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1 RESPECT WEEK GUIDE 2018 HANDS UNITE! D O YO U R PA R T
2 RESPECT WEEK GUIDE 2018 • www.loveisrespect.org
WHAT IS
RESPECT
WEEK?
R
espect Week is a one-week celebration dedicated
to raising awareness about healthy relationships
and dating abuse during the month of February,
Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month or Teen
DV Month. Loveisrespect created this guide to inspire high
school, college students and youth leaders around the
country to actively and creatively promote messages about
dating violence and healthy relationships.
The 2018 Respect Week Guide, “Hands Unite: Do Your Part”
wants to empower young people to build healthy relationships
from the ground up. Your hands are a tool for creation, and
they play a role in ending dating abuse. Your hands are made
for loving and helping—not hurting the
ones you love.
We invite you to heal, love and share the power your
hands have to create meaningful relationships, raise
awareness and educate others. Everyone has a hand
in ending dating violence!
ABOUT LOVEISRESPECT
Loveisrespect’s mission is to engage, educate and
empower young people to end abusive relationships.
CONNECT WITH US! MARK YOUR
CALENDARS!
Follow loveisrespect and share your Respect Week
and Teen DV Month activities
facebook.com/loveisrespectpage
WEAR ORANGE DAY: Tuesday, Feb. 13
@loveisrespect loveisrespect.tumblr.com
RESPECT WEEK: Feb. 12-16
@loveisrespectofficial NATIONAL RESPECT ANNOUNCEMENT: Thursday, Feb. 15
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DATING ABUSE DEFINED
DID YOU KNOW DATING ABUSE IS COMMON?
Dating abuse can happen to their partners, do so because they dating behaviors.
anyone, regardless of age, financial feel they need to exercise power and College students are not
status, race, gender, sexual control over the other person—and equipped to deal with dating
orientation or background, and if that’s never OK. abuse – 57% say it is difficult to
we want to raise awareness about Every day, loveisrespect receives identify and 58% say they don’t
it and help prevent it, we need to hundreds of calls, chats and texts know how to help someone who’s
go back to basics! from young people across the experiencing it.
Dating abuse is rooted in power country who are experiencing One in three (36%) dating college
and control. Dating abuse is a abuse in their relationship. We students has given a dating partner
pattern of behaviors one person know that in a single year, nearly their computer, online access,
uses to gain and maintain power 1.5 million high school students email or social network passwords
and control over their partner. nationwide experience physical and these students are more likely
Many people assume abuse means abuse from a dating partner—and to experience digital dating abuse.
that physical violence is happening, that’s one too many. Learning more about what
but that’s not always the case! Abuse Nearly half (43%) of dating dating abuse looks like is taking
comes in many forms—it’s not just college women report part in the movement to end it.
physical. Young people who abuse experiencing violent and abusive Hands Unite!
WHAT DOES DATING ABUSE LOOK LIKE?
Emotional
Hitting; Putting you down; Taking your Sending threats via text,
and Verbal
Financial
slapping; embarrassing you in paychecks; social media or email;
Physical
choking; public, threatening not paying bills; Digital stalking or humiliating you
kicking; you in any way; preventing you on social media; logging
shoving; telling you what to from working; into your social media or
biting; do, telling what to controlling email accounts without
force-feeding; wear where and how permission; forcing you to
assaulting; you work share passwords
Pressuring or forcing you to do anything
sexual without your consent like forcing
you to have sex or perform sexual acts
Sexual
that you are not comfortable with; Just so you know, drugs and
restricting access to birth control; alcohol can affect a person’s
forcing you to watch pornography or judgment and behavior—but
participate in pornographic videos, they do not excuse abuse or
sexting violence.
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TIPS FOR R AISING AWARENESS DURING RESPECT WEEK
Social media is a great tool when it comes to raising #DoYourPart
awareness about dating abuse. Do your part and
Use this hashtag to promote
let your posts roar on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Teen DV Month 2018 and any
Snapchat and Tumblr this February. Talk, repost, Teen DV Month-related
reshare, retag and reblog about Teen DV Month! activities.
#loveisrespect #orange4love
& #loveisrespectofficial Use this hashtag for
Use this hashtag to share what love and respect mean Wear Orange Day (Feb. 13)
to you!
#RespectWeek2018
2018 TEEN DV MONTH
Hashtags
Use this hashtag to promote
Respect Week (Feb. 12-16)
TIPS & TRICKS #HandsUnite
Use this hashtag to promote Teen DV Month 2018 and
Snapchat any Teen DV Month-related activities.
