When Depression Leads to Addiction - 2021 by GeorGe Miller - Twin Cities Men's Center
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in our 46th year Feb/Mar 2022
of public service Volume 46 #1
Explore Your Truth, Find Your Voice at the Twin Cities Men’s Center
When Depression Leads to Addiction – © 2021 by George Miller
M any with mental illnesses – especially depression – keep you from trying. Taking a class, volunteering, and attend-
turn to self-medication which quickly becomes sub- ing events in your community are all great ways to broaden your
stance abuse, and in many cases, addiction. Nobody social network.
sets out to become an addict, but the temporary relief they get For many people, connecting with a therapist is an impor-
from drugs or alcohol becomes something they depend on. It tant step. Look into your insurance options. If you have
doesn’t take long for this to quickly spiral out of control. Medicare, you may qualify for counseling services through
Furthermore, it most likely means that the person is not Medicare Part B.
being treated for their mental illness. Drugs or alcohol may Learn healthy ways to deal with stress.
temporarily make a person feel happy, but the reality is that this Many people turn to drugs and alcohol as a means to escape
will only last for a matter of hours, and ultimately, depression a stressful event or to cover up painful memories. To have a suc-
symptoms will worsen. It’s a vicious cycle. cessful recovery, you have to develop healthier ways to deal with
After using a drug, or alcohol, or an addictive behavior over your depression and manage stress.
a period of time, your body may develop a dependency that Being in nature is a great way to de-stress. When you feel
seems hard to reverse. Fortunately, you can overcome addiction wound up, go for a brisk walk outside. The fresh air will help
and begin to live a happier and healthier lifestyle. The path reset your mind and give your mood an instant boost. There are
to recovery will be filled with many bumps and you will have many ways to relieve stress, and over time you will find which
moments where you will question recovery. The fact is, you are ways work best for you. Once you become confident in your
worth it and you can do this. ability to quickly de-stress, dealing with certain pressures and
Form a network of support. issues won’t feel so intimidating or overwhelming.
Even though addiction can be very isolating, it is important Don’t be discouraged by a relapse.
that you don’t try to go through the recovery process alone. Even after you learn ways to cope with your depression and
Surrounding yourself with positive influences such as friends stress, you still may be at risk for various triggers that can cause
and family is a valuable asset in recovery. Make your fam- you to relapse. Strong temptations or urges, withdrawal symp-
ily members aware of your commitment to your recovery and toms or social pressure are all reasons why many stray off track.
request their support. Ask that they are available to you for those Should this happen to you, do not become discouraged.
moments you feel like you are close to giving in to temptation. Relapse is actually a common part of the recovery process,
A good support team will encourage you and uplift you, but that is not an excuse to go back to your old habits. Use a
without judgment. Use them as a light to keep you going in the relapse as a stepping stone to become better. Once you regain
right direction. While some family will be there for you imme- sobriety, look at what triggered the relapse and what you could
diately, you may have a difficult time rekindling other relation- have done differently.
ships. It is completely normal for some close relationships to Deciding to break away from addiction is only the begin-
become estranged due to addiction. If you feel as though those ning of the journey. Recovery takes hard work and motivation,
relationships need a little more help being mended, consider but there are many success stories of people who have overcome
going to family therapy or relationship counseling. addiction. Each day you move toward recovery, you are building
While you were using, chances are your only friends were a success story of your own.
those who used drugs or drank alcohol often. On your path to George Miller believes one of the keys to well-being is security.
recovery, it is a necessity that you befriend people who are sober. In his free time, you can probably catch George at an Atlanta Braves
It may seem difficult to make new friends, but do not let that game with his family or tinkering with his latest home DIY project.2 twin cities men's center news men talk
Library Corner Letter from the Chair
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– Matt Barnes, Jeff xplore Your Truth, Find Your Voice, Also on the horizon, Anger Management
Springer, Librarians at the Twin Cities Men’s Center” Level #2 Beyond Anger Reclaim Your Fire”
is a motto that past TCMC Board proposed by Dan Gorbunow – Our first
I’m looking for suggestions on what Member Chris Durant envisioned back 2022 Anger Management Class begins on
I can do to organize the library and make in 2017. A visionary moment for how we Jan 19, again online which is going smooth-
it more user friendly. What would peo- continue to be “Growing Our Resources, ly with the seasoned experience of office
ple like to see in the library? They can Transforming Our Future, Boosting Our Manager Tom Maher who has shown great
text or email me suggestions at 612-275- Signal, and Nurturing Our Partnerships” flexibility to step up to manage the office
5861 or jeffreyscotspringer@gmail.com. prescient language from our Strategic during these challenging pandemic times
The books in the Men’s Center Planning sessions a few years back! Thanks and our team of dedicated facilitators Dave
Library are sectioned off into 14 categories. Chris! N, Joel F, Bob E, and more.
