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                                                                         HONOREES:
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                                                                 U.S. Representative Rosa DeLauro,
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                                                                 Middlesex Health, Jacob G. Padrón,
                                                                           Proud Academy,
                                                               Southern Connecticut State University,
                                                                     Stanley Black & Decker, Inc.,
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  celebrates the individuals and organizations that have made diversity, inclusion,                Creative Director
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IN THIS ISSUE //

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                                                                             COVER STORY
                                                                             We unveil the first Connecticut
                                                                             Voice Honors recipients...amazing
                                                                             people making a difference to
                                                                             LGBTQ+ communities around
                                                                             the state.
    Actor Pun Bandhu

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     CONTRIBUTORS                          ENTERTAINMENT                         HEATH &
     Meet the writers behind the           Out, Asian actor Pun Bandhu
     stories in this issue.                (picture above) and his mission
                                                                                 WELLNESS
                                                                                 How Middlesex Health supports
                                           to see representation of Asian-
                                                                                 transgender individuals and their
                                           Americans on stage.
     10-22                                                                       commitment to providing the
                                                                                 best care available.
     WHAT’S THE BUZZ                       44
     Goodspeed's commitment to
     diversity, important information      FEATURE                               79
     about the Parentage Act, coach        Nonprofit organizations serving
     and personality, Amit Mehta,          LGBTQ+ communities in
                                                                                 THE LAST WORD
                                                                                 McMiller Fun, a queer-owned
     and more.                             Connecticut...and how you can
                                                                                 company, commits to making
                                           get involved.
                                                                                 toys and games that are
     24                                                                          inclusive...and fun.
     FASHION
     Leather is big this fall. Check out
     our great selection of styles for                                                    68
     everyone.                                                                            DELICIOUS
                                                                                          Orchards around the
     30                                                                                       state waiting for
                                                                                                your visit.
     EDUCATION
     What life's like for
     LGBTQ+ students
     on CT campuses.
     What's good, and
     where we still
     need to go.                                                                                                     GLASTONBURY   MOHEGAN SUN   WEST HARTFORD   WESTPORT   WELLESELY

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CONTRIBUTORS //

     FRANK RIZZO                  BRIAN SCOTT                 DAWN ENNIS                   KIM ADAMSKI
     Frank Rizzo caught up        LIPTON                      Dawn Ennis profiled          Kim Adamski begins
     with actor Alex Ringler      Brian Scott Lipton talked   professional coach           a column on sexual
     (page 10) and profiled       with Goodspeed about        Amit Mehta (page 12)         health with this issue.
     actor and activist Pan       their commitment to         and dug into LGBTQ+          She is a sex educator in
     Bandhu (page 34). He         inlcusion (page 14) and     campus life (page 30).       Hartford, Connecticut.
     has written about the        looks at leather fashion    She is an award-winning      She currently works
     arts in Connecticut          (page 24). He has been      journalist, a professor at   at the Hartford Gay
     and nationally for more      a nationally renowned       University of Hartford,      and Lesbian Health
     than 40 years; for the       journalist for over 30      and writes for several       Collective. Kim
     The New York Times,          years. He has been Editor   news outlets. Ennis          loves answering the
     American Theatre             in Chief of TheaterMania.   was America’s first          questions people are
     Magazine and dozens          com and Resident            transgender journalist in    afraid to ask, and that’s
     of other outlets. He is      Publications, Managing      a TV network newsroom        what motivated her to
     also a theater critic for    Editor of men’s fashion     when she came out            go into sex education.
     Variety. Follow Frank’s      magazines DNR and           nine years ago. Follow       If you have questions
     work at ShowRiz.com          MR, and his byline has      her @lifeafterdawn on        about sex, contact her
     and on Twitter               appeared in Forbes and      Twitter, Facebook and        at adamski.kimberly@
     @ShowRiz.                    The Wall Street Journal.    Instagram. Ennis and         gmail.com.
                                                              her family reside in West
                                                              Hartford, Connecticut.