■ Send a snap to your friends and show them how to
use the materials in the Respect Week Guide.
#TeenDVMonth
■ If your school is doing an awareness event, speak This is our hashtag for Teen Dating Violence Awareness
with your administration about getting a geofilter Month. Some people also use #TDVAM and #TeenDVAM,
specifically for your school! so be sure to follow along with those conversations as
well!
Social Media Resources
Head over to loveisrespect.org/resources/teendvmonth
and download all of our Teen DV Month profile and
header images for your social media accounts.
Instagram Hashtags
Don’t forget to add the hashtags to your Instagram posts! Here are a few you can use:
#loveisrespect #TeenDVAM #TeenDVAM2018 #TeenDVMonth #orange4love #TDVAM
#orangeforlove #respect #love #datingwithrespect #datingviolence #datingabuse #abuse
#violence #dv #relationshipgoals #inlove #iloveyou #dating #loveis #selfie #tumblr #me
#healthyrelationship #unhealthyrelationship #friends #girlfriend #boyfriend #loveher
#lovehim #slay #handsdonthurt #helpinghands #handsunite #doyourpart
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TIPS FOR R AISING AWARENESS DURING RESPECT WEEK
DON’T KNOW WHAT YOU SAY?
NO WORRIES—WE GOT YOU COVERED!
Use these posts if you need some inspiration to get started during
2018 Teen DV Month. You can also repost from @loveisrespect on
Twitter or @loveisrespectofficial on Instagram!
■ Everyone has a hand in ending abuse. That’s 1 too many! Check
dating violence! Know the facts out @loveisrespect for info,
@loveisrespect.org #RespectWeek2018 help & resources #teenDVmonth
■ #HandsUnite during #RespectWeek2018
#TeenDVAM2018 to show the world ■ I wear #orange4love to take a stand
what healthy relationships look like. against abuse and promote healthy
#teenDVmonth #RespectWeek2018
relationships! #RespectWeek2018
■ Relationship high fives! Let me give
■ 43% of dating college women report
you a hand during #RespectWeek2018
& #teenDVmonth experiencing abusive dating behaviors.
■ My hands are a tool for
creating healthy relationships! Call 1-866-331-9474, text “loveis” to
#RespectWeek2018 #teenDVmonth 22522 or chat on loveisrespect.org for
#RespectWeek2018 support! #loveisrespect #teenDVmonth
■ 1 in 3 girls experience dating #RespectWeek2018
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TIPS FOR R AISING AWARENESS DURING RESPECT WEEK
INSPIRE OTHERS TO HELP
SPREAD AWARENESS
ABOUT DATING ABUSE
KNOW YOUR MESSAGE
You know that practice makes
perfect, so when you know your
message inside out, people will be
more likely to hear you out. If you
want to encourage others to talk
about dating violence, rehearse as
much as you can—especially if you
are talking face-to-face. Rehearsing
in front of the mirror and having a
cheat sheet are great ways to feel
confident about yourself and what
you are trying to share. No need to
get nervous. You’ve got this!
Here’s an example of what you can say:
“One in three teens in our country
experiences dating abuse—and I
think that’s one too many! I’d love for
you to join me in raising awareness
about dating abuse and promoting KNOW YOUR AUDIENCE LEVERAGE YOUR
healthy relationship during February, CONNECTIONS
Tailoring your message to the audience
Teen Dating Violence Awareness
you’re trying to reach is a great way to Friends of friends are a great way to get
Month. I believe that everyone
create a connection! You wouldn’t talk connected to more influential audiences
deserves a healthy, safe and
to a teacher the same way you’d talk to that can potentially help you in spreading
respectful relationship! Do your part
your friends, so make sure you address awareness about dating abuse. Think local
and check out more information
them appropriately—and respectfully! representatives, church leaders, business
about dating abuse at www.
owners, law enforcement officers and even
loveisrespect.org.”
GET YOUR SCHOOL your friends’ parents!
