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Keith Sutherland
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                                                                                                Divine Madness
                                                                                                     On the Aetiology of
                                                                                                    Romantic Obsession
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                                                    Abstract: The paper opens with a brief overview of ‘limerence’ or
                                                    obsessive love disorder (OLD) from the perspectives of psychology,
                                                    neurology, anthropology, and sociology, but concludes that certain
                                                    unique characteristics of the condition suggest that it is better under-
                                                    stood as a form of ‘divine madness’, resulting from the failure of the
                                                    Platonic ascent of love to follow its natural trajectory. The paper
                                                    focuses on Plotinus’s model of the erotic ascent from the one to the
                                                    ONE, drawing parallels with the Indian bhakti tradition and other
                                                    models derived from transpersonal psychology. The final section
                                                    explores the distinction between pagan and Christian Platonism and
                                                    the entailments of the latter for secular perspectives on love.
                                                    Keywords: limerence; obsessive love disorder; Platonism; Plotinus;
                                                    bhakti yoga; transpersonal psychology.

                                                       ‘The greatest of goods comes to us through mania, insofar as mania is
                                                       heaven sent.’ (Plato, Phaedrus, 244a6)

                                                                                     1. Introduction
                                                    Although still to be accepted into the APA Diagnostic and Statistical
                                                    Manual as an acknowledged psychiatric disorder, the symptoms of
                                                    Correspondence:
                                                    Email: k.sutherland@exeter.ac.uk

                                                1   Department of Politics, University of Exeter.

                                                                   Journal of Consciousness Studies, 29, No. 1–2, 2022, pp. 79–112
                                                                                               DOI: 10.53765/20512201.29.1.079
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                                                limerence, ‘an acute onset, unexpected, obsessive attachment to one
                                                person (the limerent object)’, are well known, although the aetiology
                                                of the condition is disputed (Willmott and Bentley, 2015). Occam’s
                                                razor suggests that we should always privilege naturalistic explana-
                                                tions for medical conditions (psychiatric and otherwise), but the claim
                                                of this paper is that the unique phenomenology of limerent infatuation
                                                is such that it is better understood as a form of ‘divine madness’,
                                                resulting from the failure of the Platonic ascent of love to follow its
                                                full course. The characteristics of limerence are as follows:

                                                1.1. Focus on the one
                                                Although many of those who are predisposed to limerence are serial
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                                                offenders — there could be a number of ‘limerent objects’ (LOs) over
                                                a lifetime — the author has yet to hear of a single case of someone
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                                                with a limerent attachment to more than one person at a time.
                                                Limerent stalkers (for example Edward Vines’ 25-year obsession with
                                                Newsnight presenter Emily Maitlis) always have a single target. It’s
                                                easy to explain the stalking of random females on a Saturday night in
                                                terms of common-or-garden sexual predation, but why the focus of the
                                                limerent obsessive on the one? Why not two, or even three? Given
                                                that most adult females are exchangeable vehicles for gene propaga-
                                                tion, the standard Darwinian sexual selection model doesn’t apply as
                                                males are optimized to spread their seed as widely as possible. And
                                                even if the (male) stalker has a preference for a particular type —
                                                long-legged blonde or whatever — there are a large number of
                                                potential alternatives. Yet only THE ONE will do for the limerent
                                                obsessive, and this is hard to understand from a purely Darwinian
                                                perspective. The argument of this paper is that this is more than a
                                                semantic quibble — the limerent obsessive and the Saturday-night
                                                stalker are different in kind. In the eyes of the former, there is only
                                                ONE limerent object — the condition entails the ‘inability to react
                                                limerently to more than one person at a time’ (Tennov, 1979/1999, p.
                                                24).
                                                   For female limerent obsessives, the focus on the one would make
                                                good biological sense, given that the ovum can only be fertilized by
                                                one sperm, so the female would naturally seek the best donor availa-
                                                ble. This would suggest that biological females are more prone to
                                                limerent obsession than males, but there is no evidence to suggest a
                                                gender disparity (ibid., pp. 210, 214).
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                                                      In her classic work Love and Limerence, first published in 1979, the
                                                    psychologist Dorothy Tennov (who coined the term) argues that
                                                    although limerence is always directed at a potential sexual partner,
                                                    most sufferers value physical consummation far less than other signs
                                                    of reciprocation from the ‘limerent object’ (LO) — ‘the goal, the
                                                    climax of the limerent fantasy, is not sexual union but emotional
                                                    commitment’ (ibid., p 39; pace Freud, 1933; H. Ellis, 1936; A. Ellis,
                                                    1960; Fromm, 1956). Whilst Tennov views ‘real’ love as more akin to
                                                    mutual affection (storgē in Greek parlance), she draws a categorical
                                                    distinction between limerent attraction and lust — the former being a
                                                    misdirected version of a love that is not ultimately sexual in nature.
                                                    This would also suggest that limerence has little to do with sexual
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                                                    objectification, whereby a person is viewed as an ‘inhuman body’
                                                    (Nussbaum, 1995; Vaes, Loughnan and Puvia, 2014), as the over-
                                                    whelming majority of Tennov’s interviewees were well acquainted
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                                                    with their LO and it was inconceivable to them that the LO could be
                                                    replaced by someone with similar objective characteristics.

                                                    1.2. Ubiquity and intensity
                                                    When she was employed as a social worker charged with moving
                                                    geriatric patients from a psychiatric hospital into community care,
                                                    Olivia Fane (2020) was astonished to find from reading their case
                                                    notes that a large proportion were hospitalized as the result of an
                                                    unrequited love affair. Such is the intensity of the passion that it
                                                    ‘literally destroyed them’ (their psychic well-being, that is). Whilst the
                                                    condition can sometimes be normalized after a few months, there are
                                                    cases of it lasting decades or a lifetime — even when all contacts with
                                                    the LO have been severed. The intensity of the pathology is shown by
                                                    the fact that Edward Vines was jailed for three years for defying
                                                    twelve court orders in his 25-year-long harassment of Newsnight pre-
                                                    senter Emily Maitlis. As a Cambridge graduate, Vines was presuma-
                                                    bly an intelligent and (otherwise) rational individual, yet he was
                                                    prepared to risk everything on account of his infatuation with Maitlis.2