     AMY S. WHITE                 JANE LATUS                  MICHELLE CUTRALI             TEDD LEVINE
     Amy S. White lives,
     teaches, cooks, eats,
     and writes in Eastern
                                  Jane Latus covers
                                  health and politics.
                                  She profiles nonprofits
                                                              Michelle Cutrali has
                                                              been an Financial
                                                              Advisor for more than
                                                                                           Tedd brings more than
                                                                                           40 years’ experience
                                                                                           as an attorney and
                                                                                                                       “MY BOUNTY IS AS BOUNDLESS AS THE SEA,
     Connecticut. She
     peeled back the
                                  serving LGBTQ+
                                  communities (page 44)
                                                              20 years and has
                                                              earned a Certification
                                                                                           CPA to the discussion
                                                                                           of matrimonial and
                                                                                                                       MY LOVE AS DEEP; THE MORE I GIVE TO THEE,
     inside information on
     Connecticut’s orchards
                                  and contributed to the
                                  CT Honors program,
                                                              in Long-Term Care
                                                              Planning. Her business,
                                                                                           relationship law. His
                                                                                           insights on protecting
                                                                                                                       THE MORE I HAVE, FOR BOTH ARE INFINITE.”
     (page 68) and created        as well as covering         Cutrali Insurance and        assets in a relationship
     three savory and sweet       Middlesex Health's          Financial Services, is       (Page 14), are based                  —Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet
     recipes for apples for       support for transgender     geared towards helping       on many successful
     the fall. You can find out   individuals. (Page 56).     LGBTQ+ folks with            cases. In addition, he
     more about her at her        She is a writer and         investments, insurance       has worked in business,
     website: amyswhite.com       personal trainer living     and retirement               finance, corporate,
                                  in Canton. She and her      planning. Her specialty      and licensing law. He
                                  husband Ken have an         in long-term care & life     is on the Connecticut
                                  escalating number of        insurance helps to           Bar and admitted to
                                  cats and two grown          shed more color on           practice before the
                                  sons, one transgender       subjects that our            Supreme Court.
                                  and one gay.                community needs to
                                                              start planning for.

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WHAT’S THE BU ZZ ?

   Actor Alex Ringler Is a Fashion Target

   A
            lex Ringler never        community, Ringler created a       unconventional material on      Lord Targét that stood out on
            says he hasn’t a         witty web series, Annoyingly       the many RuPaul’s Drag          ship and shore.
            thing to wear.           Fit Neighbor, in which he          Race episodes, Ringer looked
                                     played both himself and            at a pile of shopping bags      “People were pretty
   The Broadway and                  an insufferably sweet and          from Target he had collected    flabbergasted when they
   television actor-dancer-          buff neighbor that drives          and thought: “Fabulous.”        figured out it was made of
   choreographer knows what          him mad. The collected                                             Target shopping bags,” says
   a creative imagination and                                                                           Ringler. It was a fun day on
   a heightened gay sensibility                                                                         the party island, but he didn’t
   can do when one needs an                                                                             expect the wave of “likes,”
   outfit for a special occasion                                                                        comments and shares when
   that will land a bullseye.                                                                           he posted his bag-drag pics
                                                                                                        and clips on his social media.
   Ringler’s latest occasion
   was Fire Island’s annual                                                                             Has Target contacted him
   Fourth of July “Invasion of                                                                          yet, perhaps for its holiday
   the Pines” celebration where                                                                         marketing campaign?
   a ferry boatload of drag
   queens dressed in their most                                                                         “Well, kind of,” says the
   spectacular outfits from the                                                                         New York-based actor.
   relatively sedate community                                                                          “Just this morning on my
   of Cherry Grove arrives at                                                                           Facebook page I received a
   the neighboring chi-chi                                                                              communication from them
   gay enclave where they are                                                                           on the transformation video
   welcomed by throngs in                                                                               I just posted, saying they’d
   thongs. For more on this,                                                                            like to use this so I’m going
   search online for the short                                                                          through some channels now
   film Invasion of the Pines.                                                                          to see if it can be like a paid
                                                                                                        promotion for Target. I’m
   This is not the first time                                                                           sure it would get a lot of hits
   the tall, tanned and svelte                                                                          for them, plus following Pride
   actor has slipped into                                                                               month, it shows they support
   stilettos, having appeared                                                                           the LGBTQ community all
   in several productions of La                                                                         year round. It’s good for
   Cage Aux Folles (one at the                                  Alex Ringler                            them and good for me. But
   Goodspeed Opera House in                                                                             the reason I originally did
   East Haddam), Pageant, and        five-minute episodes were          The distinctive red-and-white   it was that it wasn’t about
   the national tour of Priscilla,   featured at film festivals         bulls-eye plastic bags were     money. It was just about
   Queens of the Desert. In          this year.                         graphically bold, but did he    having fun.”
   his most elegant drag, he’s                                          have enough for an elegant
   a ringer for Patrick Swayze       Ringler can also be seen in        summer gown he envisioned       Still, one could imagine
   in To Wong Foo, Thanks for        the upcoming film Bros,            for his six-foot frame?         a holiday commercial
   Everything, Julie Newmar.         starring Billy Eichner and                                         campaign.
   His lean, taut body has also      Luke Macfarlane which is           A few friends contributed
   been on playful display in        being marketed as the first        their Target bags and soon      “There could be a ‘60s mod
   eight of the annual strip-        gay rom-com from a major           Ringer has enough for a         ready-to-wear bag dress
   a-thons, Broadway Bares,          studio with an entirely            Met-gala-worthy gown for        that they could sell,” he says
   which benefits Broadway           LGBTQ+ cast.                       himself—and a matching          laughing. “I could even make
   Cares/Equity Fights AIDS.                                            Targeted harness and            a little wrap to go with it.”
                                     For this past Fire Island          jockstrap for his boyfriend
   But Ringler is much more          Invasion, it was Ringer’s first    Philip which was made up of     Perhaps could Lady Target
   than drag. He performed           time dressing up drag in           woven bag handles.              be the next spokesperson for
   on Broadway in West Side          a while. But what to wear                                          the brand?
   Story, toured in Cats and A       when you don’t have a glam         With glue gun in hand, and
   Chorus Line, and returned         budget…or any budget for           a few extra safety pins for     “Maybe I could even be the
   to Goodspeed to play a            that matter?                       good measure and security,      next Flo!” (The character            Claybourne Elder
   bullwhip-cracking cowboy                                             Ringer crafted the plastic      in ads for Progressive               starring in the hit
   in Oklahoma! Though the           Inspired by the way                bags (made up of 40 per-        Insurance.)                          Broadway revival of
   pandemic curtailed work           contestants fashion                cent recycled content) into                                          Company. Photo by
   for the entertainment             extravagant outfits from           a winning look for Lady and                      —Frank Rizzo        Ahmed Klink