These categories are: Fathers, Children & Now in 2022, Tom Sullivan, newly TCMC Support Groups easily dis-
Families, Fiction, Gay & Lesbian, Health elected board member expressed his passion covered through online searches that have
& Therapy, Humor, Men’s Movement for simplicity in messaging, and advocates expanded our service area. Thanks to Bill
& Masculinity, Men’s Stories & Poetry, for dynamic energy to attract more men D and Andy M for tweaking our website
Miscellaneous, Reference, Relationships to our work this year of hybrid vigor. He regularly to be flexible and robust portal
& Friendships, Sexuality, Spirituality, to TCMC online. BC “Before Covid” at
envisions more clarity in our discerning of
Valued Elders, Women. TCM Center in Uptown we would pass
how to attract men in the 21st century, to
In addition to members having bor-
share tools learned, with support of other around an envelope for donations. Venmo
rowing privileges from our library, we also
men that can used to be balanced members is an app that allows virtual donations using
have a reading room with free WiFi access.
of society in these transformative times. His our QR code. See this link with practice
Stop in for a cup of coffee and catch up
on your men’s literature, and check out a energy was palpable at our fully masked to hover your smart phone camera over the
book to go! face-to-face Jan board meeting; with five QR code below: .
board member, Derek Gegner, returning Our end of year success in generous
Address Change Notifications from work in Hong Kong, zoomed in a donations in December, is giving us a big lift
bring a youthful music tone to the center to carry us into the New Year. We are confi-
from the post office cost the as a past visionary in bring a screening of dent we will continue to support each other
Men’s Center $1.71 each. Please “The Red Pill” to TCMC in the Robert Bly into this year sharing how to be resilient in
let us know in advance of mailings! Room in 2018, attended by a gender mixed acceptance, joy and compassion and trust-
Thanks! audience. Thanks to all of our supporters! Easy
“Some of the issues discussed as facing Does it, and enjoy the journey of growing
Men Talk is a bi-monthly publication of men and boys are male suicide rates, work- more connections in the coming year.
the Twin Cities Men’s Center. Call 612- In Service,
place fatalities and high-risk jobs, military
822-5892, or e-mail us at tcmc@tcmc.org
conscription, lack of services for male vic- Tom Weaver
Office Manager: Tom Maher
tims of domestic violence” TCMC Board Chair
Anger Mgmt Coord.: Bill Baldwin
Office Volunteer: Jim Heaney Annual Facilitator Training, Sat., April 23rd, 12:15–2:30pm.
Editor: Bill Dobbs Training will be taught by Tommy Jones, Gary Weldon and several other experienced
Board of Directors: facilitators, plus Tom Maher! All current support group facilitators, plus those wishing to
Tom Weaver, Chair become one, are welcome to attend. This is a wonderful opportunity to connect with other
Andy Mickel, Vice-Chair facilitators, to sharpen old skills, learn some new ones and to share your experiences with oth-
Ben Alfaro, Secretary ers. Please RSVP to Tom Maher and tomm@tcmc.org or (612) 822-5892. Please consider
Rick Charlson, Treasurer attending….see you there! Masks required!
Mike Arieta
Norm Petrik VOLUNTEER TREASURER OPPORTUNITY
Tom Sullivan We are now accepting applications for TCMC’s next Treasurer following the recent
Derek Gegner - Alternate announcement that our current Treasurer will be stepping down in April 2022. The Treasurer
Harry Greenberg - Alternate will be responsible for financial management and oversight, budgeting and monitoring, tax
Dan Gorbonow - Alternate reporting, and making monthly reports to the Board of Directors. Qualified candidates will
Jim Heaney - Alternate have demonstrated experience in accounting and/or finance and a strong alignment with the
TCMC mission. Please visit TCMC.org to read the full job description. Interested parties can
contact our Office Manager, Tom Maher, at tomm@tcmc.org.EVENTS CALENDAR
The mission of the Men’s Center is to provide resources for men seeking to grow in body, mind,
and spirit; and from that foundation to advocate for healthier family and community relationships.
Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday
Support Group Support Groups Support Groups Support Group Support Group
web site: www.tcmc.org Gay Issues 7:30 pm HSB 5:30 pm Divorce/General Men Sexually Evolving Men’s Wellness
Addict. Busters7:30p 7:30 pm Man 7:30 pm 10:30 am
e-mail: tcmc@tcmc.org Sex Abuse Survivors
Clinic 7:30 pm
phone: 612 / 822-5892 Family Law 7
1 2 3 4 5
Support Group Support Group Support Groups Support Groups Support Group Support Group
We agnostics Gay Issues 7:30 pm HSB 5:30 pm Divorce/General Men Sexually Evolving Men’s Wellness
Addict. Busters 7:30 pm Man 7:30 pm 10:30 am
of uptown AA Sex Abuse Survivors
7:30p
6:00pm 7:30 pm
6 7 8 9 10 11 12
Support Group Board Mtg. 7 pm Support Group Support Groups Support Groups Support Group Support Group
We agnostics Gay Issues 7:30 pm HSB 5:30 pm Divorce/General Men Sexually Evolving Men’s Wellness
Addict. Busters 7:30 pm Man 7:30 pm 10:30 am
of uptown AA
7:30p Sex Abuse Survivors
6:00pm 7:30 pm
13 14 15 16 17 18 19
Men’s Brunch Support Group Support Groups Support Groups Support Group Support Group
Gay Issues 7:30 pm HSB 5:30 pm Divorce/General Men Sexually Evolving Men’s Wellness
Cancelled Man 7:30 pm
Addict. Busters7:30p 7:30 pm 10:30 am
Support Groups Sex Abuse Survivors
Men’s Retirement 7:30 pm
5:30 pm
AA 6:00pm
20 21 22 23 24 25 26
Support Group Support Group Support Groups Support Groups Support Group Support Group
We agnostics Gay Issues 7:30 pm HSB 5:30 pm Divorce/General Men Sexually Evolving Men’s Wellness
of uptown AA Addict. Busters 7:30 pm Man 7:30 pm 10:30 am
6:00pm 7:30p Sex Abuse Survivors
7:30 pm
Clinic
27 28 1 Family Law 7
2 3 4 5
Support Group Support Group Support Groups Support Groups Support Group Support Group
We agnostics Gay Issues 7:30 pm HSB 5:30 pm Divorce/General Men Sexually Evolving Men’s Wellness
Addict. Busters 7:30 pm Man 7:30 pm 10:30 am
of uptown AA Sex Abuse Survivors
7:30p
6:00pm 7:30 pm
6 7 8 9 10 11 12
Support Group Board Mtg. 7 pm Support Group Men Talk Deadline Support Groups Support Group Support Group
We agnostics Gay Issues 7:30 pm Divorce/General Men Sexually Evolving Men’s Wellness
Support Groups 7:30 pm Man 7:30 pm 10:30 am
of uptown AA HSB 5:30 pm Sex Abuse Survivors
6:00pm Addict. Busters 7:30 pm
7:30p
13 14 15 16 17 18 19
Men’s Brunch Support Group Support Groups Support Groups Support Group Men Talk Mailing
Gay Issues 7:30 pm HSB 5:30 pm Divorce/General Men Sexually Evolving
Cancelled Addict. Busters 7:30 pm Man 7:30 pm Support Group
Sex Abuse Survivors Men’s Wellness
Support Groups 7:30p 10:30 am
Men’s Retirement 7:30 pm
5:30 pm
AA 6:00pm 20 21 22 23 24 25 26
Support Group Support Group Support Groups Support Groups
We agnostics Gay Issues 7:30 pm HSB 5:30 pm Divorce/General Men
Addict. Busters 7:30 pm
of uptown AA
7:30p Sex Abuse Survivors
6:00pm 7:30 pm
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1976 In Our 46th Year
2022
Call us
Feb/Mar 2022
about Anger
of Public Service
Management
Classes.4 Family Law Clinic
P R E S E N TAT I O N S Leader: Heather Chakirov
S U P P O RT G RO U P S
Where: Video Chat “The mission of the Men’s Center Support
The Twin Cities Men’s Center has When: Wed., Mar. 2, 7:00-9:00 pm Groups is to create a safe place, in times of
been an important voice in the community personal and social challenge, for any men and
for 45 years providing classes and support Open to all Genders women to receive and give support to one another
groups promoting personal growth to many Targeted to the needs of men or women and share feelings and experiences to facilitate
men and women. Professional leaders in the going through or anticipating divorce or SELF-ACCEPTANCE and PERSONAL
community have led weekly presentations dealing with other family law issues, this GROWTH.”