                                                2   Whilst this paper uses Vines’ obsession with Maitlis as a prime example of limerent
                                                    obsession, it is orthogonal to the psychological literature on parasocial relationships
                                                    (one-sided obsession with a celebrity) in that they knew each other whilst under-
                                                    graduates at Cambridge, long before Maitlis acquired celebrity status. In ‘Her Group’
                                                    (of 400-odd limerents) Dorothy Tennov only had one example of parasocial relation-
                                                    ships — a girl who had a fixation on Paul McCartney (Tennov, 1979/1999, pp. 83–6).
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                                                    Fane, in her book chapter which inspired this paper, observes that ‘the
                                                    symptoms of infatuation seem to have been the same in all cultures
                                                    and for all time’, but is content to reduce this to species-wide bio-
                                                    psychological commonalities, albeit expressed sometimes as boiling
                                                    of the blood (Aristotle), condition of the soul (Galen), epilepsy
                                                    (Arabian physicians), romantic love (medieval Christendom), or
                                                    possession (Western modernity). Her conclusion is that romantic
                                                    infatuation is a form of madness (Fane, 2014, pp. 95–9).
                                                      But how could such a universal form of madness develop? Can
                                                    evolutionary psychology (EP) come to our rescue? Fane notes that
                                                    obsessive love affects exactly the same part of the brain as anorexia
                                                    (ibid., p. 98), and there is a plausible EP narrative that claims anorexia
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                                                    was a valuable adaptation in the EEA (environment of evolutionary
                                                    adaptedness) during times of famine. But it’s hard to imagine a plausi-
                                                    ble EP hypothesis for the acquisition of a ‘cognitive module’ that
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                                                    would predispose someone to limerent attachment. For a start the EEA
                                                    for humans is the hunter-gatherer period where humans spent over
                                                    99% of their evolutionary history, and it was the tribe rather than the
                                                    nuclear family that was the dominant social institution at the time —
                                                    genetic studies suggest that monogamy evolved less than 10–20,000
                                                    years ago (Dupanloup et al., 2003). ‘It takes a village to raise a child’,
                                                    as the saying goes, and limerent attachment would have obstructed the
                                                    widespread food sharing that is a characteristic of hunter-gatherer
                                                    societies. And even though family bonding is of value in the extended
                                                    developmental process of the human neonate, there is no evidence that
                                                    romantic infatuation is the best way of establishing long-term pair
                                                    bonding (Fane dismisses it out of hand on the following page of her
                                                    essay). Although limerent attachment clearly enables the lover to
                                                    overlook the flaws in the other party that might otherwise cause a
                                                    budding relationship to be ‘shipwrecked on the reefs of human imper-
                                                    fection’,3 once the condition has passed, the disillusion can lead to an
                                                    equal and opposite reaction. Arranged marriages tend to last longer
                                                    than couples that came together through a passionate attraction, so it’s
                                                    hard to see that limerence has any survival value that would be
                                                    privileged by natural (or cultural) selection.

                                                3   I am grateful to Professor Gerard Casey for this observation.
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                                                1.3. Specificity
                                                Limerence has been likened to alcoholism and other forms of drug
                                                addiction, but would appear to be far more specific, and therefore
                                                more difficult to treat via cognitive and behavioural therapies.
                                                Although an alcoholic may have a favourite tipple, the craving can be
                                                sated by a wide range of alcoholic beverages, and heroin addicts can
                                                be weaned off with methadone and other substitutes. But it’s hard to
                                                imagine that Edward Vines would have been prepared to accept even
                                                a near-identical clone of Emily Maitlis — there was only ONE person
                                                who could satisfy his unrequited passion. If limerence were like any
                                                other form of addiction the parallel would be to someone at an AA
                                                meeting confessing that they were addicted to Château Lafite
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                                                Rothschild 6 September 1970. In addition, most alcoholics and drug
                                                addicts are all too aware of their illness (and would like to be cured),
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                                                whereas the limerent simply sees himself as being in love.
                                                  Comparisons have been made between limerence and obsessive-
                                                compulsive disorder (OCD), as they share a common neurochemical
                                                signature (reduced serotonin levels). But although OCD is specific —
                                                in the sense that a mysophobe is unlikely to be also (say) a compulsive
                                                hoarder — nevertheless the mysophobe is obsessive about all germs.
                                                Limerent obsession, however, is focused on one person, so it is hard to
                                                see that it has much in common with OCD. Furthermore, there are no
                                                examples in the limerence literature of the ritual behaviours adopted
                                                by OCD sufferers (locking and unlocking a door or flicking a light
                                                switch a specific number of times). There might be some parallel with
                                                sufferers from intrusive thoughts but, although there is generally a
                                                single theme (violence, sex, religious blasphemy, etc.), the condition
                                                does not generally involve a unique person as a target. If it did, then it
                                                would be an example of the ‘dark’ side of limerent infatuation (see p.
                                                94, below), rather than a variant of OCD.
                                                  Psychology is strangely silent on the causes of limerence or
                                                ‘obsessive love disorder’ (OLD), merely pointing out that it shares a
                                                common neurological signature with other forms of obsession and
                                                addiction. Neuroscientists have recorded activity in the ventral teg-
                                                mental area of the midbrain (associated with euphoria and addiction)
                                                when people ‘truly, madly and deeply’ in love were asked to think of
                                                their beloved (Fisher et al., 2016), along with reduced activity in the
                                                area responsible for critical thought (Bartels and Zeki, 2004). But it is
                                                hard to see how this demonstrates ‘that passionate love served to
                                                guarantee mate selection, long-term romantic relationships and the
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                                                    survival of our species’ (Karandashev, 2015). No wonder the
                                                    reductive assumption of cognitive neuroscience — whereby psychol-
                                                    ogical processes are ‘explained’ by isolating them to localized brain
                                                    regions — has been lampooned as ‘The New Phrenology’ (Uttal,
                                                    2003).
                                                       Even if a reliable biomarker for OLD were found, this doesn’t
                                                    explain how the condition develops — heroin addicts become hooked
                                                    on account of using the drug, whereas OLD appears to be largely
                                                    fuelled by the absence of interaction with the LO. The social psychol-
                                                    ogist Jonathan Haidt’s best-selling book The Happiness Hypothesis
                                                    (2006) has a chapter devoted to love and attachment, but the word
                                                    ‘obsession’ doesn’t even appear in the index. The psychological
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                                                    understanding of attachment can be traced back to the experiments of
                                                    Harry Harlow which tested Freud’s theory (which he appears to have
                                                    borrowed from St. Augustine’s Confessions) that the infant’s libido is
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                                                    derived from attachment to his mother’s milk, which is then extended
                                                    to the object with the breast providing the nourishment (Harlow and
                                                    Zimmerman, 1959). Harlow’s experiments refuted both Freud’s
                                                    theory and behaviourist notions of operant conditioning by demonstra-
                                                    ting that the softness of the surrogate mother (a bundle of cloth) was
                                                    more important than the source of nourishment (a milk tube from a
                                                    ‘mother’ made of wire). But why would this develop into an attach-
                                                    ment to a unique person, especially given Conrad Lorenz’s experi-
                                                    ments demonstrating that a duckling is perfectly happy to imprint
                                                    itself on anything that moves (Lorenz, 1935). And is OLD/limerence a
                                                    result of excessive or inadequate maternal bonding? I don’t believe
                                                    this has been put to the test.
                                                       Modern psychiatry seems happy to follow the same path as its
                                                    reductive forebears — the current fad for cognitive-behavioural
                                                    therapy (CBT) merely adding to the old animal behaviourist model the
                                                    view that the brain is a digital device that can be reprogrammed at
                                                    will.4 CBT practitioners pride themselves in having no interest what-
                                                    soever in how or why a condition developed, they merely offer a diag-
                                                    nosis and ‘fix’ that works at least as well as pharmacological