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WHAT’S THE BU ZZ ?

   Amita Mehta Is Living Out Loud
   THIS PROUD LESBIAN LIFE COACH PROVES
   ANYTHING’S POSSIBLE, BY EXAMPLE
   “There's so many dimensions                                          Those attending the lun-            career spanning more than
   and intersectionality to my                                          cheon gave Mehta a rousing          two decades as an executive
   journey and my story,” says                                          standing ovation when she           in financial services: Her love
   career and leadership coach                                          finished, but it’s what hap-        of sports.
   Amita Mehta, and so there are                                        pened next that sticks with
   many words one could use to                                          her all these months later.         “I have three brothers,” who
   describe her: Only daughter                                                                              forced me to play sports so
   to conservative parents, wom-                                        “What I found interesting was       they could compete 2-on-2,
   an, lesbian, refugee, Indian,                                        having people come up to me         says Mehta. And before long,
   Amish, business strategist                                           afterwards, after the event,        she started to excel at sports.
   and CEO. Mehta’s seen and                                            to say, ‘Oh my gosh, I'm an
   done it all, from Wall Street to                                     immigrant,’ or ‘I'm a refugee,’     “That gave me a bit of an
   our streets.                                                         or ‘I know what it feels like to    edge relating to men, par-
                                                                        have an ally.’ And so, for me, it   ticularly in the workplace.
   “Connecticut is like a secret                                        was just an amazing experi-         I learned how to play golf,”
   gem,” Mehta told CT Voice in                                         ence to not only lean into who      she says. As the only under-
   a recent Zoom conversation.                                          I am as a woman, a lesbian,         represented minority working
   “I often traveled there and got                                      but to be able to share the         in a commercial lending
   to work with some amazing                                            fact that I do enjoy leaning        department otherwise filled
   people.” Her Connecticut con-                                        into my culture, my history,        with white males, she learned
   nections led to her landing an                                       and my past.”                       not just how to play, but how
   opportunity earlier this year,                                                                           business gets done.
   to speak at the YWCA New                                             Mehta’s family enjoyed an
   Britain’s Biennial Women                                             affluent life in Uganda, until      Mehta says that insight
   in Leadership Luncheon. CT                                           1972, when former military          helped her move up at major
   Voice was a proud sponsor of                                         ruler Idi Amin expelled them,       companies, including J.P.
   the event, which drew hun-                                           along with 50,000 other
                                                                                                            Morgan Chase and Pruden-
   dreds of people to the Aqua                                          Asians, accusing them of
                                                                                                            tial Financial. In her almost
   Turf in Plantsville on May 12.      that I never thought I had       "milking Uganda's money.”
                                                                                                            25 years in financial services,
                                       inside me.”                                                          she developed a reputation
   That day, Mehta delivered a                                          “We landed here as refugees
                                                                                                            as a trailblazer and trusted
   powerful keynote address,           “Are you sick?” he asked.        with no money, and we had
                                                                                                            advisor to C-Suite executives.
   including the story of how she                                       to rely on the Head Start
                                                                                                            In 2018, she launched her
   came out to her parents dur-        “I'm a lesbian,” Mehta told      program for at-risk youth, to
                                                                                                            own consulting practice as a
   ing a tour of Lower Manhat-         her father. His response         rely on the government for
                                                                                                            business strategist and career
   tan. First, she told her mother,    left her speechless: “Well,      assistance to get back on our
                                                                                                            architect. Her company is
   who made her promise not            Dick Cheney's daughter is a      feet,” says Mehta, who was
                                                                                                            AMP, which stands for Amita
   to tell her father. “That, to me,   lesbian. And you know, she's     just a child at the time.
                                                                                                            Mehta Possible. Say that out
   was just heart wrenching to         pregnant with her partner.                                           loud and you’ll hear yourself
   hear,” she says. But not as         They're having a baby.”          Her parents raised Mehta
                                                                        and her brothers in Amish           deliver her clever tag line,
   difficult as the next words her                                                                          “Amita Made It Possible.”
   mother said, when her dad                                            country, where the first work
                                       “He asked, ‘Are you happy?’
   asked them, “What do we                                              they could find was gluing
                                       And I said, ‘Yes.’ And that's                                        She says her expertise in
   want to do next?”                                                    soles on shoes. Mehta says
                                       when he said, ‘Look, you're                                          diversity, equity and inclusion
                                                                        she struggled to discover her
                                       still our daughter. We love                                          helps companies distinguish
   Her mom says, “Tell him!”                                            identity as an American.
                                       you.’”                                                               themselves from their com-
   “Tell me what?” says her dad.                                                                            petition, build sustainable
                                                                        “I just wanted to be the all-
   “In that moment, I was feeling      But her mother had the last                                          bottom-line results, increase
                                                                        American kid, so I would hide
   this sense of terror and fear       word, telling Mehta: “If you                                         their return on investment
                                                                        my culture or hide who I was,”
   that I was saying goodbye           get divorced or if you break                                         and positively impact the
                                                                        she says, a response to the
   to my parents,” Mehta said.         up, you're marrying an Indian    obstacles in her way tied to        communities they serve.
   “And also, I felt this sense of     man!” Unfortunately, that        her gender and her ethnic-
   relief and release that I was       relationship did end in di-      ity. “I just felt like there were   As CEO of AMP, Mehta helps
   actually going to be living         vorce, but she says she’s now    always these roadblocks that I      others to find their silver
   my truth here. And so, I'm          very happily partnered with      would face.”                        linings: “Having hope and a
   convulsing, I'm crying. It's        another woman. “I like to call                                       sense of humor has served
   echoing throughout the              us ‘The HinJews. She’s Jewish,   To overcome those, she              me well.”
   Winter Garden and everybody         I’m Hindu, and now we’re the     turned a childhood pastime
   scatters. I was making noises       HinJews!”                        into a skill that propelled her                     —Dawn Ennis

