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Man oH m
A Guidebook
for Men and Fathers
in Bremen
Information
Consultation
Interaction
Foreword
Dear Readers,
The aim of the initiatives described in
Our society is multi-cultural and diverse.
This brochure has been made especially this brochure is to allow you to deal with
There are many types of relationships
for men and boys of all ages. We’ve put challenges and take the opportunities
and families – with and without children,
together a (non-exhaustive) list of meeting available to you. There is a key focus on
single parents, separated parents, patch-
places, contact points and centres where education (e.g. children’s needs at various
work families, small families, traditional
boys and men can talk, get counselling and stages of their development and non-
extended families and “rainbow” families.
receive support. violent upbringing), information on legal
And there is a similarly diverse range of
issues (e.g. parental leave and custody) Kind regards,
private and professional demands on men.
The information in this brochure concerns and organisational issues (e.g. the balan-
The modern definition of a man is determi-
various aspects of our daily lives, such as cing of work and family). The institutions
ned by a variety of factors such as social
growing up, paternity and parental leave, listed here are specialised and will be
situation, age, cultural origin, religion and
family life and leisure, work and health. happy to help you find the right initiatives.
sexual orientation – and there are plenty
You’re warmly invited to have a browse – Anja Stahmann
of contradictions. It’s completely natural to
you’ll surely find a few interesting ideas for Senator for Social Affairs, Young People,
ask questions.
yourself or other boys and men around you. Integration and Sport
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Take a look inside! 2 Foreword 32 Shelter for Grieving Children and Teenagers 6 The Ultimate Guide for Fathers, Men and Boys – familiennetz bremen 34 Violence Support for Boys and Men (aged 27 and under) 7 Online Family Map of Bremen 35 Confident and Strong At Last! Violence Education for Boys and Young Men 8 Life as a Father – Three Questions for State Councillor Jan Fries 36 Youth Career Guidance at the “Jugendberufsagentur” 10 Part-Time Job, Full-Time Man 37 Offers for Men and Fathers at pro familia Counselling Centres in Bremen 12 Infant Counselling Centres in Bremen 38 Self-Help Groups for Men and Fathers 14 Strengthening without Shaking 39 The Evangelical Education Centre 15 Parent Hotline and Online Advice – Anonymous, Free and Confidential 40 A Day for Men in the Middle of Bremen 16 Daniel Schnakenberg Foundation for Child, Youth and Family Leisure 41 Eradicating Violence and Building Trust 17 Fathers Welcome – Offers for Fathers and Children at the “Haus der Familie” 42 Men Can Also Be Gay, Bisexual, Trans*, Inter*, Queer 20 “Breaking Away from Old Parenting Methods” – Interview 43 Meeting Places in Bremen for Locals and Newcomers 22 Camp for Fathers and Children 44 A Refuge for the Soul 23 Bremen Holiday Guide – Time for a Break! 45 Anti-Discrimination 24 “I can only tell you what I’ve learned myself” – Interview 48 Learning German 26 The Association of Single Parents in Bremen 52 Healthy Parents – Info and Facts 27 Bi-National? Completely Normal! 53 Time for Your Baby – Parental Leave and Financial Support 28 SOS Kinderdorf Centre – A Vibrant Place for the Whole Family 54 The ABC of Pregnancy 30 Fathers’ Meetings – Open Groups 59 Imprint 4 5
Information Men, Fathers, Boys Information Men, Fathers, Boys
The Ultimate Guide for Fathers, Men and Boys Online Family Map of Bremen
Bremen has a whole range of vibrant Colleague, Mate, Neighbour:
Have you ever visited the playgrounds in
events and initiatives aimed specifically at We offer counselling, leisure activities and
your area? Do you know where the nearest
men, fathers and boys. education initiatives for people in various
football pitches and skate parks are?
You can see all these and much more at situations.
Would you like to plan the best route to
familiennetz-bremen.de.
the local bathing lake or get an overview
of the latest educational courses and
Son, Partner, Father:
counselling services?
Family life can be quite eventful.
New fathers aren’t the only ones with lots
Find all the information you need about
of questions; everyone needs a bit of
regular meeting places and counselling
assistance and useful tips in their everyday SpielLandschaftStadt e. V.
services in your area – take advantage of
lives. We can give you the right advice in familiennetz bremen Heiner Rehling
our various offers and see Bremen from
a variety of areas and let you know where Anja Lohse, Barbara Peper Haferwende 37, D–28357 Bremen
a whole new family-friendly perspective!
to get helpful, neutral and independent Tel.: +49 421 7908918 (with voicemail) Tel.: +49 421 24289550
Welcome to the first ever Online Family
information.
info@familiennetz-bremen.de Map of Bremen! verein@spiellandschaft-bremen.de
www.familiennetz-bremen.de www.bremer-familienstadtplan.de www.spiellandschaft-bremen.de
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Interview
Life as a Father – Three Questions for Jan Fries with my daughter during this stage of her opportunity to stop working for a limited
State Councillor to the career is a real challenge – just ask all those development, as I spent a lot of time with period of time while maintaining a certain
Senator for Social Affairs, working mothers out there! But my partner her. And this was only possible because level of income. There are many different
Young People, Integration and I made it clear from the beginning that I was able to take two months of parental ways to balance work and family life, so
and Sport, and the father neither of us wanted to give up our jobs, leave. I would strongly recommend this that women have the opportunity to work
of an 18-month-old girl. and so we obviously had to take parental experience to other men. and men have the chance to look after
leave, share as many everyday tasks as pos- their family. We need family-friendly wor-
What aspects of your professional and sible and quickly find a place at a nursery. What can a community do to encourage king hours and flexible childcare schemes,
private life changed when you became young fathers to play an active role in the especially early in the morning, in the
a father? Why did you decide to take parental leave? upbringing of their children? afternoon and during other off-peak hours.