                                                4   The Platonist philosopher and novelist Iris Murdoch anticipated CBT with her acerbic
                                                    remarks on ‘existential behaviourism’. Her collection of essays, The Sovereignty of
                                                    Good (1970/2001), is a critique of the dominant perspective on philosophy of mind at
                                                    the time, according to which ‘atomised’ individuals choose both their identity and moral
                                                    personality, detached (magically) from biological, social, and religious constraints
                                                    (ibid., p. 46).
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                                                intervention. CBT is a uniquely Western phenomenon, the child of the
                                                European Enlightenment, and its positivistic progeny:
                                                   People raised in this cultural tradition may never have questioned the
                                                   idea that reason is separate from emotion or that humans exist as
                                                   separate individual selves, disconnected from each other and from the
                                                   social and natural world. It can seem natural to talk about humans as if
                                                   they are a type of machine — for example, the brain as a computer… It
                                                   also seems natural to talk about thoughts and feelings as ‘irrational’ and
                                                   try to use the power of reason to change them. (Boyle and Johnstone,
                                                   2020, p. 151)
                                                The origins of CBT can be traced, via Paul Dubois’ ‘rational per-
                                                suasion’ school of psychotherapy, Albert Ellis’s Rational Emotive
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                                                Behavioral Therapy (REBT), and Aaron Beck’s Cognitive Therapy,
                                                back to the Stoic philosophy of Epictetus and Marcus Aurelius
                                                (Robertson, 2020, p. 17). Modern Stoics emphasize ‘the role of
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                                                responsibility, rationality, and self-disciplined observation of one’s
                                                own mind as a means of modifying psychological well-being’ (Still
                                                and Dryden, 1999, p. 149). CBT developed at the same time as
                                                Rational Choice Theory (RCT) in behavioural economics and shares a
                                                common perspective regarding the atomized individual as a freely-
                                                choosing rational agent intent on optimizing her own (self) interests.
                                                Person-centred therapist Brian Thorne observes that, in addition to
                                                lending itself to the (reductive) ‘spirit of the age’, CBT is ‘attractive to
                                                those who hold the purse strings because its principles can be quickly
                                                taught to psychiatric nurses’ (Thorne, 2020, p. 238).

                                                1.4. Cultural influences
                                                The literary critic Gaston Paris suggested that romantic infatuation is
                                                an Occidental cultural construct invented by French troubadours in the
                                                twelfth century (Paris, 1883). However, anthropological surveys have
                                                found evidence for it in 88% of human cultures — in the remainder
                                                the ethnographic record was too thin to be sure either way (Jankowiak
                                                and Fischer, 1992; pace Stone, 1989). And, given its cross-cultural
                                                ubiquity (Fischer, Shaver and Carnochan, 1990; Shaver, Morgan and
                                                Wu, 1996), one has to question whether limerence/OLD is indeed a
                                                psychological disorder. Excessive hoarding might be an eccentric
                                                pastime but it isn’t a psychiatric illness. However, if limerent infatua-
                                                tion harms the flourishing of either party (or their families) then it is
                                                certainly dysfunctional from a social perspective, but is it appropriate
                                                to ‘medicalise thoughts, feelings and behaviour that are unusual or
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                                                    differ from the norm’ (Boyle and Johnstone, 2020, p. 10)? Unlike the
                                                    diagnosis of physical illness, there is no clear correspondence between
                                                    subjective states and neurology, so ‘the transformation of people’s
                                                    thoughts, feelings and behaviour into symptoms and illness categories
                                                    has to be based on subjective social judgments and what are believed
                                                    to be normal ways of thinking, feeling and behaving’ (ibid, p. 20). The
                                                    chair of the committee that drew up the fourth edition of the DSM
                                                    likened the process to ‘two monkeys throwing darts at a diagnostic
                                                    board’ (Frances, 2013, p. 175).
                                                         The DSM is largely a political document — written by a committee,
                                                         with some categories of disorder decided by vote, its framework so
                                                         often disputed that a new version of the manual (with a completely
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                                                         different list of disorders) has to be issued every ten to fifteen years.
                                                         (Hornstein, 2009, p. 164; cf. Szasz, 1974)
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                                                    The compilation process does little more than reflect the cultural
                                                    mores of our time — nineteenth- and early twentieth-century ‘mental
                                                    disorders’ included both homosexuality5 and drapetomania (a
                                                    ‘psychiatric condition’ that caused black slaves to abscond), and there
                                                    was no exclusively male counterpart to the female mental disorder of
                                                    ‘nymphomania’. However, Dante’s limerent obsession with Beatrice
                                                    Portinari (see p. 97, below) was not seen as a sign of psychiatric
                                                    illness in late medieval Florence, and it didn’t result in his social
                                                    ostracism — Beatrice and her friends merely laughed at him. Not so in
                                                    modernity where ‘the alienation of human culture has so infected our
                                                    understanding of this desirous love that we can only think of it as
                                                    either a dangerous throwing away of self upon another or as a
                                                    manipulative attempt to possess another for our own gratification’
                                                    (McIntosh, 1998, p. 168). The difference between the ecstatic poetry
                                                    of Dante’s Vita Nuova and the secret torment of the limerent sufferers
                                                    described in Tennov’s book is that, whereas the former was a proud
                                                    public Confession of love, the latter only ‘fessed up under strict con-
                                                    ditions of anonymity (all names were changed).
                                                       The overwhelming majority of the limerents in Tennov’s survey
                                                    were (otherwise) ‘fully functioning, rational, emotionally stable,
                                                    normal, nonneurotic, nonpathological members of society’ (Tennov,
                                                    1979/1999, p. 89). According to her extrapolation from her survey
                                                    results, limerence is not a ‘mental illness’ — it is an extremely

