he got it? compared to when her son, Oliver, Even people who are being so cau- was born two years ago. This time, ev- tious are still getting it. It spreads like eryone had to wear masks, the medi- wildfire.” cal staff took temperature checks, Advice for pregnant and and asked questions about whether breastfeeding women The protocols had to change or not she had been exposed to or The coronavirus pandemic has The Centers for Disease Control tested for COVID. When her daughter forced hospitals, doctors, nurses and (CDC) recommends that pregnant and Ella arrived on October 30, 2020 via medical personnel to change the way breastfeeding women take the follow- C-section, Tom was allowed to be they provide prenatal and postpartum ing steps to protect themselves from with her during delivery, but hospital care. COVID: personnel asked him to stay at the Canonsburg mom, Christina •• Limit interactions with people hospital the whole time and not leave. Otroba, noticed the difference. She who might have been exposed No other visitors were allowed. and her husband, Tom, found out that to or infected with COVID-19, Christina also noticed that this she was pregnant in early February including people within your time the hospital didn’t offer any right before the pandemic hit. household, as much as possible. special programs. For example, “there “At first we thought it was no big •• When going out or interacting was no photographer or entertain- deal,” she says, but after her first gy- with others outside your imme- ers. There used to be a class about necological appointment, she recon- diate household, wear a mask, the newborn environment where they sidered. “Okay, this is going to be an stay at least six feet away from showed a video, but none of that hap- issue,” she realized. others outside your household, pened. It was very different.” Over the next eight months, half and frequently wash your hands “Desperation breeds innovation,” of her office visits were conducted with soap and water for at least reminds Dr. Aziz. “COVID protocols virtually. She bought a blood pressure 20 seconds. are just a stopgap.” cuff so that she could keep track of •• Avoid activities where taking He believes that some of the her blood pressure and weight on her protective measures may be dif- changes worked well. For example, own and report it during each virtual ficult and where social distanc- he thinks the video visits have been visit. Her doctor also gave her a script ing can’t be maintained. helpful. Some research indicates that to buy urinalysis testing strips which •• Don’t skip your healthcare ap- there has been a significant drop in she obediently used before every pointments during and after preterm birth rate. appointment so her doctor could re- pregnancy. “This would be a good outcome,” motely assess her bladder and kidney •• Get recommended vaccines, he says. “We don’t think that this is function and watch for any signs of including the vaccine against in- from visiting the doctor less. It may be preeclampsia or diabetes. fluenza and the whooping cough from being able to stay home or work “If this was my first pregnancy, it (Tdap) vaccine to help protect less. This is probably why these trends would have been nerve wracking,” you and your baby. were not present in minority women. Christina says. But since this was her But we will find out in the long term if To vaccinate or not? second pregnancy, she felt comfort- care protocols were beneficial or not,” At the time of this writing, the able and had a better idea of what to he concludes. Continued on page 8… PittsburghParent.com All Things BABY MARCH 2021 7
Joint Statement issued in support helps track her pregnancy week by of public health measures to week. The app includes a chat forum combat COVID-19. The Joint with women from all over the world. Statement also recom- “I’m on it all the time,” she says. mends that “eligible patient popula- Christina tions, including Christina admits that she’s not pregnant women, certain if she and her husband would consult with their have tried to get pregnant if they trusted physicians knew there would be a pandemic, but when considering for them, everything turned out fine. whether to take In fact, she tells me that she thought the vaccine.” that 2020 “was the perfect time to get In addition, the pregnant.” American College When I ask her what she means, of Obstetricians she pauses for a moment before she and Gynecologists explains. states that vac- “Obviously I don’t want to get cines “should not COVID or risk the baby getting COVID, be withheld from but I got to work from home the entire pregnant individu- length of my pregnancy. If I felt nau- Christina seous, I was at home. I could climb into als who meet crite- ria for vaccination,” my bed and work from there. It was as well as lactating wonderful. The other part is that I never women. had to wear nice maternity clothes. The CDC similarly I had old T shirts, but I never had to agrees that “people who are spend money on clothes to look good.” pregnant and part of a group rec- She admits that trying to work ommended to receive the coronavirus from home now with an