Jan Fries: My daughter and partner are Jan Fries: I find it very important that my Jan Fries: I appreciate that a father’s decision Being there for your children is no longer
the two most important people in my life. daughter sees me as one the most essential to take parental leave is often determined just a “woman’s job”. That’s why I’m now
I want to have enough time for both of caregivers in her life – and it would be by his financial situation and occupational pleased to see a wide range of family
them – without neglecting my work. difficult to achieve that without actually requirements. Around one third of fathers education and counselling services aimed
My everyday life has changed a lot in this being there for her. Children develop really now take parental leave. This reflects their specifically at fathers.
respect, as I now have to reorganise my quickly – especially in the first year of their growing desire to watch their children
schedule and decide more carefully how to lives – and getting to witness that is a true grow up. I think it’s important to support
spend my time. Balancing your family and blessing. I developed a really close bond this: Parental allowance gives people the
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Information Fathers
Part-Time Job, Full-Time Man The brochure portrays eleven men who They offer encouragement, food for
work part time. This allows them to thought and a range of innovative
Part-time employment has always been
fulfil their professional duties and pursue approaches to motivate others to embrace
unpopular amongst men in Germany.
a career while maintaining their role as new ideas.
Full-time employment continues to be the
dedicated fathers.
obvious choice – not only for most men,
The brochure can be requested at:
but also the majority of corporate cultures. Their stories reflect their decision to step
info@impulsgeber-zukunft.de
However, balancing family life and work is out of their traditional roles, take on new
an issue that also concerns men. responsibilities, gain new insights and
adopt different mentalities to actively
The brochure “Teilzeitarbeit – Vollzeitmann”,
balance their work and family life.
developed by the Bremen Chamber of
Labour in cooperation with Impulsgeber
Zukunft e.V., shows how this can be
achieved in the form of part-time employ- Contact: Postal Address:
ment with a similar structure to full-time Rena Fehre Impulsgeber Zukunft e.V.
working models. FVG-West
Tel.: +49 421 21891753
Wiener Straße 9
rena.fehre@impulsgeber-zukunft.de
D–28359 Bremen
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Consultation, Interaction Fathers
Infant Counselling Centres in Bremen Frühberatungsstelle – North Frühberatungsstelle – Central
For Families with Children Aged 0 to 3 We’ll help you develop the confidence and Lüssumer Heide 6 Faulenstraße 20/22
calmness you need to raise your child. D–28777 Bremen D–28195 Bremen
Becoming a father is exciting and over-
We’ll guide you through the entire process Tel.: +49 421 6900946 and +49 421 36179292 Tel.: +49 172 1909002
whelming. You might have questions like:
to ensure a happier life together. fruehberatung.bremen-nord@web.de fruehberatung.mitte@drk-bremen.de
“How can I prepare for fatherhood?”
Our counselling is anonymous and free of
Frühberatungsstelle – East Frühberatungsstelle – West
“What does each member of my family charge. Make an appointment with us!
Schwachhauser Heerstraße 293 Gröpelinger Heerstraße 289
need?” You’re warmly invited to take advantage
D–28211 Bremen D–28239 Bremen
of our flexible meeting places and group
“We’re separated and have a child together Tel.: +49 421 69909905 and +49 421 4279518 Tel.: +49 421 39099246
activities!
– how will I manage?” fruehberatung.ost@stpetribremen.de fruehberatung.groepelingen@
caritas-bremen.de
Frühberatungsstelle – South
Quartierszentrum Huckelriede Frühberatungsstelle – Hemelingen
Niedersachsendamm 20a Hinter den Ellern 1a
D–28201 Bremen D–28309 Bremen
Tel.: +49 421 5971270 Tel.: +49 421 36116603
fruehberatung.kd-bremen@sos-kinderdorf.de fruehberatung.hemelingen@afsd.bremen.de
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Information Fathers Consultation Fathers
Strengthening without Parent Hotline and Online Advice
Shaking Anonymous, Free and Confidential
If you don’t know what to do as a father
NEVER shake your baby! or just need someone to talk to, you can
call the parent hotline (Nummer gegen
Are you fed up? Kummer) or get free and anonymous
Are you dreading the next bout of crying? counselling.
Do you not know what to do?
The counsellors will make time for your
concerns, listen to you and help you find
Use our services! Sponsored by: Parent Hotline – Nummer gegen Kummer
solutions.
You can get lots of free information, coun- Tel.: +49 800 1110550
selling and support in Bremen. All fathers Free local counselling services for parents Mon - Fri, 09:00 - 11:00
are welcome. (to be) with children aged 0 to 3 can be Mon + Thu, 17:00 - 19:00
found at:
Online Advice for Parents
You can find more information here: www.elternsein.info
Contact: Email – Chat – Forum
www.staerkenstattschuetteln.de
kristin.adamaszek@soziales.bremen.de www.bkeelternberatung.de
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Information Fathers Consultation, Interaction Fathers
Daniel Schnakenberg Foundation Fathers Welcome
Daniel Schnakenberg Foundation for You can find leisure activities for children Offers for Fathers and Children at the counselling and attend discussion groups,
Child, Youth and Family Leisure Activities and teenagers at www.servicebureau.de, “Haus der Familie” parent and child groups, language and
http://jugendinfo.de/jugendreisen.php integration courses, special groups for
Holidays are the nicest time of the year for Eleven districts in Bremen have their
fathers, summer camps and play groups.
many families, but many people can’t afford You can find family leisure activities at: own “Haus der Familie”, an establishment
them, as they only have enough money https://www.urlaub-mit-der-familie.de/. offering a range of social services for More information:
for the bare essentials. The Daniel Schnaken- families. The services are aimed at parents, www.amtfuersozialedienste.bremen.de
berg Foundation in Bremen aims to help guardians and their children in each
low-income families realise their holiday district, and they’re open to all nationali-
Daniel Schnakenberg Foundation
dreams and promotes leisure activities for ties and all types of relationships.
in Bremen
children, teenagers and families.