INVOLVED
EMPHASIZE YOUR PARTNER WITH
CREDIBILITY Talk about Teen DV Month to your
LOCAL NONPROFIT
school administrator, teachers, and ORGANIZATIONS
Telling others that you are joining
counselors. Let them know you are
loveisrespect’s efforts to promote
passionate about raising awareness Local nonprofit organizations dedicated
healthy relationships is a great way
about dating violence and that you’d like to domestic and teen dating violence are a
to highlight who you are and what
to enlist their help in educating others or way to get involved this February. Look for
you are trying to do to help end
having events. Contacting your school’s organizations that deal with related issues,
dating abuse! Talking about your
clubs, sororities or fraternities is also a such as substance abuse or shelters and see
involvement with any related clubs
great way to get other people involved. what they need or how you can be of help.
or organizations is also a great idea
Remember, lending a hand to others is a
to spread awareness about dating
great way to help yourself.
violence.
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TIPS FOR R AISING AWARENESS DURING RESPECT WEEK
MEDIA OUTREACH & POLICY
STUDENT PUBLICATIONS research. Do you know the laws and
& CAMPUS RADIO STATIONS policies already in place in your state? If
If your school has a TV/Radio station or not, find out more!
a student-run newspaper, this is a great ■ You can also set up a meeting with
way to reach lots of people about dating your local or state representative to
violence. Offer to write an op-ed or be talk about dating violence. Tell them
a guest speaker! Simply stop by or why this is an important issue and why
send them an email! Letting them it needs to get recognized so they can
know what Respect Week is and close any gaps in state or local laws to
why it’s important for students is prevent dating abuse.
a great outreach strategy during ■ Talk to your city or state officials and
Teen DV Month. encourage them to adopt a proclamation
recognizing Teen DV Month and
Respect Week. If you need templates
SCHOOL POLICY
or are unsure about what to say, visit
Do you know if your school www.loveisrespect.org/resources/
has a policy in place to address teendvmonth, and share them with the
teen dating violence? If not, appropriate elected official or office.
be a trailblazer and talk to the ■ Host a letter-writing campaign,
administration or school board about phone bank, press conference or rally
adopting one. targeted at your state representatives
to encourage them to take action to
ENGAGE CITY, STATE prevent dating violence.
OR OTHER LOCAL
REPRESENTATIVES If you have more ways to get involved,
■ This sounds scarier than it really is, share them via social media using our
but it’s totally doable. First, do some hashtags!
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WEAR ORANGE DAY
Wear Orange Day is a great way to create awareness about dating abuse, and this year your hands have a role to play. This is
your chance to get creative and spread messages about healthy relationships around Valentine’s Day, the month of love and
Teen DVAM! Remember, you have a hand in ending dating violence.
THE #ORANGE4LOVE CHALLENGE
Step 1
On Feb. 13, get as many people as you can to wear something orange to
promote unity in ending dating violence. You can wear orange shirts, nail
polish, hats, scarves, face paint, ribbons, hair ties/bows, jewelry, shoes,
rubber bands in your braces or anything else you can think of! You can also
feature orange foods and orange things if you like.
Step 2
Post your pictures of you and your friends on social media wearing orange
and tag them with #orange4love and #RespectWeek2018.
What: Wear Orange Day
An eye-catching movement that creates awareness in support of victims
and survivors of dating violence.
When: Tuesday, Feb. 13.
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WEAR ORANGE DAY
■ Hands unite when it comes ■ I wear #orange4love
Don’t know what
to say? Check out
these ideas for
social media.
to ending dating violence. because I believe everyone
Join me! #RespectWeek2018 deserves a healthy relationship!
#HandsUnite #DoYourPart #RespectWeek2018
#loveisrespect #HandsUnite #DoYourPart
#loveisrespect
■ Orange reminds me I have a
hand in ending dating violence. ■ I wear #orange4love because
Join me! #RespectWeek2018
1 in 3 teens experiences dating
#HandsUnite #DoYourPart
abuse and that’s 1 too many
#loveisrespect
#RespectWeek2018
■ I wear #orange4love to
spread awareness about ■ I wear #orange4love because
dating abuse. Do you know 57% of college students say
the signs? #RespectWeek2018 dating abuse is difficult to
#HandsUnite #DoYourPart identify. Let’s spread awareness!
#loveisrespect #RespectWeek2018
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Tell everyone! Host a
Spread the challenge
word to people and invite
at school, your school’s
work, in the teams and
community, at different
your place of classes to
worship and on get involved
social media. (e.g. freshman
versus
seniors)
7 WAYS TO PROMOTE
WEAR ORANGE DAY
Hand out
orange flowers
Work with your
school to provide
incentives for
students to wear
orange, like
random prizes
given out in the
or candy and halls to people
attach a copy wearing orange.
of the tag on
page 22 of
this guide with
orange yarn or
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Hang posters,
banners or flyers
in common areas,
bathrooms or on
nite
bulletin boards. Just
make sure to get
Hand s U
permission from
school officials or
other authorities to
post flyers, make
announcements or
spread the word
about dating abuse!
