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VOICE NEWS / CULTURE / HEALTH / COMMUNITY / TRAVEL / FASHION / FOOD / YOUTH / HISTORY / FEATURES AUTUMN 2022 CO NN EC TI CU T TM INSIDE: 2022 HONOREES: Dayne Bachmann, CT Gay & Lesbian Chamber of Commerce, U.S. Representative Rosa DeLauro, Julia Gordon, Kamora Harrington, Middlesex Health, Jacob G. Padrón, Proud Academy, Southern Connecticut State University, Stanley Black & Decker, Inc., and Jackie Thurston
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™ EDITOR’S NOTE // Welcome fall! Visit us online at www.ctvoice.com As I complete my first year working here with Follow us on Twitter Connecticut Voice, I am consistently amazed @ctvoicemag by the people of our state. It is an honor and humbling to see how many people work so Like us on Facebook tirelessly and dedicate themselves so completely facebook.com/CT-Voice to ensuring better quality of life for all LGBTQ+ communities in our state. From our Governor to members of the LGBTQ+ caucus in Hartford to our representatives in Congress, to community, Connecticut VOICE™ faith, and health leaders, Connecticut continues is published by Seasons Media to be a model for the nation. Publisher /Owner James Tully In these pages this month, you’ll meet just a few of the people who have given themselves Editor Christopher Byrne so generously to our communities. The first Connecticut Voice Honors program celebrates the individuals and organizations that have made diversity, inclusion, Creative Director and acceptance hallmarks of their efforts. The people who appear in these pages— Stacy Murray and who have appeared here in the past—are the beacons of hope. Our goal to Sales & Marketing Executive amplify their voices to stress that they are motivated first by love—of civil rights, of Doreen Chudoba humankind and of individuals—and to demonstrate that love always wins. It isn’t Sales & Marketing Executive always easy, and recent developments and rolling back of established rights are Paul Whitman a major cause of concern. To paraphrase Angels in America, the great work was begun a long time ago, and the people keeping that going deserve our respect and support every day. We also celebrate life in Connecticut in this issue. Jane Latus has compiled a list of non-profits in the state serving our LGBTQ+ communities. If you’re looking to get out Experience Connecticut's Premiere Boutique Resort Destination for an autumn adventure, check out the list of orchards compiled by Amy S. White. Brian Lipton gets us in the mood for fall fashion, and Dawn Ennis looks at student life for LGBTQ+ communities in our colleges. Plus, there’s much more here and online at ctvoice.com. It has been a remarkable ™ privilege to meet and talk with so many dedicated and inspiring people over the past Uniquely situated where the Connecticut River meets the Long Island Sound, Saybrook Point Resort & Marina year, and I look forward to much more in the seasons ahead. is a year-round boutique resort in Old Saybrook, Connecticut providing personalized service in a spectacular Personally, fall is my favorite season in Connecticut, and I hope you enjoy it as much as I will! setting. Relax in our luxurious overnight accomodations, dine at our award-winning restaurant and lounge in our full service spa. Located two hours from Boston & New York, learn more at Saybrook.com. Chris To advertise in Connecticut VOICE contact Doreen Chudoba doreen@seasonsmagazines.com Christopher Byrne, Editor chris@ctvoice.com Paul Whitman paul@ctvoice.com @SAYBROOKPOINTRESORT 4 CT VOICE | AUTUMN 2022 2 Bridge Street, Old Saybrook, CT 06475 | SAYBROOK.COM| 860.395.2000
IN THIS ISSUE // 54 COVER STORY We unveil the first Connecticut Voice Honors recipients...amazing people making a difference to LGBTQ+ communities around the state. Actor Pun Bandhu 8 34 50 CONTRIBUTORS ENTERTAINMENT HEATH & Meet the writers behind the Out, Asian actor Pun Bandhu stories in this issue. (picture above) and his mission WELLNESS How Middlesex Health supports to see representation of Asian- transgender individuals and their Americans on stage. 10-22 commitment to providing the best care available. WHAT’S THE BUZZ 44 Goodspeed's commitment to diversity, important information FEATURE 79 about the Parentage Act, coach Nonprofit organizations serving and personality, Amit Mehta, LGBTQ+ communities in THE LAST WORD McMiller Fun, a queer-owned and more. Connecticut...and how you can company, commits to making get involved. toys and games that are 24 inclusive...and fun. FASHION Leather is big this fall. Check out our great selection of styles for 68 everyone. DELICIOUS Orchards around the 30 state waiting for your visit. EDUCATION What life's like for LGBTQ+ students on CT campuses. What's good, and where we still need to go. GLASTONBURY MOHEGAN SUN WEST HARTFORD WESTPORT WELLESELY 6 CT VOICE | AUTUMN 2022