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WHAT’S THE BU ZZ ?                                                                                                                       GOODSPEED                         Eldercare begins
                                                                                                                                          MUSICALS                          in your home!
   Good for Goodspeed
                                                                     sit in the audience. Seeing       knew there are people who
                                                                     younger folks come to into        know the show and would
                                                                     theater, many for the first       want to see it again, and
                                                                     time, is really great, and        we knew there would be                                                      JUSTIN MICHAUD, DIRECTOR
                                                                     we try to encourage that          people coming to Goodspeed
                                                                     through our programming.
                                                                                                                                                                            Our goal at M.R. Home Care is to keep you in
                                                                                                       for first time because they                                          your home for as long as possible. Our staff is
                                                                     And as we navigate through
                                                                                                       wanted to see this particular                                      knowledgeable and up-to-date with LGBTQ+ home
                                                                     this pandemic, I hope we
                                                                                                       show. In fact, 20 percent of
                                                                     can do more events for the                                                                           care needs. We believe you deserve to always be in
                                                                                                       the audiences at Cabaret
                                                                     LGBTQ+ audience, like special                                                                             a safe, clean and functional environment.
                                                                     nights out.                       were newcomers. It would be
                                                                                                       deadly for us to only cater to                                      We’ve been providing quality care in Connecticut
                                                                     CV: Can you talk about            one group of people.                                                for over 30 years. Call today to learn about which
                                                                     what decisions go into                                                                                      home care options will work for you!
                                                                     programming a season?             CV: Tell me about how
                                                                                                                                                                              CALL JUSTIN MICHAUD: 860-583-1541
                                                                     DB: It is a long, thoughtful      Christmas in Connecticut
                                                                     process, with the goal of         came about and how you
                                                                     creating a well-rounded           think audiences will react