infant and a vaccine, such as health-care personal, toddler is hard, but when she was still may choose to be vaccinated.” pregnant and people would ask her Continued from page 7… “One thing I take seriously,“ Dr. Aziz how it was going, she almost sounded says, “is that the medical society needs apologetic. Food and Drug Administration to go on the offensive. It’s easy to sit “Actually it’s fantastic,” she would (FDA) recently issued emergency back and get drowned out by people tell them. use authorization for two vaccines who are not experts in the field.” Emma for the prevention of COVID-19 There is a bright side March and April 2020 were tough manufactured by Pfizer-BioNTech months. As her due date approached, and Moderna. Federal and state Pregnancy is supposed to be a the worry of contracting COVID added governments are currently in the time of joyful anticipation for couples, to the typical third trimester stress process of distributing both vac- families and friends. Even as distribu- that pregnant women experience. cines and the Pennsylvania De- tion of the COVID vaccine ramps up On top of that, she lost her job doing partment of Health is rolling out a across the country, there continues social media, marketing and e-com- phased distribution approach based to be uncertainty about the future. No merce for a local business, and her on supply, demand and risk. one knows how long this pandemic husband experienced a sudden health Dr. Aziz points out that pregnant will last. Despite the strain of being issue unrelated to COVID that required and breastfeeding women were not pregnant during a pandemic, I found him to be hospitalized for a few days. included in the initial vaccine trials. it encouraging that all three women I “I had just lost my income and my Instead these women were excluded spoke to still expressed happiness and husband was in the hospital. I wanted from the trials. In the meantime, spon- optimism about their pregnancies. to feel like I had some kind of control sors conducted developmental and Julie over the situation.” So she decided reproductive toxicity (DART) studies to to start her own social media and e- ensure the safety of the vaccine. “So far, it’s been good.” commerce business, Cencich Cre- However, knowing that the vaccine Devin completely recovered from ative, right before her son, Carter, was is administered via an RNA delivery his bout with COVID in the fall, and born on April 14, 2020. system, Dr. Aziz says “it is not scientifi- the two of them are looking forward She chuckles. “New baby and new cally plausible that the vaccine could to the birth of their (spoiler alert!) son, business in one month during a pan- be transmitted to the baby.” It is also who is due in February. demic,” she says, summing it up. encouraging, he notes, that no major Julie is currently in the third tri- Since then, she has been balanc- safety problems have been reported mester of her pregnancy. As her belly ing work with nursing and taking care in both human and animal studies, grows bigger, she is feeling more fa- of Carter. She loves both being a and pregnant and breastfeeding tigued, especially because she has to mother and having her own business. women are expected to participate in be on her feet working as a hair stylist “I am making it work,” Emma says. upcoming trials. in her salon. “Being a mom brings a lot of creativity “Right now we think the benefit of “I’m wearing two masks now to be to everything I do.” n the vaccine outweighs the risk,” says extra cautious,” she says. Dr. Aziz, referencing the conclusion Despite the pandemic, Julie has While Pittsburgh writer, Ann K. reached by the Society for Maternal- found a way to connect with other Howley, was writing this article, she Fetal Medicine and other influential mothers-to-be. She enjoys using an was thrilled to learn that she was going women’s health organizations in a app called What to Expect, which to be a grandma for the first time. 8 MARCH 2021 All Things BABY PittsburghParent.com
Tips for choosing the right OB-GYN By Rachael Moshman d been having heavy bleeding for asking the nurses who receptionist days before I called my gynecolo- work in the department basically said it gist for an appointment. I was able at the hospital. “We know wasn’t her problem.” to get an appointment that day, but which doctors tend to have Schedule a consultation spent hours waiting to be seen. When the patients with the most post-op the doctor finally came in, he curtly complications. We also know which OB- If an OB-GYN is reluctant to asked a few questions, did a quick GYN doctors specialize in specific is- meet with you in the office prior, steer exam, called it a “missed pregnancy” sues such as pregnancy complications.” clear. You are considering hiring them and left the room. as your doctor. An interview isn’t out Make your wish list of the question. Heidi, the mother of I had no idea what that meant. The nurse explained that it was more com- This is different from determining a teenage girl, says, “If you are not monly known as a miscarriage. I thought your needs. These are the items that comfortable sitting across a desk