Use the Hands Unite chat
7
bubble located under
“Materials” at the end of this
guide or create your own chat
bubble with Wear Orange Day
messaging and hand them out
to friends and family.
WAYS TO PROMOTE
WEAR ORANGE DAY
Join our Wear
Orange Day
Facebook event
to post pictures
and connect
with other
participants
from around the
country!12 RESPECT WEEK GUIDE 2018 • www.loveisrespect.org
ACTIVITIES: 5-DAYS OF IDEAS
MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY
1. Develop activities around creative expression in
your school or community
2. Take a pad of Post-Its and write encouraging or positive messages about love and healthy
relationships. Place a single Post-It in strategic places like lockers or bathroom mirrors. You can
even hand them out to people passing by—just make sure not to litter!
3. Create an awareness display (more instructions on page 14)
4. Paint a Hands Unite mural (more instructions on page 13)
5. Inspire others to showcase their artistic talents
TUESDAY WEDNESDAY THURSDAY FRIDAY
#WearOrangeDay #WellnessWednesday #SocialMediaThursday #FeelgoodFriday
Get creative and Develop activities Make sure to post Print out our
wear orange for around wellness: about themes related loveisprespect’s
a cause! to dating abuse “Loveisbubbles,”at
■ Organize wellness on social media to then end of this guide
■ Take pics and share walks in your school, spread awareness! and tell everyone
on social media using work and community what you use your
#orange4love and ■ Create your hands for when it
#RespectWeek2018 ■ Organize painting, own or re-share comes to helping end
journaling or play loveisrespect’s posts, dating violence.
■ Challenge other games blogs and pictures
teams, classes about healthy and Example: my hands are for
hugging, never for hurting
or organizations ■ Host a wellness unhealthy relationships!
in your school on trivia activity Use hashtags when ■ Share your pics via
congregation appropriate. social media or create
■ Don’t forget about short videos using
■ Host an Valentine’s Day! ■ ThrowbackThursday apps like Boomerang
orange-themed This is a great way or #tbt
healthy pot luck and to show your love ■ Create an orange
use the Respect Week and appreciation for ■ #ThankfulThursday filter for your
Guide to talk about family and friends. Facebook account to
dating violence with This year Valentine’s ■ #ThursdayThoughts show your support of
attendees Day falls on Teen DVAM
Example: #ThursdayThoughts are
Wednesday, Feb. 14. a great way to tell the world about
teen dating violence. You have
a hand in ending it. Hands Unite!
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MORE ACTIVITY IDEAS
USE CREATIVE EXPRESSION TO PROMOTE HEALTHY
RELATIONSHIPS: Advocate for a cause you feel passionate about
by designing creative new ways to communicate your message.
Here are some ideas for using the arts to promote healthy
relationships:
HOST AN ART SHOW OR HOST AN HOST AN ORANGE
HANDS UNITE ART: CONTEST: This can include ORANGE-THEMED T-SHIRT TIE-DYING
Create art with your painting, installation FASHION SHOW: If you EVENT: This is a great way
hands by stamping art, sculptures, posters, are into fashion and want to create awareness and
them on paint and later stickers or photography. An to give back, this is a great have fun in the process!
on white or colored example of installation art way to bring attention Besides—who doesn’t love
paper to create a pretty could be using orange and to dating violence. Grab making tie-dye anything?
display with messages. white balloons to represent a group of your friends Partner up with a school
Here are a few the statistic that one in and with your school group that may be willing to
examples: three young people will administrator’s permission, donate the dyes or t-shirts
■ I have a hand in ending experience dating abuse. create a fashion show for the event. Get people
dating violence! Get others involved by in your school cafeteria together to make their
■ My hands are for hosting a poetry slam, or dorm hall. You can orange shirts and get the
loving, never hurting the play/musical, talent make a runway pretty conversation started about
ones I love! show, open mic night, much anywhere! You can healthy relationships!
■ Hands Unite in ending essay contest, flash mob, decorate with the posters
dating violence interpretative dance, PSA provided in this guide or Check out our Materials
contest, app creation, hand out materials. section at the end of this
website design or blog guide.
discussions.14 RESPECT WEEK GUIDE 2018 • www.loveisrespect.org
Here are more
activities that you
can look out for.