   S
                                                                     season artistically. We work      to it?
                                                                     far in advance; we often          DB: People are already
              ince it opened its    the CT artistic community?       think two or three seasons        responding to it! The creators
              doors in 1963 on      DB: We see ourselves as          ahead, but our plans often
              the banks of the
              Connecticut River
                                    a leader of this artistic
                                    community by always serving
                                                                     shift at the last minute.
                                                                     Sometimes, we take on a
                                                                                                       had been working on the
                                                                                                       show and reached out to                 SEPT 16–NOV 6                 For everyone under the rainbow.
              in East Haddam,       our mission of presenting                                          us, so Donna Lynn Hilton,
                                                                     musical we really want to
   Goodspeed Musicals has           the highest quality musicals,                                      our artistic director, and I
                                                                     revisit, and sometimes a
   been a theatrical mecca          whether they be revivals—                                          attended a reading in New
                                                                     great project comes to us,
   for Connecticut residents        or what I call “revisals”—or                                       York City. We found it to be
   and theatergoers from the                                         unsolicited. We have even
                                    whether we are fostering                                           incredibly charming, funny,
   Northeast and beyond.                                             started commissioning new
                                    new work and new talent. In
                                                                     work—and, believe me, it can      and a natural fit for our
   Their commitment to              addition, part of our role as
   nurturing and presenting                                          take a long time to create a      fourth slot this season, which
                                    an artistic leader is to serve
   new musicals, along with                                          show from the ground up. It’s     hadn’t been filled. Believe it
                                    all the community; we need
   carefully thought-out revivals                                    always about what stories do      or not, I didn’t know the film
                                    to represent a plurality of
   of classic shows—both at the     voices on and off the stage.     we want to tell, while needing    when I went to the reading.
   magnificent Opera House          In every way possible, we        to serve both our subscribers     However, not long after that,
   and the charming Norma           want Goodspeed to be as          and the community at large.       my husband Jeff and I got on
   Terris Theatre in neighboring    open and affirming a place       And it’s also about reminding
                                                                                                       a plane to visit some family,
   Chester—has earned               as it possibly can be. We        ourselves that sometimes
                                                                                                       and it was available, which
   Goodspeed two special Tony       want it to be a space where      the biggest risk turns out
                                                                     to be the biggest success.        was the first time I watched
   Awards, along with the loyal     everyone can be authentically
                                                                     Remember, many years ago,         it. I think the show is a great
   patronage of subscribers and     who they are. That means,
                                                                     that show about a little red-     musical comedy and will
   first-time visitors alike.       for example, we have those
   Connecticut Voice recently                                        headed girl (Annie) was just      be a fun and cheery way
                                    conversations about which
   spoke with David R. Byrd, a      pronouns people use,             some new show we put on.          for everyone to spend the
   Connecticut arts veteran who     which some people don’t                                            holidays.
   was appointed the theater’s      understand.                      CV: Can you talk more about
   managing director in 2021,                                        balancing your subscription
   about Goodspeed’s mission,       CV: Tell me what Goodspeed       base with attracting new
   its commitment to LGBTQ+         specifically does to interact    audiences?                        Christmas in Connecticut
   patrons, and its innovative      with all members of the          DB: Naturally, a lot of our       runs from November 18 to
   programming, which               local population, as well as     programming has to do with
                                                                                                       December 30 at Goodspeed
   includes the upcoming world      any special efforts to attract   keeping our subscribers
                                                                                                       Opera House, 6 Main Street,
   premiere musical Christmas
   in Connecticut, based on the
                                    LBTGQ+ visitors?
                                    DB: It’s also important that
                                                                     happy. We have patrons who
                                                                     have been around for almost
                                                                                                       East Haddam, CT 06423
                                                                                                       Ticket prices range from $30-
                                                                                                                                               NOV 18–DEC 30
   1945 film starring Barbara       our audiences don’t see          all our 60 years, and they take
   Stanwyck, debuting in            coming to the theater as a       pride in their long tenure. But   $76, and can be purchased
   November.                        barrier. People need to feel     we still need to attract new      at goodspeed.org. or by
                                                                                                       calling 860-873-8668.
                                                                                                                                         The Goodspeed •East Haddam, CT
                                    comfortable here; we try         people to grow and diversify.
   CV: What do you think is
   Goodspeed’s primary role in
                                    to make it clear you don’t
                                    need to wear a bowtie to
                                                                     It’s one reason we produced
                                                                     Cabaret, earlier this year; we            —Brian Scott Lipton
                                                                                                         Photo by T. Charles Erickson
                                                                                                                                            goodspeed.org
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WHAT’S THE BU ZZ ?                                                                                                                      WHAT’S THE BU ZZ ?

   Taking Steps to Prevent                                                                                                                Tying the Knot?
   Youth Suicide                                                                                                                          Tie Down the Legal Issues