from my late period was due to stress. aren’t deal breakers, but will score a someone then you will not be comfort- Pregnancy hadn’t even occurred to me. doctor bonus points. I look for someone able with them examining you.” I was crushed. who is located within twenty minutes Trust your instincts Thankfully, I had a kind nurse who of my office and has early morning ap- pointments, since I work full time. My Freelance writer, Kim, says, “I explained what was happening to me switched doctors because my OB-GYN since the doctor didn’t. I never returned sister prefers female doctors. My friend Patrick crashed the Face- was dismissive when I said I wanted to to that OB-GYN office. try natural remedies first.” Travel agent, A woman’s OB-GYN sees her at her book conversation with advice from the male perspective, “Check to see Danielle, adds, “Many people don’t most vulnerable, both physically and realize that an OB-GYN isn’t the only emotionally. Finding someone you trust what year the doctor graduated college and look for the most recent date to option when you’re pregnant. After and are comfortable with are important some not so great experiences with factors in ensuring you receive the high- increase the chances of him being cute. Also, see if the stirrup thing has a warm- an OB-GYN, I went with a professional est quality of care. midwife and loved every second!” Here are some tips from other er so that it’s not cold on your legs.” If I had known these tips five years women on choosing an OB-GYN. Visit the office ago, perhaps I would have been with Determine your needs You can tell a lot about an office by a more compassionate doctor when I Are you primarily seeking birth con- observing the patients in the waiting found out I was experiencing a miscar- trol? Do you have any specific condi- room and the front office staff. Were riage. We rely on our OB-GYN to get us tions or concerns? Are you pregnant or you greeted when you walked in? If not, through some of the most delicate times trying to conceive? take a seat and see if anyone notices of our life – while we’re naked with our Lynn, a graphic designer, says her you. How long are patients waiting? legs spread. We owe it to ourselves to priorities have changed over time. “I’m Katrina, an occupational therapist find the right person for the job. n done conceiving so I want someone to assistant, quickly scratched a practice just help me stay healthy and write my off her list of possibilities after observ- Rachael Moshman is a mom, freelance Rx for birth control. When I was trying ing for just a few minutes. “Several very writer and blogger. She lives with her to conceive (and for both pregnancies) pregnant women were complaining husband, daughter, three cats and a it was really important to me to find that they had been waiting two hours or mannequin named Vivian. Find her at out their policies for birth and delivery. more past their appointment time. The www.rachaelmoshman.com. Would ‘my’ doctor be the one deliver- ing? Or would I simply be at the mercy of the doctor on-call at the time?” Ask around Social worker, Mary Ellen, asks her friends for recommendations PENN HILLS & IRWIN LOCATIONS Evening and Weekend when seeking a new OB-GYN. She says, “It may seem awkward, but just SCHEDULE AN APPOINTMENT: Hours Available ask. Most women are happy to tell you 833-PMA-DOC1 who they see.” If you’re uncomfort- able asking people in person, turn to Facebook. That’s what I did for this ar- ticle. As you can see, my friend’s weren’t embarrassed to talk about it at all. Do your research PremierMedicalAssociates.com Member of the Allegheny Health Network Cheryl, an OB-GYN nurse, suggests PremierMedicalAssociates.com PittsburghParent.com All Things BABY MARCH 2021 9
Ways to support a new mom By Sarah Lyons djusting to having a new baby in the Bring the family their house can be difficult for the whole favorite take out or send a family. Sleepless nights and a gift card. change in routine can leave mom Set up a train feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. Offering support to a family with a new When one meal just baby can help them adjust to their new doesn’t cover it, set up a normal. Often when you ask, mom isn’t meal train using websites able to think of the exact way she needs like www.signupgenius. help. Here are some ideas: com or www.taketh- emameal.com. Discuss Stop by the store with the family the Going to the store with newborn and most convenient dates possibly older children for the first time and times to de- can be a daunting task. Offer to pick up liver meals and solicit a few things the family needs. This is friends to fill all the especially easy if you will be out running open spots. Social media is a errands already. Many grocery stores great place to recruit people you might now offer drive through pick up. Have not think to ask. the family order and pay for groceries another great way to bring cheer and Let her shower online, then pick them up and deliver make mom feel special. them. Helping to put them away would A new mom may feel she doesn’t have time for basic things like a shower, Don’t stay too long be an extra