providing a wide opportunity for educational, Clinic will give you an opportunity to discuss The Men’s Center support groups are hosted by
spiritual and emotional growth for 33 years. your own questions on such topics as: a trained facilitator. Although each group has
In recent years, attendance of the • Divorce a specific focus, all groups are Open to general
presentations by TCMC supporters has • Separation discussions and attended as a Drop-In basis.
diminished to the extent that the TCMC • Paternity Support groups begin promptly at 7:30, so arrive
Board of Directors has agreed to schedule • Property Division early such that you can browse the many resources
them intermittently as the interest arises. • Custody and library materials. A donation of $3-9 helps
The 1st Wednesday of the month Family • Spousal Maintenance keep TCMC operational. Liquid refreshments are
Law Clinic will continue by providing legal • Child Support available at a separate donation rate. All groups
support for those experiencing legal issues. • Financial Settlements are men only, except where listed for all genders.
The Board wishes to express appreciation • Co-habitation
to the supporters who attended the Attorneys will volunteer their time and • Location: Video Chat - request a link
presentations and the many volunteer expertise for the benefit of those who attend. a using “Contact a Group Facilitator” at
professionals who gave their time and talent
As we resume in-person groups, please
the TCMC mission.
A small fee is collected at the door for CLASSES check with a facilitator if your group is
each person attending: meeting in-person.
Non-Members of TCMC – $5. Anger Management
Regular Members ($25 level) – $3
Sustaining Members – FREE Facilitator: various General Men's Issues/
All presentations, classes, and clinics Where: Video Chat/In-Person Divorce/Uncoupling
continue to meet by phone or video chat. When: See calendar for dates
Open to Men Only
Beginning August 2021, we have begun Open to Men Only, Registration Required
hybrid meetings, both video and in-person at Men express feelings about separation,
The Men’s Center, 3249 Hennepin Ave. So, Have you been told that your verbal divorce, breaking up with a lover, and topics
Suite 55, Minneapolis, MN 55408 (unless and emotional expression of anger is out of such as child custody/legal hassles. Men can
otherwise noted). control? Have you lost your job or spouse express what it means to be a man in our
The Twin Cities Men’s Center does not because you “blew up” one too many times? culture and other issues in their lives.
endorse, takes no specific position, nor holds Have you been hit with a court order to take Location: Video Chat / In-Person
any opinion on the presentations, or of any an Anger Management Class? Learn how to • Thursdays 7:30 - 9:30 pm
information imparted, or of the presenter(s) manage your feelings with the Twin Cities
Anger Management Program. This is one Gay Issues
themselves. Presentations are the sole product
and responsibility of the presenter(s). of the best, and most affordable, programs Open to Men Only
in the area. It’s ideal for men who desire to
significantly improve their relationships at Men express feelings about life’s challenges
home and at work. and experiences, and what it means to be gay
CLINICS The focus of the twelve week anger and male (you don’t have to be gay to attend.)
This is the Twin Cities longest running gay
management class is both education
support group.
Family Law Clinic and support. Through class interaction,
experiential exercises, lecture, and homework Location: Video Chat / In-Person
Leader: Rasheen Tillman assignments, men will develop new ways to • Tuesdays 7:30 - 9:30 pm
Where: Video Chat manage their feelings of anger. Following
Addiction Busters
When: Wed., Feb. 2, 7:00-9:00 pm completion of the class, participants can join
an ongoing support group to reinforce their Open to all Genders
Open to all Genders new skills. These ongoing support groups will Struggling with chemical or behavioral
Targeted to the needs of men or women also be facilitated by the trained volunteer addiction? AA not helping you? Frustrated
going through or anticipating divorce or facilitators. with twelve -step programs? Don’t like feeling
dealing with other family law issues, this Classes are filled on a first come, first powerless?