MORE ACTIVITY IDEAS
HOST AN #ORANGE4LOVE CREATE AN For example:
T-SHIRT CONTEST AWARENESS DISPLAY “Wear Orange for Love on February
Sometimes orange can be hard to Create awareness about dating 13...because I have a hand in ending
find in your wardrobe. So, help your violence and healthy relationships dating violence!
classmates get prepared for Wear with a unique display. Your display
Orange Day by hosting a t-shirt can be anything of significance “I have a hand in ending dating
contest! Challenge your classmates to your school: A poster, a TV violence. Learn the facts at www.
to make original designs—you can announcement or a classroom door. loveisrespect.org”
even make it a competition! Whether
it’s between grades, clubs, or other How Do I Create “Hands unite during Valentine’s Day!
groups, make sure to have fun! an Awareness Display? Print out the speech bubbles located
■ Find the right spot. Pick a visible at then end of this guide under
HANG UP POSTERS location of importance to your school. “Materials” (available in both English
Print out copies of the posters Make sure it’s large enough to hold your and Spanish). Have your peers
located at the end of this guide under display. Don’t forget to get permission complete the sentence and assemble
“Materials” and hang them up in to use the location you select! the speech bubbles to create a
your school or community center to ■ Mark your calendar. Choose a diverse display.
help educate others about setting date and time close to the beginning
healthy boundaries. Make sure to get of February, if possible, and use your How Do I Promote My Display?
permission if necessary! display to raise awareness about dating Tell everyone! People in your classes,
violence and healthy relationships. your teachers, administration, your
HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS DAY ■ Be prepared. Arrange to purchase fellow club members and your Twitter,
Talk to your health teacher about or collect the materials needed to Instagram and Facebook friends. Ask
dedicating a class to healthy create and set up your display. everyone to spread the word!
relationships during Respect Week. Make announcements to the entire
Check out loveisrespect’s Educators What Should My Display Say? school, certain classes, groups
Toolkits (http://www.loveisrespect.org/ Make your message creative, or others. Find out if you need
educators- toolkits/) for ideas about something that will put a positive spin permission to promote your display
group discussions and activities. on raising awareness and catch your from your school administrator.
peers’ attention.www.loveisrespect.org • RESPECT WEEK GUIDE 2018 15
MORE ACTIVITY IDEAS
ORANGE YARN
Give people orange yarn to wrap around their
wrists and help spread the message about
healthy relationships! You don’t have to give
a speech every time that you give someone
yarn, but often, people will ask you why you OraNg e4LOVE
are doing it. Then someone later in the day
will see that person and ask why they are
wearing it. Eventually, it can reach the whole
respect
campus and raise awareness on a bigger
scale!
CHALKING
Get permission from your high school and
college (if necessary) to chalk up (write
a message with chalk on the ground) a
regularly frequented walkway on your
campus. Your message could be something
as simple as: “February is Teen Dating dating
Violence Awareness Month.” You could also
rally the artistsin your school to make a
with
respect
beautiful chalk mural.
THESE HANDS DON’T HURT MURAL
Set up a large mural where passing students
can sign a pledge committing to nonviolence
in their relationships. Let them sign the pledge
by printing their hand with paint on the mural
or tracing their hand in chalk on the sidewalk.
Have a table nearby with handouts the students
can take with them after they sign the pledge.
For handout materials, visit www.loveisrespect.
org/ resources/download-materials/.
T-SHIRT SALE FOR WEAR ORANGE DAY
Sometimes orange can be hard to find in
your wardrobe. To prepare for this, run a
t-shirt sale in advance (you can use orange
t-shirts or white t-shirts with orange designs).
Promote it by donating the proceeds to a
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ACTIVIT Y IDEAS ON COLLEGE CAMPUSES
Host an Information Table ■ Partner with the intramural/club sports teams. Ask
Setting up a table with information and resources them to wear orange during their games for Respect
is an effective way to reach out to many different Week! This can include orange ribbons, sweat bands,
communities—from teens to parents and other adults. socks or other items.
Here are some basic tips that will help make your ■ Decorate R.A. Bulletin Boards
tabling activities a success! ■ Resident Assistants in campus Residence Halls are
always looking for interesting and informative topics to
What Do I Do? post on their bulletin boards. Team up with housing on your
■ Choose a date, time and place when people will be campus to inspire R.A.’s to shine a spotlight on Respect
present – nothing is less fun than a table that no one Week and Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month!
approaches! ■ Host a campus-wide “Love is...” photo contest.