                                                5   At the 1973 APA Convention, homosexuality was deleted from the DSM roster by a
                                                    60/40 majority vote, under pressure from gay-rights activists (Casey, 2021a, p. 48).
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                                                common condition which could well affect some 42% of all adults
                                                (herself included), and which affects males and females equally (ibid.,
                                                pp. 181–2, 210). Perhaps this is the reason that limerence/OLD has not
                                                yet been accepted into the DSM as an acknowledged psychiatric
                                                disorder.
                                                  In sum, it is really hard to explain the aetiology of romantic
                                                obsession in naturalistic terms (whether using evolutionary, neurol-
                                                ogical, psychological, anthropological, or sociological modelling), on
                                                account of the intensity and specificity of the condition. We may well
                                                need to look elsewhere, especially given the universal limerent
                                                delusion of amour toujours, ‘a love that will last for ever and is
                                                always there’ (Karandashev, 2015, p. 4).
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                                                                          2. A Divine Madness
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                                                  The goal of limerence is not possession, but a kind of merging, a ‘one-
                                                  ness’, the ecstatic bliss of mutual reciprocation… a transcendent state
                                                  that has no parallel in human experience unless it be that of the religious
                                                  mystic. (Tennov, 1979/1999, pp. 120, 166)
                                                  The One is both the self-loving source of the derivation and articulation
                                                  of all reality in levels of unity and love and the ultimate goal of the
                                                  soul’s longing, whose return to its source is a gradual transformation of
                                                  the love it originally received from the One. (Bertozzi, 2021)
                                                The claim of this paper is that OLD/limerence is easier to understand
                                                as the result of a spiritual transformation gone wrong, the particular
                                                model adopted here being the Neoplatonic ascent of love. Plato’s
                                                original template posits a continuum of ‘erotic’ attraction, starting
                                                with the love of beautiful bodies and ending with the abstract love of
                                                ‘The Good’ (under the aspect of Beauty). According to Socrates’
                                                speech in The Symposium, the lover who is initially attracted to a
                                                single beautiful body soon realizes that the beauty of one body is
                                                closely related to that of another, and will then despise his passion for
                                                a particular body as petty. The erotic ascent then progresses from the
                                                love of beautiful bodies (plural) to beautiful minds and the beauty of
                                                the laws and knowledge, before realizing that these are just individual
                                                instances of beauty in general. The zenith of the ascent is contempla-
                                                tion of the Beauty of the unchanging Good. The ascent is from lust for
                                                a single body to contemplation of the single Good, from the one (via
                                                the many), back to the One (Bertozzi, 2012, pp. 48–9).
                                                  The indubitably earthly, physical lover is shaken to his depths by the
                                                  encounter with beauty, which is to say, once again something earthly,
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                                                     physical, apparent to the senses. But in that overpowering emotion he is
                                                     carried out of the dimension of the here and now, becomes unborn and
                                                     imperishable, and his emotion cannot be satisfied with anything less
                                                     than the Whole, the Totality of being, truth, goodness, beauty. (Pieper,
                                                     2000, p. 76)
                                                Plato did not hold physical beauty in high esteem, and used the same
                                                term — καλός (érōs) — for ‘beautiful’ at every level of the ascent
                                                (Bertozzi, 2012, p 56). Socrates’ mentor, the prophetess Diotima of
                                                Mantinea, argued that beauty of minds was more valuable than that of
                                                the body and that someone should be treasured ‘if [he] has goodness
                                                of mind even if he has little of the bloom of beauty’ (Plato,
                                                Symposium, 210b). Given that the apex of the ascent is the Good, then
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                                                clearly goodness of mind is a better indicator, as beauty is only a
                                                proxy in the adjectival sense (the ascent to the Good, under the aspect
                                                of Beauty). Love of physical beauty, however, is for most mortals the
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                                                realistic starting point of the ascent, as it ‘shines forth in the realm of
                                                the sensible… it makes the ultimate desideratum nearer to the sensible
                                                condition’ (Bertozzi, 2012, pp. 59, 73), whereas other aspects of the
                                                Good (Justice, Temperance, etc.) are only accessible to ‘a few indi-
                                                viduals’, and ‘through dulled organs’ (Plato, Phaedrus, 250b1):
                                                     For of all the sensations coming to us through the body, sight is the
                                                     keenest: wisdom we do not see with it — the feelings of love it would
                                                     cause in us would be terrible, if it allowed some such clear image of
                                                     itself to reach our sight, and so too with the other objects of love; but as
                                                     it is, beauty alone has acquired this privilege, of being most evident and
                                                     most loved. (ibid., 250d1–5)
                                                As Socrates explains, what we call love (érōs) is precisely this experi-
                                                ence of Beauty in beautiful things, which allows an ascent to the
                                                Intelligible (ibid., 249c2). ‘As the light of the sun makes the pleasant
                                                shade of the tree exist and appear, so the Good makes Beauty shine in
                                                all things beautiful’ (Bertozzi, 2012, pp. 70–1). Phaedrus (250b1–c1)
                                                indicates that Platonic érōs should not be understood as sexual energy
                                                (Bertozzi, 2012, p. 73; cf. Moravcsik, 1971, p. 291; Roochnik, 1990,
                                                p. 120; Allen, 1991, pp. 58–9). The claim of this paper, pace Freudian
                                                sublimation theory, is that limerent obsession is the pathology that
                                                occurs when the Platonic ascent to the Good (under the aspect of
                                                Beauty) goes wrong:
                                                     The madness of the man who, on seeing beauty here on earth, and being
                                                     reminded of true [divine] Beauty, becomes winged and, fluttering with
                                                     eagerness to fly upwards but unable to leave the ground, looking
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                                                  upwards like a bird, and taking no heed of the things below, causes him
                                                  to be regarded as mad. (Plato, Phaedrus, 249d5)
                                                The principal thrust of Socrates’ argument in Phaedrus is that love
                                                (pace Lysias and his Sophist friends) is a benign force that, by cutting
                                                through humdrum quotidian concerns, brings us into contact with the
                                                divine via theia mania — a god-given state of ‘being-beside-oneself’
                                                (Pieper, 1995, p. 9). As Kant noted, there is a kind of horror
                                                associated with beauty that leads us beyond ourselves, to transgress
                                                our temporal and spatial limitations, to glimpse the ‘really real’ that
                                                evades our grasp and can only be sensually signalled to us through this
                                                strange encounter with the unaccountable source of our yearning
                                                (Jenkins, 2019; cf. Fane and Harris, 2020). It was this encounter with
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                                                the sublime that led the protagonist in Thomas Mann’s novella Death
                                                in Venice to completely renounce his earlier duty-bound and work-
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                                                aholic life — a renunciation that is not entirely unlike that of the
                                                religious mystic — as death to him was preferable to separation from
                                                the source of his intense (but painful) joy. In such cases there is a
                                                complete transcendence of rational self-interest.
                                                   Christopher Rowe, the editor of the Penguin edition of Phaedrus,
                                                observes in a footnote that such a person is mad, but only because the
                                                divine possesses him, so people regard him as mad, but for the wrong
                                                reasons — ‘that he is truly possessed goes “unrecognized by the
                                                many”’ (Plato, 2005, n. 118). ‘What the (true) lover really loves,
                                                according to Socrates, is actually Beauty, not any particular beautiful
                                                person’ (ibid., n. 119). Socrates goes on to say that this form of mad-
                                                ness is ‘the best of all kinds of divine possession’ (Plato, Phaedrus,
                                                249c1).
                                                   Mann’s novella, Death in Venice, is a modern reworking of Platonic
                                                theory (although you might not recognize that from the movie):
                                                  His eyes took in the proud bearing of that figure [of the beautiful youth
                                                  Tadzio] there at the blue water’s edge; with an outburst of rapture he
                                                  told himself that what he saw was beauty’s very essence; form as divine
                                                  thought, the single and pure perfection which resides in the mind, of
                                                  which an image and likeness, rare and holy, was here raised up for
                                                  adoration… It is only through the medium of some corporeal being that
                                                  [the soul] can raise itself again to contemplation of higher things. Amor,
                                                  in sooth, is like the mathematician who in order to give children a
                                                  knowledge of pure form must do so in the language of pictures; so too
                                                  the god, in order to make visible the spirit, avails himself of the forms
                                                  and colours of human youth, gilding it with all imaginable beauty that it
                                                  may serve memory as a tool, the very sight of which then sets us afire
                                                  with pain and longing. (Mann, 1971, pp. 46–7)
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                                                Plato explains the overwhelming attraction of beauty in terms of our
                                                memory of divine Ideas experienced prior to our physical incarnation.
                                                Whilst this might be metaphysically challenging (at least to non-
                                                Hindus), naturalistic explanations of the universally powerful
                                                attraction of human beauty are unpersuasive. No doubt physiognomic
                                                symmetry might be a sign of good health and fertility, but the correla-
                                                tion is weak and it still doesn’t explain why we find such features
                                                beautiful. Indeed, it is hard to make sense of the notion of beauty
                                                without reference to the noumenal Idea of Beauty — as to account for
                                                the beauty of a given thing by pointing at its colour, shape, or any
                                                other sensible feature which could well account for another thing’s
                                                ugliness ultimately means not to account for its beauty (Bertozzi,
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                                                2012, p. 55). The Idea is the necessary (a priori) factor to account for
                                                the way in which a thing manifests itself (Spade, 1994, pp. vii–viii;
                                                see also Rosen, 2005, pp. 257–8).
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                                                   In his treatise The Idea of the Holy, Rudolf Otto draws a parallel
                                                between the contemplation or ‘divination’ of the numinous and the
                                                recognition of beauty:
                                                     While it is still crude, a feeling or fore-feeling of the beautiful begins to
                                                     stir, which must come from an obscure a priori conception of beauty
                                                     already present, else it could not occur at all… When his taste has been
                                                     educated, the man rejects with strong aversion the quasi-beautiful and
                                                     becomes qualified to see and to judge rightly, i.e. to recognize as beauti-
                                                     ful the outward object in which the ‘beauty’ of which he has an inward
                                                     notion and standard really ‘appears’. (Otto, 1923, p. 148)
                                                Social conditioning is an equally implausible explanation, as there are
                                                strong cross-cultural and a-temporal commonalities as to the human
                                                qualities considered to be beautiful, so it really is puzzling. When the
                                                Indian gambler in the Amazon Prime series Sneaky Pete says to the
                                                beautiful croupier that she had been ‘put on earth in order to remind us
                                                of God’, he was not speaking figuratively — echoing Socrates’
                                                observation that earthly objects are only beautiful in so far as they
                                                remind us of our encounter with the divine before we fell to earth
                                                (Plato, Phaedrus, 250a). Or (going from the ridiculous to the sublime),
                                                in the words of St. Gregory Palamas’s homily on the dormition of the
                                                Mother of God: ‘Wishing to create an image of all beauty, and to
                                                manifest clearly to men and to angels the power of His art, God truly
                                                created Mary all-beautiful’ (P.G., CLI, 468 AB).
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                                                2.1. From appetitive to donative love
                                                Some scholars (Nygren, 1953; Vlastos, 1973; Nussbaum, 2001) have
                                                argued that the erotic ascent in Plato is purely appetitive and uses the
                                                beloved as a means to an end (the attainment of immortality), in sharp
                                                contrast to the conception of unconditional donative agápē love in the
                                                Christian tradition (see section on Christian Platonism, below). Apart
                                                from Diotima’s claim that the Lower Mysteries give birth to beauty,
                                                and the Higher Mysteries to beautiful speeches, there is scant support
                                                in Symposium for the view that the ascent should turn érōs as lack/
                                                need into a creative and self-giving activity. However, R.A. Markus
                                                does make the claim that the higher stages of the ascent, which
                                                involve a Love of Beauty itself by itself with itself, transforms a
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                                                deficiency into a desire to give and create: ‘a kind of generosity rather
                                                than a kind of need. It culminates in togetherness with the object loved
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                                                and in a creative bringing forth in its presence from the lover’s super-
                                                abundance’ (Markus, 1955, pp. 225–7). Pieper agrees:
                                                  Plato also holds that the love which has ascended to behold the source
                                                  of beauty is so transformed that it leaves all selfish volition far behind
                                                  it; it can best be described as ‘adoration’. Certainly this emerges from
                                                  the conclusion of Diotima’s reported speech. (Pieper, 2000, p. 96)
                                                Bertozzi, whilst acknowledging that Symposium is thin on evidence
                                                for the transformation of érōs from appetitive to donative love, draws
                                                support from Plato’s Phaedrus, Republic, Timeaeus, Theaetetus, and
                                                Laws. However, he acknowledges that he could be accused of
                                                anachronism — reading Plato from a Neoplatonic perspective.