FAO ServiceBureau Jugendinformation If you have any questions about marriage
Gaby Benckert and relationships, family life and paren-
Tel.: +49 421 330089-11 (morning) ting, the upbringing and development of
Fax: +49 421 330089-22 children, or everyday life with children, the
“Haus der Familie” is a great place to get
gaby.benckert@jugendinfo.de You can find the address of each
www.schnakenberg-stiftung.de “Haus der Familie” on the following pages.
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Consultation, Interaction Fathers
1. Haus der Familie – Bockhorn 5. Haus der Familie – Horn-Lehe
Pürschweg 9, D–28779 Bremen Am Lehester Deich 17-21, D–28357 Bremen
Tel.: +49 421 601488 Tel.: +49 421 2574838 Lüssum 1
hdf-familienzentrum-bockhorn@afsd.bremen.de hdf-horn-lehe@afsd.bremen.de 3 “Haus der Familie”
2
Vegesack
Locations
2. Haus der Familie – Vegesack 6. Haus der Familie – Vahr 9. Haus der Familie – Obervieland
Aumunder Heerweg 89, D–28757 Bremen August-Bebel-Allee 284, D–28329 Bremen Eichelnkämpe 11, D–28277 Bremen Burglesum
Blockland
Tel.: +49 421 361-7770 Tel.: +49 421 69648700 Tel.: +49 421 361-3385
hdf-vegesack@afsd.bremen.de hdf-familienzentrum-vahr@afsd.bremen.de hdf-obervieland@afsd.bremen.de Gröpelingen
Borgfeld
Häfen
3. Haus der Familie – Lüssum 7. Haus der Familie – Osterholz-Tenever 10. Haus der Familie – Huchting Walle
Seehausen Horn-Lehe
Lüssumer Heide 6, D–28777 Bremen Pirmasenser Straße 26, D–28325 Bremen Robinsbalje 12, D–28259 Bremen 4 Findorff 5 Oberneuland
Tel.: +49 421 361-79292 Tel.: +49 421 421562 Tel.: +49 421 361-9922 Strom Woltmers- Schwach-
hausen 11 hausen
hdf-luessum@afsd.bremen.de hdf-tenever@afsd.bremen.de hdf-huchting@afsd.bremen.de Mitte 6 Vahr
Osterholz
Huchting Neustadt
4. Haus der Familie – Walle 8. Haus der Familie – Hemelingen 11. Haus der Familie – Mitte 7
10
Dünenstraße 2-4, D–28219 Bremen Hinter den Ellern 1a, D–28309 Bremen Fehrfeld 7, D–28203 Bremen Obervieland
9 Hemelingen
Tel.: +49 421 361-8198 or 361-8284 Tel.: +49 421 361-16601 Tel.: +49 421 7942801
8
hdf-walle@afsd.bremen.de hdf-familienzentrum-mobile@afsd.bremen.de hdf-mitte@afsd.bremen.de
18 19Interview
“Breaking Away from Old Parenting Methods” I think it’s important for me to create my What do you find so important about
own image, so that my children see me as such initiatives?
Looking back on my own upbringing,
a role model. It’s important for fathers to spend quality
Interview with Adi, 46, father of two I wanted to break away from old parenting
time with their children. And you can
daughters (13 and 15) and married for methods. These aren’t necessarily the best Do you know any initiatives for fathers?
spend a whole weekend with other people
22 years for our children any more. Certain aspects Not really. The only initiatives I know are
and learn something from one another.
like punishments have become outdated from word of mouth. I know you can find
How do you view yourself as a father? and we now need new methods. We have a few things on bremen.de. There should The interview was conducted by Karl-Heinz
I always try my best (…) I sometimes notice to look at things critically. Breaking away be something on offer, such as activities Bosser (Haus der Familie – Vegesack) and
that I can’t manage everything, but I try to from old habits requires active involvement. outside your own neighbourhood, and for Stephan Cohrs (Evangelical Cooperation
improve every day. In Turkish families, the mother used to raise fathers who only see their children at the Communities of Huchting)
the children and the father was there to weekend. There are quite a few activities
What’s important when it comes to raising You can find the full interview at
reward or punish them (…) I’d never dream aimed at younger children. They continue
children? www.soziales.bremen.de or
of doing that! My daughters even used to grow after nursery and primary school,
Unfortunately, there’s no manual. I was www.kirche-bremen.de/gemeinden/
to come to me – partly because I was a bit but the activities don’t seem to grow with
scared of making mistakes at first, but rai- 46_st_lukas/46_st_lukas_aktuelles.php
more relaxed, and also because my wife them. Why aren’t there more initiatives for
sing children is ultimately about interaction,
and I alternated and assumed both roles. 13-, 14- and 15-year-olds?
so it’s not really a one-sided affair (…)
20 21Information Fathers and Children Information Fathers and Children
Camp for Fathers Bremen Holiday Guide – Time for a Break!