CONTRIBUTORS // FRANK RIZZO BRIAN SCOTT DAWN ENNIS KIM ADAMSKI Frank Rizzo caught up LIPTON Dawn Ennis profiled Kim Adamski begins with actor Alex Ringler Brian Scott Lipton talked professional coach a column on sexual (page 10) and profiled with Goodspeed about Amit Mehta (page 12) health with this issue. actor and activist Pan their commitment to and dug into LGBTQ+ She is a sex educator in Bandhu (page 34). He inlcusion (page 14) and campus life (page 30). Hartford, Connecticut. has written about the looks at leather fashion She is an award-winning She currently works arts in Connecticut (page 24). He has been journalist, a professor at at the Hartford Gay and nationally for more a nationally renowned University of Hartford, and Lesbian Health than 40 years; for the journalist for over 30 and writes for several Collective. Kim The New York Times, years. He has been Editor news outlets. Ennis loves answering the American Theatre in Chief of TheaterMania. was America’s first questions people are Magazine and dozens com and Resident transgender journalist in afraid to ask, and that’s of other outlets. He is Publications, Managing a TV network newsroom what motivated her to also a theater critic for Editor of men’s fashion when she came out go into sex education. Variety. Follow Frank’s magazines DNR and nine years ago. Follow If you have questions work at ShowRiz.com MR, and his byline has her @lifeafterdawn on about sex, contact her and on Twitter appeared in Forbes and Twitter, Facebook and at adamski.kimberly@ @ShowRiz. The Wall Street Journal. Instagram. Ennis and gmail.com. her family reside in West Hartford, Connecticut. AMY S. WHITE JANE LATUS MICHELLE CUTRALI TEDD LEVINE Amy S. White lives, teaches, cooks, eats, and writes in Eastern Jane Latus covers health and politics. She profiles nonprofits Michelle Cutrali has been an Financial Advisor for more than Tedd brings more than 40 years’ experience as an attorney and “MY BOUNTY IS AS BOUNDLESS AS THE SEA, Connecticut. She peeled back the serving LGBTQ+ communities (page 44) 20 years and has earned a Certification CPA to the discussion of matrimonial and MY LOVE AS DEEP; THE MORE I GIVE TO THEE, inside information on Connecticut’s orchards and contributed to the CT Honors program, in Long-Term Care Planning. Her business, relationship law. His insights on protecting THE MORE I HAVE, FOR BOTH ARE INFINITE.” (page 68) and created as well as covering Cutrali Insurance and assets in a relationship three savory and sweet Middlesex Health's Financial Services, is (Page 14), are based —Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet recipes for apples for support for transgender geared towards helping on many successful the fall. You can find out individuals. (Page 56). LGBTQ+ folks with cases. In addition, he more about her at her She is a writer and investments, insurance has worked in business, website: amyswhite.com personal trainer living and retirement finance, corporate, in Canton. She and her planning. Her specialty and licensing law. He husband Ken have an in long-term care & life is on the Connecticut escalating number of insurance helps to Bar and admitted to cats and two grown shed more color on practice before the sons, one transgender subjects that our Supreme Court. and one gay. community needs to start planning for. 8 CT VOICE | AUTUMN 2022 CT VOICE | AUTUMN 2022 9
WHAT’S THE BU ZZ ? Actor Alex Ringler Is a Fashion Target A lex Ringler never community, Ringler created a unconventional material on Lord Targét that stood out on says he hasn’t a witty web series, Annoyingly the many RuPaul’s Drag ship and shore. thing to wear. Fit Neighbor, in which he Race episodes, Ringer looked played both himself and at a pile of shopping bags “People were pretty The Broadway and an insufferably sweet and from Target he had collected flabbergasted when they television actor-dancer- buff neighbor that drives and thought: “Fabulous.” figured out it was made of choreographer knows what him mad. The collected Target shopping bags,” says a creative imagination and Ringler. It was a fun day on a heightened gay sensibility the party island, but he didn’t can do when one needs an expect the wave of “likes,” outfit for a special occasion comments and shares when that will land a bullseye. he posted his bag-drag pics and clips on his social media. Ringler’s latest occasion was Fire Island’s annual Has Target contacted him Fourth of July “Invasion of yet, perhaps for its holiday the Pines” celebration where marketing campaign? a ferry boatload of drag queens dressed in their most “Well, kind of,” says the spectacular outfits from the New York-based actor. relatively sedate community “Just this morning on my of Cherry Grove arrives at Facebook page I received a the neighboring chi-chi communication from them gay enclave where they are on the transformation video welcomed by throngs in I