                                                                            3. Neoplatonism
                                                The Platonic ascent was modified by Plotinus (204–270 CE), who
                                                developed the view that love, which is possessive in its lower forms,
                                                becomes increasingly donative at the higher stages of the ascent as the
                                                aspirant becomes infused with the qualities of the Good (‘The One’ in
                                                Plotinian terms). Plotinus and other Neoplatonist philosophers
                                                described érōs as the single force that motivates all life, without which
                                                there would simply be no creation or development. But the ease with
                                                which the Platonic ascent — drawing us to union with the One — can
                                                become decoyed by ‘local attractors’ is nicely illustrated below:
                                                  What does érōs do? Very simply, it orients and moves the soul toward
                                                  the Good under the aspect of Beauty. If érōs were lacking, the soul
                                                  would be aimless, like the demagnetized needle of a compass, unable to
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                                                         find the North. One will immediately contest that even the magnetized
                                                         needle of a compass often fails to indicate the North, for instance when
                                                         someone wearing a belt with a large iron buckle is standing very close
                                                         to the compass in a direction other than North, say eastward. Far from
                                                         upsetting or even just weakening the simile, this objection strengthens
                                                         it, for it is the same force that regulates the direction of the needle,
                                                         whether toward the North or toward the large iron buckle; in fact, one
                                                         could say that in this image the buckle plays the role of the North due to
                                                         its proximity to the compass. Something similar happens to a soul
                                                         imbued with érōs: it is directed toward Beauty, hence the Good. Surely
                                                         its direction can change due to the proximity of something partially or
                                                         qualifiedly beautiful, but if érōs were absent, directedness and motion
                                                         would vanish altogether. (Bertozzi, 2012, pp. 73–4)
                                                    In the terminology of this paper, for ‘belt buckle’ read ‘limerent
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                                                    object’ (LO). The issue, from a psychological, societal, and spiritual
                                                    perspective, is how best to ensure that the lover’s compass reverts to
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                                                    polar North with minimum collateral damage (to both parties). Several
                                                    strategies (derived from the limerence literature) come to mind:

                                                    3.1. Crushing the crush
                                                    The ‘cold shoulder’ approach usually works for a generic sexual
                                                    attraction (aka a ‘crush’). Who cares if the chosen belt buckle is not
                                                    interested — other models are available. But once the obsession with a
                                                    particular belt buckle has set in, then it’s hard to shake free. A pro-
                                                    longed absence might do the trick, but is unlikely to work when the
                                                    limerent and LO live in the same small community (or the LO appears
                                                    every night on TV). And the attempt to crush the crush generally just
                                                    deepens it.6 The principal allure of the ice maiden is the belief that a
                                                    warm heart lies hidden beneath the cold and unresponsive façade. Just
                                                    as the Holy of Holies is hidden behind the veil in the tabernacle
                                                    (Exodus 26:31–5), the female veil means that the sinful [low status]
                                                    man can come no further. Unfortunately experiments with rats and
                                                    pigeons might predict that ‘limerence can live a long life sustained by
                                                    crumbs. Indeed, overfeeding is perhaps the best way to end it’
                                                    (Tennov, 1979/1999, p. 104). This would confirm the aphorisms