Clinic will give you an opportunity to discuss served basis. Currently, there are classes on
your own questions on such topics as: Mondays, Tuesdays, and Wednesdays. Want to bust your addiction rather than
• Divorce Please call TCMC at 612-822-5892 to being busted FOR your addiction? Would
• Separation be placed on the waiting list. State name, you like to talk about Rational Recovery,
• Paternity address, telephone, preferred starting class. SMART Recovery, the works of Stanton
• Property Division Or if you need further details, call our Anger Peele, Ann Fletcher, James Prochaska
• Custody Management coordinator, Bill Baldwin, at and others in a supportive, confidential,
• Spousal Maintenance 612-229-3102. comfortable atmosphere? Come to Addiction
• Child Support Busters support group and discuss alternative,
• Financial Settlements cognitive approaches that may help you battle
• Co-habitation your addiction in new and different ways !
Attorneys will volunteer their time and Location: Video Chat / In-Person
expertise for the benefit of those who attend. • Wednesdays 7:30 - 9:30 pmChoosing Healthy Sexual Sexual Trauma & Abuse The Sexually Evolving Man 5
Open to Men and Transgender Men
Boundaries Survivors
If sexuality is at the root of our existence
Open to Men Only Open to all Genders and “change” is the only continuous thing
Do you have concerns about your sexual Co-facilitators: Jerry Buchmeier, PhD in life. Why would our sexuality, how we
behavior? Are you receiving negative feedback (Therapeutic Counseling) & Kathleen identify ourselves, desires, and experiences
about your sexual choices? Worried about McDowell, MA (Human Development) be any different? This group is for men
excessive, compulsive or obsessive sexual Many adults have been sexually who are evolving sexually and question how
activities? Too much pornography in your abused in childhood or adolescence, or the evolving intersect with their day to day
life? Too many strip clubs? Ever feel like a have experienced sexual trauma as adults. life.
sex addict? Feeling uncomfortable about Whether you have clear memories or
inappropriate fantasies/thoughts/urges? vague recollections, perhaps you experience Location: Video Chat / In-Person
Hurting or disappointing someone you love? feelings of shame, self-hate, guilt, fear, • Fridays 7:30 - 9:30 pm
This group is a confidential, non- anger, grief, or embarrassment. Sharing
confrontational and non-judgmental place your story and feelings with others can Men’s Wellness
to talk with other men about healthy sexual release these feelings, while creating and Open to Men Only
boundaries. renewing patterns of comfortable, healthy,
If you are currently participating in or This group creates a space for men
and rewarding interactions with people of to work on creating a healthy, happy,
have completed a sex offender treatment both sexes. This support group provides a
program you are welcome. If you have never productive and meaningful life with the
safe environment to share your experiences support of other men, or anyone identifying
been involved with the legal system you are and learn about how others are coping with
also welcome. Facilitated by: Tommy Jones, as male. We will include time for men
these issues. Join us in developing healthier to share uninterrupted about the life
Thomas Koepke, Sean Kratz, and Gary attitudes and behaviors that transform us
Weldon. they’re creating, along with a brief weekly
from survivors into living life to the fullest. meditation, no-impact energy exercises, and
Questions, call Jerry, 763-546-4133. a short teaching as a conversation starter.
Location: Phone
• Wednesdays 5:30 - 7:30 pm Location: Video Chat / In-Person Location: Video Chat / In-Person
• Thursdays 7:30 - 9:30 pm •Saturdays 10:30 am - noon
Men Facing Retirement Issues
Mankind Project Open Circle Open to Men Only
When: Every Mon., 7:00-9:00 pm, Online
A support group for men thinking about
Open to Men Only retirement or who have already retired. It is
ManKind Project Minnesota began in 1990 and over 800 men are in our an opportunity to share feelings with other
community. We have more than 20 on-going men’s groups which serve as places men about the importance of work and
where men can develop their Emotional Intelligence, practice Accountability to what happens when paid employment is no
their Commitments of Service to others, and practice Authenticity in Actions and longer part of a man’s life.