just posted, saying they’d thongs. For more on this, like to use this so I’m going search online for the short through some channels now film Invasion of the Pines. to see if it can be like a paid promotion for Target. I’m This is not the first time sure it would get a lot of hits the tall, tanned and svelte for them, plus following Pride actor has slipped into month, it shows they support stilettos, having appeared the LGBTQ community all in several productions of La year round. It’s good for Cage Aux Folles (one at the Alex Ringler them and good for me. But Goodspeed Opera House in the reason I originally did East Haddam), Pageant, and five-minute episodes were The distinctive red-and-white it was that it wasn’t about the national tour of Priscilla, featured at film festivals bulls-eye plastic bags were money. It was just about Queens of the Desert. In this year. graphically bold, but did he having fun.” his most elegant drag, he’s have enough for an elegant a ringer for Patrick Swayze Ringler can also be seen in summer gown he envisioned Still, one could imagine in To Wong Foo, Thanks for the upcoming film Bros, for his six-foot frame? a holiday commercial Everything, Julie Newmar. starring Billy Eichner and campaign. His lean, taut body has also Luke Macfarlane which is A few friends contributed been on playful display in being marketed as the first their Target bags and soon “There could be a ‘60s mod eight of the annual strip- gay rom-com from a major Ringer has enough for a ready-to-wear bag dress a-thons, Broadway Bares, studio with an entirely Met-gala-worthy gown for that they could sell,” he says which benefits Broadway LGBTQ+ cast. himself—and a matching laughing. “I could even make Cares/Equity Fights AIDS. Targeted harness and a little wrap to go with it.” For this past Fire Island jockstrap for his boyfriend But Ringler is much more Invasion, it was Ringer’s first Philip which was made up of Perhaps could Lady Target than drag. He performed time dressing up drag in woven bag handles. be the next spokesperson for on Broadway in West Side a while. But what to wear the brand? Story, toured in Cats and A when you don’t have a glam With glue gun in hand, and Chorus Line, and returned budget…or any budget for a few extra safety pins for “Maybe I could even be the to Goodspeed to play a that matter? good measure and security, next Flo!” (The character Claybourne Elder bullwhip-cracking cowboy Ringer crafted the plastic in ads for Progressive starring in the hit in Oklahoma! Though the Inspired by the way bags (made up of 40 per- Insurance.) Broadway revival of pandemic curtailed work contestants fashion cent recycled content) into Company. Photo by for the entertainment extravagant outfits from a winning look for Lady and —Frank Rizzo Ahmed Klink 10 CT VOICE | AUTUMN 2022 CT VOICE | AUTUMN 2022 11
WHAT’S THE BU ZZ ? Amita Mehta Is Living Out Loud THIS PROUD LESBIAN LIFE COACH PROVES ANYTHING’S POSSIBLE, BY EXAMPLE “There's so many dimensions Those attending the lun- career spanning more than and intersectionality to my cheon gave Mehta a rousing two decades as an executive journey and my story,” says standing ovation when she in financial services: Her love career and leadership coach finished, but it’s what hap- of sports. Amita Mehta, and so there are pened next that sticks with many words one could use to her all these months later. “I have three brothers,” who describe her: Only daughter forced me to play sports so to conservative parents, wom- “What I found interesting was they could compete 2-on-2, an, lesbian, refugee, Indian, having people come up to me says Mehta. And before long, Amish, business strategist afterwards, after the event, she started to excel at sports. and CEO. Mehta’s seen and to say, ‘Oh my gosh, I'm an done it all, from Wall Street to immigrant,’ or ‘I'm a refugee,’ “That gave me a bit of an our streets. or ‘I know what it feels like to edge relating to men, par- have an ally.’ And so, for me, it ticularly in the workplace. “Connecticut is like a secret was just an amazing experi- I learned how to play golf,” gem,” Mehta told CT Voice in ence to not only lean into who she says. As the only under- a recent Zoom conversation. I am as a woman, a lesbian, represented minority working “I often traveled there and got but to be able to share the in a commercial lending to work with some amazing fact that I do enjoy leaning department otherwise filled people.” Her Connecticut con- into my culture, my history, with white males, she learned nections led to her landing an and my past.” not just how to play, but how opportunity earlier this year, business gets done. to speak at the YWCA New Mehta’s family enjoyed an Britain’s Biennial Women affluent life in Uganda, until Mehta says that insight in Leadership Luncheon. CT 1972, when former military helped her move up at major Voice was a proud sponsor of ruler Idi Amin expelled them, companies, including J.P. the event, which drew hun- along with 50,000 other Morgan Chase and Pruden- dreds of people to the Aqua Asians, accusing them of tial Financial. In her almost Turf in Plantsville on May 12. that I never thought I had "milking Uganda's money.” 