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2 Greek American Weddings THE NATIONAL HERALD, FEBRUARY 10, 2018 The National Herald A weekly publication of the NATIONAL HERALD, INC. (ΕΘΝΙΚΟΣ ΚΗΡΥΞ), reporting the news and addressing the issues of paramount interest to the Greek American community of the United States of America. Publisher-Editor Antonis H. Diamataris Assistant to Publisher, Advertising Veta H. Diamataris Papadopoulos Special Section Editor Eleni Sakellis Production Manager Chrysoula Karametros 37-10 30th Street, Long Island City, NY 11101-2614 Tel: (718)784-5255 • Fax: (718)472-0510 e-mail: english.edition@thenationalherald.com Democritou 1 and Academias Sts, Athens, 10671, Greece Tel: 011.30.210.3614.598 • Fax: 011.30.210.3643.776 e-mail: athens@ekirikas.com Greek-American Weddings By Eleni Sakellis said “no children allowed.” Where would they leave mom is helping already, or maybe not, your cousins them when everyone they know who could babysit and friends who have already tied the knot are Welcome to The National Herald’s annual Greek- will be at the wedding? probably very knowledgeable on the subject. Get their American Weddings special issue! We hope you enjoy Family is vital to a Greek wedding, which is why advice over coffee, borrow their wedding planning the articles and information we have gathered for you mothers and daughters fuss over the guest list and the binder, you know which friend has one, and if needed, and wish those couples planning their big day all the seating arrangements. Do you really want to hear hire a professional wedding planner. There is a wealth best for a long and happy life together! The Greek complaints from your theia about where she sat at the of information available online and in TNH as well. A wedding and all its traditions celebrate love, life, wedding? Just keep in mind that you will hear those glance through the archive of our weddings special faith, and family. same complaints at every family gathering for the issues will show how some things have changed and next twenty years at least, if not longer, God willing. others have stayed the same in planning a wedding. Those of us from the average, usually large, Greek The church, the reception hall, the food, the music, What remains constant is the love that brings the family will undoubtedly have attended numerous the decor, the dress, every little aspect of the wedding happy couple together in the first place. weddings throughout a lifetime. We may take for day can add up to a lot of stress for the happy couple, Above all, take a moment to appreciate how truly granted the ceremony and tradition that make Greek mostly the bride, but with some forethought, and a blessed you are to have found the person you will weddings so special. I recall being shocked and few ideas from TNH, we hope to ease some of the spend the rest of your life with. Your family and saddened to hear that one of my classmates (non- burden. friends are also there to share in your happiness, so Greek) had never attended a wedding in her life at While it can be hectic, we hope you enjoy the process make sure to thank them. Time spent with your loved the ripe old age of 12 or 13. By that age, most Greek- of planning the wedding as much as possible. Keeping ones is always precious. The close personal Americans have been to at least three or four things in perspective can help. Remember, you are not relationships we share are what make life truly worth weddings and have probably participated as a flower the first or the last person to get married, and very living, so remember to make some happy memories girl or ringbearer in at least one or two. Most Greeks few people plan an entire wedding on their own. Ask on your special day and throughout your lifetime. would never imagine sending out an invitation that questions and ask for help when you need it. Whether We wish you all the best! nq uet Ba r i n g &staurant e Caftacilities, R e ty Par PA N AT H E N I A N B A N Q U E T H A L L A N D B A R Only Adelphia can combine fine dining services with nightly entertainment in the best location in Central Jersey. Chefs from all around the world have helped in developing American, Mexican and other international cuisines. We are willing to make foods that aren’t on the menu. The PANATHENIAN Ballroom which seats 500 people provides the perfect atmosphere for casual dining or banquets. Have your Wedding Reception, Bridal or Christening Party at Adelphia. Organizers of concerts. Call for reservations and ask for Evelyn. 1750 Clements-Bridge Rd., Deptford, NJ 08096 856-845-8200 www.adelphiarestaurant.com