■ Make a checklist of all the materials (including the Invite all of the campus organizations to participate
quantity of each) you’ll be bringing with you to the tabling in a photo contest on Instagram or Facebook where
event. Print out any materials you plan on including. Visit they can express what love is to them. You and your
loveisrespect.org/resources/ download-materials/ for palm peers can write your messages on small white boards,
cards, posters and other great handouts! paper talk bubbles or posters. Remember to include
■ Print out the speech bubbles located at the end of #RespectWeek2018 when posting to social media!
this guide under “Materials” (available in both English ■ Print out hand-shaped valentines and distribute in
and Spanish). Have visitors to your table complete the your school
sentence. You can use these speech bubbles later to ■ Organize a bake sale and donate funds
create an awareness display. ■ Organize a face painting
■ Wherever you decide to host an information table, ■ Participate in community-related events about
make sure you get the proper permission, especially if Teen DV Month
you are in a school setting. ■ Hand out orange balloons to raise awareness
■ Distribute the loveisrespect’s Respect Week guide in
What Should I Say? your community, gym, congregation/church
■ Memorize some information to share with people ■ Create a pledge using a stamp of your hand
stopping by your table, such as:
■ Abuse can be as visible as bruises or as subtle as
name-calling and controlling what a partner wears.
■ 43% of dating college women report experiencing
abusive dating behaviors.
■ 57% of college students say dating abuse is difficult
to identify, and 58% say they don’t know how to help
someone who’s experiencing it.
Young people who have questions about their
relationships can visit loveisrespect.org or text loveis to
22522 to get help from trained peer advocates.
Want to Do Even More?
■ Reach out to your local domestic violence service
provider to come assist you at your info table.
■ Get the sports teams involved17
NATIONAL
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RESPECT
ANOUNCEMENT Remember to
get permission
and follow any
Loveisrespect invites you to do your part by guidelines before
participating in the National Respect Announcement posting. Feel free
on Feb. 15, 2018. Use the following statement on social to use the posters
media or in your PA system at school to let everyone provided in this
know about National Respect Week. guide!
Every year, the National Respect Announcement
reaches thousands of young people. This
announcement is a way to remind people that while
love has many de definitions, abuse is not one of
them. Everyone has the right to create meaningful and
healthy relationships that are based on love, trust and
respect.
Valentine’s Day may be behind us, but we’d
like to remind you that everyone has the right
to a healthy and safe relationship free of
abuse. And, everyone has a hand in ending
dating violence. Love has many definitions,
but abuse isn’t one of them! If you or someone
you know has a question about a relationship,
healthy or unhealthy, visit loveisrespect.org
or text “loveis” to 22522. We are here for you
24/7/365! Remember, hands
unite when it comes to ending
dating violence.
Here are other ways to do your part! d. In Person:
■ Get permission from your school’s administration to read
a. Participate in loveisrespect’s Healthy the Respect Week Announcement during the morning public
Relationship Poll! Questions will be up every Monday announcements on Thursday, Feb. 15. Read the announcement
during the month of February. Look for the answers to before each class period or at your youth group or club meetings.
the poll every Friday. ■ Pick a person and give a box with random orange goodies
b. Watch advocates answer relationship questions in like candy or flowers
Ask an Advocate—Live Edition on Feb. 7 and Feb. 21. e. Visually: Create, post and distribute a flyer around
c. Join our webinar, “Hands Unite to End Dating campus, dorm, bulletin boards, health center or any other
Violence: A Guide to Peer-To-Peer Advocacy” on place with high traffic (remember to get permission and follow
Feb. 22, 2 p.m.(CT). any guidelines before posting). Feel free to use the posters
provided in the “Materials” section at the end of this guide.18 RESPECT WEEK GUIDE 2018 • www.loveisrespect.org
GLOSSARY
Since no two relationships are the same, we need to be mindful and respectful of other people’s
wants and needs! Whether you are straight or LGTBQIA, here are some definitions you can use to
feel empowered. We know how hard it can be to ask questions so, hopefully, this guide can help you
navigate relationships and dating with peace of mind.