   D                                                                                                                                      G
               ata shows LGBTQ+      more than 30 percent            Project study also                                                                etting married?              marriage, which can include               Security, and unpaid leave to
               teens are at great-   between 2000 and 2020.          found that the risk of                                                            Living together?             emotional security, a public              care for family members.
               er risk of suicide                                    suicide or other self-                                                            Together apart?              commitment to another
               in the past three     Jennifer A. Rumboldt, vice      harm among LGBTQ+                                                                 (An established              person, the support of                    Because marriage has
   years, and the risk keeps         president regional operations   youth in supportive                                                               practice in                  family and friends, a stable              only been available on a
   growing. This is according to     officer for Worcester and       environments—                                                        The Netherlands where                     environment for children,                 widespread basis throughout
   a new study from The Trevor       Northwestern MA for TD          whether at school,                                                   people are in committed                   and, in some cases, a political           the U.S. to same-sex couples
   Project published earlier                                                                                                              relationships but don’t                   statement. Many of these                  for just over seven years,
                                     Bank, is a strong advocate      home, or work—was
                                                                                                                                          cohabitate.) Each of the                  can be established without                many couples who choose to                 Attorney Ted Levine
   this year. The survey tracked     for attention—and seeking       significantly reduced.
                                                                                                                                          choices we make in our                    a legal marriage, as well, but            marry have had established
   responses from nearly 35          care. She heads up the
                                                                                                      of strong, sustaining               relationships has personal,               for many they are important               lives before saying “I do.”
   thousand young people ages        LGBTQ+ group at the             And there are many places                                            financial, and legal                      reasons to get married.
                                                                                                      friendships, which are critical                                                                                         There may be previous
   13-24 in the U.S, deemed eli-     bank for the region, and        to get help. In July, the FCC                                        implications.                                                                       marriages, children, and                  lawyer who specializes in this
                                                                                                      to mental health. The same
   gible by the researchers and      notes that they are paying      began a new mental health                                                                                      From practical and legal                  a host of other concerns                  field, but among the assets
                                                                                                      holds true for the work
   were unique to the LGBTQ+         particular attention to         hotline. Simply dialing 988                                          In these columns, we have                 perspectives, in addition                 or issues. (Some of these                 that will have to be divided
                                                                                                      environment where isolation
   experience.                       suicide prevention among        will put callers in touch with                                       focused primarily on the legal            to building a life together,              apply to later marriages for              are real estate, inheritances,
                                                                                                      has taken an emotional toll
                                     LGBTQ+ people, an area in       the Suicide & Crisis Hotline.                                        implications of the choices               couples can build wealth                  straight couples as well.)                businesses, pensions, and
                                                                                                      on people.
   Of the responders, 75 percent     which they haven’t been         The Biden administration                                             that are made. The question               together. Connecticut is an               Particularly where there are              other investments.
   said they had felt anxiety        active previously. She has      has invested more than $400                                          this month is what are the                “equitable distribution” state            blended families, you’ll want
                                                                                                      It's also essential for parents
   in the past year. Sixty-          experienced the loss and        million in expanding crisis                                          pros and cons of getting                  and an “all-property state,”              to speak to your accountant               One thing you will want to
                                                                                                      and caregivers to be mindful        married. Since the Obergerfell            which basically means that all            and lawyer about setting up
   one percent experienced           tragedy firsthand:              centers and other mental                                                                                                                                                                           do is preserve all records
                                                                                                      of why young people who             ruling in 2015 that requires              property is marital property,             trusts to ensure that assets
   symptoms of depression.                                           health systems to support                                                                                                                                                                          prior to and throughout
                                                                                                      wanted mental health                all states to issue marriage              unless there is a prenup                  are transferred consistent
   Eighty-two percent wanted         "I lost my daughter to          this effort. In Connecticut,                                                                                                                                                                       your marriage—whether it’s
                                                                                                      care didn’t get it. Their top       licenses to same-sex couples              (or postnup) agreement,                   with the parties’ wishes when
   mental health care related        suicide eight years ago, and    callers can also dial 211 to                                                                                                                                                                       investments, who paid for
                                                                                                      three reasons were a fear of        and recognize valid same-                 which, in most cases will be              one spouse dies or becomes
   to their identities, but 60       she was a member of the         be put in touch directly                                                                                                                                                                           what and so forth. Having
                                                                                                      discussing mental health            sex marriages from any                    honored by the courts. The                legally incapacitated. For
   percent of those were             LGBTQ+ community. So I          with a caseworker who can                                                                                                                                                                          a record of all of this will be
                                                                                                      concerns (48 percent), fear         jurisdiction, the question of             advantage is that couples                 instance, you may want to
   unable to get it. They also       really wanted to spearhead      help them. The American                                              whether or not to marry has               can make joint decisions                                                            very helpful, and perhaps
                                                                                                      of getting parental consent                                                                                             ensure your spouse is cared
   reported physical threats         something around                Foundation for Suicide                                               taken on new importance for               regarding work, childcare,                for throughout their life, but            determinative, if you are
                                                                                                      (45 percent), and fear of
   and intimidation related          prevention and awareness        Prevention (www.afsp.org)                                            couples, as what had been                 income, etc. with an added                on their death, remaining                 looking at dividing property.