25 years in financial services, inside me.” she developed a reputation That day, Mehta delivered a “We landed here as refugees as a trailblazer and trusted powerful keynote address, “Are you sick?” he asked. with no money, and we had advisor to C-Suite executives. including the story of how she to rely on the Head Start In 2018, she launched her came out to her parents dur- “I'm a lesbian,” Mehta told program for at-risk youth, to own consulting practice as a ing a tour of Lower Manhat- her father. His response rely on the government for business strategist and career tan. First, she told her mother, left her speechless: “Well, assistance to get back on our architect. Her company is who made her promise not Dick Cheney's daughter is a feet,” says Mehta, who was AMP, which stands for Amita to tell her father. “That, to me, lesbian. And you know, she's just a child at the time. Mehta Possible. Say that out was just heart wrenching to pregnant with her partner. loud and you’ll hear yourself hear,” she says. But not as They're having a baby.” Her parents raised Mehta and her brothers in Amish deliver her clever tag line, difficult as the next words her “Amita Made It Possible.” mother said, when her dad country, where the first work “He asked, ‘Are you happy?’ asked them, “What do we they could find was gluing And I said, ‘Yes.’ And that's She says her expertise in want to do next?” soles on shoes. Mehta says when he said, ‘Look, you're diversity, equity and inclusion she struggled to discover her still our daughter. We love helps companies distinguish Her mom says, “Tell him!” identity as an American. you.’” themselves from their com- “Tell me what?” says her dad. petition, build sustainable “I just wanted to be the all- “In that moment, I was feeling But her mother had the last bottom-line results, increase American kid, so I would hide this sense of terror and fear word, telling Mehta: “If you their return on investment my culture or hide who I was,” that I was saying goodbye get divorced or if you break and positively impact the she says, a response to the to my parents,” Mehta said. up, you're marrying an Indian obstacles in her way tied to communities they serve. “And also, I felt this sense of man!” Unfortunately, that her gender and her ethnic- relief and release that I was relationship did end in di- ity. “I just felt like there were As CEO of AMP, Mehta helps actually going to be living vorce, but she says she’s now always these roadblocks that I others to find their silver my truth here. And so, I'm very happily partnered with would face.” linings: “Having hope and a convulsing, I'm crying. It's another woman. “I like to call sense of humor has served echoing throughout the us ‘The HinJews. She’s Jewish, To overcome those, she me well.” Winter Garden and everybody I’m Hindu, and now we’re the turned a childhood pastime scatters. I was making noises HinJews!” into a skill that propelled her —Dawn Ennis 12 CT VOICE | AUTUMN 2022
WHAT’S THE BU ZZ ? GOODSPEED Eldercare begins MUSICALS in your home! Good for Goodspeed sit in the audience. Seeing knew there are people who younger folks come to into know the show and would theater, many for the first want to see it again, and time, is really great, and we knew there would be JUSTIN MICHAUD, DIRECTOR we try to encourage that people coming to Goodspeed through our programming. Our goal at M.R. Home Care is to keep you in for first time because they your home for as long as possible. Our staff is And as we navigate through wanted to see this particular knowledgeable and up-to-date with LGBTQ+ home this pandemic, I hope we show. In fact, 20 percent of can do more events for the care needs. We believe you deserve to always be in the audiences at Cabaret LGBTQ+ audience, like special a safe, clean and functional environment. nights out. were newcomers. It would be deadly for us to only cater to We’ve been providing quality care in Connecticut CV: Can you talk about one group of people. for over 30 years. Call today to learn about which what decisions go into home care options will work for you! programming a season? CV: Tell me about how CALL JUSTIN MICHAUD: 860-583-1541 DB: It is a long, thoughtful Christmas in Connecticut process, with the goal of came about and how you creating a well-rounded think audiences will react S season artistically. We work to it? far in advance; we often DB: People are already ince it opened its the CT artistic community? think two or three seasons responding to it! The creators doors in 1963 on DB: We see ourselves as ahead, but our plans often the