4 Greek American Weddings THE NATIONAL HERALD, FEBRUARY 10, 2018 Greek Wedding Traditions By Eleni Sakellis ter the bride is ready, includes wrapping a red sash around the bride’s waist for fertility while The Greek wedding has taken on mythic pro- music is played and all her relatives give her a portions in the popular imagination worldwide, blessing. The red sash is also draped around the thanks in no small part to the film My Big Fat groom’s waist at his house, and then the kapnistiri Greek Wedding, even if it is nearing sixteen years takes place during which a censor is used to bless since its release. the bride and groom. Greek-Americans have done their part in ex- When the bride is about to exit her parent's panding the idea of the Greek wedding in all its home, her parents break a large wedding pretzel grandeur, from the huge guest list to the impres- or “nifopsomo” over her head and give all those sive reception menu, but the traditional aspects in attendance a piece so they can wish all the of the Greek wedding are what make it truly best to the bride for a happy marriage, health, unique and special. Those of us from the average, and wealth. usually large, Greek family will undoubtedly have In many regions of Greece, a procession to the attended numerous weddings throughout a single church takes place with traditional songs per- lifetime. I recall being shocked and saddened to formed for the bride and her family and the hear that one of my classmates (non-Greek) had groom and his family along the way. A band some- never attended a wedding in her life at the ripe times escorts the bride to the church and everyone old age of 12 or 13. By that age, most Greek- in the community follows and dances all the way Americans have been to at least three or four to the church. Traditionally, the groom waits out- weddings and have probably participated as a side of the church for the bride’s arrival and then flower girl or ring bearer in at least one or two. gives her the bouquet before they walk down the There a lot of Greek wedding traditions and from aisle together. The father of the bride or her one region to the next, there are many variations. brother gives the bride away to the groom outside The traditional music varies, too, who has at- the church. tended several Greek weddings of those from var- The wedding ceremony begins with the bless- ious parts of the country will attest. ing of the couple’s engagement and the rings. As The traditions actually begin well before the noted in Manhattan Bride, “The betrothal service bride and groom have even met. The tradition of recognizes the engagement of the couple by the the prika, or dowry, begins with the mother of church and includes the priest’s blessing of the Among the traditions: “The stefana, or crowns, are the bride buying items or making them by hand rings. He also alternately blesses the bride and for her daughter’s future wedding, linens, cloth- groom three times.” ing, household items, and usually storing them in a large chest over the course of many years. In linked with a ribbon that symbolizes the union of As noted on nvphotographers.com, “The ste- fana, or crowns, are linked with a ribbon that the past, young women showed off their skills in embroidery and other crafts in the items they two people into a married couple" symbolizes the union of two people into a married couple and are placed on a table in front of the made by hand for their dowry. Today, most of the bridegroom, along with the Bible, the wine, and items a bride needs are purchased. the rings. In the past, engagement rings in Greece were wed. Sunday is traditionally the preferred day for make the bed at the soon-to-be husband and “The koumbaro or koumbara exchanges the usually not the diamond solitaire type we associ- weddings, but more and more couples choose wife’s house for good luck and fertility. After the rings three times and swaps the stefana three ate with them today. The Greek engagement ring Saturday, and some now even choose to marry bed is made, flowers, money, and koufeta are times, before he places them on the couple's was a gold band worn on the left ring finger after on weekdays. The Thursday before the Sunday thrown on top, and finally a baby is also set on heads. This is a physical demonstration of their the engagement blessing and then the same ring wedding was when the dowry or prika was deliv- top of the bed. Whether it’s a baby girl or boy spiritual bonding (the couple and koumbari).” served as the wedding ring, moved from the left ered to the couple’s soon-to-be home. In the days will supposedly determine what the firstborn child When the priest begins the wedding blessings, to the right hand during the appropriate moment leading up to the delivery, it was a custom for the will be. The preference is traditionally for a baby he joins the couple’s right hands. Then the priest of the wedding ceremony. In some villages, the dowry to be on display in the bride’s parents’ boy. In some regions, rice is also thrown on top blesses the stefana blessing, reads the Gospel of engagement is still an important separate cere- home so visitors could admire it wish the bride of the bed. the Wedding in Cana (Jesus' first miracle), then mony, though it is also how the wedding service well in her marriage. The dowry is no longer com- On the day of the wedding, the koumbaro or pours wine into a single cup or glass, and gives it begins, but more on that later. mon, but in many places where Greeks have set- best man shaves the groom as part of the dressing to the couple to take three sips each from it. The Setting the date is another aspect of the tradi- tled, the parents of the bride sometimes