and Children The school holidays in Bremen are always
full of interesting activities for fathers and
Over the past 28 years, the “Haus der Familie”
their children. The “bremer ferienkompass”
in Vegesack has organised a large 4-day
also provides working parents with an
camp in Goldenstedt am See for fathers
and children aged 3 and over.
overview of trustworthy holiday childcare
services.
bremer ferienkompass
The camp gives fathers the time and space Tolle Ferienangebote
www.bremer-ferienkompass.de
to spend lots of quality time with their kids. für Kinder und Jugendliche
It’s a particularly useful opportunity for Haus der Familie – Vegesack
working fathers who don’t have much time Karl-Heinz Bosser
for their little ones. Everyone has the chance Aumunder Heerweg 89 www.bremer-ferienkompass.de
to participate in a range of activities, such D–28757 Bremen
familiennetz bremen
as playing outdoor games, sitting around
Tel.: +49 421 361-7770 Anja Lohse, Barbara Peper
the campfire, making music together and
karl-heinz.bosser@afsd.bremen.de +49 421 7908918 (with voicemail)
interacting with others. This creates a united
spirit that makes the camp an unforgettable Date: changed every year info@familiennetz-bremen.de
experience for many participants. Thursday to Sunday in August www.familiennetz-bremen.de
22 23Interview
“I can only tell you what I’ve learned myself”
Interview with Halil, 47, father of two I’ve also been helped by my lawyers and What initiatives need to be introduced? The interview was conducted by Stephan
daughters and single for 15 years employer. … there’s enough there if you’re really Cohrs (Evangelical Cooperation Communi-
interested. We’ve done a lot of things: ties of Huchting)
Do you have sole custody?
How do you view yourself as a father? father and children meet-ups, bike rides,
Yes.
I’m helpful and confident. I mean a lot to day trips, ropes courses, cinema, theatre,
other people and myself. I think you have Did you notice a lack of trust from the swimming… We’re always the first names
to help others. Children are innocent. court? on the list, and the supervisors are amazing.
Children are the future. And we have to The court hearings were quite a fuss. I said,
What do you think about integration – You can find the full interview at
treat them right. “I’ll give you my house keys. If you think
as an immigrant or single parent? www.soziales.bremen.de or
there’s something wrong with me, you can
Talking about support, where do you get I can only tell you what I’ve learned myself. www.kirche-bremen.de/gemeinden/
take a look whenever you like”.
help? I don’t claim to know it all. Knowledge is 46_st_lukas/46_st_lukas_aktuelles.php
They wanted to check, even though there
I’ve received a lot of support from nursery like an ocean, and we all just drink one glass
was nothing wrong with me. I’m quite a
workers and teachers, the Youth Welfare of it. You first need to become integrated,
boring person; I don’t drink or take drugs.
Office, and from Johanne and Kalle from so that you can be a role model for your
Mums have a better standing in relation
the “Haus der Familie”. I’ve always been children.
to their children, because they’re always
able to ask questions and get information.
100% from the mother.
24 25Consultation, Interaction Fathers Consultation, Interaction Fathers
VAMV Bremen Bi-National? Completely Normal!
Regional Association of Single Parents We’re a nationwide organisation for
in Bremen people with intercultural everyday lives.
Our family association stands up for the
We look after single parents by offering VAMV Bremen rights and interests of bi-national and
counselling and self-help groups, and Bürgermeister-Deichmann-Straße 28 migrant families and deals with a wide
we try to push through our demands on D–28217 Bremen variety of issues to promote coexistence
a political level. in our immigration society.
Tel.: +49 421 383834
What we offer:
Opening Hours:
Information and advice on legal issues Verband binationaler Familien
Monday, Tuesday and Thursday
(e.g. marriage or family reunification) and und Partnerschaften, iaf e.V.
10:00 - 12:00
a diverse programme of events Office and Counselling Centre – Bremen
Contacts: Aßmannshauser Straße 54
Jens E. Schröter, Sascha Heydinger and D–28199 Bremen
Helga Heydinger
Tel.: +49 421 554020
vamv-hb@arcor.de bremen@verband-binationaler.de
vamv-hb.jimdo.com www.iaf-bremen.de
26 27Consultation, Interaction Fathers
SOS-Kinderdorf Centre
A Vibrant Place for the Whole Family
There’s always something going on at the
SOS-Kinderdorf Centre in Bremen’s Neu-
stadt. The community centre has a diverse
programme of events for the whole family.
SOS-Kinderdorf Centre
There are parent and child groups, perso-
The heart of the centre is its open café with Friedrich-Ebert-Straße 101, D–28199 Bremen
nal counselling services and even language
a children’s play area. This is where you can Tel.: +49 421 59712-30
exchange cafés for anyone who wants to
have breakfast with others, enjoy a social kinderdorfzentrum.kd-bremen@
improve their German.
lunch and have a chat over coffee and sos-kinderdorf.de
cake. It’s also a venue for numerous events, The SOS-Kinderdorf Centre also houses
Opening Hours:
such as puppet theatre performances, “Klamöttchen”, a second-hand shop for
Monday to Friday, 09:00 - 17:00
picture book cinema and creative activities children’s clothing and toys.