banks of the Connecticut River a leader of this artistic community by always serving shift at the last minute. Sometimes, we take on a had been working on the show and reached out to SEPT 16–NOV 6 For everyone under the rainbow. in East Haddam, our mission of presenting us, so Donna Lynn Hilton, musical we really want to Goodspeed Musicals has the highest quality musicals, our artistic director, and I revisit, and sometimes a been a theatrical mecca whether they be revivals— attended a reading in New great project comes to us, for Connecticut residents or what I call “revisals”—or York City. We found it to be and theatergoers from the unsolicited. We have even whether we are fostering incredibly charming, funny, Northeast and beyond. started commissioning new new work and new talent. In work—and, believe me, it can and a natural fit for our Their commitment to addition, part of our role as nurturing and presenting take a long time to create a fourth slot this season, which an artistic leader is to serve new musicals, along with show from the ground up. It’s hadn’t been filled. Believe it all the community; we need carefully thought-out revivals always about what stories do or not, I didn’t know the film to represent a plurality of of classic shows—both at the voices on and off the stage. we want to tell, while needing when I went to the reading. magnificent Opera House In every way possible, we to serve both our subscribers However, not long after that, and the charming Norma want Goodspeed to be as and the community at large. my husband Jeff and I got on Terris Theatre in neighboring open and affirming a place And it’s also about reminding a plane to visit some family, Chester—has earned as it possibly can be. We ourselves that sometimes and it was available, which Goodspeed two special Tony want it to be a space where the biggest risk turns out to be the biggest success. was the first time I watched Awards, along with the loyal everyone can be authentically Remember, many years ago, it. I think the show is a great patronage of subscribers and who they are. That means, that show about a little red- musical comedy and will first-time visitors alike. for example, we have those Connecticut Voice recently headed girl (Annie) was just be a fun and cheery way conversations about which spoke with David R. Byrd, a pronouns people use, some new show we put on. for everyone to spend the Connecticut arts veteran who which some people don’t holidays. was appointed the theater’s understand. CV: Can you talk more about managing director in 2021, balancing your subscription about Goodspeed’s mission, CV: Tell me what Goodspeed base with attracting new its commitment to LGBTQ+ specifically does to interact audiences? Christmas in Connecticut patrons, and its innovative with all members of the DB: Naturally, a lot of our runs from November 18 to programming, which local population, as well as programming has to do with December 30 at Goodspeed includes the upcoming world any special efforts to attract keeping our subscribers Opera House, 6 Main Street, premiere musical Christmas in Connecticut, based on the LBTGQ+ visitors? DB: It’s also important that happy. We have patrons who have been around for almost East Haddam, CT 06423 Ticket prices range from $30- NOV 18–DEC 30 1945 film starring Barbara our audiences don’t see all our 60 years, and they take Stanwyck, debuting in coming to the theater as a pride in their long tenure. But $76, and can be purchased November. barrier. People need to feel we still need to attract new at goodspeed.org. or by calling 860-873-8668. The Goodspeed •East Haddam, CT comfortable here; we try people to grow and diversify. CV: What do you think is Goodspeed’s primary role in to make it clear you don’t need to wear a bowtie to It’s one reason we produced Cabaret, earlier this year; we —Brian Scott Lipton Photo by T. Charles Erickson goodspeed.org 14 CT VOICE | AUTUMN 2022 860.873.8668 CT VOICE | AUTUMN 2022 15
WHAT’S THE BU ZZ ? WHAT’S THE BU ZZ ? Taking Steps to Prevent Tying the Knot? Youth Suicide Tie Down the Legal Issues D G ata shows LGBTQ+ more than 30 percent Project study also etting married? marriage, which can include Security, and unpaid leave to teens are at great- between 2000 and 2020. found that the risk of Living together? emotional security, a public care for family members. er risk of suicide suicide or other self- Together apart? commitment to another in the past three Jennifer A. Rumboldt, vice harm among LGBTQ+ (An established person, the support of Because marriage has years, and the risk keeps president regional operations youth in supportive practice in family and friends, a stable only been available on a growing. This is according to officer for Worcester and environments— The Netherlands where environment for children, widespread basis throughout a new study from The Trevor Northwestern