give the for the wedding tradition. Meanwhile at the couple drinking from a single glass symbolizes tional Greek wedding that should not be over- gift of a house or help with buying a house which bride’s home, her maid of honor or koumbara their commitment to sharing their life and expe- looked if you’re planning a church wedding. There has, to some extent, come to replace the dowry leads the bridesmaids in helping the bride dress riences for the rest of their days. are certain times of the year when weddings are of the past. for the wedding. In some regions, the names of The Greek Orthodox wedding ceremony has not performed at all, namely during fasting peri- Choosing the koumbaro and koumbara who the single bridesmaids are written on the soles of remained the same since the 11th century. “It is a ods like Great Lent, the two weeks before the are “sponsors” of the wedding is another Greek the bride’s shoes and the names that are worn off ‘blessed union’ that implies this must be a per- Dormition of the Theotokos on August 15, August tradition. The groom’s godparent is asked first, by the end of the night are those of the ladies manent union,” said Fr. Robert Stephanopoulos, 29- the commemoration of the beheading of St. then the bride’s godparent, if they decline or sim- next to be married. Dean Emeritus Archdiocesan Cathedral of the John the Baptist, September 14- the Elevation of ply cannot do it, close friends and family are then Another shoe related custom is that the groom Holy Trinity, as reported in Manhattan Bride. the Holy Cross, and the 40 days leading up to asked. The role is a serious one since the koum- is supposed to buy the bride’s shoes for the wed- The two parts of the Greek Orthodox wedding Christmas. baro and koumbara participate in the wedding ding day. Either he or the koumbaro or best man service are the betrothal and the marriage service. In ancient times, January was considered the ceremony and then are expected to baptize the delivers the shoes and the bride is supposed to A small table on which a special tray is placed best month to marry since it was the month ded- couple’s first child, a huge responsibility. pretend that they are too big and don’t fit her. with the wedding crowns, betrothal rings, can- icated to the goddess of marriage and fertility, Another tradition usually a few days before The koumbaro then places coins in the shoes for dles, goblet of sanctified wine, and the book of Hera. The Roman version of Hera is Juno, which the wedding is the making of the marital bed. good luck and to help them, supposedly, fit better. made her month of June the preferred month to The family and friends are invited to a party to The Cypriot tradition is called stolisma and af- Continued on page 13 Dream it! Live it! Love it! 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10 Greek American Weddings THE NATIONAL HERALD, FEBRUARY 10, 2018 Wedding Dress, Hair, and Makeup Trends for 2018 TNH Staff Classic looks for wedding hair styles include updos and The trends in wedding half updos which are always in dresses for Fall 2018 seem to style, though today’s updates be continuing the trends from on the classics add texture for last year, but on a new level. a more casual updo. Chic pony Capes made an appearance last tails are also a trend this year year, in the form of the capelet, that might work with your and the trend continues with individual style and Greek- princess capes. Jackets are a inspired goddess looks can trend this year with special incorporate elements of the emphasis on moto jackets for casual updo or half up, half the bride in a variety of fabrics down looks plus accessories from lace to leather. woven into a loose braid or The very flattering off-the- bun. Beachy waves and loose shoulder look is still going braids, and floral accents can strong with designers creating create a romantic look for the new looks with various sleeve bride. options including ones that detach which give the off-the- Among the makeup trends shoulder look to a dress that is, for 2018 are glossy lips, pink in fact, completely strapless. Poof sleeves and bell sleeves were also seen on the runways. As for lengths in 2018, tea- length gowns offer a ladylike choice designed by Ellie Saab, Savannah Miller, and Oleg Cassini, among many others. The trend is a classic reinvented with a whimsical touch for the modern bride. If the midi-length is not for you, shorts have also made an appearance on the runways for the fashion-forward bride. Pants by various designers including Monique Lhuillier, only options. While black, Lela Rose, Hayley Paige, Justin navy, and grey suits are classic, Alexander, and Victor & Rolf modern grooms are choosing Mariage, may be perfect look more colors for the big day. for the chic city hall wedding. Among the colors the grooms High-low hems, miniskirts, and and groomsmen are choosing shorts suits were also on the these days are burgundy, forest runways for 2018. green, and even shades of Shoulder bows are also in mauve. Textures including for this year while many casual tweeds and herringbone designers opted for sleek, patterns can add a distinct look modern