declarations. Location: In-Person
This Open Circle enables participants to witness other men practice clarity of self- • 3rd Sundays 5:30 - 7:00 pm
expression from their hearts rather than their heads. Join us in our 5-round format and
ask questions to learn more and even participate yourself if you choose. Our structure is We Agnostics of Uptown AA
based on the masculine archetypes of King, Warrior, Magician & Lover in Moore and
Gilette’s book. Open to Men Only
Registration: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdBQh40_ A support group for men stuggling with
addiction who want to try an AA model
XpJInGr35iDThnqBLOl2HyhPbdL7djqzNDFVbJliw/viewform with an agnostic approach. For details,
contact: Frank at agnostictc@gmail.com
The Perspectives Location: In-Person
• Sundays 6:00 - 7:00 pm
Exchange Laboratory
(PX Lab) Fundraising &
Contributions Help
We believe in the value of your
experiences and insight. Our
Needed
purpose is to provide a venue
where individual perspectives are
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Visit www.WarriorVox.com for links.6 Here and There – Edited by Andy Mickel
Monthly Men’s Sunday Brunches work activities: indigenous teachings, Conference fee is $350.00 (reduced fees
On Ho l d Un t i l Ap ri l . Four drumming, dance, mask-making, available for those in need).
m e n a t t e n d e d S t e p h e n S e w e l l ’s wilderness tracking, access to ancestors, – Walton Stanley, 2021-12.31.
D e c e m b e r b r u n c h i n S t . Pa u l etc.
– Andy Mickel, 2022-01-17. The 2 Million Year Old Man No One
A in-depth, biographical film, “Robert Knows: Awakening the Masculine Soul
“Thanks for all the great work you guys Bly: A Thousand Years of Joy” was released Since I began my work helping men
do!” – Keith Johansen, 2021-11-15. in 2015 at film festivals throughout the and their families more than fifty years
country, and subsequently broadcast ago, there has been a steadily growing
To John Hesch: “I took your class about on PBS. DVDs are available at: http:// recognition of the importance of healing
10 years ago. It has come to my attention robertblyfilm.com/. men if we are going to heal humanity.
that you have recently retired from the No one has to tell us that we are living
TCMC Anger Management Program. I TCMC honored Robert Bly over the years during a time of massive change. The
wanted to thank you for your tireless and by inviting him as the featured keynote arrival of the Coronavirus has impacted
unselfish commitment to the program. speaker at Men’s Center-organized everyone on earth, reminded us that we
I was always impressed with your efforts Midwest Regional Men’s Conferences in are all connected, and calling humanity
and with you as a human being. If 1980, 1985, and 1989. The large meeting to reconnect with our partnership roots
everyone in the world was like you the room at our offices was named the Robert before our dysfunctional practices bring
world would have no problems. Good Bly room in 2018. about our demise. I recently wrote an
luck with, and enjoy your retirement. – Andy Mickel, 2021-12-01. article, “My Moonshot Mission to Save
And thanks for your help in helping me.” Man Kind,” to offer a call to action in
– Dave Hafner, 2021-12-13. Long-time Men’s Center volunteer, and support of humanity. Read more at
alternate board member, Dan Gorbunow Jed Diamond’s Men Alive blog: https://
The Passing of Robert Bly launched his new collaborative resource menalive.com/the-2-million-year-old-
The guiding force behind the modern for men: The Seven Feathers Society in man-no-one-knows/
m e n’s My t h o p o e t i c Me n’s Wo r k St. Paul, to focus support primarily for – Jed Diamond, 2021-12-02.
movement, Robert Bly, known primarily men in recovery: assisting individuals and
as a Minnesota poet and author of books communities recovering from substance
such as Iron John: A Book About Men, use disorders, addiction, trauma, and
The Soul is Here for its Own Joy, The chronic dysfunction, by providing Make a
Donation
Sibling Society: An Impassioned Call for holistic wellness education and services,
the Rediscovery of Adulthood, and The in-depth peer support, healthy food and
Rag and Bone Shop of the Heart, passed at lifestyle experiences, wisdom-based ritual
to the TC Men’s Center.
age 94 in Minneapolis in late November, and spiritual education. Read more at:
2021. A heartfelt obituary written by https://sevenfeatherssociety.org/about/ It’s fast, safe and simple!
poet and colleague Thomas R. Smith (a – Dan Gorbunow, 2021-12-01.
former Men Talk editor), appeared in
the Minneapolis StarTribune on Sunday, 2022 Minnesota Men’s Conference: “Into Scan this Venmo Code with
November 21st. You can read Smith’s the Belly of Ice and Snow” February 4-6, your smart phone today.
letter on the https://www.robertbly.com/ 2022 https://minnesotamensconference.
news.html website, managed by Mark com/
Stanley over the past 15 years. Hosted on the wooded banks of the St.