                                                                                                      not being taken seriously
   to their identities and           for others, but certainly       has a range of services on                                           mere symbolic ceremonies                  level of security. There are              assets should be distributed
                                                                                                      (43 percent) Other issues
   gender expression at high         recognizing what were up        their site, including listings                                       had no legal standing.                    also tax advantages relating              to your own family members.               Once you get all of this
                                                                                                      included being outed, an
   rates—nearly 40 percent in        against in today's world.       for special services for                                             Now they do. Any couple                   to marriage and how income                All of this is feasible; however,         established, you can turn
                                                                                                      inability to afford care,
   some cases. Most tellingly,                                       LGBTQ+ people, seniors, and                                          considering marriage should               is combined, which can                    it takes time and attention to            your attention to issues such
                                                                                                      inability to access care, and
   more than 45 percent of all       “With the shutdown and the      veterans.                                                            plan carefully—and do the                 contribute to your long-term              set it up.                                as where are you going to
                                                                                                      fear of their identities being                                                financial planning. Always
   LGBTQ+ teens considered           pandemic, people’s lives have                                                                        hard work of looking at                                                                                                       spend Thanksgiving, or what
                                                                                                      misunderstood.                      their individual situations               consult a tax advisor as you              From a legal perspective,
   suicide in the past year, and     changed. Outside groups         Prevention, however, begins                                                                                                                                                                        kind of vacation do you want
                                                                                                                                          before tying the knot. No,                look into how these issues                the downside is that when                 to take, or setting healthy
   20 percent of transgender         that were able to support       on an interpersonal level.       Virtually all of these issues       these aren’t always easy                  apply to you.                             you have combined two                     boundaries around visiting
   and nonbinary young people        our LGBTQ+ youth have shut      Providing a supportive           could be resolved—or                conversations, but we have                                                          lives, a divorce, should that             with in-laws. All of that comes
   considered it. Moreover, rates    down, or were limited and       environment for LGBTQ+           certainly helped—by                 seen time and time again                  Marriage also makes it                    happen, makes things more                 with marriage as well.
   were higher among youth           may not even operate at all.”   youth, allowing them to          providing an open,                  (and with any contract to                                                           difficult to unwind. As noted,
                                                                                                                                                                                    easier to deal with the death
   of color in all categories.                                       communicate their concerns,      supportive and loving               be honest), doing one’s best                                                        Connecticut is an “equitable
                                                                                                                                                                                    of a spouse. For example,                                                           Finally, as we’ve said in other
   Significantly, the numbers        She adds that she didn’t        and seeking professional         environment for kids. Suicide       to anticipate what may lie                                                          distribution” state, with a
                                                                                                                                                                                    property-transfer taxes—                                                            columns, because people
   among LGBTQ+ youth                want people to be afraid or     treatment are all essential.     is a tragedy and in many, if        ahead and addressing any                                                            very broad division of what
                                                                                                                                                                                    estate and gift taxes—don’t                                                         change and grow over time,
   are significantly higher          nervous about talking about     Young people who have close      not most, cases, preventable.       potential issues generally                                                          constitutes property. Also,
                                                                                                                                                                                    apply when transferring your                                                        it’s important to revisit your
   than youth in any other           these issues and that it’s      personal relationships are       September is a good time            results in a happier outcome                                                        as an “all property” state, all
                                                                                                                                                                                    property to your spouse,                                                            agreements and adapt as
   demographic group, defined        important to educate people,    also at lower risk for suicide   to make ourselves aware of          for everyone. A few hours                                                           property may be divided,
                                                                                                                                                                                    although they do come                                                               situations change. Being
   by race and ethnicity.            particularly about warning      or self-harm. Though it hasn’t                                       spent in what is decidedly                                                          even if it is only in one
                                                                                                      what we can do—but we                                                         into play when property                                                             responsible to your legal
                                     signs, which in her case she    been studied scientifically,                                         an unromantic conversation,                                                         spouse’s name, or if it was
                                                                                                      need to be engaged all year.                                                  is transferred between                                                              and financial well-being is
   September is suicide              didn’t see.                     educators and psychologists                                          can free you up to experience                                                       owned prior to the marriage.
                                                                                                                                          romance more fully.                       unmarried couples. Plus,                  Some states, however, such                as important as any other
   prevention month, and it’s an                                     agree that the recent            You can access the entire                                                     there are government                      as New York, recognize                    element of your marriage.
   important time to be mindful      Mostly, she wants people        isolation necessitated by the    Trevor Project study online at      Certainly, there are all                  benefits that apply to married            separate property claims.
   of the need for care for both     to know that there is help      pandemic and interpersonal       www.thetrevorproject.org.           the social benefits of                    couples, including Social                 You’ll want to consult a                             —Tedd S. Levine, Esq.
   young people and everyone.        out there for people who        relationships conducted
   According to the CDC, all         are struggling, and the         often over Zoom have
                                                                                                                                          DISCLAIMER: The information provided in the column does not, and is not intended to, constitute legal advice, or be relied upon in any legal matter. Instead, all
   suicides in the U.S. increased    good news is that the Trevor    impeded the development                    —Christopher Byrne
                                                                                                                                          information in this article is for general information purposes only. You should always contact your lawyer for additional advice based on your individual situation.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               Photo by T. Charles Erickson