looks recalling the for the guys. minimalism of the 1990’s. Plunging v-necklines were also When it comes to hair for big on the runways as well as the big day, make sure you lips, pearly shimmer for a dewy side cutouts for the more consult with your stylist well in glow, earth tone eye makeup in daring brides. advance and try out some test warm browns, and the “no hairdos to make sure they makeup” makeup look which In terms of color, the work with your dress and veil includes glowing skin, light varying shades of blush are on or whatever hair accessories blush, and lip tints in nude trend this year from peach to you may choose to wear. Try shades for a barely there soft nude tones lending a not to experiment with a suggestion of color. Always romantic look to wedding drastic change in hair color, start with clean, exfoliated, dresses. Black accents for style, or cut at the last minute, and moisturized skin. The wedding dresses, like a belt at since it can add unnecessary trends and the “natural” look the waist, or a bow hanging stress if it doesn’t come out just may not work for everyone, so down the back, or black opera right on your special day. The test it out with your makeup gloves worn with traditional- same goes for makeup, too, artist, and remember that style gowns also made an always try it out first with your minimal makeup with a pale impression on the runways. makeup artist and try some colored dress can wash out the test photos, too. The hair, bride, especially in the many For men, the traditional suit makeup and dress should all photos and under different colors and textures are not the work together. lighting conditions. According to research: Couples that read together... stay together! The National Herald www.thenationalherald.com Imported & Distributed by Fantis Foods Inc. Please visit the Wine Section of www.fantisfoods.com • 6o triangle Blvd., Carlstadt, NJ 07072 To subscribe please contact us at: tel.: (201) 933-6200 • email: info@fantisfoods.com 718-784-5255 or email: subscriptions@ekirikas.com
THE NATIONAL HERALD, FEBRUARY 10, 2018 Greek American Weddings 11 Renaissance Event Hall’s Teresa Lisson Speaks to TNH TNH Staff The Renaissance Event Hall in Long Island City, NY is a convenient location for events and weddings, particularly in Queens. Located close to Astoria and Manhattan, couples can enjoy their reception without worrying about guests having to travel long distances, especially when they choose to have the ceremony in one of the many churches in Astoria. For those interested in outdoor photos, the hall is also located near Astoria Park, Socrates Sculpture Park, Franklin D. Roosevelt Four Free- doms Park, and Gantry Plaza State Park for dra- matic views. Renaissance Event Hall was recognized in the last three years (2015, 2016, and 2017) with Wed- ding Wire’s “Bride’s Choice” and The Knot’s “Best of Weddings” Awards. The National Herald spoke with Teresa Lisson, Renaissance GM and partner, for the latest information on the wedding venue. TNH: What makes the Renaissance Event Hall a good choice for a wedding? TL: We host only one event at a time. Our space is newly renovated and in summer 2018 we will also open our backyard for ceremonies. TNH: How have weddings changed at the Re- Courtesy of renAissAnCe event HAll naissance since the time you started until now? Interior views of the Renaissance Event Hall in Long Island City, NY. TS: We used to have many inquiries for all-in- clusive packages where the flowers, DJ, and pho- tographers are included. Now a days the couples For couples interested in planning their wed- ceiling flanked by two spacious, yet cozy bal- like to customize their event alone to give a per- ding at Renaissance Event Hall, appointments are conies. The perfect setting for any stylish event, sonal touch to the special occasion. available 11:30am – 6:30pm, 7 days a week. A from a wedding ceremony, reception, to corporate TNH: How many guests attend an average baby grand piano is available to rent by the hour functions, award dinners, fundraisers, filming, wedding at your venue? to be played by a pianist the couple provides or photo shoots and fashion shows.” TS: 125-400 guests. the Renaissance can provide the pianist as well, The 12,000 square foot wedding venue also TNH: How far in advance should couples begin for an additional fee. features a full-service kitchen providing catering planning their wedding at the Renaissance? As noted on the website, “Guests are greeted options for buffet and plated dinners, capacity TS: It should be 9-12 months, however, we in the lobby bar, its simple elegance punctuated for parties up to 350 seated guests and 450 cock- had couples book less than 3 months in advance by a baby grand piano. The room flows to a grace- tail guests, state-of-the-art audio visual system. and they had a lovely celebration. I suggest if you fully curved staircase. Marble steps descend to The hall’s event coordinator and team can as- have never planned any event before, give your- reveal the neoclassic decor of the main reception sist with the details. More information is available self at least a year.. hall and hardwood dance floor below. The soaring at renaissanceventhall.com. Get informed www.thenationalherald.com