Special events are held on selected
for children.
weekends
www.sos-kinderdorf-bremen.de
www.facebook.com/soskinderdorfzentrum
28 29Consultation, Interaction Fathers
Fathers’ Meetings
Coordinated Open Groups fathers. Our origin, language and every “Vätersprechstunde” (Central Bremen) –
in Several Districts thing else doesn’t matter at all”. Stefan (32). Open Group for Separated Fathers
Every other Saturday, 10:00 - 14:00, Being a father can be tough… Share your
There are many ways in which fathers can with breakfast. experiences, discuss your problems,
get together and share their experiences find support and discover new methods.
in Bremen, and these are usually referred “Familien in Bewegung” For fathers who would like to get in touch
to as a “Vätertreff”. (Vätertreff in Hemelingen) with their children or establish a better
Spending time together, sharing ideas, relationship with them.
“Vätertreff” (Walle) talking to one another, getting information, Tuesdays at 20:00 in the “Haus der Familie –
“We found a connection really quickly. playing, exercising, running wild and free, Mitte”.
The special thing about “Vätertreff” is the being creative, and discovering, trying and
community spirit – lots of fathers with daring new things – a Sunday for fathers “Besuchscafé” (Walle)
their children who are all in the same boat. with their children and families. Supervised handing over of children at the
Advice and Guidance for Families
Many fathers and children have become Every other Sunday from 11:00 to 15:00, weekend.
Fredo Behrens
really good friends. Communication is also fathers meet up with their children
important – we support one another and and families to have fun and chat over Tel.: +49 178 7566447
point out new ways of seeing things as breakfast. info@vakir.de
30 31Consultation, Interaction Young Men
Shelter for Grieving Children and Teenagers
Since 1999, the charity “Trauerland” has The whole family has to find its feet again The fortnightly bereavement groups
been offering support to children and in a new and painful situation. Many provide children with a shelter for their
teenagers who have lost a close relative. parents and children need support through- grieving. The professional supervisors
When children lose their mother, father out this difficult period – and that’s exactly teach the children how to deal with their Trauerland –
or another loved one, their whole world what “Trauerland” offers. grief to prevent the development of Zentrum für trauernde Kinder und
is turned upside down. Nothing is how psychosomatic disorders. Jugendliche e.V.
The charity’s headquarters are in Bremen,
it used to be. Even adults are struck by
and it also has local offices in Oldenburg All services are offered free of charge. Office:
an overwhelming sense of sadness and
and Verden. Its extensive range of services 95% of the charity’s funds come from Hans-Böckler-Straße 9, D–28217 Bremen
desperation.
includes bereavement support groups for donations. Tel.: +49 421 6966720
children and teenagers, moderated groups Fax: +49 421 69667299
for relatives, a grievance group for young
Bereavement support groups take place at
adults, personal advice, telephone counsel-
Schwachhauser Heerstraße 63a,
ling and crisis intervention in emergencies.
D–28211 Bremen.
info@trauerland.org
www.trauerland.org
32 33Consultation Young Men Consultation Young Men
Violence Support Confident and Strong At Last!
for Boys* and Men* (aged 27 and under) in the following areas: Violence Education
• sexual abuse / sexual violence for Boys and Young Men
The JungenBüro in Bremen is an information
• bullying, exclusion and blackmail
and advice centre for boys*, teenagers Violence can shape the identity of boys and
• physical and psychological abuse in the
and young men* who have experienced young men. If they feel small and unmanly,
family
violence at any point in their lives. they might see violence as a way to shake
• physical and psychological abuse in public
off their helplessness, restore their honour
We offer counselling to boys* aged 7 and • exposure to other forms of violence
and earn a reputation with their peers.
older and their supporting relatives, as well
Our counselling is free of charge and can
as to educational staff who look after We create an environment in which boys
be made anonymous on request.
boys* from the age of one. and young men can express their everyday Männer gegen Männer-Gewalt
feelings, discuss their lives and learn to Bremen e.V.
We offer counselling services:
JungenBüro Bremen respect their own personal space and that Tel.: +49 421 3039422
• in person at our centre (by appointment)
Schüsselkorb 17/18 of others. We show them appreciation and
• over the phone during our office hours Monday, 17:30 - 19:00 and
D–28195 Bremen treat them with respect.
• via our online platform for boys* Thursday, 10:00 - 12:00
Tel.: +49 421 59865160
info@bremer-jungenbuero.de info@mgm-bremen.de
www.bremer-jungenbuero.de www.mgm-bremen.de
34 35Consultation Young Men Consultation, Interaction Young Men
Youth Career Guidance at the “Jugendberufsagentur” Offers for Men and Fathers at pro familia
As a youth counselling service, we offer Counselling Centres in Bremen
advice to young people in Bremen aged 16
Counselling in the following areas:
to 25 and help them become independent pro familia Counselling Centre –
• Relationships and sexuality
between their school years and professional North Bremen
• Family planning
life. Weserstraße 35
Contact: • Parental leave / financial support
D–28757 Bremen
We offer support: Andrea Mann (Team Leader) • Becoming a father
Tel.: +49 421 654333
• if personal or family issues are getting in Tel.: +49 421 36188910 • Child sexuality
Fax: +49 421 655543
the way of school or work; Doventorsteinweg 48-52, 4th Floor • Puberty
bremen-nord@profamilia.de
• if young people would like to develop or andrea.mann@afsd.bremen.de
discuss their life plans;
or pro familia Counselling Centre – pro familia Counselling Centre –
• if young adults have questions about their
Central Bremen Bremerhaven
independence (need for a decent income; Entrance area of Jugendberufsagentur
Hollerallee 24 Adolf-Butenandt-Straße 2d
identification of responsible funding agen- in BIZ
D–28209 Bremen D–27580 Bremerhaven
cies; funding opportunities for professio- Doventorsteinweg 44
Tel.: +49 421 3406030 Tel.: +49 471 28722
nal and social integration; placement and D–28195 Bremen
Fax: +49 421 3406035 Fax: +49 471 25633
guidance in the appropriate institutions) www.jugendberufsagentur-bremen.de
bremen@profamilia.de bremerhaven@profamilia.de
36 37Information Men Information Fathers
Self-Help Groups for Men and Fathers The Evangelical Education Centre
Some of the self-help initiatives in Bremen As a state-recognised educational institu- View our programme of events and regi-
include discussion groups on various topics, tion in the State of Bremen, we serve ster online at:
where men and fathers can talk about the local public and present the concerns www.bildungswerk.kirche-bremen.de
their current circumstances, discuss problems and issues of Evangelical adult education
and help one another. in society.