MA for TD whether at school, people are in committed and, in some cases, a political the U.S. to same-sex couples Project published earlier relationships but don’t statement. Many of these for just over seven years, Bank, is a strong advocate home, or work—was cohabitate.) Each of the can be established without many couples who choose to Attorney Ted Levine this year. The survey tracked for attention—and seeking significantly reduced. choices we make in our a legal marriage, as well, but marry have had established responses from nearly 35 care. She heads up the of strong, sustaining relationships has personal, for many they are important lives before saying “I do.” thousand young people ages LGBTQ+ group at the And there are many places financial, and legal reasons to get married. friendships, which are critical There may be previous 13-24 in the U.S, deemed eli- bank for the region, and to get help. In July, the FCC implications. marriages, children, and lawyer who specializes in this to mental health. The same gible by the researchers and notes that they are paying began a new mental health From practical and legal a host of other concerns field, but among the assets holds true for the work were unique to the LGBTQ+ particular attention to hotline. Simply dialing 988 In these columns, we have perspectives, in addition or issues. (Some of these that will have to be divided environment where isolation experience. suicide prevention among will put callers in touch with focused primarily on the legal to building a life together, apply to later marriages for are real estate, inheritances, has taken an emotional toll LGBTQ+ people, an area in the Suicide & Crisis Hotline. implications of the choices couples can build wealth straight couples as well.) businesses, pensions, and on people. Of the responders, 75 percent which they haven’t been The Biden administration that are made. The question together. Connecticut is an Particularly where there are other investments. said they had felt anxiety active previously. She has has invested more than $400 this month is what are the “equitable distribution” state blended families, you’ll want It's also essential for parents in the past year. Sixty- experienced the loss and million in expanding crisis pros and cons of getting and an “all-property state,” to speak to your accountant One thing you will want to and caregivers to be mindful married. Since the Obergerfell which basically means that all and lawyer about setting up one percent experienced tragedy firsthand: centers and other mental do is preserve all records of why young people who ruling in 2015 that requires property is marital property, trusts to ensure that assets symptoms of depression. health systems to support prior to and throughout wanted mental health all states to issue marriage unless there is a prenup are transferred consistent Eighty-two percent wanted "I lost my daughter to this effort. In Connecticut, your marriage—whether it’s care didn’t get it. Their top licenses to same-sex couples (or postnup) agreement, with the parties’ wishes when mental health care related suicide eight years ago, and callers can also dial 211 to investments, who paid for three reasons were a fear of and recognize valid same- which, in most cases will be one spouse dies or becomes to their identities, but 60 she was a member of the be put in touch directly what and so forth. Having discussing mental health sex marriages from any honored by the courts. The legally incapacitated. For percent of those were LGBTQ+ community. So I with a caseworker who can a record of all of this will be concerns (48 percent), fear jurisdiction, the question of advantage is that couples instance, you may want to unable to get it. They also really wanted to spearhead help them. The American whether or not to marry has can make joint decisions very helpful, and perhaps of getting parental consent ensure your spouse is cared reported physical threats something around Foundation for Suicide taken on new importance for regarding work, childcare, for throughout their life, but determinative, if you are (45 percent), and fear of and intimidation related prevention and awareness Prevention (www.afsp.org) couples, as what had been income, etc. with an added on their death, remaining looking at dividing property. not being taken seriously to their identities and for others, but certainly has a range of services on mere symbolic ceremonies level of security. There are assets should be distributed (43 percent) Other issues gender expression at high recognizing what were up their site, including listings had no legal standing. also tax advantages relating to your own family members. Once you get all of this included being outed, an rates—nearly 40 percent in against in today's world. for special services for Now they do. Any couple to marriage and how income All of