12 Greek American Weddings THE NATIONAL HERALD, FEBRUARY 10, 2018 The Institution of Marriage in Ancient Greece By Eleni Sakellis evidence, and examples from Homer specifically, suggest that it was If planning your wedding is stressing you out, more common in ancient Greece take a deep breath and be thankful you aren’t for a man to have one legal living and planning that wedding in ancient wife, his “lawfully wedded Greece. To say we’ve come a long way since wife,” and then keep a then is a bit of an understatement when you concubine, or more than learn a few facts about the institution of one concubine. marriage in ancient Greece. Most people Girls were often probably know that marriage was not viewed in married off in their the romantic sense until very recently in human teens, at about age 14 history. It is only in about the last 150 years or to 16, to an older man, so that the idea that people could or even who was often about should marry for love has taken root in the 30. There were no popular consciousness. Marriages in the past specific ages that were mostly arranged by the parents of the people could marry, persons to be married. Whether the bride and but generally parents groom liked each other or not might make no waited until their was now the bride’s kyrios, taking over that difference at all in the negotiations since they daughters were of title and duty from her father, as noted in were marrying for practical reasons, continuing childbearing age until Robert Flaceliere’s Daily Life in Greece. the family line, extending land holdings, or the arranged marriage If things did not work out for the married securing alliances between families. Money would take place. In couple in ancient Greece, either the husband more than romantic ideals was the deciding Sparta, women rarely or the wife could initiate a divorce, but the factor in the arranged marriage. It was more a married before age 20, as husband had a much easier time of it. All a business deal rather than the ending of a noted in the book Spartan husband had to do to divorce his wife was send romantic comedy. Women by Sarah B. Pomeroy, her back to her father’s house along with her Though each city-state in ancient times had which also points out that Spartan dowry. If the now-ex-husband did not return the its own laws regarding marriage, most were girls were educated along with boys dowry, he would have to pay 18 percent interest arranged by the parents, and lawmakers viewed and were allowed to go where they wedding on it every year, as Pomeroy wrote in Goddesses, it as a duty of each person for the public pleased while Athenian women were rarely ceremony- Whores, Wives, and Slaves: Women in Classical interest. The laws of Sparta were particularly seen outside the house. the epaulia. Ritual Antiquity. specific on the point of marriage being to raise The bride’s dowry was a major factor in a bathing, offerings made to the Demosthenes noted that in case a wife was legitimate children who would be healthy and man’s decision to wed, along with her expected goddesses Artemis and Aphrodite, and feasting discovered to have committed adultery, her productive members of the state. There are fertility, and skills including weaving. Gifts were were part of the ceremonies along with an husband would have to divorce her or face examples in the laws of Lycurgus of Sparta exchanged to show the approval of both families unveiling of the bride and the bride cutting a losing the right to vote. For a woman to initiate requiring legal action against people who for the bride and groom and for their alliance. lock of her hair as a rite of passage. The a divorce, she had to appear before the archon married too late in life, unsuitably, and even Winter weddings were very popular for the bathwater for the bride-to-be’s ritual bath was and because women could not be citizens of against confirmed bachelors, as noted in ancient Greeks with January as the most brought in with the loutrophoros, a special Athens, a male relative had to represent her. Plutarch’s Life of Lycurgus. popular month since it was sacred to Hera the ceramic vessel with two handles and an If a young woman was the only heir to her Childbearing was so important in Sparta that goddess of marriage. Marrying during the full elongated neck. The ceramic vessel was also father’s estate, and she married but did not Xenophon notes the suggestion that if a Spartan moon was also considered lucky for ancient placed in the tombs of unmarried people. Many produce a male heir with her husband, upon her woman has no children with her husband, she Greek weddings. examples were found at the Kerameikon in father’s death, her closest male relative could should be allowed to move in with another man. The Ancient Greek wedding ceremony lasted Athens, some of which are in the National force her to divorce her husband in order to Extending the family line was a priority and it three days and indeed in some parts of Greece Archaeological Museum of Athens. marry him or another male relative and keep the occasionally meant someone like Spartan King and Cyprus weddings can last three days even The feasts were held at the bride’s parents’ estate or property in the family. Demosthenes Anaxandridas II could have two wives, in today depending on the customs of the local house and men would be served first, and once noted that in Athenian law, the father of the separate homes, in spite of the fact that bigamy villages. 