Biphobia: To be intolerant prejudice against someone Polyamorous: (Poly= partner with gifts, affection
or have a prejudice against who gay (homosexual) or many + amor = love). To and promises of a future
someone who is bisexual or the idea of homosexuality. be in a sexual or romantic together. The person dong
the idea of bisexuality. relationship with more than the love-bombing may
LGTBQIA: Abbreviation two people at the time. react in negative ways if
Bisexual: To be sexually, that means Lesbian, Gay, You can be referred to as rejected or if they felt left
romantically or emotionally Bisexual, Transgender, “polyamorous people” or out. Love-bombing may
attracted to both male and Queer, Intersex and “polyamorists.” be considered a form of
female. Asexual. manipulation, emotional
Quad: To be in a sexual or abuse and a pathway to
Consent: Consent is a Self-Care: Taking the romantic relationship with grooming.
mutual agreement between time to care for yourself in four people at the same
partners about what whichever ways work best time. A quad is a type of Netflix and Chill:
they want to experience. for you. Journaling, writing polyamorous relationship. Mainstream slang term that
Consent needs to be poetry, art expression and means “hooking up.” It refers
ongoing and happen every exercise are examples of Triad: To be in a sexual or to making out or having
time. self-care. romantic relationship with sex under the pretense
three people at the same of watching a movie at
Dating abuse: Also Sexual orientation: Means time. A triad is a type of someone’s dorm or house.
known as dating violence. who you are sexually, polyamorous relationship.
Dating abuse is a pattern romantically or emotionally Stealthing: Also known as
of behaviors one person attracted to. Red flags: A series of “non-consensual condom
uses to gain and maintain behaviors that emerge removal.” During sex a
power and control over their Straight: Or heterosexual. and intensify as the condom is removed without
partner. To be sexually, romantically relationship grows. the other person’s consent.
or emotionally attracted to Examples: Possessiveness It’s considered a form of
Gay: Means to be sexually, someone of the opposite and controlling behaviors, reproductive abuse and
romantically or emotionally sex. jealousy, explosive temper. can lead to unwanted
attracted to someone of the
pregnancies or sexually
same sex. Outing: Threatening to Trends we are hearing,
transmitted diseases.
“out” a person that is here are some terms to
Grooming: When someone LGBTQIA in order to punish watch out for:
More definitions
builds an emotional or ostracize from their
can be found:
connection with a young social environment (school, Ghosting: When there’s a
person to later exploit them church, team). It can be new relationship the person ■ https://lgbtqia.ucdavis.
for sex, sex trafficking or considered emotional suddenly disappears and edu/educated/glossary.html
other abusive behaviors. abuse. is never to be heard from ■ http://www.scarleteen.
Grooming can be done them again. com/glossary#sexual_
online, in person, by Pansexual: To be attracted orientation
someone known or a to someone regardless of Love-Bombing: A behavior ■ https://bisexual.org/qna_
stranger. their sex or gender. Not to that usually happens at categories/all-categories/
confuse with “bisexual.” the beginning of a new ■ https://www.
Homophobia: To be relationship where person morethantwo.com/
intolerant or have a may overwhelm the other polyglossary.htmlwww.loveisrespect.org • RESPECT WEEK GUIDE 2018 19
And now what?
Respect Week and Teen DV Month are great ■ Volunteer for a local domestic violence shelter or
times to raise awareness, but it’s important youth-education program.
to remember that dating violence is an issue
all year long! Here are some ways to stay ■ Create care packages for domestic and dating
involved when February is over: violence survivors and distribute them at a local
shelter .
■ Download, print and distribute resources and
materials from loveisrespect. Visit loveisrespect.org/ ■ Start or join a group at your school that focuses
resources/download-materials. on dating abuse prevention.
■ Promote loveisrespect.org and follow us on social
media for info to share and repost.HANDS UNITE! D O YO U R PA R T M AT E R I A L S REPURPOSING IS ALLOWED AND ENCOURAGED
Hands Unite
DO YOUR PART TO END DATING VIOLENCE
DO YOUR PART TO END DATING VIOLENCE
Hands Unite
Manos Unidas
PON DE TU PARTE PARA ERRADICAR LA
VIOLENCIA EN LAS RELACIONES DE PAREJA
VIOLENCIA EN LAS RELACIONES DE PAREJA
PON DE TU PARTE PARA ERRADICAR LA
Manos Unidas
Everybody deserves Todos merecemos tener
a healthy relationship una relación sana
PON DE TU PARTE PARA ERRADICAR LA VIOLENCIA
EVERYONE HAS A HAND IN ENDING DATING VIOLENCE!
EN LAS RELACIONES DE PAREJA
Everybody deserves Todos merecemos tener
a healthy relationship una relación sana
PON DE TU PARTE PARA ERRADICAR LA VIOLENCIA
EVERYONE HAS A HAND IN ENDING DATING VIOLENCE!