bonus. rest or time to eat a meal. One of the Families who have newborns gener- Help around the house simplest ways to help a new mom is ally like to have company, especially if Sweep the floor, fold laundry, to hold the baby and watch the other they pitch in around the house and with vacuum or do dishes.. Even a little bit children while she eats lunch, enjoys a the kids. However, don’t overstay your of tidying up can make a big difference. relaxing shower, or takes a short nap. welcome. New parents tire easily. Visit A clean house during a time of transi- When mom is rested, fed and freshened the family, bring a meal and help out but tion can bring order to a time that feels up, it can really make her feel ready to watch for clues from mom as to when chaotic. However, mom may prefer to take on the rest of the day. the family would like some alone time. clean herself. Offer to care for the baby Take her somewhere Help with the older kids and other children while she works on a household project. Show support by offering to pick Mom may not be able to drive for a up the older kids, even if it’s just for a few weeks after birth. Offer to take her Come when others don’t couple hours. If you are taking your own on errands or just out for coffee. Being Not all new moms are “new moms”. children to the park, swing by and pick able to get out of the house can do Families that are adding their second, up her’s for the afternoon. This gets wonders for someone’s attitude. third or fourth child need help just as them out of the house and gives mom Don’t give advice much as first time moms, if not more. a break. Driving the kids to school or When there are older children there is activities is also a big help for a family An important tip for anyone chatting no time for resting when the baby rests. with a new baby. Time alone with baby with a new mom is to listen but don’t Older children do not stop activities may be just what mom needs. give advice unless you are asked. It can just because a new baby has arrived be frustrating and overwhelming to get Ask about her birth story unsolicited advice from everyone she and mom and dad are tired. It can be very difficult to entertain a toddler while Giving birth is a huge milestone, an bumps into. mom is nursing or changing diapers. experience no mom will ever forget. It’s important to ask mom what would Offer to take care of the older children Every birth has a story and many times, help her. Would she prefer to have help for mom or offer to take care of baby so there aren’t a lot of chances to tell it. with housework? Would she like you she can spend some alone time with her Ask about her birth story and listen. Be- to hold the baby while she gets some older children. coming a mom is a joyful, stressful, awe things done? Some moms would prefer inspiring and life changing experience. to have someone to chat with for awhile Provide a meal Telling the birth story helps women to and some moms may want to get out of Friends and family often send ver- process and embrace this new journey. the house for a bit. Offer several options satile casseroles like lasagna after the Bring a gift for mom and see what sounds most appealing new baby is home. Try thinking outside to the new mom. Any offer to help is the 13x9 pan. Why not bring the family Many people bring gifts for the baby, but mom is usually the one doing always appreciated by a family adjusting the fixings for breakfast and lunch rather to having a new baby in the house. n than just dinner?. Stock the freezer with all the work. Bring a snack or treat for easy, ready to make items like pizza, mom to enjoy. Other great gifts are ones that pamper mom or make her Sarah Lyons, mom of six, has learned pasta dishes, soups and crock pot first hand what it is like to adjust to a meals. Then the family can pull some- feel beautiful and comfortable in her postpartum body. Lotion, perfume, a new baby in the house. She is so grate- thing out of the freezer when they are ful for the family and friends that helped not up for cooking. Crunched for time new nightgown or slippers are some good ideas. A delivery of flowers is her as each baby came home and loves or don’t feel like making an extra meal? to return the favor to others. 10 MARCH 2021 All Things BABY PittsburghParent.com
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What are camps going to look like this summer? By Ann K. Howley ummer camps already experi- enced one COVID season in 2020, and it appears there’s a good chance the novel coronavirus will still be around for the foreseeable future. Last year, some camps opted not to hold summer youth programs, and in-person camps that chose to con- tinue to operate during the pandemic incorporated stringent health and safety measures. The introduction of virtual camping was a creative new option that allowed kids to enjoy summer camp activities from the comfort and safety of home. This year, camp providers have had a valuable head start as they prepare for the upcoming camping season. Here is an overview of the strategies local camp providers have planned for the summer of 2021. Camp Deer Creek 12 MARCH 2021