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THE NATIONAL HERALD, FEBRUARY 10, 2018 Greek American Weddings 13 Food Trends for Weddings and a Traditional Recipe TNH Staff up the food on the spot. for dramatic wedding cakes are sonal touch to your cake. Gamopilafo cook until both the lamb or goat Another trend in hors d’oeu- a big trend this year. Metallic Traditional foods for wed- and the chicken are done about The trend in foods for wed- vres is mini-comfort foods in- touches like gold leaf and gold dings include koufeta (Jordan about one hour. Remove the dings is more casual and per- cluding mini cheese and spinach dust create a stunning look for almonds) handed out to each • 2 pounds lamb or goat cooked meats from the pots and sonalized. While signature cock- bites, tiny baked potato bites, wedding cakes. guest. The number of koufeta is • 1 whole chicken, 3-4 pounds set aside. tails have long been a trend at bite-sized soft pretzels, mini lob- Looking good is only part of always an odd number, symbol- • 3 cups rice Measure five cups of the wedding receptions, signature ster potpies, mini macaroni and the equation for the wedding izing the couple’s life together • 2 tablespoons Greek extra cooking liquid and place in a foods are just starting to take cheese bites, mini ham and desserts and creating special fla- which cannot be divided in half virgin olive oil large deep pot. Add the rice, off. His and hers entree options cheese rolls, and lasagna bites. vor combinations can be a great and will likely be bittersweet • 3 tablespoons fresh lemon lemon juice, salt and pepper to can be a fun way to personalize Served in little individual way to personalize the cake. like the almonds coated in juice taste. the menu. Signature appetizers ramekins, the appetizers look Chocolate and vanilla are classic sugar. • Greek sea salt to taste Cover the pot and allow to named for the bride and groom adorable and taste delicious. but may seem a bit tame when Traditional Greek wedding • Freshly ground pepper to come to a boil, then reduce heat can also add a personal touch While the guests are dancing compared to flavors like bour- cakes featured honey, sesame taste to medium low and simmer un- to the cocktail hour. Presenta- the night away, instead of forc- bon and mocha. For fruit fla- seeds, and quince, symbolizing til the rice absorbs the liquid. tion, something we hear about ing them off the dance floor for vors, figs are apparently very the couple’s commitment. Rinse the lamb or goat and Serve the rice with the meat im- all the time in cooking competi- the cake, passed cake pops can hot as a garnish for wedding Cypriot glystarkes, a type of chicken in cool water. Place the mediately and enjoy with a driz- tion shows, is another food be a fun way to enjoy dessert at cakes in 2018, though Greek bread is also traditionally served lamb in a pot and cover with zle of olive oil on top. The Cre- trend for weddings. Make the the wedding reception. Colorful people have been onto the fig at weddings, hearkening back water. Place the chicken in a tan version includes goat’s milk reception extra special with in- cakes are another trend in wed- trend since prehistoric times at to the ancient tradition of bread large deep pot and cover with butter sautéed and poured over stallations of hors d’oeuvres ding foods, especially hand- least. at the wedding. Gamopilafo is water. Bring both pots to a boil, the top of the cooked rice at the hanging dramatically, or foods painted desserts for an extra Whimsical cake designs can a traditional Greek wedding skimming any foam that may end of the cooking process. For cooked on an open fire during special touch. add fun to the special event and food made with meat and rice. collect on top. added flavor, sprinkle with the the reception or a chef plating Hand-painted floral elements cake toppers can also add a per- The recipe follows. Reduce heat to a simmer and grated cheese of your choice. Greek Wedding Traditions Continued from page 4 ued, “It recounts the wedding of than respect) her husband.” In which cannot be divided in half from the islands) like the peren- cases pretending not to hand Cana in Galilee, where the first Greece, when the cantor reads and will likely be bittersweet like nial favorite “Tou Gamou” sung over items leading to attempts the Gospels serves as the “mat- miracle of the New Testament that phrase, the attendees turn the almonds coated in sugar. by Yiannis Parios. at “stealing” an item from the rimonial altar,” Manhattan Bride was performed and water was their attention to the bride's feet At the reception, the bride For some weddings, the tra- other side. reported. turned into wine.” As the wine in case she steps with her right and groom dance dition of pinning