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                                                                                        Porn’s Not Going Anywhere.
                                                                                        Let’s Talk About It!

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   Parenting and Parentage

   B
                ecoming par-
                ents has special
                challenges for
                LGBTQ+ commu-
                nities. Yet, that
   doesn’t stop people from
   planning, starting or add-
   ing to their families, and it’s
   getting easier and clearer in
   Connecticut, thanks to the
   Connecticut Parentage Act,
   which went into effect in
   January of this year.

   While older members of the
   LGBTQ+ communities chose
   not to have children or raise       vides the egg and the other        Verrastro says, it’s essential    knowledged from birth, they
   families, a 2019 study by Fam-      carries the child so there will    for people who are consider-      achieve a level of equality and
   ily Equality found that 63 per-     be a biological connection to      ing becoming parents to be        legitimacy as parents that
   cent of LGBTQ+ millennials          both parents.                      informed about the act and        cannot be questioned. This
   ages 18-35 planned to start or                                         its benefits.                     can be essential for practical
   expanded a family in the next       Whatever method people                                               matters as medical decisions,
   few years. Of those, 63 per-        select, Verrastro is eager for     “The beauty of the act,” he       insurance, inheritance, and
   cent plan to use assisted re-       everyone to understand the         says, “is that when the child     preserving parental rights
   productive care, fostering, or      ramifications of the Parent-       is born in the hospital, the      should a couple ultimately
   adoption, compared to older         age Act and how it serves          parents or parents are able       separate. The intangible
   people for whom the major-          LGBTQ+ communities. He             to complete an ‘Acknowl-          benefit is that the family is
   ity of children were conceived      says, “Connecticut has always      edgement of Parenthood.’ It       recognized by the state as
   through intercourse.                been LGBTQ+ friendly, even         has removed gender as an          equal to traditional, hetero-
                                       if it hasn’t meant to be. In the   assumption as to who is the       sexual couples.
   Helping families, whether or        early 90s, we were the first       parent of the child, and it
   not they identify as LGBTQ+,        to recognize sperm donation        has removed the number of         Since it only went into ef-
   has been the mission of the         as a legitimate way to build       parents.                          fect this year, Verrastro says
   Center for Advanced Repro-          a family. In the early 2000s,                                        that they are still educating
   ductive Services, based in          we were also the first to pass     “In the past, it was automati-    people about the parent-
   Farmington with offices in          legislation to recognize the       cally assumed that all kids       age act and what it means.
   Hartford, New London and            gestational carrier, another       had two parents and that          Verrastro himself identifies
   Branford. Established in 1983,      word for surrogate.”               they were a mom and a dad.        as a member of the LGBTQ+
   the Center has been respon-
   sible for just over 17,000 live
                                                                          Now, at the time the child is
                                                                          born—prior to completing
                                                                                                            community, and the Center
                                                                                                            is currently undergoing the
                                                                                                                                                               Primary Care     LGBTQ+ Health
   births, according to CEO Paul
   Verrastro. Of those, approxi-
                                                                          the birth certificate—they
                                                                          can choose the parent.”
                                                                                                            accredidation process for
                                                                                                            the Healthy Equality Index,
                                                                                                                                                             Diagnostic Appts   PrEP/HIV Care
   mately 2,000 have been to
   LGBTQ+ individuals, though
                                                                          Verrastro notes that this form
                                                                          has streamlined the process
                                                                                                            which Verrastro describes as
                                                                                                            a seal of approval for policies,                     Physicals        Trans Care
   he adds that the Center has
   only been tracking LGBTQ+
                                                                          of parenthood significantly.
                                                                          The Acknowledgement of
                                                                                                            training, use of preferred pro-
                                                                                                            nouns, new names, genders,                         Vaccinations          HRT
   parents as a separate group                                            Parenthood is a legally bind-     and new genders. All of these
   for the last decade.                                                   ing form. Previously, the pro-    are established practices of                      Sexual Health     Mental Health
                                                                          spective parents would have       the Center.
   The Center serves many                                                 to go to the courts to obtain a
   LGBTQ+ people, he says:                                                pre-birth order, and allow the    Verrastro says the door is
   “Single people, gay male                                               child to be born. At that time,   always open for prospective                       618 West Avenue
   couples, lesbians, and trans-                                          the woman delivering the          parents seeking advice.
   gender people at various
   points in their transition.”        Paul Verrastro
                                                                          child would be the parent on
                                                                          the birth certificate, and the
                                                                                                            The Center’s website
                                                                                                            (www.uconnfertility.com)                            Norwalk, CT
   They offer in-vitro fertilization                                      other parent would have to        also includes a dedicated
   (the only option for men) or                                           do a post-birth adoption.         section with comprehensive                   Monday - Friday 9 AM - 5 PM
   intrauterine insemination,          These moves were mainly                                              information for LGBTQ+
   and option for lesbian and          designed to support het-           Over and above the legal ad-      individuals exploring
                                       eronormative parenting,
                                                                                                                                               Request an Appointment on CircleCareCenter.org
   trans people. He adds that                                             vantages, there are emotion-      building their families.
   most lesbian use reciprocal         but they benefitted LGBTQ+         al benefits as well. Because
   IVF where one partner pro-          people as well. To that end,       parents can be legally ac-                  —Christopher Byrne
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