Our self-help office will help you find the We offer many educational initiatives for
right group. You can get in touch over the Faulenstraße 31, D–28195 Bremen men and fathers (partly in cooperation
phone, via email or even in person. We’ll Tel.: +49 421 704581 with other organisations), such as raft buil-
also be happy to help you start your own ding, forging, a seminar on biography
General Office Hours: forum Kirche
group by identifying your goals, finding a work and beer brewing, father and child
Mon - Fri, 10:00 - 13:00 Hollerallee 75, D–28209 Bremen
good venue and promoting your initiative. education, and the annual Men’s Culture
Mon + Thu, 14:00 - 18:00 Tel.: +49 421 346-1535 or
If you like, we can also attend the first Day in Bremen.
Tue + Wed, 14:00 - 16:00 bildungswerk@kirche-bremen.de
meeting and teach you the standard rules
of communication. info@netzwerk-selbsthilfe.com You can easily reach us by taking Bus 24
www.netzwerk-selbsthilfe.com or Trams 6 + 8 (Am Stern); car access via
www.selbsthilfe-wegweiser.de Parkstraße 107.
38 39Information Men Consultation Men
A Day for Men in the Middle of Bremen Eradicating Violence and Building Trust
Every year, the nice rooms of the Forum Violence Counselling for Men
Kirche on Hollerallee are used by 60 to 70
Violence destroys trust and drives you away
men who are interested in meeting up. The
from your partner and children. Violence
men speak about themselves to aid their
creates a sense of desperation and self-
personal development and find motivation
doubt. We offer violence counselling to
in a sheltered space.
men who no longer want to be violent,
You can choose what suits you best from a so that they can change their behaviour.
list of workshops. The ticket price includes
We do this by promoting self-awareness,
a proper lunch and evening meal, as well Männer gegen Männer-Gewalt
pointing out boundaries and teaching men
as a small programme of cultural events in Contact: Christoph Laun, Bremen e.V.
to take responsibility.
the evening. It’s a day for men on the move trapp119@googlemail.com Tel.: +49 421 3039422
to discuss essential issues and develop a Registration: www.bremermaennertag.de Our services are offered by men, for men.
Monday, 17:30 - 19:00 and
deep sense of familiarity and adult mascu Next Date: 7 March 2020, 09:30 ‑ 19:30 Our counselling is free of charge.
Thursday, 10:00 - 12:00
linity. In cooperation with the Evangelical forum Kirche, Hollerallee 75, D–28209 Bremen
Education Centre. More information: info@mgm-bremen.de
kontakt@bremermaennertag.de www.mgm-bremen.de
40 41Consultation, Interaction Men Consultation, Interaction Men
Men can also be… Meeting Places
… gay! There are lots of meeting places in Bremen
… bisexual! for locals and newcomers to meet one
… trans*! another and chat. This is a great opportunity
… inter*! to learn together, exercise, have fun and
… queer! get involved in the community. Everyone is
Rat&Tat – Zentrum für queeres Leben e.V. welcome. The important thing is spending
The Rat&Tat Centre offers:
Theodor-Körner-Straße 1 time together and not where you come
• advice on coming out, rainbow families,
D–28203 Bremen from.
dealing with discrimination, crises, sexual
Tel.: +49 421 7004170 (Information Centre)
health and more There are also special meeting places for
• initiatives for young people beratung@ratundtat-bremen.de certain groups.
• a point of contact for queer refugees www.ratundtat-bremen.de
You can find more information on the Wel-
• advice for couples / relatives / information
Kweer come to Bremen website.
providers
Opening Hours:
• self-help groups
Friday, 20:00 - 24:00 www.welcometobremen.de
• culture, café, bar, Werder Bremen
Sunday, 15:00 - 18:00 www.welcometobremen.de/angebot/
matches and lots more at Kweer
Whenever Werder Bremen is playing angebotscat/freizeit-kulturelle-angebote/
42 43Consultation Men Consultation, Interaction Men
A Refuge for the Soul Anti-Discrimination
REFUGIO Bremen is a psychosocial and Discrimination can be found in all walks of The counselling services are listed in
therapeutic treatment centre for refugees life: when looking for a place to live, in a alphabetical order:
and other individuals who have fled to nightclub, at work, on the train, at school
Germany to find shelter from violence, or even with the public authorities. ADA – Anti-Discrimination
persecution, exILE or torture. in the World of Work
Everyone has the right not to be discrimi-
Bremen, Bahnhofsplatz 22-28
REFUGIO is a safe place for refugees. We nated against due to their ethnicity,
Tel.: +49 421 9608914
offer psychosocial counselling and psycho- gender, religion, ideology, disability, age or
info@ada-bremen.de
therapeutic treatments. Our services are REFUGIO Bremen – sexual identity.