                                                6   Following the work of pyschoanalyst Karen Horney, it has been suggested that romantic
                                                    infatuation is a form of masochism (Maslow, 1954; Barbara, 1974). If so then LOs who
                                                    choose the cold shoulder remedy for limerence might benefit from reading Thomas
                                                    Merton’s story in his book on the Desert Fathers of an acolyte who was so eager for
                                                    self-abnegation that he paid people to insult him (Merton, 1960, p. 39).
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                                                    ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder’ and ‘familiarity breeds
                                                    contempt’.
                                                       Needless to say, from the perspective of Neoplatonic spirituality,
                                                    crushing the crush simply negates any potential for spiritual develop-
                                                    ment that may have been present in the initial erotic attraction and
                                                    often leads to the psychopathologies described in the next section.
                                                    And, assuming a confluence between Platonism and Christianity (see
                                                    section on Christian Platonism), those who seek to crush the crush run
                                                    the risk of committing the only blasphemy that cannot be forgiven by
                                                    God (albeit in an altogether different context)7 (Matthew 12:30–32;
                                                    Mark 3:28–30; Luke 12:8–10; Luke 6:37). Whether or not a particular
                                                    manifestation of love is a gift of the Holy Spirit is not for us mortals to
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                                                    judge (Luke 6:37), and St. Paul insists that without love the other
                                                    attributes of the spirit (glossolalia, healing, prophecy, knowledge, or
                                                    even ‘a faith that can move mountains’) are no better than resounding
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                                                    gongs and clanging cymbals (1 Corinthians 13:1–2).
                                                       Olivia Fane translates érōs into the German Sehnsucht — ‘a com-
                                                    pound of the word “sehren”, to long for, and “Sucht”, which means
                                                    anxiety, addiction, obsession’ (Fane and Harris, 2020, p. 38, my
                                                    emphasis), and agrees with Plotinus, Augustine, and the present paper
                                                    that the longing is both divine in origin and ‘universal, cross-cultural,
                                                    and the very essence of what it is to be human’ (ibid., p. 39). She
                                                    traces the idea back to Virgil’s Aeneid and acknowledges the word
                                                    Virgil uses (amor) is generally translated as ‘love’, before recruiting
                                                    the usual suspects (romantic poets and composers) to her cause. All
                                                    these artists (mis)directed their Sehnsucht towards specific objects,
                                                    including their fellow humans, yet Fane views love in the form that
                                                    most humans experience it as the exception that proves the rule. The
                                                    present paper agrees with Fane that romantic infatuation is a form of
                                                    madness, but the universality of the madness shows that it is divine in
                                                    origin, pace her earlier attempt at reductive physicalist explanation
                                                    (Fane, 2014, pp. 95–9).

                                                7   Cf. Socrates’ claim that Lysias’s speech denying the divine origin of érōs was ‘foolish
                                                    and somewhat blasphemous’ because ‘love is a god, or something divine’ (Plato,
                                                    Phaedrus, 242d5, e2). It was through shame (aischyne) that Socrates veiled his head
                                                    while giving his own (parodic) first speech. The Greek deities appear to be more
                                                    forgiving of blasphemy than the Christian God, as Socrates was able to atone for his
                                                    ‘libel’ with a palinodia: ‘Socrates wishes to recant his shamefully false speech by a
                                                    second speech on Love’ (Pieper, 2000, pp. 41–2).
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                                                3.2. Consummation
                                                It is rare for obsessive romantic attraction to survive the transition
                                                from Sehnsucht to actualité, and if it does it can lead to further
                                                pathologies, such as jealousy and possessiveness:
                                                     Oh, beware, my lord, of jealousy! It is the green-eyed monster which
                                                     doth mock the meat it feeds on. (William Shakespeare, Othello)
                                                This is an example of the ‘dark’ side of limerent infatuation, illustra-
                                                ted by the saying ‘there’s a thin line between love and hate’. The
                                                principle is nicely illustrated by the mood swings experienced by
                                                William Hazlitt during his infatuation with Sarah Walker:
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                                                     In her sight there was Elysium, her smile was heaven, her voice was
                                                     enchantment; the air of love waved round her, breathing balm into my
                                                     heart: for a little while I had sat with the Gods at their golden tables, I
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                                                     had tasted of all earth’s bliss. (Hazlitt, 2008, p. 65)
                                                But then just a few months later:
                                                     The cockatrice, mocks me… She started up in her own likeness, a
                                                     serpent in place of a woman… gliding from me after inflicting the
                                                     mortal wound, and instilling deadly poison into every pore. (ibid., p. 97)
                                                The same brain areas are activated by love and hate, and both lead to
                                                extreme behaviour (Zeki and Romaya, 2008). This is entirely con-
                                                sistent with Neoplatonism, which views all human motivation as sub-
                                                ject to a single ultimate cause. A proximal attractor can pull the
                                                magnetized needle away from polar North (it could even swing it
                                                through 180 degrees) and the tug of the dark horse can easily come to
                                                dominate the trajectory of the chariot (Plato, Phaedrus, 254a5). The
                                                transformation of love into hate is accentuated by the cycle of action,
                                                impression, and desire described in the Vedas as vasanas (karmic
                                                imprints, or logismoi in the language of Athonite Christianity). Carl
                                                Jung makes a similar point in his Spiritus Contra Spiritum letter on
                                                addiction: ‘His craving for alcohol was the equivalent, on a low level,
                                                of the spiritual thirst for our being for wholeness, expressed in
                                                medieval language: the union with God’ (Jung, 1961). How to convert
                                                a craving for spiritus (alcohol) into a spiritual awakening is the
                                                difficult challenge, and Jung’s solution requires ‘real religious insight
                                                or the protective wall of human community’ (ibid.).
                                                   Bertozzi’s magnetized needle analogy has a close parallel with the
                                                view of sin as hamartia — ‘missing the mark’ in Greek. The skill of
                                                archery or spear throwing is to hit the bull’s-eye, but a poor archer
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                                                    could end up shooting himself in the foot. Denys Turner makes this
                                                    point well in his commentary on Augustine’s Confessions:
                                                       Augustine knows that there is scarcely any limit to the perversity and
                                                       depravity of human desire. Hence the desire for happiness can be
                                                       present in desires for utterly self-destructive and self-defeating
                                                       objects… for nothing can wholly fail to represent the beauty and good-
                                                       ness of God. No one, therefore, can desire anything so as in every
                                                       respect to miss the mark of true happiness. Hence, no matter how
                                                       mistaken may be my pursuit of happiness it is always in some way a
                                                       desire for God. (Turner, 1995, p. 65, my emphasis)
                                                    Generally speaking, the course of a love affair is for an initial phase of
                                                    intense physical attraction to morph into companionship and attention
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                                                    to the everyday needs of the other (storgē in Greek parlance). This is
                                                    why the New Testament has little to say on matrimony other than the
                                                    procreation and rearing of children and the avoidance of fornication,
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                                                    leading Luther to downgrade marriage from a sacrament to a contract,
                                                    with binding rights and obligations on both signatories. Matrimony
                                                    has nothing to do with the development of unconditional disinterested
                                                    love (agápē — the high point of the Christian Platonist ascent) —
                                                    that’s why the Catholic Church requires celibacy of its priests. When
                                                    someone returns from a hard day at work and finds her dinner on the
                                                    table, she doesn’t view its provision (by her spouse) as an act of
                                                    caritas. From a Platonic perspective all true love is unrequited
                                                    because, as Augustine put it, ‘our heart is restless until it rests in God’
                                                    — Plato’s ideal is ‘a soul which receives into its depths the emotion
                                                    aroused by sensuous beauty, and simultaneously renounces physical
                                                    gratification of that beauty’ (Pieper, 2000, p. 22).8 If an attraction is
                                                    consummated, then its erotic energy is converted into mere appetite:
                                                       The remedy [for infatuation] is to have sex with the beloved. The crush
                                                       will then disappear within three to six weeks. (Fane, 2014, p. 99)