Full speed ahead Carnegie Science Center Camp Deer Creek . . . since 1933 carnegiesciencecenter.org The big news at the Carnegie Sci- ence Center is that the Buhl Planetarium upgrade is complete and ready for sum- mer campers. Equipped with a brand new projection system and canvas, the planetarium now offers improved ac- cessibility for people with hearing and visual impairments. “Students can actually be immersed Pittsburgh’s Oldest & Finest Family Owned & Operated Children’s Day Camp in the cosmos and check out the weath- June 14 - August 6, 2021 • Transportation provided in many Pittsburgh areas er via International Space Station,” Ages 4 - 15 • campdeercreekonline.com • 412-767-5351 says Connie George, Senior Director of Marketing and Community Relations at the Science Center. “We are social distancing in the theater and limiting The show must go on the capacity to 28, as well as enhanced Little Lake Theatre www.littlelake.org surface cleaning and air filtration.” Little Lake Theatre is ready for The Science Center is also moving anything. Last summer, the camps were forward with 2021 in-person summer fully enrolled and they were all set to go camps for kids ages 6 to17 encom- when COVID hit. passing a wide range of interests. The “We made the decision in March to youngest campers can enjoy topics like go online,” says artistic director, Jena Grossology and Camp Magic School Oberg. Bus, while older kids will have the op- The Zoom camps consisted of 25 to portunity to learn how to make rockets, 30 minute sessions with a fun break in robots, animation, and how to survive a the middle. zombie apocalypse. “These were fun things that inspired creativity and problem solving,” Jena Continued on page 14… PittsburghParent.com MARCH 2021 13
Continued from page 13… “By April or May, it might be clear which direction we will go,” Jena says. “It’s been an interesting year.” says. For example, the kids would have to create a mon- Business as usual ster costume with Camp Deer Creek whatever was in campdeercreekonline.com the room, or pick When you’ve been providing the summer camp expe- an object in the rience to generations of Pittsburghers since 1933, there’s room to make a not much that can stop you. Not even a pandemic. commercial. This year marks the 89th season for Camp Deer Creek, When parents the area’s oldest children’s day camp located in Cheswick, saw how fun the Pennsylvania. online classes Director Wes Weitzel, whose family has owned and operated the camp for almost 50 years, says “Camp Deer Creek is a genuine, old school, day camp Virtual Zoom Camp with horses, a pool, a climbing wall and archery. We are not sports specific, or just an arts were, many ended and crafts camp. We do a little bit of every- up registering their children thing… and we provide transportation and lunch up for multiple sessions, and every day.” because of the interest and Last summer, despite the pandemic, the camp success of the summer Zoom was able to operate status quo, primarily because classes, the Theatre contin- everything is 100 percent outdoors, which is the ued to offer fall and winter optimal environment to protect campers from classes for both kids and infection. adults. “The biggest building is still like a big, screened This summer, they are porch,” Wes says. hoping to hold in-person Still, campers, counsellors, and staff had regular camps, using a big tent so Virtual Zoom Camp temperature checks and Wes does not recall that kids can be outdoors in the anyone got sick or had to be sent home. fresh air with plenty of room, even “We tried to be as safe as possible.” with masks and special distancing. The backup plan is to Even Residence Week, which allows campers continue the virtual Zoom camps. aged 7 to 16 to spend extra time doing their favorite activity, AMPS ACADEMIC C TUESDAYS and THURSDAYS from 9 a.m. − 3 p.m. DATES: June 15, 17, 22, 24, 29 & July 1 Open to girls entering 6th, 7th & 8th grade. SPORTS S SESSIONKILL S E FOR GIRLS ENTERING 6 -8 GRAD TH TH WEDNESDAYS from 9 a.m. − 12 p.m. BECAUSE ACADEMICS + DATES: June 16, 23 & 30 ATHLETICS MATTER Open to girls entering 6th, 7th & 8th grade. For more information, visit www.oaklandcatholic.org/admissions/summer 14 MARCH 2021 PittsburghParent.com
Ages 4 - 17 Camp Deer Creek 412-243-6464 | www.geminitheater.org such as horseback riding or swimming, went off without a hitch. Specialized SUMMER CAMP “That was fine, too,” says Wes. The two main priorities at Camp Deer Creek are for kids to be safe and have fun, and it doesn’t look like the coronavirus will derail those plans in the June 21 - July 2 & August 2 - 13 summer of 2021. Mon. - Fri., 9am - 3pm Satisfaction guaranteed Designed for children with moderate to Camp Invention invent.org high functioning autism spectrum disorders. For years, area schools and educa- Any child ages 8 to 18 in need of social skill development is considered. tors have teamed up with nationally recognized Camp Invention, a program of the National Inventors Hall of Fame, VISIT www.gladerun.org OR CALL 724-452-4453 TO REGISTER. to offer fun, STEM-centric summer camps for students in kindergar- ten through 6th