Croix River at the YMCA Camp St.
With the help of many men, Robert Croix just outside Hudson, WI (about
Bly organized annual Minnesota Men’s 30 miles east of the Twin Cities). We
Conferences beginning in the mid-1980s have the use of a beautiful lodge with a
over the next 30+ years. Hundreds of large and roaring fireplace as well as snug
men experienced story telling, drumming, heated bunkhouses for all participants.
poetry and learned the human wisdom Shared meals are provided in the camp’s
of mythological heritage that contributes spacious cafeteria beginning with breakfast
to the essence of men’s souls. At the Saturday, February 5th. Guests include
conferences he teamed with 4 or 5 other old friends Miguel Rivera, Ben Dennis,
teachers to present a broad range of men’s Timothy Young, and Walton Stanley.men talk twin cities men's center news 7
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Full Page 7 1/2" x 10" $200
Twin Cities Men’s Center, 1/2 Page 7 1/2" x 4 7/8" $125
3249 Hennepin Ave S 1/4 Page 3 5/8" x 4 7/8" $65
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Full Day (8 hrs) $50 $100
Half Day (4 hrs) $25 $50 (612) 822-5892
Hourly $7.50 $15 tcmc@tcmc.org
(612) 822-5892TCMC Office Hours: Monday through Friday 12:00pm–4:00pm (unless otherwise posted on our online calendar). Our tele-
phone (612) 822-5892 is answered 24-hours per day by voicemail, and an attempt is made to return calls within 1 or 2 days.
Our FAX number is (612) 821-6424.
TCMC is in the lower level of “Uptown Office Park,” a brick office building on the Northeast corner of West 33rd Street and Hennepin Avenue
in south Minneapolis, Enter through the door on the north (3249) end of the building (it has 2 numbers: 3249 and 3255!), immediately turn left and
descend the stairway through the fire door to Suite 55. (Formerly) handicapped access is easiest through a side door on West 33rd Street.
Check out our web site: www.tcmc.org or correspond at our e-mail address: tcmc@tcmc.org
The Twin Cities Men’s Center NON-PROFIT ORG.
3249 Hennepin Avenue South, Suite 55 US POSTAGE
Minneapolis, MN 55408 USA PAID
TWIN CITIES, MN
ADDRESS SERVICE REQUESTED PERMIT NO. 1100
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Anger Management Program
Have you been told that your verbal and emotional expression of anger is out of control? Have you lost your job or spouse
because you “blew up” one too many times? Have you been hit with a court order to take an Anger Management Class? Learn
how to manage your feelings with the Twin Cities Anger Management Program. This is one of the best, and most affordable,
programs in the area. It’s ideal for men who desire to significantly improve their relationships at home and at work.
The focus of the twelve week anger management class is both education and support. Through class interaction, experiential
exercises, lecture, and homework assignments, men will develop new ways to manage their feelings of anger. Following comple-
tion of the class, participants can join an ongoing support group to reinforce their new skills. These ongoing support groups will
also be facilitated by the trained volunteer facilitators.
Length of Class: 12 consecutive weeks
Please call TCMC at 612-822-5892 to be placed on the
Number of Participants: Limited to 12 men per class
waiting list. State name, address, telephone, preferred start-
Cost: $265 for TCMC Members ($275 for Non-Members) ing class. Or if you need further details, call our Anger
Starting Dates: Classes are filled on a first come, Management coordinator, Bill Baldwin, on the Anger
first served basis. Currently, there are classes on Mondays, Management phone 612-229-3102.
Tuesdays, and Wednesdays.
26 Years of Successful Classes
What’s Page 1 Depression... Addiction
by George Miller
Page 3 Feb/Mar Calendar
Page 4-5 Classes, Clinics,
Page 6 Here & There
Page 7 Community Ads
Inside Page 2 Library Corner
Letter from the Chair
Presentations
Support Groups
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