www.ada-bremen.de
free of charge, confidential and offered in Counselling and T
reatment Centre
So, if you
several languages. for Refugees and Torture Victims
• would like to talk about discrimination, ADE – Office Against Discrimination
Außer der Schleifmühle 53
degradation, assault and even violence and Violence – Expertise and Conflict
D–28203 Bremen
or Management
Tel.: +49 421 176677-0
• need advice on your legal and practical Universität Bremen
Fax: +49 421 176677-99
options, Tel.: +49 421 218170
info@refugio-bremen.de you should get in touch with one of the ade@uni-bremen.de
www.refugio-bremen.de following counselling centres. www.ade.uni-bremen.de
44 45Consultation, Interaction Men
Anti-Discrimination
Arbeitnehmerkammer Bremen Migration and Integration Officer SelbstBestimmt Leben e.V. Bremen
(Chamber of Labour) for the State of Bremen Counselling Centre for Disabled Persons
Bremen, Bürgerstraße 1 Bremen, Bahnhofsplatz 29 and their Relatives
Tel.: +49 421 363010 Tel.: +49 421 361-4988 Bremen, Ostertorsteinweg 98
Bremen-Nord, Lindenstraße 8 intregration@soziales.bremen.de Tel.: +49 421 704409
Tel.: +49 421 669500 www.integration.bremen.de beratung@slbremen-ev.de
info@arbeitnehmerkammer.de www.slbremen-ev.de
www.arbeitnehmerkammer.de Rat & Tat – Zentrum für queeres Leben e.V.
Bremen, Theodor-Körner-Straße 1 soliport
Disability Officer for the Tel.: +49 421 704170 Advice and Support for Victims of
Free Hanseatic City of Bremen (LBB) beratung@ratundtat-bremen.de Right-Wing, Racist or Anti-Semitic Violence
Bremen, Am Markt 20 www.ratundtat-bremen.de Bremen, Sögestraße 72
Tel.: +49 421 361-18181 Tel.: +49 421 17831212
office@lbb.bremen.de info@soliport.de
www.lbb.bremen.de www.soliport.de
46 47Consultation, Interaction Men
Learning German Local language courses for asylum seekers You can get more information and advice
and persons with a temporary residence from the following institutions:
German skills are essential for your inte There are also courses designed specifically
permit are arranged by the Senator for
gration in the labour market and education for illiterate persons and slow learners.
Social Affairs, Young People, Integration Volkshochschule Bremen (VHS)
system. Learning the language will also Bremen has a wide range of language schools.
and Sport (SJIS). Faulenstraße 69
help you become involved in all areas of
Where can I find more information? D–28195 Bremen
community life.
Integration courses are organised and The Senator for Social Affairs, Public Transport:
There are different German courses. managed by the Federal Office for Young People, Integration and Sport Radio Bremen / Volkshochschule
Many people can attend integration courses. Migration and Refugees (BAMF). Department of Integration Policy Tel.: +49 421 361-12345
The City of Bremen offers local German Bahnhofsplatz 29 www.vhs-bremen.de
courses for adult asylum seekers and persons D–28195 Bremen
Federal Office for the Recognition of
with a provisional residence permit who Tel.: +49 421 361-6841 Paritätisches Bildungswerk Bremen (PBW)
Foreign Refugees – Bremen Office
are not (yet) entitled to attend an integra- www.soziales.bremen.de Faulenstraße 31
Steinsetzerstraße 14
tion course held by the Federal Office for D–28195 Bremen
D–28279 Bremen
Migration and Refugees (BAMF) or state- Public Transport:
Tel.: +49 421 8391-0 or +49 421 8391-199
sponsored vocational language courses Radio Bremen / Volkshochschule
info@bafl.de
(DeuFöV). Tel.: +49 421 174720
webgis.bamf.de
www.pbwbremen.de
48 49Consultation, Interaction Men
Learning German
You can also learn German Where can I find more information? Where can I find language exchange cafés?
for free online: Language exchange cafés give you the
Language Coordination Office chance to meet people from different
Goetheinstitut: for the State of Bremen countries and improve your German.
www.goethe.de ESF Sprachförderung Integrations- und You can just turn up without registering.
Berufssprachkurse
Deutsche Welle: You can find the address and opening
Zentrum für Schule und Beruf
www.dw.com/de/deutsch-lernen/ times of language exchange cafés at:
Steffensweg 171
deutsch-interaktiv/s-9571
D–28217 Bremen
Welcome to Bremen
Volkshochschule: Tel.: +49 421 3804765
welcometobremen.de/angebot/
www.iwdl.de Fax: +49 421 383589
angebotscat/freie-sprachkurse-und-
patrick.bohne@zsb-bremen.de
Deutsche Volkshochschul-Verband: sprachcafes/
www.zsb-bremen.de
vhs-lernportal.de/Deutsch;
Gemeinsam in Bremen
http://a1.vhs-lernportal.de
https://www.gemeinsam-in-bremen.de/
sprachcafes
50 51Information Men Information Fathers
Healthy Parents – Info and Facts Time for Your Baby Applications for “Basiselterngeld” (basic
parental allowance) and “Elterngeld Plus”
• 2.5 hours of exercise a week can give you Overview of counselling services for men, Parental Leave and Financial Support
(parental allowance plus) have to be sub-
a longer life! fathers and boys:
Having a baby and getting to spend time mitted in writing to the “Elterngeldstelle”.