grade. Normally, the Camp Invention modules Looking Forward to Brighter Days! are one-week, in-person camps. What’s different this summer is the new 2021 format is designed to run both in-person and at home, so all children will get an Camp Invention to switch their experience format up to six weeks before their camp start date. The activities for summer 2021 include modules to design a mor- phing road rally vehicle, reverse Camp Invention engineer a wireless microphone, build a rubber duck launching device, or construct a solar-powered engaging cricket, which sounds like fun whether and fun experience while kids attend camp at a local campus or attending camp. Kids who are camp- stay at home. n ing at home will have on and off screen learning options and materials will be Pittsburgh writer Ann K. Howley Summer 2021 shipped directly to them. recommends that parents check out the Join us at one of our two locations, To address any uncertainty that annual Summer Activities & Camp Expo Bridgeville or Robinson families face when planning for the at pittsburghparent.com for a helpful Call: 412-257-2000 or upcoming summer camp season, Camp listing of art, sports, academic, and spe- Visit: www.thomasdance.com Invention offers what they call a “Peace cialty camping options in the area. Camps, Classes, and Workshops for of Mind Promise,” which allows parents all ages, all summer long! PittsburghParent.com MARCH 2021 15
Talking to your child about personal finance By Angela Wu and Alina Zaidi ou successfully taught them their ABC’s. You taught them to say “please” and don’t know what there is to learn. “thank you”. You taught them how to tie their shoes. But what about teaching But the basics aren’t enough; them how to manage money? It might seem absurd to teach a five-year-old kids need to know the specifics about mortgages and credit reports, but learning about finance should start at a to actually succeed. Parents need young age, just like everything else. You don’t expect a first grader to learn calculus, to educate themselves about the but you teach them how to add. Likewise, personal financial literacy starts from the specifics so they can transfer their basics. knowledge in an easy-to-under- According to a Next Gen Personal Finance report, only 1 in 6 high schools stand manner to their kids. require students to take a personal finance course, which is why parents play a huge • Start early. Young children are role in teaching their children the skills necessary for financial success. thrust into a new world with new things to discover every day. What should I do? Make personal finance another • Educate yourself first. Before you attempt to explain what treasury bonds are, fascinating topic to discover. you need to first understand what they are yourself. A 2015 Standard & Poor Knowledge builds up over time, survey found that only 57 percent of U.S. adults were financially literate. There and that requires a good base. are plenty of resources available in books and online. Investopedia is a great While your child is ages 3-5, you resource that offers many finance related articles. Oftentimes, parents find can introduce them to the concept themselves at a loss for what to teach their children because they themselves of money. From ages 6-10, you can teach them about saving and spending. In their teen years, you can introduce them to more spe- cifics, like how to get a personal loan from a bank, or how to open a brokerage account. That way, when it’s time for them to leave the house, they know how to take care of their money for their future, instead of scrambling to learn everything that they could have learned earlier. • Monkey see, monkey do. Children, especially young children, learn through observation and expe- rience. Model good financial behavior, and they will learn good financial behavior. When you go about your daily life, let your child be part of it too. When you shop on Amazon, have your child watch you as you show them how to comparison shop. When you go to make a deposit at the bank, teach your child about savings accounts. When you pay your monthly bills, explain to your child which bills you have to pay. It can even be as simple as letting your child cross items off the grocery list as you get groceries. Anything that makes them feel like these financial activities are part of your everyday life helps them both learn the concepts and realize their importance. 16 MARCH 2021 PittsburghParent.com