this is feasible; however, established, you can turn inability to afford care, some cases. Most tellingly, LGBTQ+ people, seniors, and considering marriage should is combined, which can it takes time and attention to your attention to issues such inability to access care, and more than 45 percent of all “With the shutdown and the veterans. plan carefully—and do the contribute to your long-term set it up. as where are you going to fear of their identities being financial planning. Always LGBTQ+ teens considered pandemic, people’s lives have hard work of looking at spend Thanksgiving, or what misunderstood. their individual situations consult a tax advisor as you From a legal perspective, suicide in the past year, and changed. Outside groups Prevention, however, begins kind of vacation do you want before tying the knot. No, look into how these issues the downside is that when to take, or setting healthy 20 percent of transgender that were able to support on an interpersonal level. Virtually all of these issues these aren’t always easy apply to you. you have combined two boundaries around visiting and nonbinary young people our LGBTQ+ youth have shut Providing a supportive could be resolved—or conversations, but we have lives, a divorce, should that with in-laws. All of that comes considered it. Moreover, rates down, or were limited and environment for LGBTQ+ certainly helped—by seen time and time again Marriage also makes it happen, makes things more with marriage as well. were higher among youth may not even operate at all.” youth, allowing them to providing an open, (and with any contract to difficult to unwind. As noted, easier to deal with the death of color in all categories. communicate their concerns, supportive and loving be honest), doing one’s best Connecticut is an “equitable of a spouse. For example, Finally, as we’ve said in other Significantly, the numbers She adds that she didn’t and seeking professional environment for kids. Suicide to anticipate what may lie distribution” state, with a property-transfer taxes— columns, because people among LGBTQ+ youth want people to be afraid or treatment are all essential. is a tragedy and in many, if ahead and addressing any very broad division of what estate and gift taxes—don’t change and grow over time, are significantly higher nervous about talking about Young people who have close not most, cases, preventable. potential issues generally constitutes property. Also, apply when transferring your it’s important to revisit your than youth in any other these issues and that it’s personal relationships are September is a good time results in a happier outcome as an “all property” state, all property to your spouse, agreements and adapt as demographic group, defined important to educate people, also at lower risk for suicide to make ourselves aware of for everyone. A few hours property may be divided, although they do come situations change. Being by race and ethnicity. particularly about warning or self-harm. Though it hasn’t spent in what is decidedly even if it is only in one what we can do—but we into play when property responsible to your legal signs, which in her case she been studied scientifically, an unromantic conversation, spouse’s name, or if it was need to be engaged all year. is transferred between and financial well-being is September is suicide didn’t see. educators and psychologists can free you up to experience owned prior to the marriage. romance more fully. unmarried couples. Plus, Some states, however, such as important as any other prevention month, and it’s an agree that the recent You can access the entire there are government as New York, recognize element of your marriage. important time to be mindful Mostly, she wants people isolation necessitated by the Trevor Project study online at Certainly, there are all benefits that apply to married separate property claims. of the need for care for both to know that there is help pandemic and interpersonal www.thetrevorproject.org. the social benefits of couples, including Social You’ll want to consult a —Tedd S. Levine, Esq. young people and everyone. out there for people who relationships conducted According to the CDC, all are struggling, and the often over Zoom have DISCLAIMER: The information provided in the column does not, and is not intended to, constitute legal advice, or be relied upon in any legal matter. Instead, all suicides in the U.S. increased good news is that the Trevor impeded the development —Christopher Byrne information in this article is for general information purposes only. You should always contact your lawyer for additional advice based on your individual situation. Photo by T. Charles Erickson 16 CT VOICE | AUTUMN 2022 CT VOICE | AUTUMN 2022 17