                                                    3.3. Transference
                                                    Many sufferers from limerence experience it in serial form — moving
                                                    from one target to the next over the course of a lifetime. Whilst this

                                                8   This is also the message at the heart of the Bhagavata Purana and the Indian notion of
                                                    asceticism as tapas (heat). Just as a seed that is cooked slowly appears the same from
                                                    the outside, but cannot germinate, the karmic influences of the vasanas are transformed
                                                    by yogic practices, thereby breaking the cycle of action, impression, and desire.
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                                                might provide relief for the current LO, it is just kicking the can
                                                further down the road.

                                                3.4. Friendship
                                                Platonic theory views friendship (philia) as a higher form of love than
                                                érōs — both the Lysis and the Symposium argue that the role of the
                                                erastes was to cultivate the love of wisdom in the eromenos through
                                                philosophical conversations, with their power to mesmerize, obsess,
                                                and educate. Alcibiades’ love for Socrates (who had an ‘ugly satyr-
                                                like body’) in the Symposium was on account of his brilliant mind and
                                                discourse. Alcibiades’ attempt to seduce him using conventional
                                                means (physical attractiveness) fails. Socrates was condemned and
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                                                executed for undermining the Greek norm of paiderasteria — ‘All
                                                these men who ought to be chasing boys are presented as besotted
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                                                with Socrates and his conversations’ (Reeve, 2016).
                                                   In terms of the magnetism analogy detailed above, one has many
                                                friends, so the various local attractors cancel each other out. For érōs
                                                to transform into philia this needs to happen very early on in the
                                                developmental process and can be difficult, particularly for younger
                                                sexually-charged people — in Plato’s allegory the disordered part of
                                                the soul portrayed by the black horse ‘springs powerfully forward and,
                                                causing all kinds of trouble to his yoke-mate and the charioteer, forces
                                                them to move towards the beloved and mention to him the delights of
                                                sex’ (Plato, Phaedrus, 254a5).
                                                   There is a parallel between depictions of the chariot as a metaphor
                                                for the path of liberation in Plato and the Indian Kaṭha-Upaniṣad
                                                (Lupaşcu, 2008, p. 349), which eschews Plato’s dualism of the white
                                                and black horses in favour of tapas and yoga (derived from the
                                                Sanskrit root yuj — to join, harness, or yoke). Indeed, it might be
                                                claimed that all virtues are forms of tapas (Bussanich, 2016, p. 89).
                                                     In the Upaniṣadic simile, the case is different, as it depicts the central
                                                     task as ‘controlling’ the mind (i.e. the ‘well-tensed [reins]’, yuktena),
                                                     whereas the horses — as the senses — are not in themselves ‘bad’,
                                                     simply because their behaviour can be either ‘good’ (controlled) or
                                                     ‘bad’ (uncontrolled). The worldly side of the charioteer, his body,
                                                     senses, etc., is not in itself of an inferior, or ‘evil’, nature. (Schlieter,
                                                     2016, p. 182)
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                                                    3.5. Bhakti
                                                    In the Indian tradition, divinization (θέωσις) through love is the
                                                    spiritual path called bhakti yoga, which generally requires a loving
                                                    devotion to a personal god, very often in the form of an icon.9 Many
                                                    religions focus on devotion to personal deities, icons, statues, and
                                                    relics. Arguably all the Reformation did was to update the reliquary to
                                                    codex form, in line with the technology of the age.
                                                      But what happens if the object of devotion is made of flesh and
                                                    blood? Bhakti yoga is by far the most difficult and perilous of the
                                                    solutions to limerent obsession considered so far, as it requires
                                                    discernment, self-knowledge, and ascesis. In many cases of obsessive
                                                    attraction, the subject believes that the LO is divine — in terms of
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                                                    Bertozzi’s analogy, the belt buckle would already be facing due North.
                                                    The vernacular use of words like ‘angel’ by lovers is more literal than
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                                                    they might think (Hazlitt, 2008, p. 76).
                                                       Whenever he sees a godlike face or some form of body which imitates
                                                       beauty well, he first shudders, feeling something of the fears he had
                                                       before, then reveres what he sees as a god as he gazes at it and, if he
                                                       were not afraid of appearing thoroughly mad, would sacrifice to his
                                                       beloved as if to a statue of a god. (Plato, Phaedrus, 251a–a5)
                                                    From the Indian bhakti tradition, such an approach might even be
                                                    encouraged as ‘if one looks upon the beloved as the Chosen Deity, the
                                                    mind easily turns Godward’ (Ramakrishna, 1942, Chapter 16, No.
                                                    756). Dante certainly saw his attraction to Beatrice Portinari in such
                                                    terms, that’s why in the Divina Commedia she was his guide in
                                                    Paradiso. Beatrice was only dimly aware of the existence of Dante
                                                    Alighiere (both were married), and all he craved was her ‘salutation’.
                                                      Whether it’s Dante and Beatrice, Don Quixote and Dulcinea, St.
                                                    John Paul II and Anna-Teresa Tymieniecka, or even fictional
                                                    depictions of Mary Magdalene and Jesus, there is the sense that
                                                    unconsummated love for a godly person could be part of the θέωσις
                                                    (deification) process. In every case there is no suggestion of
                                                    impropriety and there is no requirement for reciprocity (limerence
                                                    being the inverse of de Clerambault’s syndrome). In Thomas Mann’s
                                                    Death in Venice, von Aschenbach believed that Tadzio (who he never
                                                    spoke to) might have acknowledged the attention of his devotee once