What are some concepts goals. Start off by teaching them to navigate the world of finance. Do to teach? about wants versus needs: they don’t need to buy the newest your part in making it easier for your children. n • Everything has a cost. As every iPad each year, but they do need economist knows, there’s no such Angela Wu and Alina Zaidi are high food to survive. You can also teach school juniors. Upon realizing that many thing as a free lunch. Everything them the importance of having has a cost, whether it is monetary, youth know little to nothing about a savings category in a budget. finance, they made it their mission to or time. Give your child compen- Have them set goals, like saving sation for doing chores to teach spread financial literacy among youths. up for a new bike, for practice. Thus, they wrote and published Grow- them that money isn’t free; it’s earned. You can also teach them The specifics of how and when you ing Your Money Tree: An Introduction about opportunity costs: when teach your child will differ for each par- to Personal Finance, a book about you make a decision, you lose ent. Each child develops at a different personal finance geared towards middle something else. By spending their pace, and each child learns better with and high school students. Additionally, money on a new pair of shoes, different methods. We’ve outlined the they created a biweekly workshop series they are giving up the chance to basics of how to talk about personal called “Money Not Magic”, through buy a new toy. finance to your child, but you are free which they teach personal finance to to take it in any direction. As children kids. Visit www.moneynotmagic.wixsite. • Time-value of money. The value of a ourselves, we know how difficult it is com/personalfinance to learn more. dollar is not constant. The value of your dollar today is greater than its value tomorrow. That’s why it is important to invest your money rather than holding on to it, because the longer you hold on to it, the more it depreciates. It also explains why the longer the term of the loan, the more interest you have to pay. It is better to get money sooner because it has Divorce • Child Custody • Support • Adoption more value. Thus, for someone to part with their money for a longer period of time, you have to pay One Oxford Centre, Suite 270 them more. 301 Grant Street, Pittsburgh, PA 15219 • Budgeting. Teaching budgeting to 412-849-6831 • www.darbouzelawgroup.com your child will help them learn how to work towards their future PittsburghParent.com MARCH 2021 17
EducationConnection Peggy Gisler and Marge Eberts Dear Teacher not know what your child’s independent Should doing homework Q: reading level is, go to our Dear Teacher be rewarded? website and look for “Find Your Child’s Q: How to calculate reading speed Reading Level.” We are tired of nagging our children to do their homework. With so many standardized One caution: If children’s indepen- Do you have any suggestions tests being given by schools, dent reading level is below grade level, about how to turn things around? Is I know that reading speed is they are likely to have some problems giving rewards a good idea? – New with standardized tests that are de- A: part of being successful on these tests. Approach How can I find out how fast my children signed on grade level. read? I know that comprehension is very Here are some techniques that you Few children are happy to do important, but speed is also critical! – can use with your children to help them their homework. Yet this is an A: Need to Know increase their reading speed: essential task that needs to be done. Of course, having the intrinsic There are several ways to • S elect a definite time when the (internal) motivation to do homework calculate your children’s children can practice their read- for the feeling of accomplishment of reading rate which is typically ing. A good time is usually the actually learning something is what we expressed in words per minute (WPM). ten minutes before your children would like children to have. One way is to use the formula which is start their homework so that they “Number of Words Read” divided by Rewards are an extrinsic (exter- are regularly working on increas- nal) motivation. The danger of giving “Time in Seconds” times 60. ing their reading speed. them is that they may cause children Another way is simply to measure a to put forth a minimal effort and even • C ut an index card at a slant so minute on a watch with a second hand decrease intrinsic motivation. Never- that it will cover the beginning or a stopwatch. Then count the number theless, all extrinsic motivation is not of a line when your children are of words read. bad, especially if children buy into the reading the end of a line. You will You can also search online for “read- want your children to pace them- goal of doing well at school. So, we ing words per minute” and have your selves down the page. This makes are giving you some rewards that may children take one of these tests. sure that they do not waste time help you push your children through There is one important consideration rereading a line of print. dull homework assignments without no matter which method used to deter- nagging. • T rain your children to try and look mine silent reading speed. The mate- rial read should be on your children’s at the middle of each line or to 1. Promise a fun activity if home- make only two or three stops at work is completed. It works independent reading level. If you do the most in each line. best if children can choose the DON’T CHANGE THE WAY THEY LEARN. CHANGE THE WAY THEY’RE TAUGHT. TO ENROLL NOW, GO TO AGORA.ORG. enrollment@agora.org | Phone: 844-462-4672 | Agora.org | Public School Tuition Paid By PA. Taxpayers 18 MARCH 2021 PittsburghParent.com
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