EN LAS RELACIONES DE PAREJA
Everybody deserves Todos merecemos tener
a healthy relationship una relación sana
PON DE TU PARTE PARA ERRADICAR LA VIOLENCIA
EVERYONE HAS A HAND IN ENDING DATING VIOLENCE!
EN LAS RELACIONES DE PAREJA
Everybody deserves Todos merecemos tener
a healthy relationship una relación sana
PON DE TU PARTE PARA ERRADICAR LA VIOLENCIA
EVERYONE HAS A HAND IN ENDING DATING VIOLENCE!
EN LAS RELACIONES DE PAREJA
Everybody deserves Todos merecemos tener
a healthy relationship una relación sana
PON DE TU PARTE PARA ERRADICAR LA VIOLENCIA
EVERYONE HAS A HAND IN ENDING DATING VIOLENCE!
EN LAS RELACIONES DE PAREJAYou deserve to be You deserve to be
loved and respected. loved and respected.
You deserve to be You deserve to be
loved and respected. loved and respected.I wear orange because...
HANDS UNITE:
DO YOUR PART
During this February, Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month,
let your Hands Unite in the fight against dating violence. Do your part!
You too have a hand in ending dating violence! If you need someone
to talk to, remember that loveisrespect is here to help:
CALL 1-866-331-9474 • CHAT @ LOVEISRESPECT.ORG • TEXT “LOVEIS” TO 22522
PEERS ADVOCATES ARE AVAILABLE 24/7/365MANOS UNIDADS:
PON DE TU PARTE
Acompánanos a celebrar el Mes de Concientizacion Sobre la Violencia Juvenil.
Mantén tus Manos Unidas en lucha contra de la violencia juvenil. ¡Haz tu parte!
Si necesitas hablar con alguien, estamos aquí para tí.
LLAMA A 1-866-331-9474 • CHATEA CON NOSOTROS VÍA @ LOVEISRESPECT.ORG •ENVÍANOS UN TEXTO QUE DIGA “LOVEIS” AL NÚMERO 22522
NUESTROS DEFENSORES ESTÁN AQUÍ 24/7/365.THE RELATIONSHIP SPECTRUM
Healthy relationships are based on equality and respect.
RESPECT You make decisions together and can openly
discuss whatever you’re dealing with, like
HEALTHY COMMUNICATION relationship problems and sexual choices.
You enjoy spending time together but can
TRUST
be happy apart.
Unhealthy relationships are based on
attempts to control the other person.
BREAKS IN COMMUNICATION One person tries to make
PRESSURE most of the decisions. He
or she may pressure their
DISHONESTY partner about sex or refuse
to see how their actions can
STRUGGLES FOR CONTROL hurt. In an unhealthy
relationship, you feel like you
should only spend time with
your partner.
Abusive relationships are based on
an imbalance of power and control.
ACCUSATIONS One person is making all of the decisions about sexual
choices, friend groups, boundaries, even what’s true
BLAME SHIFTING and what’s not. You spend all of your time together and
ISOLATION PRESSURE feel like you can’t talk to other people, especially about
what’s really happening in your relationship.
All relationships exist on a spectrum from healthy to abusive with unhealthy somewhere in the middle. Check out the loveisrespect’s Relationship Spectrum to see where your rela-
tionship falls. Can you identify healthy, unhealthy or abusive behaviors in your relationship or maybe in a friend’s relationship? Remember, you have a hand in ending dating violence.
The more you talk, the more you know!
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HANDS UNITE!
D O YO U R PA R T
FOR MORE INFORMATION , VISIT LOVEISRESPECT.ORG
REPURPOSING IS ALLOWED AND ENCOURAGED.
This project described was supported by Grant Number 90EV0426 from Administration on Children, Youth and Families, Family and Youth Services Bureau, U.S. De-
partment of Health and Human Services. The opinions, findings, conclusions and recommendations expressed in this publication are those of the author(s) and do not
necessarily reflect the views of the Administration on Children, Youth and Families, Family and Youth Services Bureau, U.S. Department of Health and Human Services
This project was supported by Grant No. 2015-TA-AX-K012 awarded by the Office on Violence Against Women, U.S. Department of Justice. The opinions, findings,
conclusions and recommendations expressed in this publication are those of the author(s) and do not necessarily reflect the views of the Department of Justice, Office on
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