                                                9   Obryk (2016, p. 241) draws a parallel between the Indian bhakti tradition and both the
                                                    personal religion of Socrates and Neoplatonic theurgy.
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                                                     but accepts that could have been wishful thinking on his part, and in
                                                     Dale Wassermann’s musical interpretation of the Don Quixote story,
                                                     ‘Dulcinea’ had nothing but contempt for the love-struck Knight of the
                                                     Woeful Countenance.10 If anything, the lack of reciprocity is an
                                                     invaluable safety valve for the developmental process — as Maharishi
                                                     Mahesh Yogi, laughing uncontrollably, put it in a lecture, ‘I love you
                                                     and it’s no concern of yours!’ (at this stage the limerent craving for
                                                     reciprocity has been transformed by the heat of ascetic tapas into a
                                                     purely donative emotion). Mann agrees with Plato’s Socrates (and
                                                     Maharishi) that ‘the lover is nearer the divine than the beloved; for the
                                                     god was in the one but not the other’ (Mann, 1971, p. 48).
                                                       However, θέωσις through bhakti yoga is an extremely dangerous
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                                                     path, normally only to be practised under the tutelage of an experi-
                                                     enced spiritual guide. Referring to the Platonic ascent, Bertozzi notes
                                                     that ‘there is no guarantee of success in this task; in fact one should
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                                                     not even discount the possibility of a total shipwreck’ (Bertozzi, 2012,
                                                     p. 99). It is also necessary for the soul to be of a certain disposition,
                                                     ‘such as self-transformation or attunement to the beloved is essentially
                                                     open to it’ (ibid., p. 319). ‘You must first of all become godlike and all
                                                     beautiful if you intend to see God and Beauty’ (Plotinus, Enneads, 1.6
                                                     [1] 9.33–34). And the ascent is an ‘orderly affair… either to skip a
                                                     stage or to stop at an intermediary stage will result in the failure to
                                                     ascend’ (Bertozzi, 2012, pp. 382–4, my emphasis) — the latter leading
                                                     to the obsessive romantic attachment that is the topic of this paper.
                                                     This is because the erotic intensity increases incrementally at higher
                                                     stages of the Neoplatonic ladder, but the corollary (progression from
                                                     the particular to the general) does not occur if the process is blocked
                                                     — hence my claim that OLD/limerence is best viewed as the Platonic
                                                     ascent gone wrong.

                                                10   Don Quixote’s alchemic transformation of the coarse village prostitute Aldonza
                                                     Lorenzo into the imaginary Dulcinea of Toboso, the very model of female perfection
                                                     (Cervantes, 2005, p. 91), is a good example of what Stendhal called ‘crystallization’ —
                                                     the process whereby a branch of a tree left for several months in a salt mine is trans-
                                                     formed ‘into an object of shimmering beauty’. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder as
                                                     ‘the original naked branch is no longer recognizable by indifferent eyes, because it now
                                                     sparkles with perfections, or diamonds, which [others] do not see’ (Stendhal, 1975, p.
                                                     48). One is reminded of the Revelations of St. Seraphim of Sarov, in which the disciple
                                                     complains, ‘I can’t look at you Father — your eyes shine like lightning; your face
                                                     becomes more dazzling than the sun, and it hurts my eyes to look at you’ (Lossky, 1991,
                                                     p. 228). My suggestion here is that the same Divine Light is responsible for both
                                                     Dulcinea’s transformation, Stendhal’s crystallization, and St. Seraphim’s
                                                     transfiguration.
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                                                       For, given the continuous nature of the Neoplatonic conception of
                                                     love — érōs in the service of agápē (Thorne, 2012, p. 63) — it’s hard
                                                     to tell if the attraction at a particular stage is to the beautiful (con-
                                                     ceived as a collection of constantly shifting somatic and psychic traits)
                                                     or the Beauty within them. Are the luminous pools of the beloved’s
                                                     eyes an invitation to the bedroom, a window on her soul, or the gates
                                                     to heaven?11 The second and third commandments prohibit worship of
                                                     other gods and graven images, but Orthodox and Catholic Christians
                                                     would claim that they are worshipping God through the holy icon or
                                                     relic, and the same would apply to the worship of the LO by Dante,
                                                     Don Quixote, von Aschenbach, and other ‘bhakti yogis’.
                                                       But this is extremely hazardous — although the model is the
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                                                     Platonic ascent, the reality is more like a game of snakes and ladders
                                                     (Moksha Patam in the original Indian version) than Jacob’s angelic
                                                     stairway to heaven. ‘Snakes and ladders’ is an apposite metaphor
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                                                     when one considers the depiction of the fall in the Abrahamic
                                                     religions and the resultant abhorrence of (female) sexuality.

                                                                         4. The Rapture or the Rupture?
                                                     But, for those with a commitment to moksha (enlightenment), is there
                                                     a risk-free alternative?12 Most approaches, both Eastern and Western,
                                                     assume that attachment to the embodied self is the biggest obstacle to
                                                     spiritual development. At the risk of over-generalization, there are two
                                                     distinct approaches to overcoming the self. The via negativa (jñāna
                                                     yoga in Eastern parlance) is a process of stripping away the embodied
                                                     tendencies that constitute the individual ego, to reveal the individual
                                                     self as none other than the cosmic Self (Ātman is Brahman). Writers
                                                     in the Western apophatic tradition include Pseudo-Dionysius, the
                                                     unknown author of the Cloud of Unknowing, and Meister Eckhart.
                                                       The cataphatic path (via positiva) is devotional, as described in this
                                                     essay. However, the Hindu devotional deity Kali (in sharp contrast to
                                                     the Blessed Virgin Mary, the principal focus of Christian devotion as
                                                     the embodiment of grace) is normally depicted with a garland made
                                                     from the severed heads of her devotees, indicating the destruction of
                                                     the sense of self of the bhakta. The Red Dakini (the Tibetan Buddhist

                                                11   The contrast between the Platonic language of Lowe-Porter’s translation of Death in
                                                     Venice and Visconti’s homoerotic movie illustrates the ambiguity involved.
                                                12   From both a Hindu and Neoplatonic perspective all creatures are on a (slow) path to
                                                     enlightenment, but most of us don’t even know it.
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                                                     version of Kali) symbolizes ‘wrathful compassion… If you are pre-
                                                     tentious or hypocritical, she will cut off your head with her dagger and
                                                     wear it in a garland round her neck’ (Welwood, 1991, p. 154).13
                                                       These two contrasting perspectives parallel the observation by Jacob
                                                     Singer’s spiritual guide in the movie Jacob’s Ladder that the demons
                                                     tormenting him were really angels purging him of self-attachment:
                                                        The only thing that burns in Hell is the part of you that won’t let go of
                                                        life, your memories, your attachments. They burn them all away. But
                                                        they’re not punishing you, they’re freeing your soul… But if you’ve
                                                        made your peace, then the devils are really angels.
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                                                                               Mother Divine / Mother of God.

                                                     This is the doctrine of self-purgation — or ‘purification’ in Plotinian
                                                     terminology, which is an essential prerequisite to the higher stages of
                                                     the ascent back to the One. There are no shortcuts. Skipping steps will
                                                     only lead to failure in the ascent, and living a moral life (and atoning
                                                     for past infelicities) is by no means superfluous, even if virtue is an
                                                     inherent characteristic of higher stages of development. ‘Ascent… is a

                                                13   The Indian version depicts Kali dancing on her divine consort Siva, the Supreme Lord
                                                     who creates, protects, and transforms the universe. The reason that this essay focuses on
                                                     Kali (rather than traditional Indian bhakti models such as the (mutual) love between
                                                     Krishna and Radha depicted in the Nārada-pañcarātra) is because it highlights the
                                                     dangerous nature of this path for the unprepared limerent.
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