money to the On Saturday night, usually After the stefana are in place was drunk in Galilee, the bride foot on the groom’s left foot, first, fol- newlyweds’ clothing continues. the night before the wedding, on the bride and groom’s heads, and groom take three sips each demonstrating who will ac- As the couple is dancing, guests gifts are given to the koumbaro the dance of Isaiah takes place. from the same cup of wine, sym- tually be in charge dur- approach them, wishing the cou- and koumbara which in the past The priest leads the couple for bolizing the sharing of every- ing the marriage. ple “Na zisete,” and pinning the included wine and a sheep or their first walk together as man thing in their lives. In some areas of money to their clothes. The tra- goat and led to a feast with tra- and wife around the table with The Dance of Isaiah, follows, Greece, the new- ditional wedding gift is cash and ditional wedding songs sung. the koumbaro or koumbara fol- and then three hymns of praise lywed couple the “money dance” is often a The gifts for the koumbaro today lowing the couple while holding are sung, asking blessings “to only leaves the means of gathering the vary widely, though the gamok- the ribbon of the stefana. They grant you length of days, fair church after gift envelopes from oulouro, a decorated sweet walk around the table three children, progress in life and giving the the guests during bread, continues to be a part of times and when the priest re- faith,” as noted in Manhattan koumbara or the reception the gifts. moves the stefana from the cou- Bride. koumbaro a and on their The drinking of raki or tsik- ple's heads, he says “What God A final blessing is given by gift. The bride way out. oudia is part of the celebration has joined together, let no man the priest, the stefana are re- and groom I n as are kserotigana, fried put asunder.” moved, and the dismissal prayer and the wed- Crete, the dumplings with honey for The reading of two passages concludes the ceremony. ding party line weddings dessert. The single guests are from the Bible follows the ste- After the ceremony, the ste- up by the church include served honey and walnuts. fana. The first reading is the fana are placed in a stefanothiki exit to receive the entire Roasted meats, lamb, goat, Epistle of St. Paul to the Eph- that is placed in the couple’s bed- the congratu- community pork, and local favorites are tra- esians, which emphasizes the room above their bed. Various lations of the and last for ditionally served at Greek wed- union of the bride and groom materials can be used to make guests. Rice, days. The day dings. Lamb youvetsi is one of into one being. “There are basic the stefana which can be elabo- symbolic of fertil- before the wed- the favorite dishes. Wine, ouzo, themes interwoven throughout rate and include beading to ity and wealth, and flower petals lowed by their parents and ding, family and and soumada- a drink made every prayer recited,” Fr. match the bride’s or they can be are traditionally thrown at the closest relatives, who take turns friends gather at the from almonds, are also served at Stephanopoulos said, as re- made of flowers. newlyweds as they exit the leading the dance. At some wed- bridegroom’s home for a festive weddings. ported in Manhattan Bride, Among the words spoken by church. Gamopilafo (wedding dings, the groom's parents and dinner with plenty of food and A recently married Greek adding that, “One such theme is the priest during the ceremony rice) is common dish at the din- relatives start the first dance wine. Also before the wedding, bride told Manhattan Bride, mutual fulfillment, as seen in the is the line in the wedding missal ner following the church service. with the bridegroom. The second the bride and her parents assem- “There was so much symbolism reading, ‘Husbands should love that exhorts the husband to love Bombonieres, a small wedding dance is for the bride's parents ble a basket with all the groom’s and ritual in our ceremony. their wives as their own bodies. his wife as himself and the wife favor with koufeta (Jordan al- and their relatives. Popular di- necessities and clothing for the Everything meant something. Af- He who loves his wife, loves him- to respect her husband. The monds) is handed out to each motika wedding songs include wedding while the groom and ter the crowning, you and your self.’ phrase in Greek includes a word guest. tsamika, Epirotika (Epirus), his parents do the same for the husband are coming into this “The second reading is from that can be translated as “fear” The number of koufeta is al- Thrakiotika (Thrace), zeim- bride. The relatives on each side whole new world together, and the Gospel According to St. so it is lightheartedly thought of ways an odd number, symboliz- bekika, Kalamatiana, Kritika deliver the baskets, greeting it really is an amazing experi- John,” Stephanopoulos contin- as “the woman shall fear (rather ing the couple’s life together (Crete) and nisiotika (songs each other warmly, and in some ence.” THE GRECIAN PLATE Now in its 11th printing! • NATIONAL WINNER of the R. T. 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