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WHAT’S THE BU ZZ ? Parenting and Parentage B ecoming par- ents has special challenges for LGBTQ+ commu- nities. Yet, that doesn’t stop people from planning, starting or add- ing to their families, and it’s getting easier and clearer in Connecticut, thanks to the Connecticut Parentage Act, which went into effect in January of this year. While older members of the LGBTQ+ communities chose not to have children or raise vides the egg and the other Verrastro says, it’s essential knowledged from birth, they families, a 2019 study by Fam- carries the child so there will for people who are consider- achieve a level of equality and ily Equality found that 63 per- be a biological connection to ing becoming parents to be legitimacy as parents that cent of LGBTQ+ millennials both parents. informed about the act and cannot be questioned. This ages 18-35 planned to start or its benefits. can be essential for practical expanded a family in the next Whatever method people matters as medical decisions, few years. Of those, 63 per- select, Verrastro is eager for “The beauty of the act,” he insurance, inheritance, and cent plan to use assisted re- everyone to understand the says, “is that when the child preserving parental rights productive care, fostering, or ramifications of the Parent- is born in the hospital, the should a couple ultimately adoption, compared to older age Act and how it serves parents or parents are able separate. The intangible people for whom the major- LGBTQ+ communities. He to complete an ‘Acknowl- benefit is that the family is ity of children were conceived says, “Connecticut has always edgement of Parenthood.’ It recognized by the state as through intercourse. been LGBTQ+ friendly, even has removed gender as an equal to traditional, hetero- if it hasn’t meant to be. In the assumption as to who is the sexual couples. Helping families, whether or early 90s, we were the first parent of the child, and it not they identify as LGBTQ+, to recognize sperm donation has removed the number of Since it only went into ef- has been the mission of the as a legitimate way to build parents. fect this year, Verrastro says Center for Advanced Repro- a family. In the early 2000s, that they are still educating ductive Services, based in we were also the first to pass “In the past, it was automati- people about the parent- Farmington with offices in legislation to recognize the cally assumed that all kids age act and what it means. Hartford, New London and gestational carrier, another had two parents and that Verrastro himself identifies Branford. Established in 1983, word for surrogate.” they were a mom and a dad. as a member of the LGBTQ+ the Center has been respon- sible for just over 17,000 live Now, at the time the child is born—prior to completing community, and the Center is currently undergoing the Primary Care LGBTQ+ Health births, according to CEO Paul Verrastro. Of those, approxi- the birth certificate—they can choose the parent.” accredidation process for the Healthy Equality Index, Diagnostic Appts PrEP/HIV Care mately 2,000 have been to LGBTQ+ individuals, though Verrastro notes that this form has streamlined the process which Verrastro describes as a seal of approval for policies, Physicals Trans Care he adds that the Center has only been tracking LGBTQ+ of parenthood significantly. The Acknowledgement of training, use of preferred pro- nouns, new names, genders, Vaccinations HRT parents as a separate group Parenthood is a legally bind- and new genders. All of these for the last decade. ing form. Previously, the pro- are established practices of Sexual Health Mental Health spective parents would have the Center. The Center serves many to go to the courts to obtain a LGBTQ+ people, he says: pre-birth order, and allow the Verrastro says the door is “Single people, gay male child to be born. At that time, always open for prospective 618 West Avenue couples, lesbians, and trans- the woman delivering the parents seeking advice. gender people at various points in their transition.” Paul Verrastro child would be the parent on the birth certificate, and the The Center’s website (www.uconnfertility.com) Norwalk, CT They offer in-vitro fertilization other parent would have to also includes a dedicated (the only option for men) or do a post-birth adoption. section with comprehensive Monday - Friday 9 AM - 5 PM intrauterine insemination, These moves were mainly information for LGBTQ+ and option for lesbian and designed to support het- Over and above the legal ad- individuals exploring eronormative parenting, Request an Appointment on CircleCareCenter.org trans people. He adds that vantages, there are emotion- building their families. most lesbian use reciprocal but they benefitted LGBTQ+ al benefits as well. Because IVF where one partner pro- people as well. To that end, parents can be legally ac- —Christopher Byrne or call 203-852-9525 20 CT VOICE | AUTUMN 2022
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