• A healthy diet helps to prevent certain www.maennerberatungsnetz.de
with it is an incredible experience for You can download, print and complete
illnesses!
mothers and fathers. Many fathers aren’t application forms here:
• Men can have medical check-ups and
aware that they can also take parental www.service.bremen.de
screening tests as part of their health
leave and apply for financial support. This
insurance coverage!
gives them the chance to spend quality
• An emotionally and physically satisfying
time with their child and fully immerse
relationship will increase your well-being! Landesvereinigung für Gesundheit Elterngeldstelle – Bremen
themselves in family life.
• An active father-child relationship und Akademie für Sozialmedizin Amt für Soziale Dienste
improves the health of all family members! Niedersachsen e.V. You can find more information about eligi- Hans-Böckler-Straße 9, 3rd Floor
• If you take regular breaks, you’ll feel in cooperation with Landesvereinigung bility criteria here: D–28217 Bremen
better, healthier and less exhausted! für Gesundheit Bremen e.V. Tel.: +49 421 361-94300
www.service.bremen.de
Project: Coordination Office for Health elterngeldstelle.bremen@afsd.bremen.de
www.familien-wegweiser.de
More information: Equality in Bremen Office Hours (in branch): Thu, 08:00 - 12:00
www.elterngeld-plus.de
www.maennergesundheitsportal.de www.gesundheit-nds.de Office Hours (telephone): Tue, 08:00 - 10:00
www.stiftung-maennergesundheit.de www.lvg-gesundheit-bremen.de and Fri, 10:00 - 12:00
52 53Information Fathers
The ABC of Pregnancy g
You can uide your sweetheart through The labour ward is the room in a hospital
Make your way confidently through the Dermatological stretch marks are a form childbirth. Ask her beforehand what k
where iddies are born. You should have a
she would like. Read a book, talk to the look around before the birth and familia-
pregnancy jungle and make sure you’re of scarring on the skin. Offer her a massage
midwife or attend a preparatory course. rise yourselves with the route and the staff.
well prepared for the arrival of your little now and then (e.g. with oils). This can help
miracle. and is good for the relationship. h
The midwife is always there to elp you. l
A inea nigra is a dark vertical line that
She’ll give you important information may appear between the bellybutton
When a baby is born, everyday life can be a
e
Your partner will have to at healthy
about your baby, and you can ask her and pubis during pregnancy. It usually
during pregnancy. You should both have a
little hectic at first. You’ll have to make a everything about pregnancy. disappears by itself.
healthy diet. You can support her by making
a
lot of rrangements and reorganise things.
fresh and healthy meals. She should avoid Incontinence will be an unpleasant topic The m aternity record contains all the
Some mothers experience fluctuating raw meat and fish, unpasteurised milk and for your partner during pregnancy. The important information about your partner
emotions after giving birth. This is known cheese, raw eggs and unwashed fruit and baby will press against her bladder, and and your little bundle of joy. You should
b
as the aby blues. Ask her what you can vegetables at first. she’ll often need the toilet. keep it with you at all times.
do to help and have patience with her.
f
The oetus floats in amniotic fluid inside Iodine helps a baby to grow, form strong It’s perfectly normal to become increasingly
c
Doctors use a method known as ardio the amniotic sac. This protects the baby. j
bones and oints, and develop a healthy n ervous. Talk to other men about your
tocography (CTG) to monitor contractions The amniotic sac bursts during labour, brain. Ask your doctor for more informa- feelings, such as by attending a preparatory
and record the baby’s heartbeat. which is referred to as the “waters breaking”. tion. course.
54 55Information Fathers
O xytocin is known as the “love hormone” S ex is also possible during pregnancy. There are 10 prenatal check-ups and
and is very important during childbirth The baby is well protected and won’t be v
iewings. Help your pregnant partner
and bonding. It’s the hormone that causes harmed. Speak openly about your feelings attend every session.
contractions during labour. and make time for each other.
When a woman goes into labour, her
Swaddling is the ancient practice of Toxoplasmosis is an infection that can w omb contracts. Learn breathing
wrapping babies in blankets. This can have pose a threat to your unborn child. Your techniques together. These can help her
p
a acifying effect on your child. pregnant partner can become infected by to relax.
eating raw or rare meat and through
A shoulder presentation (or Q uerlage)
exposure to animal faeces (e.g. from cats).
Girls have two X chromosomes.
is rare. The child is then delivered via
That’s why you should take care of cleaning
Y
Boys have one X and one chromosome. SOS-Kinderdorf e.V.
C-section. SOS-Kinderdorf Worpswede
things like cat litter trays. You’re going to be parents –
Grönlandstraße 16
r
You should efrain from smoking near
Ultrasound technology is used to monitor congratulations! But don’t forget to spend
D–28719 Bremen
pregnant women – not at home and time together as a couple to stop your
the development of your baby during preg-
especially not in the car. Help her to stop
nancy.
z
energy being apped. That’s why it’s Tel.: +49 4792 9332-691
smoking during pregnancy. important to involve your parents and Fax: +49 4792 9332-29
close friends from the start. stefanie.kehl@sos-kinderdorf.de
www.sos-kinderdorf.de
56 57Notes
Imprint
Publisher Design
The Senator for Social Affairs, Young machart: Oelgemöller + Heitmann
People, Integration and Sport (SJIS) www.machart-bremen.de
Department: Civic Involvement, Self-Help,
Family Support and Policies & Homosexual Translation
Lifestyles Kern AG Sprachendienste, Bremen
Bahnhofsplatz 29
D–28195 Bremen Photos
www.soziales.bremen.de provided by the institutions;
Fotolia: Kzenon, Lightfield, Jacob Lund,
Editor Rawpixel; Pixabay: Stocksnap
The texts were written by the employees of
the respective institutions. Bremen, September 2019
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